Josie Wolfram - Child, Adolescent & Adult Counsellor/ Behaviour Therapist

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To find out more, contact me today :)

Love to know how to talk to your kids about Coronavirus without making them scared?

Tune in to this Facebook Live at 10am on Wed, April 1 where local Kew counsellor, Josie Wolfram, will be sharing invaluable hints and tips. Plus, feel free to ask your own questions on the Live and she'll answer :-)

Can't make the live stream but have a question and can watch it later? Write it in the comments below and we'll get it answered.

Read more on Josie and what she does here: https://www.josiewolfram.com.au/ and see you on Wed 1!

Thankyou Kew Junction for allowing me to provide one lucky participant a free voucher for counselling. Both feeling very grateful :)

We're in our final week of celebrating all our Kew Junction Health, Beauty & Fitness businesses and it's the biggest one yet - as you get to choose from every Health, Fitness & Beauty business in Kew Junction!

All you need do is tell us in the comments which of these businesses below you'd love to win a $150 voucher for and you're in the running 🙂

Want to double your chances? Pop over to our Insta account (kewjunctionau) and enter there also.

Winners drawn Mon, Nov 29 and announced on social media.

Aldo Raymond Hairdressing
Andrew Yang Hair Design
Angela's Mane Attraction
Angel's Beauty Lounge
Anmo Massage Therapy
Big Swing Golf
Bussaba Thai Massage
Chiropractic Helps
Cotham Hairworks
CPAP Victoria
Danielle Lundberg Psychologist & Mediator
David & Giuseppe Grooming for Man
Dr Anna Mamone Osteopathy
Dr Tania Pietrzak Psychological Services
Drummond Golf
Duquessa
Dynamic Health Physiotherapy
Ear & Hearing Australia
Eastern Osteopathy Melbourne
Elementa Psychology
En Pointe School of Ballet Kew
Endota Spa
Fitness 24/7
Fitness Lab
Functional Pilates
Harmony Chinese Medical Centre
High on Vision
Il Centro Hair Design
Inner Wellness Holistic/Emotional Health Practitioner
Inspiration Place
Instant Cosmetic & Dental Surgery
Instant Laser Clinic
Jane Roder Relationship Coach & S*x Counsellor
John Arber Counselling, Psychotherapy & Hypnotherapy Services
Josie Wolfram - Child, Adolescent and Adult Counsellor
Kew Cuts
Kew Junction Optical Clinic
Kew Periodontics
Kew Podiatry
Kew School of Dance
Kew Skin Therapy
KX Pilates
Melbourne East Prosthodontics
Melbourne Sports Podiatry and Physiotherapy Centre
MySkin Clinic
Negri Psychological Consulting
New Health Clinic
Niche Psychology Melbourne
NK Nail Salon
Nutricare Family Health Centre
Passion Counselling
Plumage Salon
Q Eyewear
Q Hairroom
Q Pro Nails
Restore Physiotherapy & Clinical Pilates
Secrets of Beauty
Star Pharmacy
Stepping Stones Psychology
The Fringe Hair Lounge
Top Fade Barbers
Total Physiocare Kew
Victorian Dermal Group
Wellspring Psychology
Workshop Gym

Schemas and family messages..
Some family messages that can lead to:
- subjugation
- mistrust
- emotional inhibition
- emotional deprivation
- approval seeking
- unrelenting standards
Families have spoken and unspoken rules. It’s often the unspoken rules that make the biggest impact & sometimes they can lead to challenging adult coping, particularly in relationships with others.
Do any of these family rules feel familiar to you? If so, it can be helpful to step back & consider if you want to maintain this “rule of engagement” in your adult life:
✅” We don’t talk about that” - “In our family we don’t talk about your caregivers drinking” , “in our family we don’t talk about finances”, “in our family we don’t talk about it when you’re having a hard time”.
✅”We don’t have feelings” - “In our family we just have a stiff upper lip and carry on.” “We aren’t hysterical like other people are.”
✅”We ignore instead of take responsibility” - “In our family when I speak up about something that’s been a violation of mine or someone else’s safety then I am the one that gets in trouble instead of the perpetrator”, “in my family, if you ask for accountability you get in trouble”.
✅”Your value is on your outside” - “in my family we spend excessive amounts of time and money on our looks - the way the house looks, our bodies look, our clothing looks, etc” , “in my family we only get noticed for what we produce or do or achieve”.
✅”We deny reality” - “In my family we minimize issues. If we are struggling financially or someone has a substance use issue we say it’s not a big deal” , “in my family we wait til it gets worse until we try to make it better”, “in my family I’m told that ‘it’s not that bad’ when I am upset”.
✅”Things should be this way only” - “in my family we talk about ‘shoulda’ a lot.” “In my family we rarely accept influence or change our minds”. “In my family there is only one right way to do a lot of things”.
Something important to note is that one way to tell if this has impacted you is if you find yourself believing other people follow these rules too. For instance, are you likely to avoid asking someone a question out of fear that they follow the ‘don’t talk about it rule’?

MISTRUST & ABUSE SCHEMA

The person is convinced that others will eventually take advantage of them in one way or another. They expect to be hurt, cheated on, manipulated, or humiliated. Naturally, as a reaction, they become suspicious in relationships. Thus, the initial abuse is managed by mistrust.

The mistrust & abuse schema is the pattern that leads you to expect that others will hurt, abuse, humiliate, cheat, lie, manipulate, or take advantage of you. When you have this schema you tend to always be on guard, you may question others motives or anticipate that they will hurt you in some way, even if they seem nice. If you are often labelled aloof, you might have this schema.

People who have this schema tend to have had experiences where they haven’t been able to fully trust the adults in their lives. They may also have experienced traumatic abuse. Some people learn their mistrust schema from a parent who also has it.

Some level of mistrust is adaptive, trusting everyone is not safe and a small percentage of people can’t be trusted. But in people with the mistrust & abuse schema, the sense of people being untrustworthy is pervasive.

It makes it difficult for them to truly bond, feel safe and connect with other people. They may even set tests for people to see if they can be trusted or keep evidence of lists almost keeping score of wrong-doings.

While it is totally understandable if you have developed the mistrust & abuse schema, it is a schema that can make it very difficult to have good relationships and connect with others. Therapists work to heal this schema in people so they can benefit from closer and more fulfilling relationships and give up the exhausting habit of constantly being on guard.

If you are in therapy for this schema the goal is for you to develop a spectrum of trust which people belong on. You will learn with the help of your therapist that most people are trustworthy, rather than thinking most people are untrustworthy. You learn how to stop being suspicious with those you can trust.

---------Emotional regulation----

It can be tempting sometimes to look the other way when you’re child’s having a good time and you know placing them in time-out will upset them.

However, teaching children to deal with negative feelings is one of the six life skills your discipline should be teaching.

You’ll be doing them a disservice by not helping them learn how to regulate their emotions.

So follow through and help your child learn emotional regulation skills while they're young to allow them to know how to manage them as adults.

DV is not just physical it’s mental, emotional, spiritual, family, friendship, social, financial and sexual abuse.

It’s often not seen on the outside of a relationship due to the manipulation of the abuser to silence the victim..

The victim may be made to feel like a “nut job” or told “it’s all your fault you deserve this” “you are worthless ugly a s**t human” “your a bad parent” “no one likes you” and so on and so on ...

Passive aggressive behaviour is hard for a victim and others to see but these perpetrators are great with the gift of the gab .. they manipulate, control, blame, put down and destroy others souls, creating self hate, anxiety and depression. The cycle of winning you back and promising it will never happen again, I can't live without you, su***de threats are used to make the victim feel sorry and stay.

These situations can be hard for a victim to leave and can take years for a victim to find courage if they are still alive and able too!

NO ONE deserves this treatment NO ONE is worthless pls seek help in a safe way as soon as possible.

YOU can leave YOU will be ok !! It WILL be hard, but it WILL be worth it .. YOU can find a happy healthy safe life!!!

“SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE”

It's the 3rd week of Health, Beauty and Fitness month in Kew Junction and we're still celebrating the many businesses that can look after your every health, beauty and fitness need.

This week it's all about your health & fitness (and, in one instance, your pet's!). Love to win one of 8 x $150 vouchers to spend with your fave chiro, osteo or physio? Or maybe it's a gym or dance studio you'd like to join? All you need do is comment below which is the business you'd love your voucher for, like this post and like the Kew Junction FB Page and you're in the draw!

Love an extra entry? Pop on over to our Insta account (kewjunctionau) and enter on the competition post there also. Drawn Mon, Nov 23 at 12pm and winners announced on social media.

Choose from these wonderful Kew businesses:

Anmo Massage Therapy
Big Swing Golf Kew
Bussaba Thai Massage
Chiropractic Helps
Dr Anna Mamone Osteopath
Dr. Tania Pietrzak Psychological Services Pty Ltd
Drummond Golf
Dynamic Health Physiotherapy
Ear & Hearing Australia
Eastern Osteopathy Melbourne
Elementa Psychology
En Pointe School of Ballet Kew
Fitness 24/7
Functional Pilates
Harmony Chinese Medicine and Osteopathy
Heartful Mindful Counselling and Art Therapy
High on Vision
Innerchange Life Coaching
Inspiration Place - Skin Mind Body Spirit
Jane Roder Author Speaker S*x & Relationship Counsellor
John Arber Counselling & Hypnotherapy
Josie Wolfram - Child, Adolescent and Adult Counsellor
Karlene Elkin Consulting
Kew Eye Clinic
Kew Junction Optical Clinic
Kew Podiatry
Kew School of Dance
Hawthorn East Vet and Kew Vet
KX Pilates
Lifeforce Acupuncture
Quit Smoking Melbourne Clinic
Melbourne Sports Podiatry and Physiotherapy Centre
Nadine Bedewi Naturopath
Negri Psychological Consulting
New Health Clinic
Noesis Clinical Psychology Centre
Nutricare Family Health Centre
Psychology on Kew
Q Eyewear Optometrist
Restore Physiotherapy and Pilates
Sassi Fitness & Health
Star Pharmacy
Stepping Stones Psychology
The Talk Shop Counselling & Psychology
The Trauma Support Group
Viviane Lebnan Clinical Psychology
Wellspring Centre
Workshop Gym - Kew

Commencement of six week professional accreditation course to fine tune Specialist Behaviour Support practitioners skills.

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The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.

Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.

From the parent who was absent by choice or by the circumstance of working three jobs to feed and house you.

From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but no offered no safe haven that honored your heart.

From the friendships that always took more than they gave.

From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when isht got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.

From the lies. The betrayals.

You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.

Ultra-independence is a *trust issue.*

You learned: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will always drop the ball sooner or later, right?

You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt women who came before you.

Ultra-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.

So, you don’t trust anyone.

And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.

To trust is to hope, to trust is vulnerability.

“Never again,” you vowed.

But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.

Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s trauma response.

The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.

You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.

You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.
Worthy, sis.
You are worthy.

You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.

By raising awareness, we can help lower these statistics and the Intergenerational cycle of violence 🎗

Love to know how to talk to your kids about Coronavirus without making them scared?

Tune in to this Facebook Live at 10am on Wed, April 8 where local Kew counsellor, Josie Wolfram, will be sharing invaluable hints and tips. Plus, feel free to ask your own questions on the Live and she'll answer :-)

Can't make the live stream but have a question and can watch it later? Write it in the comments below and we'll get it answered.

Read more on Josie and what she does here: https://www.josiewolfram.com.au/ and see you on Wed 8!

Looking forward to our show of "On The Spectrum - Live On Stage" @ The Bendigo Club on Tuesday 21st May (7.30pm - 9pm)

Suzie Keck from Bendigo Speech Works, Susanne Nelson from Susanne Nelson and Associates & Josie Wolfram (Child, Adolescent & Adult Counsellor Coach/Behaviour Therapist - www.josiewolfram.com.au) joining us on the panel "Live On Stage"

This is a FREE Event, however you must register your attendance via the below link:

https://www.trybooking.com/book/event?eid=489487&fbclid=IwAR3asyFZm29QBiBR_Vg_eCpJIbgLFs-oS1S52g8kcaPc_1Bv4lsXUj0xLWY

See You There!

Josie Wolfram - Child, Adolescent & Adult Counsellor/ Behaviour Therapist updated their information in their About section.

This , take the time to connect more with your family, friends and loved ones. Covid has created a mental health crisis and now more than ever, we need to reach out and connect with each other to assist with social isolation and the impact covid holds on our mental wellbeing.

1 in 5 Australians are affected by mental illness annually, yet many don’t seek help because of stigma.

During the COVID-19 pandemic, a time where many have been impacted or isolated, prioritising mental health and wellbeing has been more important than ever. This World Mental Health Day – Saturday, October 10 – the message is simple: “Look after your mental health, Australia.”

Get involved by making a Mental Health Promise. Visit https://lookafteryourmentalhealthaustralia.org.au/

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We assume that all children have the natural ability to engage in play. Play is the way that children learn and develop, understand the world around them, and express their feelings. In fact, play therapy is highly effective for social skill building and emotional regulation, with neuroscience showing effectiveness for children with autism and adhd. To find out how play therapy can assist your child, contact me today