The Healthy Life with Tanya

Huge THANK YOU to Julie from Natural Wellness RN for being the January guest expert in the Lilac Rising group last month! (Lilac Rising is a space for women who lost their mom at a young age.) She shared tips on using essential oils safely and for emotional support. 💜

Essential oils are a big part of my daily routine! 💜

Thank you again, Julie!

If you've ever asked yourself "what's next?"

Huge THANK YOU to Angie from Calm For Mommy for being the November guest expert in the Lilac Rising group last month! She shared tips on building a support network, something that is so important these days!

Sometimes it can be hard to ask for help, seen as a sign of weakness, but I encourage you all to reconsider. Allowing others to help is blessing them (and you!) by letting them give their gifts. 💜

Thank you again, Angie!

Traditions are an important part of the holiday season, do you agree? When it comes to Halloween, I remember trick or treating in the cold (sometimes freezing) Michigan weather with friends, eating caramel apples, and taping fake cobwebs up in the house for decoration. I love Halloween.

Hoping my kids develop fond memories of this holiday as well. (I mean, free candy *is* involved!) 🤣

What is your favorite Halloween memory or tradition? Is there something you do with your own children every year?

It's been 8 years since I've gotten to hear his voice - and though I miss him terribly, I know he had one heck of a welcoming committee up there. 💜 Missing him today! He taught me so much by example - optimism, humor, risk-taking, hard work and loyalty.
Couldn't have asked for a better dad.

She took the words right out of my head!
Great read.

5 Incredible Lessons That Grief Will Give You As I grow older, I realize that experiencing grief has given me some invaluable lessons that have made me better as a person. In short, it’s been a gift.

Huge shout out to Emily Gail for being the June Guest Expert in the Lilac Rising group!

She's discussing priorities and schedules - making room for what matters most - and today I'm writing down everything I do and how long it takes me to do it. Pretty eye opening!

❤️ Thank you, Emily! For your willingness to step up and spread your knowledge with the group! ❤️

A Letter to Kate Spade’s Daughter
Dear Bea,
Though I don’t know you, you’ve been on my mind since I heard the news of your mother’s death on Tuesday. You see, we now have something in common. We lost our mothers at an age that is much too young.

My heart breaks for you, and I am so sorry that this circumstance was not prevented. I hate that she’s gone, the publicity of it all, and the stigma around mental healthcare.

While my loss was nearly 30 years ago, I remember the initial emotions when you realize that your new normal does not include the one person you need most in this world. I remember the final arrangements being made, the peripheral family & friends coming to watch me, and shepherd me to different activities so I didn’t have to be there for the grown-up stuff. I remember what seemed like an endless sea of people who came to pay their respects and say goodbye, and being mystified by their adult tears.

And then one day, the last speck of dust settled.

And while I can’t say with certainty when that will be for you, I do know it will happen. Your new normal will take shape. I know you can’t see this now. But as time marches on, you will grow from the girl you are now into a woman capable of a great many things.

So, from one seasoned member of the motherless club to another, here’s what to expect as you embark on this journey.

You are not alone. Though you might not know anyone else in your school or circle of friends who has experienced such a loss – we are are out there. Finding our way. And you will too.

You will never stop missing her. Her hugs, her voice, her smell. Her presence on the other end of the telephone. This is the part that there is no sugar-coating. I’m sorry.

You will wonder what she would have thought about decisions you make as you grow up. And when you do, I encourage you to talk to those that knew her or keep a journal. Write down your memories of her, and revisit them when you need to.

Milestones and holidays will seem incomplete. This doesn’t necessarily mean they won’t be happy – your graduation, 18th birthday, wedding day… Focus on the good and enjoy these moments as you grow.

You’ll begin taking notes on what other friends’ moms do – how they cook, clean, discipline or speak to your friends. You’ll meet nurturing women along the way and good ones will take you under their wing. Let them. You might not even know these women yet. They will be sent your way. Know that.

There will be things that unexpectedly scratch the wound. Hearing friends complain about their moms, being introduced to new people and having them ask an innocent question about your mom (because everyone at a younger age is assumed to have one). Those scratches, over time, will start to form a callous and then they won’t be felt as much. Again, just part of the new normal.

You will realize how strong you are.
You will have a greater appreciation for life.

You’ll have bad days, and that’s okay.
You’ll have great days, and that’s okay too.

And one day, if you become a mother, your heart will break all over again, and explode with new love at the same time.

But for now, dear one, while the particles of life as you know are still swirling in the air and it's too cloudy to see out, give yourself grace to grieve. You can be angry, mad and sad – that does not diminish the love you have for your mom. Use the support system around you. Scream. Cry. Take deep breaths. And know that this loss does not define you.

Hugs,
Tanya

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If you’ve also experienced the loss of your mother at an early age, you’re not alone. Check out my new group, Lilac Rising (https://www.facebook.com/groups/lilacrising/ ), to be uplifted and connect with other women who have the same experience. There, we tackle life skills we didn’t get growing up and move forward in life, while creating positive connections with others.

If you know me, you know I'm a music geek. It runs in my blood.

I have been loving Ed Sheeran recently. I love his vibe and his lyrics are very relate-able. There is a line in almost every song that makes me stop in my tracks and catch my breath. (I love how music can do that.)

In "Castle on the Hill" I'm reminded of the friends from high school and college who I made the BEST memories with. These people truly know me... not me as a *mom*, or me as a *wife*... but as TANYA.

The line that gets me in this track?
"... these people raised me..." 💜
They really did...

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My thoughts on this Mother's Day. 💜

Full post --> http://www.tanyacoraci.com/after-30-motherless-mothers-days/

After 30 Motherless Mother’s Days… – Tanya Coraci Posted on May 10, 2018May 10, 2018 by Tanya C.After 30 Motherless Mother’s Days… Mother’s Day can mean a lot of different things to people. It’s meant to be a day for us to honor our moms, motherhood, and the maternal influence that women have in our society. But let’s face it…. it’s r...

A peek into why I called my new group Lilac Rising.

This is a place where you can set doubt and hurt aside, and learn to thrive among other motherless women who have grown up feeling just like you.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1824190337880949/

For those who have been watching for this, thanks for being patient. Seems fitting to share this today, as it's my mom's birthday. ❤️

My mom passed away when I was 7 years old. My sister and I were the only girls in school that experienced such a drastic loss that summer, and going back to school was hard. My mom was involved – a teacher, a PTA mom, she was always at school and everyone knew her.

Classmates asked where she was. I didn’t know how to respond.

Read the rest, and learn about a new group I'm forming here --> http://www.tanyacoraci.com/lilacrising/

This right here ❤️

Hello my dears, it's been a bit. ❤️

You know how I like to reevaluate things in the new year 😊 and that is just what I've been doing. I've taken this time to reflect on who I am serving and attracting into my community, and who I would like to connect with going forward . . . And when I came out the other side, the answer was staring me in the face.

I'm excited to share more with you this week.
Stay tuned 😉

Snuggling with my youngest before he heads to bed... night y'all! ❤

One reason I decided to complete the Women's Wellness Educator program was so that I could help others with similar life experiences to my own. After a lot of thinking, planning and speaking to others about it - I'm ready to get started doing just that.

So, for my regular lovelies who support this page and always have, you'll notice some new content/topics. And I will share my story and where it's led me.

Ready?

I've loved having Copaiba in my oil collection!

Copaiba has a spicy, woody aroma that has been shown to help soothe anxious feelings. Try these diffuser blends and let us know which is your favorite!

Oils and cats... there's been a lot of posting on this recently. Here is a good summary by a vet.
There are several oil using vets out there, and online resources as well.
Let's keep the fur babies healthy and happy!

Once I get done with work I will do a FB LIVE tonight to address everyone’s concerns with the viral post about essential oils and cats. Please stop sending it to me. And stop freaking out. Your cats are fine. In the meantime, here is my stance on cats and oils, which you can find at www.essentialoilvet.com/frequently-asked-questions :

With cats… ultimately, you will hear many things from many people about cats and oils. Here’s my take: Cats lack an enzyme called glucuronyl transferase. This is important for the Cytochrome p450 liver metabolism pathway. This makes cats very susceptible to ALL kinds of toxicity, including plant, NSAIDS (like aspirin or ibuprofen), Tylenol, chocolate and caffeine (methylxanthines), lead, zinc, many types of pesticides, and many other things.

So which oils do you stay away from? Most highly tested, therapeutic oils (not the ones from any grocery store – the ones that are tested by batch) are so pure that you can use them topically on cats sporadically in a highly diluted form (as if for infants – 0.25% to 1% maximum dilution). It’s not a good idea to use them topically or internally on your cat every single day (with some exceptions.)

*The oils to stay away from and use something different if you can are the oils that are high in phenols and eugenols as far as direct application (topical or internal) to your cat (basil, birch, cinnamon, clove, fennel, melaleuca, oregano, peppermint, thyme, and wintergreen) as well as oils high in d-limonene (citrus oils).

That being said, I have used a highly tested therapeutic grade Melaleuca on my own cats without dilution without any ill effects. (I do not recommend you do this, though!) Just like people, every animal is different and you should consult your veterinarian if you are concerned.

As far as diffusion – I diffuse everything! I just make sure not to diffuse anything in my kitty’s room (where his food is) and make sure he’s not “locked” in the room with the diffuser – he will go away if it’s one he doesn’t like or need. It is recommended that you use a water based diffuser rather than one that pulls oils directly from the bottle.

The main thing is, don’t give oils to cats topically or internally *every* day (with some exceptions), dilute them, only use highly therapeutic grade, tested essential oils, and when in doubt, feel free to ask.

One of my favorites!
Lemongrass saved my wrist when I started work again this week.

💻 First day and I wasn't used to the keyboard so had to keep shaking it out. It was so sore!

💡 Grabbed my lotion and some lemongrass, applied to my wrist and within a minute it had calmed down and I could get back to typing. 💜

Lemongrass has a pungent, smoky aroma and provides many aromatic benefits including heightened awareness and a boosted positive outlook.

Have you tried to understand this whole essential oil thing but ended up completely overwhelmed?

Not sure where to start, or what products make sense for your needs?

Interested in having someone break it all down in an easy way, just giving you the basics and a simple way to get started?

I get it! ❤️
We oil lovers tend to ADORE talking about the oils and their benefits, and get a teensy excited when talking about them, and it can result in information overload!

Here's the thing, I don't want that to be a barrier, preventing these awesome products from getting into your household's natural toolkit. Everyone deserves an easy way to get started! 💧

So I'm holding special space on my calendar this month to talk through the basics. 🔠

It will be easy. It will be tailored to your needs, and it will leave you feeling confident that you CAN do this! 💪

To connect, simply click the link below and follow the prompts!
https://manychat.com/l1/thehealthylifewithtanya

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NYE 2017! 🥂🍾
Let's do a quick poll - The last oil you used today is the ONLY one you can take with you into 2018. 😱 What are you taking?

(I'm taking Immortelle, unless you count the On Guard throat drop I'm enjoying right now!)

It's time to pull out this New Years blend again to kick off #2018
This diffuser blend will let you start 2018 out with positive energy.

- Bergamot is the "oil of self-acceptance" and instills self-acceptance, optimism and confidence.

- Ylang Ylang is the "oil of the inner child" and helps reconnect you to your intuitive inner child. It encourages you to listen to your heart (rather than overthinking things)

- Grapefruit is the "oil of honoring the body" and encourages a positive relationship with your body based on acceptance and love.

As a bonus, these smell pretty amazing together. ❤❤

Merry Christmas!!
This snow just won't stop 🎄☃❄
May your coffee be strong, your heart be content, and your blessings be many.

2.4 seconds of pure horror this morning watching my mostly full Immortelle slide out of my hand and fall towards the bathroom floor... thank goodness it hit the runner and not the tile!
Sheer panic, then relief! 😱😱 🤣🤣

It's been a little quiet here while I am in full on December mode! Gymnastics travel, work travel and Holiday errands have kept me busy, but it's finally starting to look like Christmas around here! 🎄
I'm also working on something for next week, so stay tuned 😉

Myrrh is 10% off this month and LRP members can get Holiday Joy and a diffusing ornament FREE! (Just order 125 PV by 12/15) - Love the December deals! Plus ANY 200 PV order earns a free Frankincense. I use Frank daily to help support cellular health and for its grounding effects. 💜💜