Solful Healing

💫𝗖𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗦𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆!

Bella didn't want to live with anxiety and overwhelm forever...

When I met Bella, she had crippling anxiety and overwhelm. It was especially painful because it affected her ability to study the degree that she was passionate about and her ability to enjoy daily life.

Bella's stress was also impacting her relationships and feelings of self-worth.

While a part of her was hopeful, another part wondered if she was going to be stuck with this overwhelming anxiety forever.

After 6 months of working with me, Bella had a big shift.

She left a toxic relationship, an unfulfilling job, moved states to be closer to her family, and launched her own business. Bella’s feelings of self-worth have dramatically increased, transforming her daily life and relationships.

*I am so inspired by Bella and I'm so glad that she gave me permission to share this because I want everyone who is struggling with anxiety and overwhelm to know that a sense of calm, inner peace & confidence is possible.

And, if you know someone who is experiencing anxiety or overwhelm and is looking for that feeling of inner peace & freedom, I would love to help.

💫𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝟮 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗼𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝘃𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝟭𝟮-𝗪𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗽 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸.

DM me for more info 💟

*Client's Name has been changed to hold confidentiality.

"Will I ever be enough? Will I ever be happy again?" I thought...

This was my daily process, each morning for a while there. Waking up, feeling the dread, the anxiety - grief & pain. It honestly felt like I'd never climb out. I just wanted to stay in bed and keep hiding away, away in nature, from everyone.

I stopped surfing as much, I didn't go to events, I started getting mild anxiety attacks before playing or even training for cricket or AFL. I honestly didn't recognise myself or how to even exist anymore.

After trying my hardest to show up as that "happy go lucky self', "the cricketer", "the traveller" - the heavier it all became.

It was becoming more and more clear to me that I wore these masks & played these roles, so that I had some grasping concept of who I was to avoid the past pain that was starting to bubble. (and I mean BIG bubbles)

That's when I realised that I couldn't keep "outrunning" the pain I felt, moving countries, being the __"insert idenity here", or hiding it deep in a metal trunk labelled "do not open".

I needed to stop & feel, to slow down and to feel safe.... but how??? How do you feel safe when your beliefs and nervous system reflect anything but that!

And that's when I learnt something very valuable... "it's ok to get help". To ask for it & it didn't mean that I was broken or flawed.

Once I accepted this... I asked, prayed even, & that's when my Teacher appeared & I began to rewire my unconscious beliefs stemming from childhood, regulating my nervous system & shifting my mindset.

And now this is what I LOVE helping my clients do! Seeing the shift from:
"surviving--> thriving"
"hopeless--> empowered"
"anxious/overwhelmed/depressed--> calm,present & joyful"

Spent the weekend looking after & nursing back to life an adorable, abandoned kitten! She's doing great now, but what an emotional rollercoaster ft. p**p everywhere, and no sleep. (but plenty of cuddles hehe 🥹🤪) So much joy, love, grief, and yes; cuteness overload!

Unfortunately we couldn't keep her though, as much as we wished we could 💔 but no doubt she'll be someone else's adventure kitty 🐱

✨A TRANSFORMATIONAL BREATHWORK JOURNEY ✨
Our may the 17th has only a couple of spaces left!
To book your spot or more information on this amazing event please contact Leo on 0412669336 Solful Healing or jay on 0421738921

Pretty wild to think it's been 20 years since you left this earth

It’s no secret the last few years has been a deep dive into a healing journey for me, especially around some pretty big traumas I hadn’t had the safety or space to address in the past.

And so the last 6months has really been about me reconnecting with that “Self” I’d disconnected from.
A time to Be present, a time to play, a time to surf, a time to rest and a time to give myself whatever I needed as each day arose.

This particular sunset, id just walked along a very chilli beach as the seasons shifted… my feet were cold, yet feeling so alive and in aww of the beauty of nature.

And then I noticed these trees

And the little heart shape between them 🌲💟🌲

✨Slowing down allows for more presence,
✨Slowing down creates space for more beauty to enter
✨Slowing down can be uncomfortable … but lean into it, as it brings you closer to your truth.

A sneak peak into my s*xuality journey -in honour of pride month🌈

This part of my “life’s” journey, is one that iv been wanting to start to share for a while now. But honestly, I didn’t even know where to start- and I’d be lying if I said I do now 😅 I mean it has been a 20+yr journey!

But with one step, reveals the next and so on
so for today, it’s a little about my “coming out” process.

I know I’m not alone when I say, “it’s been a journey”. And for some, there may have been many different fears or layers to overcome to be able to feel safe to be seen and come out …. The fears of abandonment, rejection; abuse even…
It can be a frightening and tricky hurdle to face both internal and externally- not to mention the grief that emerges.

And don’t even get me started with the feelings of deep shame!!

For me… the hardest part was coming out to MYSELF.
I feel like I jumped, fell, stepped out of the closet multiple times only to slam that door shut again.. and again (lol)

I’d been fortunate enough to have many gay friends so In that way I wasn’t alone and didn’t “necessarily“feel I’d be rejected.

However, coming out to myself meant that I had to begin to face all the places inside of me that were not “really” me. The places I’d “Denied” for so long out of self preservation and survival that were covering up the ability to “see” me, the real me.

That included the many masks I’d put up to deny the shame, the fears, the loss of identity, unworthiness, and the fact I felt like there was something INTRINSICALLY wrong with me as a person (for more reasons then just being different).

I had to begin to FEEL the pain I’d suppressed for sooo long , to even begin to find out who that person was underneath it all!
(Queue gentle drumming music)

And so began my MANY… many, multiple identity deaths, ego deaths and a dark night of the soul to break loose from the things that had kept me internally trapped and in cycles of suffering for too long!

The end.

Just kidding! (But there is way to much to share in just one post)

Happy (end of)pride month fellow LGBTQIA+ community 🌈

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Celebrated the wonderful Mr & Mrs Davis recently.

I got to spend a few weeks with them, which was so heartwarming and great to reconnect. And then on top of that to celebrate the 2 of them! Mixed with a mini Hemlock (Canada) reunion, where we all met almost 10 years ago!!

A special time with special people!! Celebrating the love of 2 very amazing humans!

Grateful for these friendships in my life :)

And what a frikin beautiful ceremony it was!!!

Love you guys !

💟💕🌳

Enjoying the crispy cool winter and warm cuppas.

- and thinking about the pancakes I’m about to make!

Been surfing my brains out lately, and loving it ☺️🏄🏼‍♀️💟☀️

My rapidly bleaching eyebrows agree …

Reflections; Reflecting​​​​​​​​
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Living life from moment to moment,​​​​​​​​
Practicing Being, out-of-mind​​​​​​​​
Presence ​​​​​​​​
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No mental planning, pressure, or force​​​​​​​​
Just finding my flow, connecting to Source.​​​​​​​​
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Getting glimpses between the ‘time’ bends,​​​​​​​​
Then drawn back in to the Mossy rock + Gorge that surrounds me with no end;​​​​​​​​
In-sight ​​​​​​​​
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I am Future, Present and Past​​​​​​​​
Letting the Minds projection of them go, ​​​​​​​​
Releasing me of their Grasp. ​​​​​​​​
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Only Feeling, Seeing, what’s here and NOW​​​​​​​​
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Trusting the Unknown of the Path​​​​​​​​
I Chose,​​​​​​​​
Surrendering Control for,​​​​​​​​
My Soul Knows​​​​​​​​
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When change comes a “knocking”

How do you handle it?

Do u control, deny or resist what’s already in motion?

Or are you someone who can surrender falling into the arms of the unknown!

What’s the feeling ?
Fear, anxiety, grief or excitement?

Breathe. Pause. Be still and surrender

… and; surrender some more.

What’s being asked to be let go of? People, places, things, or another old version of self?

After letting go there may come a temporary emptiness as a greater space is created for something more fulfilling to come forth…

And then, just take one small steady step at a time, as the unknown path in front of u begins to reveal the way.

Trust.

Doing as Rakifi do 🧘‍♀️

Leaning into the things that bring me joy☺️✨🌕

Like a little solo date night, under the stars and eclipse; in my trusty ol hammock with a delicious hot cacao 💟✨🌕

What are the simple pleasures you enjoy for YOU??

Have u been pouring too much into other people, your work, studies, or your never ending to-do list?

Or maybe just forgetting to replenish your own In the ways YOU need, and not how others do?

🙃is it something that you’re aware of, and what that actually looks like for you??

(And If not, that’s ok! Be curious, explore, and find what those things are that bring peace and balance back to your mind, body and soul)

Some days it’s a movie marathon of my fav shows, other times its starry nights, surfing or riding my bike for meeee!

Another lap around the sun!
32, feeling surreal and exciting!!!
It’s gona be a great year!!!

Thanks to all the beautiful bday messages already you wonderful humans!
I’ll most likely be out of service working/boogying at a festival from today!!! So thankyou in advance to all the bday love!!

🦁☀️💃🏼🙏🏻💕

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Now, If you were anything like me... I had absolutely no idea I was co-dependent.

I'd heard of the term before, and to be really honest, I thought it meant that I always needed to be in a relationship/have someone. So being someone that had been in very few relationships, and didn't have a huge desire - (had nothing to do with my fear of intimacy or commitment, cough cough) - when I discovered "how" I was co-dependent & the behaviours that reflected this... well this was a game changer.

I never realised I was creating my own suffering & constantly giving my power away. Co-dependency is much more than what we may presume, and alot sneakier. It did however give me the superpower of being hyper aware of what other peoples needs were, but often at the cost of my own needs - and to be honest, I didn't even know what they were!

So some question for you to ruminate on:
- Do you have a hard time making decisions?
- When you do something nice for yourself, do you tend to feel guilty?
- Do your relationships feel 'one-sided' where it feels like your always there for them, but they're rarely there for you?
- Do you have a hard time saying 'no'?

If you answered yes to a few of those, & would like some support or learn more.
Click the link in my bio for a free quiz & to check out my programs.

Winter days off at its best!!! ☀️

Keep swiping to see the sunset unfold 😍🌅🌇 (no filters except the tree one) - soooo beautiful!!

I’d been working a lot on the computer lately, getting my programs going and making videos which left me feeling a little bit ungrounded and in “doing mode”, and was starting to struggle to switch off.

So I gave myself a day off- just me, the sun and the sea - - permission to do absolutely nothing, then took myself for a fish taco date, and returned to the same spot to watch the firey sunset unfold!

A day filled with gratitude, stillness and full reset.

How do you go with giving yourself a full day of nothing planned??
Nothing to ‘do’ to fill the time.

Slowing down can be uncomfortable for many! Not realising our self worth can be linked in with our productivity (human-doing instead of a human-being)

So Enjoy your weekend, and if you like, maybe try being curious with how you self care. What do you need ??
This might be by doing/planning absolutely nothing, bringing in play, reading a book or connecting with others☺️

🐕poochy puppy walks, and light orbs 🌿🌱

Slowing down to speed up,
“being” & grounded; balanced.

Letting my nervous system be nurtured by the beauty & rhythm of nature….

… and a pup that takes the award for best “crab walker” haha!

🍃have you had a second to notice your surroundings today ? Move your body, or go ground & be in nature?

🖥 or perhaps your inside & busy at work, that’s ok! It can even be as simple as bringing your awareness to the room your in & then to your own breathe. Just notice it, is it fast? Slow? Shallow or deep? try for a count of 10, (or keep going, even better!) while you practice holding your awareness on it. And then notice how you feel just from that subtle pause and connection💕💟☀️

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When we experience the emotion of “shame” - it feels like ‘we’ are intrinsically bad. (Guilt on the other hand is the feeling that we’ve ‘done’ something bad)

So you can see from the above image how the feeling of unworthiness is linked into our feelings of shame because it’s about ‘who we are’ underneath, not feeling good enough to be loved deep down at our core. Or not feeling ‘safe’ enough to be fully seen & loved for that part of us.

This can manifest in different ways as we get older, for example:
—> avoiding closeness for the fear of getting hurt.

You may fear this because it might result in: abandonment, rejection, or abuse - - and that fear may carry over into your current life today, where you fear that those people in your present life will discover what you (believe about yourself) already assume
- - That you are not worthy of love.

We may find ourselves constantly hiding who we truly are, or apologising for no reason to others because of our subconscious belief around our very existence (sometimes without realising).

If you’re wanting to understand a little more about what I’v shared, or begin to address & release these heavy emotions that aren’t yours to hold onto anymore.

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Are you someone that has this voice in your head that constantly puts yourself down??

It shames or humiliates you for having needs?

Or maybe for feeling too afraid to trust, or feel safe enough to actually ‘care’. Leading to sabotaging relationships, losing yourself, or maybe just straight up isolating yourself.

Often times this voice was something we picked up on from statements we may have heard when we were younger. Sometimes it’s an accumulation of things - however it’s job is either
1. To protect you
2. To harm you, (low self-worth, due to what we experienced in our childhood and have became the blue print to what we are familiar with or what we believe we deserve.)

As an infant, our prime developmental task in this stage is to master bonding, learn about nurturing & trust.
-Safety = physical needs
-Nurturance = bathed, kept clean
-Trust = Emotional connections.

This biggest one I tend to see in clients is around ‘trust’ = The emotional needs that weren’t met as an infant. Now a reminder, this isn’t a blame game towards our mothers, as firstly, they only learnt what they learnt off theirs, and so they may not have known how to meet theirs, let alone ours. Also, many Mum’s had to go back to work, or perhaps:
-Moving countries/house
-parents having marriage issues
-a major life change/tragedy occurred
-a new sibling
All resulting in us not getting our needs fully met.

This is why I find this work so interesting and love what I do, because, yes for some, they may know they don’t have a great relationship with their parents/primary caretakers. For others, their childhood appeared great and had a what seemed to be a safe, caring childhood, however, their ability to trust self & others seems to be running the show in many of their behaviour today.

It’s all about our needs.

✨“Do you know your specific needs”?
🥀“Do you know what needs ur lacking in, or seeking in unhealthy ways unconsciously”?

If any of those questions sparked something, or even resonated or recognised perhaps some similar circumstance in your own childhood, and you’d like to dive in a little more,

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“The universe buries strange jewels within us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them.”

-Elizabeth Gilbert

“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance”.
- - Eckhart Tolle

As you can tell by our attire, this night was a bit of a chilli one! And created a bit of resistance to our little adventure to the beach under the stars.

But we rugged up and ventured off anyways, with our trusty phone torches. Following our intuition with which bush tracks got us to the beach, talking about who knows what, and our mutual agreement that I’d fend off the snakes if Jessie dealt with the spiders ! (Haha)

We finally found the beach; and right there in front, was a quietly glowing fire, just smiling there waiting for us!
We couldn’t believe it! It’s like the universe was like, “here, enjoy the stars, and while ur at it, here’s a fire to enjoy it just that little bit more”.

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Abundance can look different to everyone. And abundance is also a state of ‘being’ that calls in MORE abundance.

In energy terms “like attracts like”.

And it’s not some far off thing u gotta get to, to start becoming it.
It’s a choice that you can make right now. To choose to ‘be’ abundant; to choose to ‘be’ grateful. So go ahead and give it a whirl, if you choose.
(However a subtle disclaimer; don’t do this if your not prepared for change or shifts to take place both positive or perceived negative)

Anyways, long story short,
This fire was the gift and reminder of how abundant we already are :)

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What’s something big or small that you’re grateful for today??

It can be the warm cup of coffee you had this morning.

The sunshine, the rain.

Family

Or maybe it’s something internal, like the subtle feeling of peacefulness and calm that you’ve been practicing to cultivate.

Whatever it is, it’s perfect for you 💕

“When the direction isn’t clear, don’t force; just BE”
-Leo

Enjoying these crisp ☀️ winter mornings 🙃🤗🌊

And utilising my fave warm denim jacket for maybe the only 2 weeks it gets cold enough here haha!

I love you

Yes you! The one reading THIS post!

- - and also I love you, to the reflection of myself looking back at me.

I’m curious though, how did that feel seeing these words directed at you?

How many of you feel comfortable hearing i love you, from family, friends a stranger? Is it easy for you to say to others? Or Is it something that u don’t hear, and u ‘do’ + ‘please’ your hardest wishing so badly someone else would tell you! And you’d find ‘your love’ in the external validation of another.

Iv been seeing and witnessing friends, clients even myself discovering different layers to the self love + self care journey. so I wanted to begin to share - because honestly, the first time I heard it; self love- was a foreign concept.

Self love, is well, definitely a journey! And it’s not linear either from my experience. It goes in, out, up, down- but eventually u see it, you begin to feel it, u then start to embody + overflow with it through actions, time, energy, and worth, and then a simple photo that once would make u cringe, shy away, or judge - says hi. It’s always been you.

Then You smile, maybe wink, or say “how u doin” like Joey off Friends.

Saying “I love you”, was a big terrifying gulp for me to say, even to friends and family. To me, saying I love you meant that, that love could also be taken away. Fun little fact tho. . . Love is your birthright, and it can’t be taken away 😘 (is an adventure to find tho :)


My journey began with as simple as saying “I love you” to the reflection in my bathroom mirror …. Even if I didn’t quite believe it then, I knew I eventually would :) … actually I’m fairly sure I said it in my mind before I was able to say it out loud- but hey. any small step is still a step :)

So get curious….
Some of you may find it easy and simple; but for others like myself, I see you, I love you,
And - just take one small step towards you 💕


Id love to hear others journeys with this too! So please feel free to share in the comments!! 🤗🙏🏻💕