Date Your Soul

Because yesterday was so MAGICAL and FANTASTICAL we had to have these photos permanently on my page 🧡🍂 🎃

Also - let’s practice setting healthy time and physical boundaries this holiday season! They can sound like:

👉🏻“I need a moment to sit down.”

👉🏻”Can we turn down the music for the next 2 songs?”

👉🏻“I’m going to grab some fresh air.”

👉🏻“I don’t feel comfortable with that topic - can we change it?”

👉🏻“Yes you can gladly help me clean!”

Boundaries are for the everyday moments 💕

🎉LETS GOOOOOO 🎉​​​​​​​​​⠀​​​​​​​​​✨1:1 life coaching spots are now available! WHOOOO!⠀
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✋🏼Coaching is for you if you’re ready to disrupt the insecurity that’s holding you back and unleash the confidence within, stop striving for “perfection” and finally embody the attributes of a truly worthy woman, stop apologizing for who you are, take radical responsibility of the dream in your heart, create a life-giving relationship with failure, and show up and let THAT be ENOUGH.⠀
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💃🏼Click the link in our bio and book your free Discovery Call OR DM me for deets! I’ll help you out.

✨YOU have the choice and ability to call out MORE in your life!⠀​​​​​​​​​⠀​​​​​​​​​🙌 This just amazes me as a therapist and coach! Just by shifting your mindset and advocating for your deep desires, you can truly shift your reality today.

Romans 12:2 states: "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect"⠀
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💌My friend, this is relevant for you and me. The renewing of our minds and CHOOSING what to focus on is so powerful. Paul knew this and now we can too!
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🙊If you’ve been around this corner of the internet for a while, you KNOW I’m an advocate for boundaries and resetting your mind. But I also know how intimidating and hard self-healing can be when we are bombarded with messages of "create your reality" when you don't even know where to begin.
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🥰Which is why I am PUMPED to do the work I do! I wish I had utilized a coach earlier in my healing work so I wouldn't have had to hit burnout quarterly.

👇What "more" do you want this season? Comment below!

My worth used to be in boys, booze, and brains 🫥 ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I am going to get a bit vulnerable with you because that’s the only way I know how to coach is by connecting at the heart level.

But it wasn’t always like this…I used to pride myself in being the friend who looks great on the outside but my insides felt like carrying an invisible pack of rocks.

EVERYTHING 🪨 FELT 🪨 SO 🪨 HEAVY 🪨

When I first realized that something was wrong with the way I viewed my self-worth, I was in denial for a long time out of pride that someone like me could need help.

*Umphhh.I know cringe*

But this is why I am so dang passionate about helping other women heal from their own inner critic that says they need to keep it together by themselves.

It wasn’t until I learned that self-worth is not in what you DO but WHO you are that I started to actually heal for good.

The self-ownership, the care I received, and the mindset shift that I am worthy because I am a HUMAN BEING worth of love was HUGE. It was exactly what my “false self” needed to feel safe to drop the mental masks I work like a pro. With time, my skills increased and now I am able to do the same for my clients!

This is your reminder to…

🌈 Know your worth
🌈 Praise God for your precious life
🌈 Ask for help

Want to learn practical life skills to recover from burnout and identify your truest self-worth? Head to the link in bio to apply for a 15 min Discovery Call 😎

It’s kind of like having a coach in your brain 24/7 🧠​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​“What do I need to focus on again?”
“Wait - what did HaileyLynn say in our session again?”
“It’s mid-week and I could really use some encouragement.”

Oh wait… “I have a coach who can meet this need.” 😌

Boom. And just like that… the anxiety and overwhelm is handled. Have you ever left a therapy session and within 2-3 days completely forgot what you learned? I have been there 🖐🏻

Now you can revel in the excitement of having a coach in your pocket rather than dread having to revert to a mindset of “It’s all on me.”

Okay, but how do you make it happen if you’re not familiar with life coaching?

*Cue FREE 15-25 min Discovery Call*

Yup, my signature service helps women 1:1 learn how to:

✅ Stop giving their power away and advocate for their needs
✅ Hold healthy boundaries
✅ Recover AND prevent burnout
✅ Celebrate your wins
✅ Learn how to love themselves authentically

Slide into my DMs or inquire in the link in bio and let’s give you the help you deserve 💃🏻

3 reasons that admitting you need help recovering from burnout is actually the sign of a warrior📢​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​(📲SAVE this post to come back to for encouragement)

When you admit to struggling, you’re able to…

✅ Acknowledge that what you are doing now is taking you further away from who you really want to be.

✅ Take responsibility for your healing vs. procrastinating that “tomorrow will be better” when tomorrow is the same burnout cycle you have been living for the past 5 years.

✅ Open your mind to seeking help from a professional.

All so you can show up for your family, improve your routines, and practice sustainable mental health coping skills.

Wondering how to begin your journey of admitting “I am not ok, and that’s ok, I can seek help.”

DM me “GUIDE” and I will send you a free resource today to help you on your burnout recovery journey. 💌

📝 Permission to stop taking on others emotions 👏🏻​​​​​​​​​⠀⠀⠀​​​​​​​​​I want to be a woman who serves, goes the extra mile, and goes to work NOT to make a living but to make life worth living for her clients. 🧡

I can't do that when I am making everyone's emotions my own in my life.

And I have a newsflash, YOU CAN'T EITHER.

You will burn out and I am not about to let that happen.

🪩 November 1st I will be announcing something so exciting and DANCE worthy so be sure to stay TUNED!

📣 LISTEN SISTER 📣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀​​​​​​​​​⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀​​​​​​​​​Rescuing others can sound/look like:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏻 "I am fine. Don't worry about me." ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏻Silencing your needs ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏻Overcommitting ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏻"It's ok. I will take care of it."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏻"No it's not your fault."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏻Telling people how they should feel⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Each one of these examples puts you in a "rescuer" role and the person you are talking to in a victim role. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Why is this an issue? 🤯⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because if you are constantly rescuing, you are going to hit major burnout, compassion fatigue, and overwhelm. 🤭⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So why do we do it? If it's not helping up live the life we want, why do we rescue?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Well, lots of reasons but I will tell you my own personal one that I feel very vulnerable sharing but if it helps you in some way today, then it was worth it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏻 I used to rescue other's emotions because it made me feel loved and wanted. It was socially appropriate to wear my "I got this" attitude as a badge of honor when really it was poking roles in my ship, slowly sinking me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I can see now that every time I tried to rescue someone, I was harming myself. I was belittling my greatness, who God says I am, and my inner truth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you have felt this way or this resonates, do not hesitate to reach out to me in the DM's, schedule a free 15 min clarity call (link in bio), or leave a comment below so I can support you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We need to be gentle to ourselves. We are all learning.

Does this sound like you? Tell me, do you have skills and a plan to tackle this self-harm? If not, let's chat. I am here foe you 🧡

DID YOU KNOW?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​The best boundary this fall season is WITH YO SELF! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It's true!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You can be pro-active and prevent burn-out by:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
>>giving yourself the space to date yourself again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
>>go on fun adventures. Play more!
>>spend quality time with people you love who make you feel whole.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
>>create!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
>>REST⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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These are just a few of my favorite self-boundaries, but of course there are many other ways to prevent burn-out.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Which self-boundary are you wanting to try this season? I'd love to hear it!!

Raise your hand if you feel stuck and don't know what next step to take in your life 🙋🏻‍♀️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀​​​​​​​​​⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀​​​​​​​​​70% of people have felt or do feel “stuck” in their lives or careers and I will be the FIRST person to raise my hand 👋🏻⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I remember thinking, "If I was just had more money, time, energy, focus...I would be loved and worthy." 🥺⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But day after day - money, time, energy, focus was not available to me. Not because I didn't want it because I did but because I didn't think I was WORTHY of it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because I felt:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🤯Frustrated⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🤯Angry ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🤯Fear⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I believed that I wasn't worthy of my desires. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Have you been there?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I had moments driving home, hot tears running down my cheeks. I was SO PI**ED that I was pi**ed. I was SO TIRED of being tired. I was SO ANGRY at being angry.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I avoided the hard emotions at all costs through avoidance (drinking and relationships).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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As God would have it, I found myself wanting MORE but not more happiness...more LIFE. And you know what comes with MORE life...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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>>> More sadness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
>>> More rejection⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
>>> More vulnerability⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Well s**t. Did I really want more life?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You bet I did! And I know you do too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your life is ready for you - stay TUNED FOR AN EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT coming NOVEMBER 1st! 🙋🏻‍♀️

4 years?? with the man of my dreams?? sign me up and let’s keep it going beloved ✨

ps. kinda crazy to think he’s even more fun to do life with than he is fun to look at…and that’s saying a lot with those dimples and his uniform 🤤

🍂 We’re adding another pumpkin to our patch! 🎃🎃🎃

Our hearts are as full as our mugs of pumpkin spice latte, and our little family is growing once again. This fall, we’re excited to share that baby number three is on the way! 🍁

As the leaves turn and the air gets crisp, we’re counting our blessings and dreaming of the sweet new addition who will be joining our cozy crew.

Stay tuned for more pumpkin-filled adventures with our growing family! 🌻🧡

Feeling renewed after spending the weekend in Flagstaff with ✨

Oh this hits hard but as a therapist I can say that one of the main ways I see people-pleasing become a habit is in the home.

God didn’t make you to be a doormat, he made you to love, serve, and give. 💕

Let’s start with our own two feet, planted in scripture, community, and self-love!

Become aware and heal ❤️‍🩹 It’s not easy but it’s always worth it. Sometimes the truth pi**es you off before it heals you ✨

✨ this time last year ✨ 8 months in and now almost 1 year out. They weren’t lying, it goes too fast.

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Reminiscing on the beautiful bookstores & Colorado landscape 🤎