Therapist - Camilla Jackson

Whatever you are experiencing which is unpleasant inside, you can heal from and develop tools to manage through talk therapy.

No need to feel miserable, resolve your issues and reach out to learn how.

Behaviorism therapy alongside CBT ...highlights how our thoughts influence our behaviour & our behaviour in turn influences our thoughts.

We are what we think!

To break the thought, we simply use talk therapy techniques to alter the cycle with new experiences & feelings

Are you struggling inside?
Turning to destructive coping mechanisms?
Wondering whether therapy can help?

If you have any of these sensations, it's time to seek help and free yourself of unnecessary suffering...
Reach out to learn more.

Clients often say to me;

'I do not know why I think this way!'

My first response to this is;

'Well who do you keep close?'

Our minds are an accumulation of the thoughts of the people we spend time with (or who have had a profound influence in our lives).

What were/are they critical of?
What did/do they praise?

We are wired (& I believe can be rewired) by our initial care givers growing up.

In adulthood we are merely attracted to the people who reinforce these feelings.

If you want to change your thinking, shift what you spend time doing & with who, & you alter your thinking ❤️

My practice is founded on Behaviourism Therapy.

Which basically means... we are heavily influenced by what surrounds us, but we can change this and our way of thinking at any time if we CHOOSE.

Nothing is impossible when there is a WILL...

So if you feel stuck in a rut and need some assistance to break out of a current cycle of thinking, reach out to experience a shift in your sensations, outlook and life.

No matter where you are in life, we are all faced with challenges at different stages.
Seek the support of therapy to get through whatever you are struggling with.
Change your sadness into happiness.
Change your pain into pleasure.
Life with greater joy.

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Ever felt an emotional issue so confusing you are not sure how to untangle it?

Are you currently trying to work through a struggle?

If your answer is yes..here is my generic tip to help you make more sense of the confusion...

1 - Define the issue
2 - Define the desired outcome
3 - Work with a professional to grow through what you are going through
4 - Tackle the issue head on
5 - Repeatedly use the new tool/technique/behaviour to ensure the event does not effect you again.

Too often we experience the same reactions from others and think:
'well that is just the way I am!'

However this is not accurate...
We TEACH others how to treat us, and by tolerating their reaction/behaviour we TEACH them what we are ok ACCEPTING!

So personalising this...if you do not like the way someone behaves towards you, instead of arguing (and getting no where) look at slightly changing your behaviour, and in time you will see they too will change how they behave towards you.

Reach out if you need specific help with anything and know I am here to help because I genuinely care.

Death.
On a personal note I have been faced with the concept of death quite intensely this month.

In both the lost of one of my dearest friends and also my baby bunny.
Whilst I work through my own emotions and raise myself from grief, I share some thoughts that helped me get through this and which might also aid you:

1 - Accept no one's ending is on your clock.

2 - Start to show greater appreciation to those who are important to you and still alive.

3 - Fear not the worse for yourself or them. Our imagination is always more negative than reality.

4 - Honour the departed in speaking well of them and exercising their positive impact.

5 - Stay positively/healthy busy and distracted, knowing this emotion too will pass.

If you need additional support please reach out, you never have to be alone to go through your struggles.

It is not what happens to you that defines you, but how you define what happens.

-therapy

Loving you therapy is all about helping you love yourself in order to genuinely love another, with greater awareness , truth & connection.

Explore your mind with talk therapy.

Work through your pains, sorrows & fears, make sense of your thoughts & feelings to learn which to release.

The result? To live with greater happiness.

When we learn to take care of our heart, we can better care for someone else's.

Have you noticed that we live in an era when nothing is ever enough, including ourselves!

We live in a time when we are constantly told we need to be...

Thinner
Better looking
Smarter
Sexier
Richer
etc..

Its crippling to live with the feeling of inadequacy..as it cultivates all the worse qualities within us:

Insecurity
Greed
Jealousy
Pettiness
Over working
Falsness

Whatever you are going after...think abit deeper...why are you 'needing' it?
Whose approval are you trying to win?

Try therapy & live with greater consciousness & peace of mind.

Are a people pleaser?

*Do you pretend to agree with everyone?

*Not show your true feelings to avoid conflict?

*Allow people who haven't changed back into your life?

*Do not assert your boundaries due to fear of rejection?

*Do anything to make others like you?

If you have 2 or more of these qualities it is likely that you are a people pleaser to your disadvantage.

Needless to say you can over come this characteristics with the commitment to change and the right support.

Raise your self awareness, self love and appreciation and learn how to set boundaries, reach out for complimentary bespoke tips.

Next time you feel yourself getting defensive by what someone shares, bear in mind the following points:

1 - People behave in the best way they know how

2 - What they share is more of a reflection of where they are & what they have been through

3 - Never seek advice from someone whom you do not admire

Always be mindful to take LESS offence by the deliverance of knowledge (how things are said) so you can hopefully better absorb what good you can from the exchange.

Emotions...the driving force behind all our actions and inaction..

Do you know what emotion is motivating you every day?

To stay in the job you may not like...or the relationship that just feels ok but does nothing for you?

If you want to break habits, or make a change, start by...

1 -Assessing your motivation for doing what you do - think about it deeply

2 - To know what motivates you will give you the opportunity to reassess how you do things.

3 - But remember to do the same thing over and over again and expect a difference response...is not clever...:)

An interesting BBC reel on heart break and the importance in dealing with it before it potentially develops into a neurological disease.

Ultimately highlighting how powerful our thoughts are and to not set ourselves up for unnecessary pain.

The surprising physical toll of heartbreak - BBC Reel Have you had your heart broken recently? You are not alone. In fact, the pain you are experiencing could have a surprising physiological explanation. Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, also known as 'broken heart syndrome', is a generally short-term heart condition triggered by an intense emotional or physic...

The history to St Valentines's is full of legends & myths, but irrespective it socially holds weight in being a special day to profess our love for our romantic partner or the one we desire...

Since it generates such great feelings to feel loved and to love, why don't we use today & any day, to share love/kindness/sweetness to those we care for.

As long as you have the genuine feeling, let's express it, whether its a special occasion or not!.

Have you been ghosted?
(where someone stops answering you without giving a reason)

Want to know why people ghost? (or even yourself sometimes)

A survey shows:

81% Of people ghost because they are just not into you (but evidently do not know how to tell you in words)

64% Because the other person did something they didn't like (& again evidently didn't know how to tell you in words)

26% They were angry with the other (& no surprise - didn't know how to tell you in words)

What do these stats have in common??

Negative emotions are felt & the person ghosting has POOR COMMUNICATION skills!

Yup, no one tends to emphasis this when they think of ghosting, but it is the reason people ghost.
They do not know a better way to communicate their feelings. (Poor them).

The more selfish a person is the easier it is for them to justifying ghosting, but irrespective it is an act of 'not knowing a better way of being', & thinking along the lines of...'I will just ignore it & the issue will go away'.

Let me challenge you, if you have a problem & ignore it, do you think it just goes away in time?

Let's say a bill, debt, or even a malfunction in your body, does anything really heal without attention? or does it just get worse with neglect?

I am a BIG believer in how we treat each other effects how others treat the people close to them.
Its a domino affect.

We learn ways of managing our emotions from watching one another's behaviour.

So always be mindful of how you behave because you are silently influencing someone & it will come back to smack or hug you at some stage ..:)

Karma is real.

Did you know 2 universal, international, timeless human facts?

We all want to be ACKNOWLEDGED & APPRECIATED.

Simple, but not easily achieved because we do not communicate it effectively!.

In fact we tend to communicate our needs & wants so badly, we rarely get them fulfilled.

Here are my quick tips on how to get your needs met:

1 - When asking for something, be more direct, ie: say what you need, do not beat around the bush.

2 - Express the reason for needing the affirmation/acknowledgment. This means showing vulnerability. If you can not show vulnerability you are not communicating with someone you trust.

3 - Never presume the other 'knows' what you are thinking or feeling, if you do not say it, they will not know.

4 - Its human nature to forget good/positive news/compliments faster than negative news - so repeating a compliment or form of appreciation to someone else, is always a good thing & never too much.

5 - It may feel uncomfortable to start with, but do not give up, in practice comes comfort & ease.

Are you tired of feeling alone?
That no one really gets you?

Well you are not the only one keeping people close who can not understand you.

Why do we form these relationships?

Let's explore your personal reason together.

But know that everything we do has a pay off & is motivated by an internal value/thought process we hold onto.

For example if you feel yourself deeply unworthy, you will gravitate towards people who make you feel unworthy, because we subconsciously (& sometimes consciously) always want to be right, so we find evidence to support our mind is correct.

Likewise if you struggle to understand your struggle, look at the issues of the people you hold close. You are likely to share the same struggles 😉

Understand your mind to better understand your behaviour & relationships.

If you want something on the outside to change, you first need to readjust something in the inside 😉❤️

Therapy works 💝

Are you tired of feeling alone?
That no one really gets you?

Well you are not the only one keeping people close who can not understand you.

Why do we form these relationships?

Let's explore your personal reason together.

But know that everything we do has a pay off & is motivated by an internal value/thought process we hold onto.

For example if you feel yourself deeply unworthy, you will gravitate towards people who make you feel unworthy, because we subconsciously (& sometimes consciously) always want to be right, so we find evidence to support our mind is correct.

Likewise if you struggle to understand your struggle, look at the issues of the people you hold close. You are likely to share the same struggles 😉

Understand your mind to better understand your behaviour & relationships.

If you want something on the outside to change, you first need to readjust something in the inside 😉❤️

Therapy works 💝

I always wondered growing up in school why there was no topic to teach us on how to have relationships?!

One can presume it 'should be' a given, and 'easy' but as maturity shows it is anything but 'easy' and a 'given'.

If you are entering a NEW relationship, IN ONE, or EXITING one & would like some bespoke tips on how to better manage your emotions to communicate & be understood more & ultimately make the relationship work, reach out & message me for added insight.

I am here to help you live with greater internal happiness and connections, & have the relationship you desire.

Ever felt Self-doubt?
Its a HORRID feeling that is paralysis for productivity & feeling good.

Want to overcome it?

Although it takes time & support, here are my quick tips:

1) - Speak to yourself with compassion, as if you were to your friend

2) - Write a fact list, noting what you think & the evidence to support it

3) - Stop comparing yourself to others

4) - Spend time with supportive friends

5) - Find out what makes you feel self doubt & avoid it

Please reach out if you are struggling with self doubt in regards to anything, its a monster of a thought & perpetuates! & it will not serve you, so learn how to get rid of it!

Do you find that whatever you do there is always a fault?
That you can't quite make something work or be accepted for yourself?

1 - Well firstly stop!
2 - Stop trying.
3 - Take a break to gain perspective.
4 - Ask yourself am I doing what I am capable of? or what is expected of me?

Know yourself, & stay aligned with your core to not be misunderstood & misjudged by others.

So its the NEW YEAR, did you want a NEW YOU?

If you want to feel different this year & create new relationships...this is how you can..

1st) To make sense of others you surround yourself with, & this you can only do by first making sense of yourself.

2) To understand yourself in therapy, we look back abit only to spot patterns in your behaviour, to source what fuels you, what you are running from and to.

3) From there we can understand your triggers, which to avoid & which to pay attention to. Ultimately helping you move forward in a direction that is more aligned to your core.

Reach out if you want to make this year different, happier & to have more of the relationships you dream for.

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New Year's Eve, and I hope on reflection its been a year with greater things happening for you, than not.

But irrespective, moving forward I hope in the New Year you will develop an even greater mind set to have the confidence and wisdom to seize every opportunity that is best for you!

Always here to help you on your journey, but in the meantime..

Happy Happy New Year! # # #

What is therapy?

Well with me..

*Its a safe space to discuss all your feelings with an impartial & trained individual who cares to see you grow.

*In session, I focus on helping you look back only to spot patterns in your behaviour.

*With this I help you understand why you were there and where you currently are.

*Then we go on the journey to help you see your power in decision making.

*I then equip you with the tools to know how to live the future tomorrows as you desire, in your mind and heart, letting you haunting past go.

If you feel you could benefit from working on yourself, reach out for your initial complimentary chat to see if it's for you.