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Happy 4th birthday to you 2 😻😻
Thank you for the zen and joy you bring
(as the mice and other presents from outside, more alive than dead / the whining / the hair everywhere / etc etc ....)

Look at these smiles 🥳
Feeling happy, enthusiastic, energized, open, smiling, having absolute fun, hugging, loving, loved ....

These are my kind of people
Friends
Reminiscing
My people, framily

Friends that I don't get to see often, some that I haven't seen in a decade or even 2, but when we get together, it's like we saw each other just yesterday with lots of laughter: natural, pure, easy and loving

We're having kind of a ship-framily-reunion ... we lived and worked together on cruise ships ... some for a season and some for much longer ...
I had my worst and best experiences/moments onboard and these people are a big part of the best ones.

3 multinational and multicultural kids finding each other, common ground, communicating and laughing out loud 🥰

This turns out the best way to start 2024
May this be the vibe for the whole year

Gentle wishes to you all
With peace of mind
A tad bit of joy
And a sprinkle of happiness
Now, always and forever

💜love & light🕯

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"Er bestaat zo veel onduidelijkheid over perinatale zorg"
Ongeweten en zo belangrijk !!!!
“Vanaf je zwangerschap is bevestigd door een bloedproef, je huisarts, een echografie of iets dergelijks, ben je ook effectief zwanger volgens die regels. Dan heb je bij een verlieservaring recht op minstens drie gratis consulten bij een vroedvrouw.”
Naast die eerste gesprekken met een vroedvrouw zijn er ook kinderwens-, verliesconsulenten EN gespecialiseerde begeleiding na zwangerschapsverlies.

Deel jij dit ook om alle verliesouders in je omgeving te bereiken?

Vroedvrouw Uwe Porters na zwangerschapsverlies Julie Van den Steen: “Recht op 3 vroedvrouwconsultaties, veel vrouwen weten dat niet” Na een zwangerschapsverlies heb je recht op drie vroedvrouwconsultaties. Die woorden postte de Essense vroedvrouw en auteur Uwe Porters vanmorgen op Instagram nadat Julie Van den Steen het verhaal over haar verlies deed online. Porters kreeg honderden reacties van vrouwen die niet wisten dat dat kon...

Taking risks in life ... it can feel exciting and even frightening
An alone born twin might need that little bit of extra support or confidence or reassurance ... or might just want a partner in crime 😊

It sure is bikini weather this summer in Europe ... wear them ladies and normalize the look with stretch marks or that jello belly ... wear your bikini with pride.

Tijd en/of energie: wat kan jij managen?

Energie, hoe ga je ermee om?! By Dominique Jacobs

Sinksenfoor in Antwerpen ! Aan het uitroepteken (of als je me een beetje kent) weet je waarschijnlijk dat zo'n kermis (letterlijk en figuurlijk) NOT my cup of tea is ... en hoe langer hoe minder.

Alle soorten feestjes/feestdagen/vieringen kunnen aanvoelen als traditie en/of als verplichting. Vermits de grens tussen beide misschien niet helemaal helder is, is het dus niet steeds duidelijk waar de grens te trekken. Weet dan dat het zelfs eigenlijk niet uitmaakt of het nu als traditie of verplichting aanvoelt. Wat belangrijker is, is hoe jij ermee omgaat?!

Als introvert HSP ga ik die ene keer om mijn dochter plezier te doen (ja, dat heet please-gedrag) en zelf te genieten van haar heerlijk gelukkige snoet te zien.

Mijn gezin weet dat zo'n bezoekje voor mij een hele opdracht is. De drukte van zowel de mensenmassa als het te veel (en vooral onnodig) lawaai heeft een serieus effect op me. En die hooggevoeligheid is sinds mijn zwangerschappen en bij elk verlies precies alleen maar versterkt. Hoe ga ik daar dan mee om? Wel, ik heb enkele basistrucjes om het zo vlot mogelijk te laten verlopen. Zelfzorg vóór, tijdens en na! Lees in de foto's hoe ik dat doe.

Lang geleden zou het me volledig overweldigd hebben en voelde het alsof het me overkwam ... toen was ik slachtoffer van het hele gegeven.
Sinds lange tijd oefen ik in bewust voor mezelf de afweging en keuze te maken en neem dan ook mijn voorzorgen (en de gevolgen ervan). Zo word ik steeds beter en duidelijker in mijn grenzen voelen en aangeven.

Ik ben heel benieuwd hoe jij met zulke zaken omgaat ...
Kan jij je grenzen goed aanvoelen en aangeven? Weet jij wat je nodig hebt hierin? Graag lees ik je antwoord in de comments hieronder.

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Een kijk op wereldwijd
Wat, waar, wanneer, ...
Bekijk het hier https://nos.nl/op3/video/2431396-zo-verandert-abortusbeleid-wereldwijd

Zit je emotioneel in de knoop over een abortus die je (ooit) gehad hebt om welke reden dan ook, dan nodig ik je uit om contact op te nemen. Ik luister naar je zonder oordeel en help je graag.

Zo verandert abortusbeleid wereldwijd Werpen de hoogste rechters in de VS de allerbelangrijkste uitspraak rond abortus omver? En wat betekent dat dan? NOSop3 legt het uit.

Can you be in flow while on a schedule? Can you follow a schedule while in flow?

Time is an illusion....
-there's never enough of it
-we can't control it
-it flies
-it's what we want most and what we use worst
-it's limited
-8t can give pressure
-...

Flow is a state of being...
-it can be felt
-it can be experienced
-it can be lived
-it helps you to let go
-it can give joy and induces enthusiasm
-it can enhance your performance
-...

Do you have time for flow or do you flow through time?



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I am not a breathing expert, but I have learned by experience that breathing consciously enhances the feeling of trust

Trust from the Inside-Out

Let it sink in, let it flow, let it support you ... physically ... mentally ... emotionally .... and on soul level

Do you trust
❤️your body?
💜your instincts?
💚your nature?
💛your thoughts?
💙your breath?

Let me know in the comments below



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Zucht ... sigh ...

When they mean well and it doesn't come across as such 🙄😱😭



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Fear
An emotion that comes with a warning, it makes you stop and pay attention

Fear can also be extremely loud and paralyzing‼️ Just like that loud voice inside your head!

The inner critic = the most talkative loud persuasive voice often lead by fear and keeping you in your comfort zone. Can you silence it or at least acknowledge it and park it⁉️ Can you hear and listen to the, maybe more soft silent gentle voice that is actually all-knowing, loving, caring and moreover stating the helpful thoughts (even if they're hard to hear).

Losing your child during pregnancy is NOT a sign that
- you can't do this
- you failed your baby
- you are not fit to be a mother
- your body is failing you
- you were a fool for hoping this time would have gone different
- etc etc

Losing your child during pregnancy means that you ARE a mum, don't let fear take the lead mama.



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Watch this reel by binnenstebuiten_insideout on Instagram Dominique Jacobs - pregnancy loss posted on Instagram • See all their photos and videos on their profile.

April 14th 2022

Did you lose possibilities⁉️

Yes of course you did❗️

Did you lose all possibilities⁉️

No of course you didn't‼️

You lost the 1st moments of everything with your baby, you lost the cuddles and smiles, you lost the possibility to mother as you imagined you would have... you lost a lot.

But ... you didn't lose everything and you still have choices to make, opportunities to build on, possibilities to discover ... you are still the captain! Sail that vessel on this new unexpected course you can make it worthwhile and meaningful.

Feeling lost after your loss?!

Coming home from the hospital empty handed and feeling completely out of place is very common. The place that you call home can feel empty or incomplete and is not always that nice place is used to be.

Your body that is home to you feels hurtful, strange, empty, failed and most of the time still feels very pregnant.

Home is not home anymore!

You can't really escape it, as much as you might try ... ignoring it.

Taking care of the home to your soul, the only home your baby ever knew with love and kindness is what you need. Rebuilding that home of warmth and pure love ... connecting your head, heart, soul and gutfeeling again in order to find your peace.

Let's find your way home again, within. You don't have to do this on your own, I'm here to help.

Tag someone who would benefit from this.

If you struggle with reconnection, make sure to click the link in bio to get the Grounding audio.

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Self-l💛ve

Not so easy to bring into practice

After pregnancy loss you might be coping with feelings of guilt, shame, anger, resentment, doubt, etc ... you might not trust or believe in your body anymore.

How can you practice selflove while experiencing all those emotions⁉️

Well ... 1 small step at a time ... and the very 1st step, I believe, is becoming aware what you feel, what you think, what that inner voice is saying to yourself. Create that CONSCIOUSNESS as it is key, it is the beginning of turning the feelings, thoughts and words around to kind, mindful, loving ones filled with gratitude.

Little by little one walks far and the journey to selflove isn't about becoming a different person whom you could love, it's about loving who you are right now.

Let's connect https://calendly.com/binnenstebuiten-coaching/insideout

🔹️You can only love another if you love yourself first...
🔸️You can only care for another if you care for yourself first...

These kind of conditional statements are not easy to grasp or follow up on for the care-takers among us. Also for myself it was an important lesson to learn and the result took pressure off my shoulders, gave me energy iso making me tired and above all, it gave me more motivation and incentive to take care of myself. So do read further.

🔹️You come first...
🔸️Put yourself first...

How do you do all that if you actually thrive on caring for and taking care of others❓️⁉️

Well ... it is actually really EASY. It's not really about who comes first in this equation ... just realize that:

♻️ BY being mild to yourself you show others how to be mild to themselves‼️

♻️ BY loving yourself you show others how to love themselves‼️

This has a double effect:
▶️ you show them how it's done by doing it to yourself (you're teaching by example) and
▶️ your vibration/frequency touches others so you're shining your vibes anyway automatically

So ... 💛 you actually don't have to DO anything to/with/for the other person, it happens automatically by doing that to/with/for yourself 💛

BY taking care of yourself, you AUTOMATICALLY take care of others‼️

What does the above do to you? Share it in the comments below.