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Promoting Independence and Responsibility: Support your child's natural inclination towards independence by assigning age-appropriate responsibilities and celebrating their achievements. Your strong willed child thrives on attention, positive praise, and approval. Help your child develop healthy independence within your families boundaries, with responsibilities and choice that are age appropriate.
Choices on what to wear, chore choices, and more will help your child grow in a safe environment.

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Managing Power Struggles: When you sense a power struggle is coming, take a breathe so you are calm, take a moment to evaluate why they feel threatened, or a need to push back, then work on diffusing power struggles with your child, transforming potential conflicts into opportunities for growth and understanding.

Power struggles are a great time to develop healthy communication skills, adult character traits, and conflict management skills with your child.

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Encouraging Positive Choices: Empower your child by offering choices within set boundaries. Strong willed children HATE being forced to follow, they are longing for independence and choice. The more choices you can give them throughout the day, the more you will empower them to feel safe, while developing their personality. This strategy helps them feel in control while learning to make responsible decisions.

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Effective Communication Strategies: Make note of which communication techniques work best for opening doors to healthy communication with your strong-willed child in ways that foster cooperation and mutual respect. Active listening and validating their feelings goes a long way.

Remember strong willed children THRIVE on respect.

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Setting Boundaries with Empathy: As a parent to a strong willed child it is important to establish clear and consistent boundaries while maintaining a compassionate and understanding approach. This balance helps your child feel secure and respected.

Strong willed children THRIVE on respect.

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Understanding Strong-Willed Traits: Recognize and appreciate the characteristics that define your strong-willed child, such as their independence, persistence, and determination.
How can you develop these to be healthy adult traits as they grow into our next generations leaders, idea generators, business owners, and so much more.

Knowing what makes them tick can help you guide them more effectively.

Take a minute to list their strengths, then got one note on how YOU can help them develop this into adulthood.
Now take a minute and list which triggers you can help them develop healthy coping skills for at this young age.

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Exciting News! 🌟

Join us as we welcome the amazing Jess Tetu! Starting her adult life at 15, Jess has overcome incredible adversity to become a national award-winning philanthropist and entrepreneur. She owns five Just For You Day Spas, is the Founder & CEO of Lia Reese Canada, Iconic Betty Jewelry, Jess Tetu Consulting, and 4seventyone Recovery Resources.

Named one of Canada’s Top 40 Under 40 and one of Canada’s Most Powerful Women, Jess’s story of resilience and dedication will inspire you to balance work and family to achieve your dreams. We know you can do it too!

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We are so excited to welcome Jess Tetu as our special guest this week! 🌟

Overcoming adversity from a very young age, Jess began her adult life on her own at just 15. Through sheer dedication, determination, and hard work, she has become a national award-winning philanthropist and entrepreneur.

Jess is the sole owner of five Just For You Day Spas in Saskatchewan & Alberta, Founder & CEO of Lia Reese Canada (Saskatchewan’s Beauty Brand), Founder & CEO of Iconic Betty Jewelry, Founder of Jess Tetu Consulting, and Founder & CEO of 4seventyone Recovery Resources, a not-for-profit charity she created.

Her incredible achievements include being named one of Canada’s Top 40 Under 40, receiving the SK Entrepreneur of the Year Award, the YWCA Women of Distinction Award, and most recently, being honored as one of Canada’s Most Powerful Women. 🏆

Jess's journey of finding strength and creating a life that fits her goals, dreams, and family is nothing short of phenomenal. Her story will inspire and motivate you to find the right balance between work and family to achieve your own dreams.

Don’t miss this opportunity to be encouraged by Jess's experiences and insights! 🌟

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Anyone else struggling to keep up with their children this summer?

Have you ever noticed how much easier parenting is when dad is home or your out with another mom and their kids?
We weren’t meant to do this alone. It’s okay to call your friends up and do life together.
If you are struggling with mom guilt over being the mom you want to be, call a friend and do today together. You never know, they might be struggling too.

Join us this week as we welcome the incredible Jess Tetu! She’ll be sharing her journey to becoming a successful businesswoman, and how her passion for giving back and pushing through tough times shaped her path.

Jess's story is all about finding strength and creating a life that fits her goals, dreams, and family. Her amazing journey will inspire and motivate you to find the right balance between work and family for your own dreams. Don’t miss this chance to hear from Jess and be uplifted by her experiences!
Listen Now: https://traffic.libsyn.com/familiesmattermost/Ep_108_Big_Dream_Moms_Featuring_Jess_Tetu.mp3

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What behaviour do you want to work on with your kids this summer?

For many of my clients, summer is a time they like to work on setting family meetings, one on one’s with their kids, or work on specific behaviours that their child is struggling with.
Do you have a behaviour goal this summer?

As parents, it’s easy to unintentionally ignore our kids by saying “you’re okay,” “that’s fine,” or “okay.”
Here are some better phrases to help your kids feel heard.
“It’s okay to cry”
“How can we make this better (for you?)”
“Do you want a hug?
“I’m sorry this happened to you.”
“How can I help?”
“How can we fix this?”
What phrases help your family feel heard or connected?

Board games are an amazing summer rain day activity. A board game helps our children work on problem solving, strategy, character building, and makes lasting memories.

But remember depending on the ages of your kids, this might not be a great activity before bed or when over tired.

What’s your families favourite board game?

❌A book is not a mentor.
❌A podcast is not a mentor.
✅A mentor has to be able to look you in the eye and ask the hard questions.
If you want to fast track your success this summer I have a few spaces open in our Group Coaching Program.
Give me three months and we can transform your home life!❤

What was your favourite rain day activity from childhood?

Changing routine for the summer might feel so exciting for mom- with less hustle and less to remember. But your children might struggle with the change.
Feel lost, bored, nervous or even stressed. As you walk the next few weeks you may see behaviours change as your children express these emotions through behaviour.
What are some routines or pieces of your day you can keep the same to help your child enjoy summer, while committing to less for your sanity?

When your child says, “I hate you!” “You aren’t my favourite!”
They mean, “I’m angry, I’m hurt, I don’t understand, I need to process, I need you to be my safe place.”

What do you need to grieve?
Aside from the obvious devastating grief we go through, there are hidden forms of grief like:
Processing losses in body image. Your body is not the same after kids, and we need to learn how to work with it and not hate it.
Accepting that our life isn’t what we thought it would be. Daily life with kids is much harder than we imagined. Marriages are difficult, and some of them don’t work out. Even in a “good” life, we have to let go of our expectations and judgement.
When our kids go through something, we experience our own past all over again. If you were bullied as a kid and your child comes home and tells you a classmate pushed them down on the playground, you will feel your heart break all over again as you deal with it twice! First in your past, and second with your child.

Try this!

Write a letter to yourself now, or to a past version of you, and tell them what you wished somebody would say. Imagine a great mentor or friend could come alongside you, put their arms around you and tell you that it’s going to be ok and that you’re not alone. Write all of this down. It will help you as you process grief.

If you’re ready to dig deep, DM me and let me be that person for you.
I’ll walk you home.

Do your kids struggle when you tell them an instruction that needs follow thru?
One way you can help your kids own these decisions, the need to listen, and follow thru is by giving choices as often as possible.
Just like adults, children want control too. If they constantly feel threatened, bossed, or out of control, you will likely receive more pushback.

Why do I feel mom guilt all the time?
Mom guilt is real! We feel like we have to be good at everything.
And not just 60% good, but 99% good.
All the time.
As a life coach for parents, I’ll help you deal with this.
We’ll tackle:
The lies you believe about yourself
Imposter syndrome
Perfectionism
Jugdement and Negative Thoughts
Managing Time Well
Stop Multi-tasking
Being present at work or home and not feeling guilty for it!
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We are excited to share our latest podcast episode, featuring Courtney, the Children's Program Coordinator at Sofia House. This incredible women's home provides essential support for women fleeing abuse.
Important to Know:
💡 If you're questioning whether your situation is abusive, it likely is. Find a safe person and a safe place.
💡 To support a survivor, be non-judgmental and offer a safe haven.
🔗 Listen to the Podcast Here: https://traffic.libsyn.com/familiesmattermost/Ep_107_Intimate_Partner_Abuse_Featuring_Courtney_Lavalley.mp3

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Let's come together to break the silence and support survivors. 💜

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What’s your number 1 marriage question?

Do your kids struggle with follow through?
Here’s an activity you can use as early as toddlers:
“Please go get/ do this then come back to me.”
You can have them come back for a high five, come back for part two of what you need done, or whatever you decide.
This will help with accountability, follow thru, and learning to listen.

What other activities helped your kids learn follow thru?

When your child breaks a lamp and lies and says they didn't do it because they don't want to get yelled at, they are lying to avoid an uncomfortable situation.

(This is an important reason we need to work on our own anger, so that we don't unintentionally scare our kids into lying.)

Once you've uncovered the motivation for the lie, talk about the character you'd like to develop in your child ie: honesty, integrity.

Say things like, "In our family, we tell the truth even when it's hard.". "We do the hard things before we do the fun things" "We are honest and we deal with our mistakes."
-Another tip to develop honesty and help your child succeed ➡️Before you ask them a question they might be tempted to lie about, say: "I'm going to ask you a question, and remember, in our family we tell the truth. Ready?"

I recommend that that the consequence for lying is BIG. Your kid needs to learn that it never pays to lie and it would've been better to tell the truth and have the original consequence.

It takes awhile to develop honesty, but it's worth it!

Save this for when you need it! And if you're ready for coaching let me know!