The Anxious ME

Patience plays a massive role.

Passion, patience and perseverance make an unbeatable combination for success.

Many things are contagious and some of these are VERY contagious: kindness, smiling, happiness, laughter, joy, cheerfulness. Feel free to spread them widely. 😀

ALWAYS.

Tell someone you care about that you appreciate them. 💖

If you don't know how to react when someone shares their grief or negative stuff that they are going through then this will come in handy.

Empathy Statements to HelpYou in Difficult Situations If you also face struggle while someone shares something important with you, this blog is for you. In this blog, I have enlisted 30 empathy statements that you can use.

Gold article this.

45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body & Soul With a little bit of attention to your own self-care, you’ll feel more connected to yourself and the world around you. Try one of the 45 ideas today.

It was good to see people, over the past couple of weeks, asking those suffering with mental health issues to open up and talk but realistically this is a very big step for the ones suffering. In this article, I look at what makes it tough for people to open up and what are the potential misunderstandings that pop up when they actually do talk about their mental health struggles.

The Misunderstandings Of Opening Up About Mental Health | The Anxious Me Mental health is a very sensitive topic that people don’t talk about in open. There is a lot of scope for misunderstanding when a person opens up about his/her mental health issues. Below I look at the reasons why having a mental health conversation is tough for the one who is suffering and how th...

Not everyone with depression has a depressive disorder and there is no need to worry if you feel depressed once in a while and are able to get over it.

And for those who suspect they might have a disorder then I can assure you, you will overcome it. Depression is not permanent.

Do not hesitate to call them if you feel the need to do so.

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This.

Who knew this face represented depression. Depression to an extent where this lovely, talented and successful chap decided to take his life.

Mental Health doesn’t discriminate between rich and poor, famous and the ordinary, between the successful ones and the unsuccessful ones, between the educated and uneducated, between the young and old, male and female and between white and black.

Things to remember:

- You are Good Enough: This 21st century commercial world is programmed to constantly bombard us with an illusional message that, having more = happiness. Want to be more successful? Learn this, learn that. Want to show off or come out as a smarter person? Buy this, buy that. RUBBISH. You are good enough as you are. There are enough good qualities in you that makes you unique and would bring you happiness when tapped into. Don’t chase more because wanting more is a never ending trap.

- How others treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself: Want to attract love and positive vibes from others? Treat yourself with love and affection. You will attract your tribe. Your tribe are those people who share the same beliefs and interests as you do.

- Embrace your Negative Emotions: “It’s ok. It’s not a big deal” was a convenient way taught to us as kids to suppress our negative emotions for the time being. For some people these negative emotions pile up and turn into depression and then mental disorders. Sitting with your negative emotions and having conversations with it and trying to understand what message those emotions are trying to convey goes a long way in shaping your self-worth.

- Embrace Vulnerability: In order to fit into this world and within certain circles, we are pretending to be who we are not. We act as if we know certain things when we don’t. We fake ourselves (knowingly or unknowingly) to receive the attention we crave from certain people. The truth is, when we embrace ourselves for who we are and when we embrace our insecurities is when we are being true to ourself. And it is from this place of being true to ourselves is where real confidence and happiness starts to take shape.

- Patience is highly Underrated: It is no secret that we are living in an era of instant gratification. Everything is available at an easy pace so hard work is being under-appreciated. We basically have our priorities wrong. Time to sort it out.

- Relationships are everything: Money, fame and materialistic desires provide temporary respite. They are not the solution for long term happiness. The quality time you spend with people around you goes a long way in shaping your happiness.

R.I.P. Sushant Singh

Agree or not?

Could indicate that you have so much energy flowing within your body but your energy is working against you? Maybe because there is something about yourself that you are yet to discover?

So yesterday I went to see my psychologist at Pause for Perspective, for a regular follow-up session, and there was one very important thing I realised yet again.

The real solution to your problems doesn’t lie in just trying to figure out temporary answers but it also requires asking yourself more questions and going deeper with asking yourself ‘WHY?’ repeatedly.

I mentioned it to my psychologist that I got into this habit of reading books over the past six months and told her that this is one habit that I am sticking to regularly (something I am not used to) and it is making me feel good for a change. So she asked me “Whats making you be consistent with reading books off late?”

I had no answer. After thinking for a while I told her that since I’ve been opening up with you about my problems for quite a while, maybe this is freeing up my mind for other activities instead of constantly thinking about my problems. She didn’t take this for an answer as she knew there was more to it, something that I didn’t realise at that point. So she asked me again the same question “Whats making you be consistent with reading books off late?”

I still had no answer and told her maybe something just clicked all of a sudden and I got into the habit. She still wasn’t taking the answer and wanted to know that ‘something’.

Then I tried to recollect the first book I finished reading when I got into this habit and realised it was ’Start with Why’ by Simon Sinek. I’ve been following this guy for a while and my and about life are similar to what Simon believes in. So I connected with him instantly and this inspired me to buy his book and start reading.

The takeaway from this is that
a) If we let our values stay in the forefront of our thoughts then it would inspire us to do things that we thought we couldn’t and
b) More importantly asking yourself ‘WHY?’ repeatedly will lead you into discovering more about yourself from where you can take more productive steps

Had my taken my answer that ‘it just clicked’ or ‘my mind doesn’t think about my problems all the time now so hence I am able to develop new habits’, I wouldn’t have gone into the deeper layers of what inspired me to start reading consistently in the first place. She wanted to go into the deeper layers to understand why I formed a habit that I am sticking to consistently so that it serves as a blueprint for me to be more consistent with my day-to-day habits that would help me grow.

How many of you are guilty of looking at other people and wanting to be like them or wish you had those qualities that other people possess?

Feeling envious or jealous is pretty common among many of us and then some people get stuck at it.

We get stuck because:

a) we believe we do not possess any skill or talent that is worth putting into practice in life or
b) subconsciously we realise it takes a lot of effort to reach a position that other people are at right now and hence we are too overwhelmed to put in the time and effort to reach that level where we feel satisfied with ourselves.

We need to start understanding ourselves better and look within to realise we have a talent/skill that could be put to good use and then take it one step at a time or on a day-to-day basis to improve, lets say, 1% every day. So working on your skills consciously over a period of time makes you a worthy person.

"However, I was wrong. Taking this step was nothing of which to be ashamed. It's a sign of strength to know when to bow out. Accepting that I needed help and that I was unable to continue my studies at that point was an unbelievably difficult decision, but taking a break to focus on my mental health, to recover, has been so much better for me in the long run."

Harry's story: overcoming severe depression Harry talks about severe depression, how he overcame it, and why the community fundraising initiative Curry & Chaat is important for encouraging people to talk about their mental health.

Understand how you function when you start comparing yourself with others. How you think, how you behave, how you feel and what desires are popping into your mind when you yourself with other people.



https://www.theanxiousme.com/comparison-kills-productivity-and-this-is-how-you-can-overcome-it-2/

The website is back after being down for a while and here is an article where I talk about comparison and how it is effecting us in day-to-day life.

Comparison Kills Productivity And This Is How You Can Overcome It – The Anxious Me Comparison is productive if taken in the right spirit. For example if you are a 30 year old guy and you come across a 22 year old girl working very hard to achieve what she wants in life, then you can tell yourself “Look at her so young and ambitious and working extremely hard. How about I raise m...

On the other side of this epidemic you will be grateful for having survived this, for what you have and then come out to be a strong and more confident individual.

Credit: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.

What is it about FAILURE that we fear so much?

is something that every person on this planet endures at some point. Then why is it that most of us see it in a negative light instead of considering them as stepping stones to success? Something that successful people do.

Is it because we have learnt early on in school that we have to pass our exams with good marks in what is considered to be acceptable in our very first attempt? Is it because during the transition phase of being a teenager to an adult we are desperate to create our own identity and often lack patience? Is it because we always want to come out as successful and fear that we won’t be accepted by people around us and the society if we endure failure ? Is it because we have too high expectations of ourselves and we want to be absolutely sure that we succeed before attempting it?

While these could be some of the major reasons why we fear failure, the logic behind these reasons is that WE VALUE OTHERS OPINION MORE THAN OUR OWN.

We give too much weightage to how other people would see us if we failed at something because we feel the need to be accepted within the society. And the society often expects our best version to turn up all the time.

This is where the conflict arises. Humans are wired to experience both negative and positive instances in life while we always want to turn up positive for other people and the society.

- Successful people are prepared to look at the bigger picture while others tend to worry about the short term. What if I fail now? How would people treat me if I failed at doing this?

- Successful people give more weightage to their own feelings and opinions instead of other people’s opinions.

WE DON’T FEAR FAILURE. WE FEAR WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WOULD THINK OF US IF WE FAILED.

Ordinary people or those struggling with self-inflicted Mental Health issues need to realise that the true power lies in valuing ourselves more than other people and when we do that is when we start seeing a positive change in ourselves.

There is a significant difference between experiencing stress and having Generalised Anxiety Disorder. And its videos like these that every human should watch to understand the difference.

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"The next time you are sick, I'll come to your house, throw your medicines out of the window and say it is not you who has malaria, it is mosquitoes who are as****es."

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Just Anxiety Things.

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Are you a highly SENSITIVE PERSON? Then be proud of who you are because the world needs more Sensitive People...

When people often tell us that we are very sensitive then we take it in a negative way and question ourselves in a manner as to "Why are we so sensitive?"

Being sensitive is a sign that you care, you care about yourself, your beliefs and about things happening in your life.

21st century needs more sensitive people, than ever, because thats what makes the world a beautiful place. Humans are social being and when we express our love, gratitude and empathise with other people is when we create a strong bonding among one another.

Caution: The reason why we perceive sensitivity as a worrying factor in the first place is because we often lack about ourselves and fall into the trap of believing what other people are saying.