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When you’re tired, go slowly. Go quietly. Go timidly. But do not stop. You are tired for all the right reasons. You are tired because you’re supposed to be. You’re tired because you’re making a change. You are exhausted for all the right reasons and it’s only an indication to go on. You are tired because you’re growing. ~Heidi Priebe

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(Art: 'After the dance', 1899 by Ramon Casas)

Leaving a long-term relationship, especially one that was toxic, can feel like navigating through a storm. But in the midst of those turbulent emotions, it's important to recognize the immense courage it takes to take that first step towards healing and growth.

It's natural to feel a whirlwind of emotions – sadness, anger, confusion, and maybe even relief. All these feelings are valid, and it's okay to experience them fully. Remember, you're not alone in this journey. You have friends, family, and possibly even professional support to lean on during this challenging time.

Moving on from a toxic relationship isn't just about leaving behind what's harmful; it's also about reclaiming your sense of self-worth and rediscovering your own identity outside of that toxic dynamic. It's about recognizing your own value and realizing that you deserve to be treated with love, respect, and kindness.

In the days ahead, be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve the loss of what could have been and to process the emotions that come with it. Take each day as it comes, and celebrate the small victories along the way – whether it's rediscovering an old hobby, spending time with loved ones, or simply finding moments of peace and joy in the present.

As you journey forward, know that brighter days are ahead. You have the strength and resilience to create a life that's filled with love, positivity, and fulfillment. Keep moving forward, one step at a time, and trust that the path ahead holds endless possibilities for growth and happiness. You're worthy of all the love and happiness in the world.

_Beulah

It is very important to go out alone, to sit under a tree—not with a book, not with a companion, but by yourself—and observe the falling of a leaf, hear the lapping of the water, the fishermen’s song, watch the flight of a bird, and of your own thoughts as they chase each other across the space of your mind. If you are able to be alone and watch these things, then you will discover extraordinary riches which no government can tax, no human agency can corrupt, and which can never be destroyed. ~Jiddu Krishnamurti

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This book "It Didn't Start with You" by Mark Wolynn revolves around the exploration of inherited family trauma and its impact on individuals.

Here are 7 key the book can help you understand your relationship:

1. Ancestral Patterns: The book delves into how unresolved traumas from previous generations can influence your behavior and relationships, shedding light on patterns that might not be immediately apparent.

2. Awareness of Family Dynamics: It helps you gain awareness of your family's dynamics and the potential transmission of emotional and relational patterns from one generation to the next.

3. Breaking Generational Cycles: By understanding the roots of familial trauma, the book offers insights on breaking negative cycles, allowing you to make conscious choices in your relationships to avoid perpetuating past patterns.

4. Self-Exploration: It encourages self-exploration to identify and understand how your family history may be impacting your current relationships, providing a foundation for personal growth.

5. Empathy and Compassion: The book emphasizes cultivating empathy and compassion for yourself and your family members as you uncover and process intergenerational traumas.

6. Healing and Resilience: It offers guidance on healing from inherited trauma, providing tools and strategies to promote resilience and foster healthier relationships.

7. Improved Communication: Understanding the potential impact of family trauma allows for improved communication within relationships, as it provides a context for certain behaviors and emotions, fostering empathy between partners.

…Guarded backs, defended fronts, and armored hearts are seductive. They promise you a sense of safety and certainty and convince you that, above all others, you are uniquely tough and capable to tackle whatever is in front of you. All of that protection is also a smokescreen…

…The sneakiest part of living with so much protection is its systemic nature — there are plenty of situations and people who, over time, have started relying on your unique toughness and grind capacity — even when they find the side effects of your efforts difficult. Yes, the disappointment you think others feel toward you is partially emanating from the weight of your own insane expectations, but there are also hero expectations that have formed around you, and not all of the disappointment is your own…��…The slipperiest part is an armored heart’s ability to make your sadness feel like a weakness you have to push down and its power to transform your loneliness into a heroic emotion — like you’re out there completely on your own and you wouldn’t have it any other way…

~ Brene Brown (excepts from full article attached - well worth a read! Grab a cuppa and slow down for 15mins to absorb it!)

Hard Seasons and Wild Hearts - Brené Brown An update from Brené on unfolding, an armored heart, straddling the tension, and building a community of wild hearts.

When you eat fruit, do not throw the seeds in the garbage.
Wash and dry them.
Put them in a box and leave them in the car.
When you're out driving, throw the seeds through the window in places where there are no trees.
Nature will take care of the rest.
This was promoted in Thailand, and fruit trees multiplied in existence throughout the entire country.
Let's do this close to home! 🥭🥝🥑🍏

How to Choose a Lover~~

By lover, I don’t mean merely an intimate partner or a sexual dalliance.

By lover, I mean a person who ravishes your entire being—mind, body, heart and soul.

By lover, I mean the person who takes your breath away and breathes life into your dreams. By lover, I mean the person whose body fits yours like a glove and in whose eyes you see eternity. By lover, I mean the person who captures your attention and captivates your being.

You see, it is easy to choose a physical lover—as the commercial reminds us, there’s an app for that. You can swipe your way to a booked social calendar and still live with an empty heart. Many view the quest for love as a numbers game…the more exposures you have to potential partners, the better your chances. While I see the rationale behind that, I believe that is far too simple.

To choose a lover like the one above is not a numbers game. It is birthed from a deep and raw place within the soul—a place where many of us rarely explore within ourselves and don’t really know. That is why we choose our lovers based on surface characteristics and miss the soulful connection our hearts are craving.

To choose a lover who is soul food is a process that first requires one to go within and explore the deepest parts of oneself. One must discover who they were before life told them who they should be. One must shine a light into the darkness, knowing that facing the demons that reside there is vital to self-discovery. One must be willing to touch the places that ache, the longing within and the call of the heart. One must be willing to be undone, to feel lost and to let go—of projections, expectations and all the things you think love should be.

Choosing this type of soulful lover is not like going to a buffet where you try a little of this and that until you find what pleases your palate and satiates your hunger. You will only find the soulful lover you seek when you have been willing to go through your own soulful process of discovery.

You see, the soulful lover is not likely to be found on the buffet line. The soulful lover is like the best diamonds that are kept in the jewelry store—kept in the back, in the safe where only the most serious of buyers gain access. The soulful lover is a hidden treasure that can be accessed only by those with the eyes to see beneath the surface and go deep into the soul.

To choose a lover, you must first choose yourself.

You choose to allow the destruction of enlightenment to have its way with your life. You choose to remain steadfast in your commitment to your highest good. You choose to retain the hope and belief in the divinity of the universe that will bring everything you need to you at the exact right time.

You do not run around, chasing love. You sit back and become love. You spread love wherever you go in whatever you do. You let love be your guide, your roadmap and your true north. Love begets love and what you give out is what you get back.

To choose a lover, you must know what you are seeking and trust that as Rumi stated, “what you seek is seeking you.” When you are deeply living from a place of authentic truth, you will find those who are doing the same. From that space, you will no longer be standing in a buffet line, tasting the options but will be following your bliss to the place you most desire and filling your plate with that which fulfills, sustains and enriches your being.

~Lisa Vallejos, PhD

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Trauma isn’t someone else’s story…

Fascinating… today was an extreme Tower moment for me… that feeling of being unloved, unworthy, unloveable…

Listening to Gene Key 18 and the concept that ‘judgement is based on the perceived notion of flaws’.

When are we most influenced by our perceived flaws? As teenagers… between 14 and 21, when we are MOST aware of our own flaws and shortcomings. Where we consolidate the painful emotional messages we were given as children (curious that our human nature easily forgets the loving positive messages we were also hopefully given).

I am thinking of where I keep looping to the ‘unworthy me’ and what I find myself ‘needing’ to cling to, to erase the ‘not good enough’ messages… but of course:

what do we do when in pain? We go back to our wounded inner child and then behave from our teenage projectionist patterns.

Integrity comes from moving out of that stuck teen angsty pain… remembering the values we CHOOSE when we become our own definition of ourselves and then we heal the pain of being that unloved and unworthy child.

Giving freedom to be the best versions of our evolved self, integrity is the way forward from anxious or avoidant attachment projections and helps us remember to live in harmony with the values we chose for ourselves, not the values imposed upon our self identities people who ‘judged’ us (insteading of loving us) tried to make us ascribe to

It took me a lot of time to realize that life isn’t always going to go my way.
I’m going to have days that feel like they’ll never end and times that are so hard I’ll feel like crying…
But I also realized that’s part of the journey.
Learning to ride the waves of the good days, swim harder on the tough days and just keep figuring out a way to make the most of what comes at me.
I’m not going to always have the answers and I’m going to get knocked down more than I expected.
But I’ve learned that’s what it takes, sometimes, to make me stronger, wiser and better.
What’s more important to me is the ability to enjoy the beautiful moments that present themselves all the time.
Soak in those chances to truly immerse myself in the best of life so that I can appreciate the challenges of life that follow.
But no matter how many storms come my way, I just close my eyes and take a deep breath.
Everything- even the stuff that never seems to end- is temporary.
I’ll be happy again.
There will be more bad days.
I’ll feel like crying sometimes.
I’ll have moments when my heart is full.
I’m just going to take it all in stride..
Good, bad and everything in between.
I don’t know what tomorrow will bring and I don’t have to.
Sometimes the best part of the future is just letting it unfold.
I have much still to do, places still to go and people still to love.
I’ve decided to slow down, start living and stop rushing through life.
I’ve missed so much of the good stuff thinking I had to be in a hurry to get this or that done…
When, really, the best part of the journey is in the experience of being fully alive.
But no matter what happens or where life takes me, I’m going to live each day fully, love my people hard and just be present through it all.
It’ll never be perfect or without rough patches, but I’ll make the best of everything..
Because in the end, those are all things that will make the beautiful person that I’m meant to become.
Good, bad, ugly and beautiful,
I’m a unique mishmash of the life I’ve had.
And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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