Mumma

What’s your happy hour drink?

A talk glass of sleep girl 😘

Times have changed hey Mumma!

Anyone else adding extra spice to their chocolate?

This 😂😂😂

Anyone feel me?

Let’s be intentional Zim mummies about what this year bring to us and our families!

We all know the tough part about living in Zim but the reason we stay is not only because it’s home but because there are SO many things we can be grateful for.

I’m tired of getting down about the tough things and I’m going to strive for those things to not steal my peace. (Yes you taxi driver)

What is one word you want 2024 to be?

What's on your checklist before you leave home Mumma?

We can get so stuck sometimes Mumma's, thinking we are stuck in the no-sleep phase, or the time when our kids only ever want to eat pasta. I get it, but sometimes we just need to try something new!

Anyone else feeling me?

Happy wife, happy life!
Happy mum, happy kids!
Happy home, happy mum!
Happy mum, happy husband!

Is makes sense though.

Get the extra support on your birth team!

Gosh, this one gets me good Mumma's!

I think we've all been in this place daily, maybe not actually googling how to understand our children but thinking, heck, this would be a whole lot easier with like a manual or something?!

One of the most important things we need to remember when our child is freaking out, throwing a tantrum or doing something you literally have to blink five times to make sure you're seeing it correctly... is... you as mum, you're the safe place. Kinda like how when you see that super close friend, who knows you in and out, or maybe even a therapist, or actually your OWN FRIGGEN MUM... The tear ducts just let loose. Well you are that person to your kids. Sorry!

You are the most secure place they feel, so when they've been holding it all together for other people, teachers, friends, and other family members, you're their person they need to air their feelings to. And because they don't understand emotional regulation or actually what exactly happened in the day to give them this feeling, they normally just end up in a ball of anger or floods of tears to you. The best thing in this situation is to NOT UNDERSTAND what happened... yes, that's what I said. When you are in place of knowing what happened, then you will tend to fix the problem for them but sometimes (and exactly like us girls with our men) we just want to be heard and seen. So give them that extra long hug, tell them that extra sorry you're so sad and remind them how brave, strong and loved they are.

Some other tips I'd recommend doing some research into to help you a bit more is:

1. Psychologically what is your child going through at their given age.
2. Physically what changes are happening? Are they hormonal?
3. Has something happened in your family unit to make their outbursts more plausible? A new sibling? A change in seeing a parent (job change)? Have you moved house or school?

Ask questions. Lots of questions! And please let me know your thoughts below, because I certainly don't get it right all the time.

Hey Mumma's,

How's the start to your week been? Well mine has been the usual. One kid is on the verge of losing two teeth, not because of age but because of a casual head butt. The other child, I'm sure if I actually even like him right now, I mean I love him, but yeah, not sure if he's on my top 5 this week. I managed to shave my legs and get a walk in, so at least I'm winning in that area. The other child is so cross with me because we ran out of cucumbers and so when he decided to rather have an apple, he lost it with me because I cut the damn thing. So I think I'm sitting on a solid 5/10. Anyone else like man how do I get a break from this?

So, when was the last time you did something for yourself? I mean totally for yourself... not going to the PnP on your own to do the groceries, or only taking one kid to run errands with you (even though I know this feels like a break, I've been there) but like something that is only for you, and whatever it is, it has to please you and take your mind off what you are usually doing?? I thought so... before you had kids 🤣🥲

Well I am here to tell you (not give you permission) and convince you totally that this time for you is so beneficial for your family too. We are the glue in our family, and I know you know that. If we are weak and hanging on my a thread, how on earth are we meant to keep everyone else together.

So you ask me well how do I do that? You need to have a genuine and real conversation with your husband and get him to help you make this happen. If it means getting family involved to help take care of kids, or stay over to help your care giver or Gogo then that is what needs to happen. And you're also probably thinking, gosh it's just too much effort. I've been taking time for myself for 4 years now and it is SO easy now because everyone knows the drill, and I also know how to coordinate everyone's lives so I can get the time I need. Remember, just try it once and see how it makes you feel.

The weight of the responsibility of your children can sometimes be quite overwhelming but when you don't get a break from it your body ends up running on auto-pilot and sometimes full of adrenaline which is not healthy to never have a break from. Also the feeling of seeing a break in the future can make you feel light a weight has been lifted from your shoulders than the actual break itself.

I am about to go to my best friend's wedding for a whole 5 nights on my own... Man I literally canoot wait!

👗👚 WE ARE BACK 👚👗

See you on Saturday for another wonderful day with the Pop-Up Collective ZW. Grab a coffee, some food and stroll the stalls. Stop by for a chat and some comfy new stock.

Feeling stuck in a space or situation Mumma... I know girl, its hard but sometimes all you need to do it change something small.

Hey you, yes you Mumma…

God had to give us an extra supernatural power when creating us as a mother, I promise it’s real.

This right here ☝🏼

How crazy is that statement?

I have been lucky enough to have two incredible gogo's that love & help me with my home & boys like their own. I do realise that not everyone, even us Zim mummies get this lucky.

My own mum doesn't live in the same country as me, and my mother-in-law lives in a different town, and when I became a mother I felt very alone in the caring for my child, especially when my husband had to go back to work. Our gogo at this stage was just helping me with cleaning, washing & cooking. I would try and juggle showering & eating when baby slept, or have him in a bouncer close by while I was on the loo and put him in the sling while I went grocery shopping. It all felt quite claustrophobic that I was the "only one" who was ever going to be able to take care of my child.

After some tough months of trying to figure out how to ENJOY being a mum, my husband broke it down for me. Gogo has been a mother for 30 years, she is a grandmother herself. She has worked with us for ages & we trust her. If I spend some time with her & my baby, and SHOW HER how I'd like her to feed, change nappies, play & care for our baby, it could only end up being positive because I was there with her.

Other things I did during the newborn phase was ask my older friends (15 years older, get some of these friends, you need them) to come and look after baby for a afternoon while we slept. This was a weekly game changing necessity for us.

Sometimes just starting to ask for help makes the shift in your mind and also starts to show you who your village is.

I'd love to hear what your experiences have been Mumma's...

The most helpful tool you can take with you into motherhood is having a talk through & debriefing on your birth and why things happened the way they did.

Even if everything seemed to go ‘as planned’ it is also healthy for you to know all the ins and outs so that you can process those moments later on when you start to think about your birth again. Things can be super blurry for us during the birth & after, and so your OBGYN or partner may remember something that you didn’t even know happened.

It is also mentally very healthy to understand why things got to an emergency situation, is that’s the way things went. You will be carrying some trauma with this and so it will be your first step in healing, which is the knowing. Giving purpose to your pain.

If you don’t feel comfortable going back to your OBGYN to find out the details, even talking it through with a midwife/doula might help shed some light on what happened.

This should be part of your
POSTPARTUM PLAN.

Yes, just like a birth plan, you should also have a postpartum plan.

Anyone else?

What are yours Mumma? 👇🏼

We cannot wait to see you!

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Such a wonderful afternoon celebrating mums!

☀️SUMMER IS AROUND THE CORNER ☀️

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🌸⭕️ MUMMA’S CIRCLE ⭕️🌸

Here are all the details for our first ever Mumma’s Circle! EVERY mum is welcome no matter what stage you’re at. Come and enjoy an afternoon all about you! We have

GIVEAWAYS, GUEST SPEAKERS & GIFTS!

Book your tickets and get there quick! LIMITED SPACES!
$15 / ticket which includes any Mumma print outs you want, as well as a little spoil for YOU! Coffee & croissants can be bought from On Juice.

It can feel so daunting how you are ever going to adjust to this phase of life. Like when do mothers actually get out of their pjs, let alone go grocery shopping, heck! Well we do, and you will too!

It is scary and can feel very overwhelming but there is a huge sense of achievement and pride in slowly moving out of our safe spaces and seeing the world with these mother eyes.

What did you do that made you have an 'I gots dis' moment?

This is your mantra, Mumma!

And don't forget it...

Birth isn't pretty. Take a look at some very raw photos. But Mumma I cannot describe this incredible feeling I am experiencing in these photos. There is alot to talk about here but what I want to say most importantly is that the outcome of your birth can affect the way you go into motherhood each time around. It is such a sacred, intimate and vulnerable time and if you don't strive to get the outcome you want, the trauma from your birth will affect a lot after.

You need to be informed and full of knowledge about birth, the medical system and where you are going to be birthing so you don't come up against anything that you didn't know or expect. I fought hard and so did my husband to have as little intervention and hands on me as possible, keeping my births as personal as possible.

Choosing your birth team will be the vital part in staying empowered during this process!

There is always something to be thankful for Mumma!

What are you thankful for? 👇

Don't forget Mumma... this journey is not going to end! So enjoy the ride.
HAPPY WEEKEND!