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Two of my (many) passions in one quote; art and psychology🩵

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This is an amazing tool to help you map out where the health of your attachment status is & where to go if you're not feeling secure. Can you work out what's your relationship trigger 'something'?

Around 80% of you will relate to one category more than the others. Those who don’t will probably be either closer to the secure category and thus have more flexible responses to relationship stress, or will be closer to the disorganized category and have more unpredictable responses to relationship stress. Also, keep in mind that attachment theory is meant to be applied to relationships with the strongest attachment bonds. Yes, attachment styles will show up in other relationships outside of your closest ones, but it’s not the same intensity or context. If you try to apply the theory to anyone and everyone in your life, things can start to get murky. Most people will have a similar attachment style in all of their romantic relationships throughout life (without working on it), but some can vary. What causes the variation goes beyond the scope of this post, but it can happen.
As with all categorizations and labels, the goal is to help you use the label to have a better understanding of yourself and what you can work on, not to put you in a box. Use this information to grow. If you don’t relate to any of it, that’s okay too…work on what you see as a problem. It’s more important to know that you have an insecure attachment at all than it is to know what exact style you are.
All of this stuff is workable. If that weren’t the case I wouldn’t be here telling people what is wrong for no good reason. This post is meant to provide understanding, but this entire account has info on HOW to heal, as well as my upcoming book Secure Love which is available for pre-order everywhere.
Lastly, we have relationships with ourselves and our own emotions which can be secure or insecure, and we have relationships with our partners which can be secure or insecure. Both matter and they work together. Work on both….how you help yourself in times of need, how you help your partner in times of need, how you communicate with yourself, and how you communicate with your partner. 🪴

🌟 Exploring Intellectual Sexuality🌡️

In a world where some parts of our identities are often interwoven with our careers, the concept of intellectual sexuality adds another layer to our understanding of what makes us who we are. It's a topic that's equally intriguing and, yes, controversial. Today, we delve into the part of our identity that’s predominantly derived from our careers, often referred to as "Intellectual Sexuals."

1.) Career: For Intellectual Sexuals, pur career isn't just a job; it's a fundamental part of our identity. Our passion for knowledge and intellectual pursuits fuels our professional ambitions. It's where we find not only financial security but also a source of intellectual and, yes, sexual gratification. It's important to recognize that not all intellectuals experience sexuality this way; diversity in human experience is essential. Our careers are our way to express our care for their partner.

2.) Hobbies: Beyond the realm of work, Intellectual Sexuals also nurture identity through hobbies. Whether it's art, music, or adventure, these activities offer us a space to explore our desires in unique ways, reminding us that sexual identity is multi-dimensional.

3.) Relationship and Family: Intellectual Sexuals are not immune to the joys and challenges of love and family. We navigate the intricate balance between our intellectual pursuits and personal relationships. Yet another approach to love that sometimes can seem a bit clinical.

4.) Paramours and Friendships:
Here lies the most controversial aspect of intellectual sexuality. The pursuit of connections and friendships can sometimes lead to unconventional paths. While some Intellectual Sexuals manage these relationships seamlessly, others may find ourselves in complex situations. It's a reminder that, like everyone else, we are subject to the intricate dance of human emotions and desires.

In the end, the priorities of Intellectual Sexuals can sometimes be a difficult concept to understand the more emotional sexual you are. Remember that it is in the end about the need for self preservation within a relationship.

Emotional sexuality traits are like the threads that weave the intricate tapestry of our lives, shaping our choices and priorities. In this journey of self-discovery within the context of relationships, it's crucial to understand what truly matters to those of us who lean towards having predominantly more Emotional sexual traits. Here, we delve into their unique set of priorities, which beautifully reflect the deep emotional connection with the world.

1.) Relationship: At the very core of an emotional sexual's being and identity lies in our profound love and commitment to relationships. We prioritize the bonds we share with our partners, cherishing the moments of connection, empathy, and understanding that make love truly extraordinary.

2.) Children: Family takes center stage for Emotionals, and our children hold a special place in our hearts. Nurturing, guiding, and loving our offspring is a top priority, and we wholeheartedly invest in creating a nurturing environment for our little ones to thrive.

3.) Friends and Hobbies: Emotionals recognize the importance of maintaining meaningful friendships and hobbies. Our emotional depth enriches the bonds we share with friends, making us not just companions but confidantes. Exploring passions and hobbies is another way we channel our emotions, finding solace and joy in what we love.

4.) Career: While career may not be the top priority for Emotionals, it still holds significance in our lives. We approach our work with dedication, often driven by a desire to contribute positively to the world. Work isn't just a means to an end for us; it's a platform to express our unique emotional insights.

Emotionals, at 100% emotional sexuality traits, will remind us that the heart is at the center of our existence. These priorities reflect their commitment to nurturing the emotional bonds that make life truly meaningful.

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Understanding our and our partners’ emotional and intellectual sexuality traits are essential aspects of human connection and relationships, and it's crucial to understand that they are not about one being right and the other being wrong. Instead, they reflect different dimensions of our personalities and preferences in how we connect with others.

It's essential to recognize that these traits are not mutually exclusive, and many people exhibit a combination of both emotional and intellectual aspects in their relationships. What's important is that these traits reflect how we connect with our partners and how we understand their inner workings.

The key to a healthy and successful relationship is not to try and change someone's intrinsic traits for the sake of an Instagram caption or societal expectations. Instead, it's about embracing and appreciating the differences in your partner's emotional and intellectual sexuality, as these differences can enrich your relationship. Understanding and respecting each other's needs, communicating openly, and finding a balance between emotional and intellectual connection is what leads to genuine and lasting connections.

Ultimately, it's about fostering a relationship where both partners can be true to themselves, while still working together to create a harmonious and fulfilling partnership, based on mutual understanding and respect for each other's emotional and intellectual needs.

Being comfortable experiencing the opposite of what your needs are may be one of the most difficult challenges we face on our relationship journey, especially when we need to feel it most. Finding the sweet spot between what you actually want to do versus when boundaries are encroached upon does not come naturally, despite popular belief. Practice makes perfect, and compassion is what will achieve the goal.

Have you considered what it would look like to hold space for each other to have that conversation about what brings you comfort? It does take two to tango in this dance that can easily feel vulnerable and be taken personally. Bring it back to what you now know about rejection from previous posts and hold the thoughts you think accountable, whether it is part of the distorted story you are choosing to believe or, in fact, reality may be different.

In the intricate dance of love and connection, becoming aware of how we ourselves perceive and experience our own identities within our relationships is fundamentally important. It’s not about sexual orientation, but the unique context of how we love and connect.

On one side of the spectrum of sexuality are those who will have “emotional sexuality” traits, the sense of self often becomes intrinsically tied to their relationships. Their passion, their zest for life, and their purpose often revolve around the connections they share with their partners. These are individuals who find their greatest fulfillment in the tangible, physical aspects of love, and their identities bloom in the garden of their relationships.

On the other side of the same spectrum, we have the “intellectual sexuals” who tend to draw their identity from their careers, their intellectual pursuits, and their own personal growth. Their emotional intimacy might not always follow conventional paths, but rather, it’s deeply intertwined with their intellectual connections and their ambitions outside of their relationships. They are comfortable with their own personal space, and their career aspirations often take precedence in shaping their sense of self.

This shift in focus invites us to celebrate the diversity of identities within relationships. Whether you seem to identify more as a “emotional sexual” or an “intellectual sexual,” it’s not about being right or wrong, but about understanding how these traits influence the unique dynamics in our relationships. It’s a reminder that love is diverse, an opportunity to understand a different approach to life and love, and the journey to understanding and embracing these differences makes our love stories all the more extraordinary.

As children, our journey of understanding human relationships begins with a simple yet profound act – observation. In our formative years, our young minds are like sponges, absorbing the world around us. Within this context, we observe and model the perceived behaviour and interactions of our secondary caretaker, toward our primary caretaker.

This phenomenon is encapsulated by attachment theory in psychology, emphasizing how early interactions with caregivers profoundly influence our emotional and social development. These observations form the foundation of our comprehension of what a “relationship” entails.

Our secondary caretakers become the central characters in the drama of our daily lives. Their manner of speaking to, supporting, or displaying affection toward our primary caretakers becomes the script of our budding understanding. We draw conclusions from these daily interactions, even though our understanding is simplistic and limited at a tender age.

The emotional tone, communication style, and the dynamics of cooperation or conflict all contribute to our internalized emotional encyclopedia. We observe how our the secondary caretakers handle disagreements, express love, or manage stress. All these observations are pieces of the puzzle that define love, companionship, and partnership.

As we grow into adults, these early lessons remain deeply ingrained in our subconscious. In forming romantic relationships, the shadow of these early observations can cast a long influence. We might unconsciously replicate these learned behaviours, whether they are positive or negative, or how I like to talk about them, knows and unknowns.

Recognizing this intricate connection between our past and present can be enlightening and liberating. It offers the opportunity to challenge assumptions and consciously strive for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Awareness is the first step in making choices that lead to the love and partnership we truly desire, regardless of the script we once observed. 🌟

Funny cause it’s true

When discussing the first two of our core traits within our relationships, we can’t ignore the fact that our behaviors have deep-rooted origins. This is where the connection to our third trait comes into play: how we relate to our parents or, in broader terms, our primary and secondary caretakers.

This week, I’ll delve deeper into the intricacies of the roles we play in our relationships with our partners. I’ll explore how these roles impact our decisions when choosing our life partners, how unconscious mechanisms guide us to the individuals we select, and ultimately, how this process gives rise to needs we either find fulfillment for or grapple with when they remain unmet.

In the intricate world of relationships, our response to rejection is our second core trait. This trait serves as a powerful lens through which we can better understand how our underlying fear of abandonment kicks in, but is also an indication of how we relate to our parents, which is our third core trait within relationship dynamics, more on that later.

When faced with rejection, some of us instinctively want to hold on tighter, desperately seeking reassurance and connection. We may become more attentive, affectionate, or even clingy, hoping to mend what feels broken. This response not only stems from a deep-seated fear of being abandoned or left behind, but has roots in our past experiences and observations of our primary and secondary caretakers.

On the other side of the spectrum, there are those of us, when confronted with rejection, feel an overwhelming urge to run away. We may distance ourselves emotionally or physically, as a defense mechanism to shield themselves from potential hurt. This reaction, too, is rooted in the fear of abandonment, but it manifests as a need for self-preservation. However, this distance can simply be what we are most comfortable with, without it being a a sign that we care less for our partner.

Understanding how we personally respond to rejection is crucial for self-awareness in relationships. It provides insight into our unique emotional landscapes, past observations and learned behaviours, and attachment styles. Whether we hold on tighter or feel the urge to runn away, these reactions are complex and deeply intertwined with our past experiences, childhood attachments, and overall emotional well-being. By recognizing and exploring these patterns, keeping in mind what we are trying to achieve and accomplish, we can better navigate the challenges of relationships and work towards healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Exploring the intricacies of how we function within a relationship reveals the first of our three core traits, an aspect that not only resides within our current relationships but is deeply ingrained in our very essence.

This insight sheds light on the fact that our behavior is shaped long before we cross paths with our partners, influencing what we find attractive in an idealized mate. It’s also an endeavor to acquire the qualities we admire and believe are lacking in ourselves.

This notion is where the concept of ‘complementarity’ enters the picture. Initially, there’s that spark, those exhilarating butterflies, the magnetic attraction between opposites. However, it’s a double-edged sword that could become the Achilles’ heel of the relationship once both partners settle into their perceptions of the relationship while revealing their true traits. Being prepared and having awareness of these unconscious mechanisms is the antidote to what could be a relationship’s turbulent path.

Stay tuned as we go further into understanding this concept.

To the surprise of many, our core traits aren't always what we expect them to be. These traits play a crucial role in defining our behaviour and can make understanding ourselves and our partners in a relationship quite challenging.

The three primary core traits that shape us are as follows:
• How we function within a relationship
• How we respond to rejection
• How we relate to our parents

When we use the term 'traits,' these might not be the first things that come to mind, and you're not alone in that.

Stay tuned as I explore how these core traits create and sustain the dynamics within our relationships.

We all catch ourselves trying to though, thank goodness we can give ourselves permission to look for alternative possibilities.

As some of you know, in addition to being in the mental health field, I am also in the pet industry, and as a result absolutely love this post due to the crossover it offers. Food for thought for pet lovers 💚

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Show me one person who can pour from an empty cup.

We need to move away from the concept that self-care is selfish. It’s unproductive, and sets us up to fail 100% of the time.

Start small, and when you find yourself not doing something cause you start feeling selfish, ask yourself if you are in actual fact doing everyone a disservice.

I bet you will realise after this practice that selfishness comes from a distorted point of view majority of the time.

Our mental health is fundamental for success in every aspect of our lives yet we still treat it as though it’s optional when investing in ourselves.

As encouragement, I am offering 20% off my packages for those who are serious about rewiring their outlook on life, change habits, and work towards a goal-driven life.

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As it’s May Mental Health Awareness Month, I am offering 20% off my recommended package rates🙌🏻 Limited availability

Therapy can provide powerful tools and guidance to help accelerate building self-esteem and personal power. With the skills therapy harnesses us with we can develop a deeper understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, identify limiting beliefs and negative self-talk, and learn effective techniques to overcome self-doubt and build confidence. This can lead to a greater sense of empowerment and resilience, and ultimately, a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

If you are ready to commit to a life changing paradime through the rewiring of your mind and thinking, feel free you schedule your first fee call with me.

Creativity can be a powerful tool for improving mental health. From cognitive-behavioral therapy to hypnotherapy and neuropsychology, these approaches use creativity to help work through mental health challenges. By tapping into our creativity, we can find new ways of coping and living more fulfilling lives.

I have two primary go-to techniques that's helped me get through really difficult days. The first called emotional management technique or EMT for short, as well as the 54321 mindfulness practice.

EMT helps acknowledge the very real experience being had, offering one self a reminder that healing is possible while finally starting the process of digesting whatever feelings and emotions are felt.

the 54321 mindful practice helps the mind recognize when it is not necessary for the survival instincts to take over, deactivating the primitive mind, bringing one back into the pre-frontal cortex where rational thinking delays the instinctive desire to find safety.

I hope this helps. Do schedule your initial 20 complimentary zoom call if you are ready to invest in your mental health and start living a goal driven life.

Dewald, is not only our founder and owner, but is also a practicing Clinical Mental Health Therapist. Dewald's expertise in psychology has greatly influenced how we operate Fetch, laying the foundation for us to create a more compassionate and supportive environment for our Fetch Players.

We understand the immense pressure and challenges that rescue organizations in our community face every day, and we want to extend our heartfelt gratitude to them. We recognize that the work they do can take a toll on their mental and physical well-being, and we empathize deeply with their struggle.

As part of our commitment to giving back to the community, we are thrilled to announce that we are launching a support group for rescue organizations, their employees, and volunteers, led by none other than Dewald himself. We believe that his credentials in Integrative Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Applied Psychology, his current studies in Neuroscience at Harvard eX University, and his presence and experience in the pet care industry make him a therapist who can relate and provide support to those in the industry who need it.

If you're interested in learning more about Dewald and his work as a therapist, please visit the following link: . We are here to support you, and we hope that this initiative can make a positive difference in our community.

When you understand that your mental health is the foundation to how well you live.

If you find yourself ready to let go of what thoughts and behaviours no longer serves the best version you can be.

If you are ready to let go of the those past emotionally charged memories that impacts your way of life in the present moment.

Tired of enduring the suffering future anxiety creates.

Are you finally ready to commit to your mental health, ready to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, and invest in yourself, then send me a WhatsApp to arrange your free initial call: 056 168 5591

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