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I had the privilege to be interviewed by Rose Chastain for her podcast 'A woman's voice'.

In this episode, we talk about how people have different ideas and expectations around intimacy, shaped by their backgrounds and experiences. It's important to be open about these differences and not assume everyone thinks or feels the same. I encourage women to start by connecting with their own desires and bodily sensations. Simple practices like paying attention to how your body feels and being honest about what you want, even if it's unclear at first, can help.

Clear communication is essential in intimate relationships, and it's important to make offers, adjust as needed, and create a safe, trusting space. Addressing patterns of disconnection and finding ways to stay connected is key to maintaining intimacy.

Finally, I offer two practices for reclaiming sovereignty over intimacy: staying present with your body’s sensations and catching yourself when you begin adding interpretations or stories.

Enjoy listening!

Available on apple podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-womans-voice/id1735382295?i=1000671807190

And Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7afv39ak1RDRHBKWoSW6s6?si=CEI3BZQ_TNKgvxJu1VxacA

Have you ever considered your relationship as a place of personal growth and development? So often, we focus on questions like, "Does this person complete me?" or "Do they fit my preferences?" We enter relationships with assumptions about how things should or shouldn’t be, but rarely do we pause to have a clear conversation about expectations, values, or shared growth.

When we shift the focus from trying to fit someone into our mold of how a relationship should look, and instead view it as an opportunity for growth, we create space for something deeper. By practicing both self-regulation—managing our own emotions—and co-regulation—supporting each other through emotional experiences—we can transform our relationships into places of shared development and connection.

When both individuals take responsibility for their emotions and work through them constructively, the relationship becomes a safe space for growth. Rather than triggering conflict, you collaborate on navigating emotional challenges. This deepens trust and helps each person grow, both individually and as part of the relationship. In this way, any relationship—whether with a friend, partner, or colleague—can become a powerful space for personal and shared development, a place where you learn, evolve, and thrive together.

             

Did you ever have that too? Someone got into an argument with me, and we had two completely different views of what happened. It was quite confronting, really. That moment when you think to yourself, 'I’m not even sure how to react to this.'

The person seemed to be pulling for an argument, wanting to fight for their point of view and wasn’t open to seeing another perspective.

I noticed myself going to the following places:
- Wanting to defend, going into explanation.
- Preparing to argue back, 'Well, what about your own behavior?'
- And when it seemed like my invitations for a conversation were being rejected, I felt myself starting to avoid, 'I can't win this anyway, no matter what I say.'

It all felt very young, like my inner child took over and started running the show. Upset and uncomfortable. I wondered, 'How can I stay open, not get pulled into an argument, and still stand for the values I believe in?' First, I had to clear my head. I got so reactivated.

I have several practices I turn to. One of them is writing and clearing out fears or sharing with friends who listen to help me get out of my drama (and not collude and confirm the 'horribleness', lol). Turning to my practices, I can get myself back to show up as my adult self, rather than my upset inner child.

In the end, I don’t think the conversation ended the way I would have liked, but I can acknowledge myself for my willingness to stay open and in communication.

You might be looking for some practices, too, for communication and navigating the challenges of relating. Join my newsletter, and I’ll send you two weekly emails where I share practices and invite you to reflect on connection, communication, and intimacy.

If you want to go a step deeper, on the 14th of December, Ria and I are facilitating our Thriving Relationships workshop. We’ll explore both the beauty and challenges of relating, and how to create loving, nourishing relationships where love, growth, and care are at the core of every interaction. You'll find all the links in my bio.

Darling, join us for a seductive yet explorative evening where we invite you to drop out of your head, and into your body...

This carefully curated workshop is designed for those eager to explore their sensuality whilst cultivating meaningful connections with others. This is a unique experience where you can learn, practice, and play.

With our facilitator's guidance, you will learn to enhance your connection skills, master your consent, and expand your capacity for pleasure.

Here's what we'll explore:
Touch and connection to create a deeper sense of embodiment and intimacy.
The different kinds of sensual touch, and the power of our attention.
Conscious Consent, and how to express your boundaries.
Demonstration of boundary setting.
Paired Connection Games (always invitational).

This transformative workshop will leave you with a deeper connection to your body, and a clearer understanding of your desires. Equipped with valuable tools, you'll navigate intimate spaces with newfound confidence and respect.

ENTRY

Tickets from €55
Include:
- 3-hour 'in-person' sensual touch & conscious connection workshop.
- Selection of delectable non-alcoholic refreshments.
- Opportunity to meet like minded ladies...

Members can purchase their tickets via the website. Non members should apply for membership first to be granted access to the event. Several tiers of memberships are available. Find more information on the link in my bio.

Location, date and time

Friday October 11.
18:30 - 21:30 | Please arrive no later than 18:45.
Amsterdam Oost. Exact venue address will be sent to all ticket holders 2-3 days before the event.

Dress code

We recommend you wear comfortable clothes, in layers for easy removal if you wish to express yourself! Lingerie and soft-flow bedroom wear is welcome.
Please note: Strictly no nudity... the underwear stays on, Darling!

For questions send me a personal message or email at [email protected]

See bio for the link for our wonderful workshop day.

Spending time with my darling.

Creating relationships where all people involved are seen, cared for and nourished is a skill to learn.

Let's do that in our upcoming workshop where Ria Bauhofer and I will be leading a day where you discover for yourself your own relationship powers, how to use them so you and your beloved ones can thrive.

14 of December in Amsterdam. For more information take a look on the eventbrite link or send me a personal message.
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-relationships-tickets-872153583847?aff=oddtdtcreator

There are so many different ways to create connection and intimacy. One of the most powerful tools we have is our attention. Attention moves energy; it brings us awareness and requires presence. Attention is one of the most powerful tools you have. Come and practice expanding your attention in our Explore workshop on the 1st of August. Create more connection in your life.

Relationship Skills - Understanding Differences

Realizing that different perspectives can strengthen your relationship is crucial. Instead of clashing over these differences and fighting over who is right, the focus is on having open discussions and creating agreements that benefit everyone.

People often fear change in relationships and don't know how to handle it. This leads to disconnect. We try to keep things as we were used to. We want to force the old habits in, even if they don't really serve anymore. Fear takes over, and we avoid openly discussing it. While change is natural and normal to happen over time, you and your partner change. So instead of resisting, how can you grow together with the change?

Dancing with change and navigating it takes skills. It's a relationship skill you need to develop.

Personally, I always thought I was a flexible person until I discovered how much I resisted change, haha. It took facing some fears and letting go of the need to control everything for me to stop feeling threatened by change. Now, I see it as an opportunity to grow in my partnership.

If you want to develop your relationship skills, join Ria Bauhofer and me on the 14th of December in our workshop in Amsterdam - Thriving Relationships.

Are you curious about play parties or exploring sensual spaces but not sure where to start? Whether you're a bit kinky, into ta**ra, or just curious, I have something special for you. On August 1st, Maya and I are hosting 'Explore,' a workshop designed to deepen your understanding of yourself and others.

We'll cover conscious consent, learning how to navigate intimate spaces thoughtfully and respectfully. We'll also demonstrate boundary setting—how to ask for what you want, how to say and receive a NO, and how to negotiate or make adjustments. Plus, we'll play paired connection games where you'll give and receive non-sexual sensual touch, really tapping into the power of presence and intention.

By the end of the workshop, you'll feel more connected to your body and more in tune with your desires. You'll gain valuable tools to navigate intimate spaces with confidence and respect. It's perfect if you're curious about play parties but feel a bit nervous, or if you simply enjoy playful and sensual interactions.

If this sounds like something you'd enjoy, come join us! Reach out if you have any questions!

Find the workshop in my bio or event page.

Hope to see you there!

Last Saturday with our amazing women in the Empowered Woman workshop in Amsterdam.

As one of the participants share afterwards:

'It was so inspiring to see all the different ages in the group. For me as a younger woman seeing the elderly ladies reinventing themselves and taking on important projects for themselves was a real example. I realised in the end all what matters is if we can be free to authentically express ourselves, no matter what you are taking on.'

Thank you everyone who was there, sharing yourself open and generously. You really are powerful women ❤️.

Our next workshop is on the 14th of December.

Dear women. There are still spaces left for our Empowered Woman workshop coming Saturday (29 of June) in Amsterdam facilitated by Ria and myself! ✨

Women’s groups are amazing for personal development and skills training. When you join, you quickly realize you’re not alone. There’s a warmth and safety in these spaces, there will be joy and laughter and authentic sharing.

You start seeing patterns and habits you never noticed before, and once you see them, you don’t have to tolerate them anymore. It will help you build self-esteem and confidence. You’re free to be the powerful woman you are.

It’s a safe space where you can express yourself, share your stories, and besides encouragement by feeling connected and having other women support you, you’ll get coaching to be fulfilled and empowered in your daily life.

DM me if you have questions or sign up using the link in my bio ❤

I would like to share my experiences from the women's weekend I recently had with you. We stayed in a cottage in Friesland with 11 women. 11 beautiful and special women who are engaged in healing, awareness, and sensuality. Women with dreams, who are setting up businesses. Some have children, others do not, some wish to have children and are working on that.

What was so beautiful and special is that we, as facilitators, trainers, space-holders, and coaches, spent a weekend co-creating together. One does breathwork, another teaches yoga classes. Yet another ties people up and gets well paid for it.

We shared our knowledge and gave each other workshops and experiences. There was no competition over who had the best activity, or who could do something while another could not; that was not even an issue. There was only sharing and being together. We sang, laughed, and cried. There was irritation and occasional clashes, but everything was allowed to be there, and there was space to discuss it. Then one would talk to another, and things were shared, understood, and aligned.

It was a magical place where much healing and magic took place.

I experienced many healing moments this weekend. In one of those moments, I stood in the middle of the group, surrounded by all the beautiful women who focused their attention on me. I cried for the loving attention, for my lost pregnancies, and the pain I feel, while I was being held. They were very close. Then there was another woman, who carried her pain from an unfulfilled desire for children. We held each other. The women held us. We cried together. It was very beautiful and real. I felt seen, held, and loved. Everything was okay. It was calm, and I felt at peace.

There is nothing I cannot bear when I am connected. I am grateful for the women with whom I created this weekend. Grateful for our wisdom, freedom, craziness, and love. We laughed hard, cried, and lived.

We took care of each other and shared with each other as a group. That is the power of a group. The power of women who support each other and contribute to each other.

Thank you for reading ✨

Part 2 of the podcast with Chiara van den Berg and co-host Martijn is out now!

We had such an enjoyable conversation, discussing topics that many people find challenging in a relaxed and normal way. We dive deeper into excitement and s'ex drive, myths and clichés surrounding s'exuality and sensuality, and how to communicate effectively with each other. How can we normalize intimacy so we can discuss it in a healthy way?

We pick up where we left off in part 1 (see the previous episode), where we focused entirely on what libido is and how it works in men versus women. In this episode, I also share more about my personal experiences with s'exuality, relationships, sh***ri, and how Or****ic Meditation came into my life.

We also discuss monogamy and polyamory. How do you keep things exciting in any kind of relationship? What happens if you end up on autopilot?

Desires change, and that's normal. Discuss it with each other, but how do you do that? As a relationship coach, I am experienced in discussing difficult issues.

So part 2 is out, I would love to hear what you think about my and our views and methods on excitement and s'ex drive.
The podcast is in Dutch.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3uEf6tJ8rAtN81Gu379GCm?si=OWwkSczlS4e_edDwY7AavQ

If you are looking for sensual play party where you can explore in a safe way, I can recommend this event! Chiara and Kim create a warm safe space that introduces you in the world of play. It's great fun and a beautiful introduction in the world of sensual exploration.

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So excited for the Empowered Woman Retreat. This will be a transformative, deep dive and huge opening for what is possible for you to BEING woman, in your unique self-expression.

If you are interested to join us, DM me, only a few places left.

Love, Marga

Samenwerkingen vind ik altijd leuk! Begin dit jaar twee hele mooie podcasts opgenomen met waarin we praten over intimiteit, libido en relaties. Aflevering 1 is inmiddels uit! Ik vind hem erg mooi geworden.

Er gaan zoveel mythes de ronde over s3xualiteit en wat wel en niet 'juist' zou zijn over een gezond intiem leven. Klopt het wel dat mannen een veel hoger libido hebben dan vrouwen? Of dat het libido met de jaren afneemt? En hoe praat je hier eigenlijk over met je partner. Luister mee 😊😁.

Vind hier de aflevering:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2WGUXRhMl7cvAL5ch5OXW2?si=nTapqUPuSXWzueFoipaVBg

Laat me vooral weten hoe je de aflevering vindt, benieuwd naar jullie reacties.

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Sharing a post and event my friend Wave is currently organising. He works in the area of conscious s'exuality and teaches people to be more aware and connected in sensual spaces. He is great to be with. Have a look at the event and if it speaks to you don't hesitate to reach out to him!

❤ The Quiet Or**sm ❤

It is our intention to make powerful transformative Ta***ic practices more accessible.

Ta**ra should not just be for rich white people who can can do a years training and pay many thousands of euros.

Myself and Leila will have three days to share powerful techniques that can make a real difference to people. If you are one of the majority that cannot afford the kind of prices and take the kind of time that in-depth ta***ic training generally takes then this is a really rare opportunity to learn the transformative power of sexual energy when used wisely and with skill.

If you are free those dates be wonderful to journey with you ☀

If you want to come, but money is a barrier drop us a line and we can find a way to make it work .

I hope you are bathing in the sunshine that summer has finally arrived ☀

Wave & Lelia 🙏

Find out more:

The Quiet Or**sm: Body, Energy & Expanded Consciousness (Early Bird until May 7, hope you will join us) — Do you find yourself doing th...

Hi all,

for those who are considering to join the Empowered Women workshop on the 29th of June, today is the last day for the early bird sign up!

If you have any questions, send me a message. Ria and I are looking forward to seeing you there!

Find the link to the event in my Bio

Love Marga ❤️

           
 

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What a beautiful group of women we had for our Empowered Woman workshop that me and Ria Bauhofer facilitated.

As women it's a challenge to be really free to be ourselves and share our voice authentically. Having to play a certain role as a mother, a partner, at work and many more. We shape ourselves to how we think we are expected to be. On this day we looked at what it takes to really own our power in our own feminine way. We created a day with only woman where everything can be said and heard.

We are doing another Empowered Woman workshop on the 29th of June in Amsterdam. Come and join us!

We have early bird ticket price until the 29th of April, if you want to join DM me or sign up using the Eventbrite link you can find in my bio. There are limited spaces available.

Looking so forward to have the day with you!

Intimacy can take many shapes and forms, and as such everyone has a different interpretation of what intimacy is.

I’d like to offer you my perspective on intimacy.

When we think of intimacy, the first thing that often comes to mind is that of a s'exual nature. Intimacy then becomes a thing you reserve for the special people in your life.
Yes, I think that is part of intimacy. Pleasure, s'ex, sensuality are all part of an intimate experience, however intimacy can be more than that.

Intimacy is an experience of a deep connection, a connection with yourself or with someone else. Intimacy can be found in a look, or when you say something true, vulnerable and real. The person in front of you has the opportunity to open up and be authentic as well, or when you ask for your desire and you feel the nerves running through your body.

Intimacy doesn’t even have to be romantic. It’s an expression of our shared humanity. It’s in these moments where you have the opportunity to see yourself, to witness yourself as who you are, to be with the person in front of you and see them for who they are. It’s seeing the other person, and being seen.

It’s one of the most vulnerable things to do and one of the most courageous thing we can do. Showing up with an open heart, bringing love and approval to all what we are, the good things and the bad things. That is intimacy.

This means that you don’t have to wait for a special person to experience intimacy, or that we need to know each other for 10 years before I can show you who I really am. Intimacy is an act of courage and available to you in any moment.

Coming from that perspective there is a whole world of intimacy to explore. A world that gives you an opportunity to grow in self-confidence, trust, authentic communication, being vulnerable, making requests or offers, discovering what your intimate expression is.

Imagine bringing a whole new level of intimacy into your life and your relationships. What could that open up for you?

           

What a pleasure it was to work with Giovana Vega, Julie Kennedy and the team to organise and deliver the first Abundance Summit in Amsterdam.

We had people flying in, a variety of speakers talking about financial empowerment, wealth and personal development. I was coordinating the AV and the teams AND I got to speak about something I'm passionate about. Looking forward to next year!

# intimacycoach