Connie Lam - You Can Be Healed

The one vitamin I make sure to take every single day – 𝐕𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧 𝐆 😉

Also known as “𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞” – it’s like a daily dose of nourishment for the soul. Just like we care for our bodies, when we pause to appreciate even the smallest blessings, it shifts our mindset and strengthens us from within, it also helps ease our worries and stress. This simple habit brings a sense of calm, clarity, and helps us tackle life’s challenges with an open mind and heart💛

In my experience, it’s the consistent practice of gratitude that guides me through difficult times in life with grace and balance. It’s not about pretending everything is perfect, but about recognizing the good amidst the struggles, appreciating the beauty around us, and trusting in the growth and strength that come from every experience. Gratitude serves as a gentle reminder that no matter the circumstances, there is always something to hold onto, something to cherish, and something to learn from💫

Gratitude has this quiet healing power—it shifts our energy, helps us stay present, eases our stress and worries, and opens our hearts to infinite possibilities. It’s a simple habit that can make a big difference in how we approach each day💖

So have you taken your Vitamin G today?😉 Tell me what are you grateful for today🫶🏻

Love😘

Connie

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Have you ever found yourself emotionally exhausted? In the rush of daily life, it’s easy to ignore your own emotional needs. You push forward, but deep down there’s a quiet exhaustion that builds up, leaving you feeling overwhelmed.

If so, then it’s time to pause & make space for your emotional wellbeing. Even in the midst of your busiest days, you can reclaim your peace and reconnect with yourself💫

Below are my 3 tips:

💛1. You wouldn’t let your phone run out of battery, so why let yourself? It only takes 10 minutes a day to start resetting your emotional energy. Each morning or before bed, take a quiet moment for yourself. Close your eyes, take a deep breath & ask, “How am I feeling today?” By giving yourself permission to check in, you can acknowledge your emotions & deepen your awareness of how you feel & react.

💛2. Learn to set boundaries to protect your energy. Emotional exhaustion often comes from absorbing others’ emotions, leaving very little to no space for your own. In relationships or work, it’s easy to take on more than you can handle, leading to burnout. To prevent this, start setting healthy boundaries. Saying “NO” when necessary or temporarily distancing yourself from draining interactions with others is not selfish—it’s essential. When you honor your boundaries, you can show up fully for both yourself & others without depleting your reserves.

💛3. Incorporating small rituals into your day can help ease emotional tension. It could be as simple as enjoying a quiet cup of tea on your own, taking a few minutes to breathe deeply, listen to your favorite music, a bath, meditate, or writing down what you’re grateful for. These brief moments offer emotional relief & help you recharge.

Remember that you are worthy of peace, even in the busiest seasons of life. No matter how much the world asks of you, your emotional wellbeing is not a luxury—it’s a necessity. When you honor your emotions, you reclaim your strength. And from that place of inner calm, you can face whatever comes your way🙌🏻

Drop me 💛💛💛 in the comment if this helps u💖

Love,

Connie

Hello October! I’ve missed you😘🍂 This month has always held a special place in my heart. It’s not just my birth month, but there’s something bittersweet and magical about it—the quiet ending of one chapter and the beginning of something new.

As the world begins to change colors, it serves as a gentle reminder that change can be breathtakingly beautiful. It’s a season of transformation, a moment to appreciate and celebrate how far we’ve come, and to embrace the new paths ahead.

Fall is already here, so let’s keep falling in love with the person you’re becoming every day. You are a masterpiece in progress, and your journey is as beautiful as the season that embraces change🍂✨

Remember that your existence is a gift🎁 The growth you experience, the journey you’re on, it’s a gift not only to yourself but to everyone around you😘

With just 3 more months until the end of the year, we can still achieve so much in these last three months. Your life can change and shift in any given moment! Stay committed to your dreams, trust the process, and stay open to the infinite possibilities💫

Love💖

Connie

Clients always ask me about my daily routine, so I thought I’d share it with you all here and hope it inspires you too💛

I love starting my mornings slow, focusing on my mind first, then my body. When I wake up, I don’t usually check my phone or messages right away. Instead, I take time to meditate or visualize while I’m still in that Theta Brain Wave state—it’s such a powerful time to tap into our creative mind, gain insights, and connect to endless possibilities.

After that, I do a light workout to wake up my body, followed by some journaling every now and then. There’s something about putting pen to paper and writing down my thoughts and manifestations that just feels so good. I kid you not, more than 70% of what I’ve written has manifested in my life! And now I don’t feel the need to journal daily anymore because my thoughts alone are enough to manifest. But I still love writing from time to time—it’s a little ritual that brings me joy🙂 Especially when I have some moments, need some clarity, or my mind feels clouded.

By noon, I head to my workout and training. And most of my afternoons and evenings are typically dedicated to my client sessions, and I absolutely love what I do💛

That’s a little peek into my routine. My focus is always on maintaining balance between my inner and outer worlds. It’s easy to get lost in the busyness of life, but I choose consciously to make it a priority to nurture my body, mind, soul, and overall well-being every day.

Remember, everything is a choice. Complaining is a choice, and so is dwelling on what’s wrong or past mistakes. Just like that, happiness is a choice, and so is being healthy. We can’t always control what happens to us in life, but we can control how we respond and the choices we make. After all, our life is the sum of all the choices we’ve made along the way💫 Hope this inspires you😘

Love,

Connie

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You can go to the gym, drink plenty of water, eat well, and take your vitamins, but if you don’t address and deal with what’s going on inside—your emotional struggles, mental stress, and inner conflicts—you’re still putting your physical health at serious risk.

As an Emotional Wellbeing Professional, I’ve worked with many clients who, in addition to emotional struggles, also suffer from persistent physical health issues that medical tests fail to explain. Despite undergoing countless tests, they’re often told nothing is wrong, even though they continue to feel unwell. I’ve discussed this phenomenon before with my dear doctor friend, a neurologist, who confirmed that it’s something frequently seen in the medical field.

These unexplained physical symptoms are often the body’s way of signaling that there’s a deeper emotional or mental imbalance that needs attention. It’s a significant red flag that something is misaligned within your system. Stress, unresolved emotions, and inner turmoil can manifest physically, leading to discomfort and illness that traditional medicine might struggle to diagnose.

Many seemingly healthy people find themselves falling ill due to internal imbalances, stress, and burnout. Even if you’re diligent about your physical health, ignoring what’s happening in your heart and mind can lead to chronic issues like insomnia, anxiety, headaches, overweight, frequent illnesses, and even more serious health conditions.

True wellness is a balance between body, mind, and soul. It’s crucial to confront what’s weighing on you internally. Take care of your mental and emotional well-being just as much as your physical body. It’s all connected🧘🏻‍♀️

Remember, when your body sends you signals, it’s essential to listen and address the underlying cause, not just the symptoms. True health begins with the understanding that real healing starts from within💛😌

Have a wonderful weekend ahead everyone😘

Connie

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A powerful reminder to all of you that our habitual thoughts and behaviors shape our success and reality. So often, people get caught up in what I call the “this is who I am syndrome.” It sounds like, “I’ve always been like this,” “This is who I am,” or “This is just how I do things.” And the labels we put on ourselves—that’s precisely the issue. If we keep telling ourselves who we are and keep acting the same way over and over again, we leave no room for growth.

Change starts from within. If we want to change our lives or any circumstances, we must start by changing how we see ourselves and what we believe within. This means breaking free from our old habits and thought patterns.

Growth requires us to challenge our old beliefs and open ourselves to new experiences. It’s about increasing our awareness, not blindly following the crowd, and allowing ourselves to think differently and, consequently, act differently. When we do this, we slowly create a new self-concept—a new version of ourselves that is not bound by past limitations.

It’s not just about letting go of the old self, but shifting the way we tell ourselves “Who we are.” If you find yourself stuck in repetitive patterns or feeling like you’re not progressing in any area of your life, it’s a clear sign to change from within. Ask yourself, are my current beliefs and habits serving me? What are the labels I put on myself? Am I allowing myself to evolve into the person I desire to be?

Remember, you can create a new version of yourself, one that aligns with your deepest desires. Change can be hard and scary, but guess what’s harder and scarier? Staying in the same place where you can’t achieve your full potential and not living the life you love🙌🏻

💌 Want to shift your reality and circumstances with ease & grace? DM me to book your sessions!

Love💛

Connie

When your reality or mind feels like a battlefield, it’s often a sign that there’s inner work to be done. True transformation starts from within, and that’s where change begins.

It’s easy to get caught up in external circumstances and forget that we have the power to shape our own reality. Our thoughts, beliefs, emotions & actions create the world we experience. When we take the time to heal emotionally and reprogram our mindset, we unblock the ability to create a life that aligns with our deepest desires.

Imagine breaking free from the patterns that have held you back, healing the wounds that have kept you stuck, and stepping into a life filled with joy, love, and fulfillment.

Healing isn’t just about addressing symptoms; it’s about understanding the root causes and making profound changes from the inside out. Unresolved emotions and limiting beliefs can sabotage your efforts and keep you in a cycle of frustration and disappointment. By addressing these internal blocks, you open the door to new possibilities, opportunities, and ultimately shift your reality.

Take a moment to reflect on what’s not working in your life right now. What are your repeating patterns? And what would it feel like to let go of those struggles and embrace a new way of being? It all starts with a willingness to look inward, to heal, and to transform.

You have the power to change your circumstances. The life you desire is within reach, and it begins with the inner work. Let this be your call to action: prioritize your emotional wellbeing and inner growth. The journey may not always be easy, but it is profoundly rewarding. Your future self will thank you for the courage and commitment you show today.

When you change from within, your outer world transforms🙌🏻

DM me if you’d like to book sessions. Starting in August, my healing and coaching fees will be adjusted, and I will also limit my one-on-one private sessions to focus more on building my social media presence. So don’t miss this chance to book your private sessions with me now🫶🏻

Love💛

Connie

🪞“MIRROR, MIRROR on the wall, who is the most beautiful one of all?”

Answer: “𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐨𝐟 𝐘𝐎𝐔! Because your beauty is unique, and nobody can be compared to you😘”

The most captivating and irresistible outfit any woman can wear is her confidence. It’s not about the latest fashion trends, makeup, or expensive labels, although they certainly have their place. Instead, it’s the inner glow that shines through, surpassing external symbols and presentations.

Picture this: a woman walking into a room, her aura emanating a radiant glow, her smile illuminating the space around her. What catches your attention first? It’s that undeniable confidence and positive energy she exudes.

Confidence is not just an accessory; it’s the very fabric of her being, woven into every fiber of her existence. It’s the way she carries herself with grace and poise, embracing her flaws and imperfections as part of her unique beauty.

In a world that constantly bombards us with perfect standards of beauty, confidence is the ultimate rebellion. It’s saying, ‘I am enough, just as I am,’ and refusing to conform to society’s narrow definitions of perfection or to settle for anything less than what you deserve.

So, my dearest ladies, consistently do your inner work. Inner work is crucial as it can break unhealthy patterns in all areas of your life and dramatically shift your reality. This allows you to embody who you truly are and wear your confidence like a crown. Own it, flaunt it, and let it illuminate everything around you. When you believe in yourself, that radiant energy is what attracts everything your heart desires. 💖✨

𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧’𝐬 𝐃𝐚𝐲!😘👸🏻

Love💛

Connie

In today’s world, where external validation seems like the currency of worth, the society often values us by external markers of success, it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of seeking approval and validation from others, and lose sight of the immense value that resides within us.

Our worth isn’t a commodity to be measured by likes, accomplishments, or the opinions of others. It’s something intrinsic, immutable, and infinitely precious. Your worth stems from your very existence, your qualities, and the unique perspective you bring to the world.

You are valuable, not for what you do or what you have but for who you are. Your experiences, your dreams, your strengths, and even your struggles contribute to your unique essence.

Below are few tips to help you rediscover your inherent worth:

1. Stop Comparing - Remind yourself that everyone’s journey is unique. Use social media mindfully, and celebrate your own milestones without comparison.

2. Seek Supportive Relationships - Surround yourself with people who uplift & appreciate you. Healthy relationships can mirror and affirm your inherent worth.

3. Set Healthy Boundaries - Learn to say no. Protecting your time & energy is a profound act of self-respect.

4. Engage in Activities That Make You Feel Good - Whether it’s a hobby, exercise, or learning something new, doing what you truly love reinforces your sense of self worth.

5. Last but not the least - Reflect on this question 👉🏻 When was the last time you acknowledged your worth independent of others’ validation?

This week, choose one the step above to practice daily. Share your experiences, challenges, or questions in the comments below and let me know if this helps you, it will help me to create more valuable contents to help you transform your life from the inside out, and in all areas of your life💛

💌DM me if you are ready for a breakthrough in your life, my 1:1 personalized guidance is tailored specifically to your life’s unique challenges💫

Love😘

Connie

If you complain frequently, you’re mastering the skill of complaining.

Every moment you are happy, you are learning how to embrace greater joy.

Every time you act, you are learning how to take an action even better.

In every thought, in every action, in every moment lies the potential for growth and expansion. Choose wisely where you focus your energy and what you repeat, for what you nurture within yourself will inevitably shape the landscape of your life.

This is a gentle reminder that our daily practices, the repetitive thoughts and actions, are not just passing moments. They are the building blocks of our future selves.
The habits we cultivate, the thoughts we entertain, and the actions we repeat are not mere byproducts of our days, but the very materials we use to build the future we aspire to.

Let’s also not forget the impact of the words we speak to ourselves and others. Words of kindness and encouragement, repeated often, become the language of our inner dialogue. They fortify us with strength and confidence, enabling us to extend compassion and support to those around us.

As you reflect on this message, consider the habits & thoughts you’re cultivating in your life. Are they leading you towards the person you wish to become? How do they align with your deepest values & the goals you’ve set for yourself? In what ways can you adjust your focus to foster more positive growth, success & happiness? Are there specific areas in your life where you feel more change or improvement is needed? How do you plan to address these areas moving forward?

Remember, your journey is unique, and so is your path to healing and growth. Imagine the mind as a garden, where every thought is a seed. Some seeds grow into the beautiful flowers of joy & gratitude, while others turn into the w**ds of worry & discontent. Choose mindfully which seeds to water & which to w**d out is the essence of creating & manifesting a life you love🫶🏻💛

💌DM me to inquire my 1:1 online healing & coaching services.

Love😘

Connie

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When we find ourselves tirelessly trying, yet facing the same walls over & over, it’s an invitation to look inward & to reassess the foundational beliefs and values guiding our actions. This journey inward is not about finding fault within ourselves but recognizing the power we hold to rewrite the script of our lives.

Our inner system consists of deeply ingrained beliefs, habits, and thought patterns that shape our reality. Sometimes, these elements are so embedded within us that we’re not even aware of their influence. Yet, they play a crucial role in how we approach challenges, setbacks, and opportunities. When efforts seem futile, and progress stalls, it’s a clear indication that our inner system needs an upgrade.

Changing your inner system requires introspection and willingness to embrace discomfort. It means stepping into the unknown, questioning deeply ingrained beliefs, and allowing yourself to feel vulnerable as you dismantle old parts of yourself to make room for new growth.

Below are 3 tips to change your Inner System:

💫Self-Reflection: Begin with understanding your current system. Check what beliefs do you hold about yourself & the world? How do these beliefs shape your reality?

💫Identify Limitations: Recognize which parts of your system are leading to undesired outcomes. What are the recurring patterns in different areas of your life that you want to change?

💫Envision Your Ideal System: Imagine what an updated version of your inner system looks like. What beliefs, thoughts, and emotional responses are included in this upgraded version?

The above initial steps are about gaining a deep & honest understanding of yourself. It involves identifying & analyzing the core beliefs, thought patterns & emotional tendencies that make up your current way of being. These components are like the software running in the background of your mind, influencing every aspect of your life, from your self-esteem to your relationships, career, and overall happiness.

💌Need help to shift your inner system & reality quickly now? DM me for my 1:1 healing & coaching service.

Love😘

Connie

We often cling to familiar patterns, behaviors & identities that feel safe, yet simultaneously hold us back from our true potential. It’s comfortable to stay who we’ve been, but what if I told you that today could be the day you shed that old self & step into a new, more empowered version of you? It’s not just about changing what you do, but about evolving who you are at your core.

Healing & personal transformation are not just about moving away from what we‘ve been; they’re about moving toward who we can become. This shift in perspective is vital. It‘s not about discarding our essence nor our past, but about evolving it. Imagine you’re sculpting yourself, chipping away the parts that don‘t fit the masterpiece you’re destined to become. It‘s a process of becoming more you, not less.

Here are 3 tips to help you out:

💛1. Take time to understand your past, start by recognizing the lessons learned from every experience & understanding how they’ve shaped you. Writing down significant moments in your life & the emotions associated with them. Reflect on how these moments have influenced your beliefs, behaviors, and decisions. This introspective process helps you identify patterns that may have served a purpose at one time but are now barriers to your growth. Acknowledging these patterns is the first step toward changing them.

💛2. Identify Your Desired Self - Ask yourself, what qualities do I admire in others? What brings me joy & fulfillment? Imagine a version of yourself that embodies these qualities & lives a life aligned with your deepest values. Write down the characteristics of your desired self, including how you handle challenges, your achievements, and even how you interact with others.

💛3. Adopt a mindset that views challenges as opportunities to learn and grow. Have courage to step out of your comfort zone & try/learn something new. Be open to new experiences & perspectives, as these are the catalysts for your transformation.

Let today be the day you courageously step towards who you can become🫶🏻

💌DM for more info about my 1:1 online healing services.

Love😘

Connie

Have you ever caught yourself giving so much to others that you overlook your own emotional needs? As an Emotional Healer & Coach, I help my clients through various emotional challenges, as well as towards embracing self-love, guiding them to open their hearts to receive the love they deserve. It’s a common pattern that we often give so much of ourselves to others that we neglected our most vital connection—the relationship with our own being.

Loving others is a beautiful act of generosity & compassion, but when it comes at the expense of our own well-being, it’s time to pause. This imbalance act is not sustainable & often results in emotional exhaustion, decreased self-esteem, burnout, loss of identity, and in some cases, resentment towards those we care about and undermining the very relationships we aim to support.

By recognizing & addressing these deep-seated emotions, we can start to dismantle the patterns that hold us back from truly loving ourselves.

Here are 3 reminders to yourself:

💛1. Stay in tune with your needs and feelings. It’s like keeping an eye on your car’s fuel gauge to prevent running on empty.

💛2. It’s absolutely okay to say no. Setting healthy boundaries is about preserving your energy so you can be there for others without sacrificing your own well-being. At the same time you are also teaching others how to treat you better.

💛3. Remind yourself you’re worthy: Use affirmations to boost your self-esteem. Remember, you don’t have to earn love, especially from yourself.

Remember, the journey to loving others begins with loving yourself. It’s a journey of recognizing that you deserve the same kindness, care & love that you so freely give to others. Let this understanding guide you as you navigate the complexities of relationships and loving yourself. When you offer others the gift of your love, make sure you are not just the giver but also the grateful recipient of that boundless love💕

Now, what are some ways you’ve found to balance giving love to others with giving love to yourself? 🤔

Love😘

Connie

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Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of negative thoughts over and over again & seem can’t get out of it? This is a common experience & we all have been there. However, don’t forget that you are the master of your mind and you have the power to shift it🙂

A negative mind often stems from past experiences, fears, and self-doubt. This mindset not only affects our mental & emotional well-being, but can also hinder our professional success & personal fulfillment.

The shift must start from the inside out, it begins with acknowledging these negative thought patterns. Our subconscious mind plays a pivotal role in this process. It stores our deepest beliefs & emotions, many of which negatively influence our conscious thoughts & actions without us even realizing. By understanding this, we can start to see how a negative mind can lead us away from the positive life we aspire to.

Below are few practices to help you increase your awareness so you can learn how to shift your thought patterns:

🧘🏻‍♀️Journal Down Your Thoughts: Begin by writing down your thoughts. This practice can help you becoming clear & aware of your thought patterns. Observing your thoughts allows you to pinpoint negative patterns that you are not aware of. Check out my ‘31 Days Emotional Healing Workbook’ on Amazon that’s design to guide you on this. Link here👉🏻 https://amzn.to/3E7soJY

💛Don’t judge your Emotions: Approach your emotions without judgment & with love. Recognize that they are natural responses as part of human experience, not indicators of weakness or failure. Allow yourself to experience & understand them.

🤨Questioning Negative Thoughts: When negative thoughts arise, pause & ask yourself 5 critical questions👇🏻

1. What evidence supports this thought?
2. What is the root cause of this thought?
3. Is there a more positive way to view this situation?
4. What positive action can I take right now?
5. How would I advise a friend who had this thought?

Remember, transforming a negative mindset into a positive one is a journey, not a destination. And each baby step you take is a move towards a more fulfilling life🫶🏻

💌Need guidance to help you shift your mindset rapidly? DM me “HEAL” for my 1:1 online healing service.

Love💛

Connie🧘🏻‍♀️

Have you ever experienced sudden anxiety or mood shifts? Leaving you feeling caught off guard, wondering what triggered such an intense emotional response?

These moments can be like a reminder from the depths of our being, where our past memories and emotions reside, waiting to resurface.

Within the depths of our subconscious lie memories, emotions & past trauma, some vivid & others fading with time. These emotions aren’t forgotten; they’re safely stored within the recesses of our psyche.

As you go about your day, your subconscious is always at work, sifting through the vaults of your past. When unexpected emotions surge to the surface, it’s your subconscious urging you to pay attention. It’s a signal that there’s something beneath the surface, something that wants to be seen, acknowledged, and healed.

Here are 3 tips on acknowledge your emotions:

🧘🏻‍♀️𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐁𝐨𝐝𝐲: Pay close attention to the physical sensations that arise in response to triggers. Notice when your body tenses, your heart races, or your breath quickens. These sensations are like clues from your subconscious, guiding you toward what’s buried.

✍️ 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐖𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠: Consider the power of writing to release suppressed emotions. Allow your thoughts to flow freely onto paper. Don’t censor or judge; simply let the words pour out, offering a channel for what’s hidden to surface.

📕 𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠: Use prompts to delve deeper into your emotions. Ask yourself questions like, “What memories surface when I explore this feeling?” or “How does this emotion connect to my past experiences?” Journaling with intention can unearth valuable insights.

Remember that our subconscious mind is a reservoir of wisdom & growth. By learning to embrace what has long been concealed and acknowledging the gentle whispers from within, you have the power to liberate yourself from the confines of emotional struggle.

💌If you find yourself in need of assistance & are interested in working with me, pls DM me to inquire about my 1:1 online emotional healing & coaching services.

Love💛

Connie