Buraich Moulvi Bari Alfadanga Faridpur

Kulkhani of Afshan Jabeen will be held on Thursday 18 th January 2024 at 1/18 Block A Lalmatia ( Beside Lalmatia Water Tank) at 4 pm.
You are all requested to attend the Khulkhani and pray for her Magfirat

When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: the people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly. They are like this because they can't tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good, and the ugliness of evil, and have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own - not of the same blood and birth, but the same mind, and possessing a share of the divine. And so none of them can hurt me. No one can implicate me in ugliness. Nor can I feel angry at my relative, or hate him. We were born to work together like feet, hands and eyes, like the two rows of teeth, upper and lower. To obstruct each other is unnatural. To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him: these are unnatural. ~Marcus Aurelius

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(Art: Painting by Maximilien Luce)

Mrs. Afshan Jabeen youngest daughter of late Abu Sharaf Nizamuddin Ahmed and late Rabia Ahmed passed away yesterday morning.
Innal Illah Yainna Ilayha Rajiun.
To all who knew her, she was Afsha. She left behind her husband and three children.
She suffered a lot for the last two years. Now she is at peace with her parents in heaven.
May Allah grant her Jannat Ul Ferdous. Amen

Old Dhaka means..

Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself. ~Daniell Koepke

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(Art: Painting by Malcolm Liepke)

Happy New Year to All. May this coming year bring you happiness, peace of mind and all that you wish for!
Amen

Good bye 2023

We all had one in our house!

Hadith about Parents

It was narrated that Abu Usaid, Malik bin Rabi'ah (RA), said:
"While we were with the Prophet (peace be upon him), a man from the Banu Salamah came to him and said:
" O Messenger of Allah, is there any way of honouring my parents that I can still do for them after they die?'

He (Saw) said: *"Yes, offering the funeral prayer for them, praying for forgiveness for them, fulfilling their promises after their death, honouring their friends and upholding the ties of kinship which you would not have, were it not for them.'"*

(Sunan Ibn Majah 3664, Book 33, Hadith 😎

From other statements of Rasoolullahﷺ,
we know that we can benefit our deceased parents by giving charity on their behalf, dua for them and performing hajj on their behalf, if they did not complete it in their lifetime
May Allah have mercy on our parents 🌺

Half of me is filled with bursting words and half of me is painfully shy. I crave solitude yet also crave people. I want to pour life and love into everything yet also nurture my self-care and go gently. I want to live within the rush of primal, intuitive decision, yet also wish to sit and contemplate. This is the messiness of life - that we all carry multitudes, so must sit with the shifts. We are complicated creatures, and ultimately, the balance comes from this understanding. Be water. Flowing, flexible and soft. Subtly powerful and open. Wild and serene. Able to accept all changes, yet still led by the pull of steady tides. It is enough. ~Victoria Erickson

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(Art: Photograph by Monica Denevan)

Respect and dignity

Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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(Art: Painting by Montserrat Gudiol)

Our Mrs Nazreen Rahim has done it again. Congratulations! She has published a book on “100 Recipes of Traditional Cooking in Bangladesh”. She makes us proud by being such a valued family member. Hats off to you Phupi!

Promise Yourself to be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.
To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you. ~Christian D. Larson

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(Art: Painting by Karen Offutt)

Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future. Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence. Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us. ~Maya Angelou

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(Art: 'Master Bedroom', 1965 by Andrew Wyeth)

When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter. ~Tom Robbins

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(Art: ‘Double Single’, 1999 by Clive Smith)

Visit to BMB by family members. A beautiful winter outdoor party with Pitha and various other delicious food. Lunch inside the House

The most important thing is not to let yourself get impatient. This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don't get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can't do anything, don't get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it's ready to come undone. You have to figure it's going to be a long process and that you'll work on things slowly, one at a time. ~Haruki Murakami

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(Art: Painting by Angel Ramiro Sanchez)

Guess

Children who are praised for “being smart” often believe that every encounter is a test of whether they really are. So to avoid looking dumb, they resist new challenges and choose the easiest path. By contrast, kids who understand that effort and hard work lead to mastery and growth are more willing to take on new, difficult tasks. ~Daniel H. Pink

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(Art: Painting by Henri Martin)