Personal Mastery Conversations - PMC

Dear Men,
It's World Mental Health Week, let's engage;
Why do many men have a harder time seeking treatment for mental illness?

Exam time;
Candidates and parents/guardians

To you candidates,
set up a good study space, where the only thing you do is study -this means it should Not be your bedroom.
Your brain associates your bedroom with sleep and relaxation while your study space should be associated with work and concentration, quiet and clear of distraction, containing all items you need to carry your studies so you don't have to get up to get things while studying.

Again, avoid multi-tasking
1. Turn off the cell phone and social media, and or leave the cell phone in another room,
2. Put away anything that isn't needed or will grab your attention.
3. Do not study in front of the television
4. Stick to your study schedule

Parents can help
1. Minimising distractions- ensure the child does not revise with their phone within reach, TV on,
2. Support your child to achieve -high parental expectation lead to higher academic achievement, realistically high expectations shouldn't put huge pressure on the child. Family educational psychologist can assist here.

Help children cope with setbacks in that exam period is a highly stressful time and some exams as hoped. Thus, assist your child to overcome the setback. View your child mistakes, however frustrating, as a learning opportunity and not judgement on their ability.
Stay calm and collected - exams can be stressful, not just for kids but for parents too. If you are feeling anxious, try to hide it from your child, so they don't feel even more stressed.
Just try to stay positive and keep reminding them of the times and events they've been successful.

Encourage healthy habits - encourage them to eat healthy foods, get enough rest as it will help them focus and retain and recall information better.
Encourage them to disconnect from electronic gadgets.
Remind your child that he/she has studied harder and are prepared. This will try to help them to stay calm, focused and encouraged. Implied here is avoid anxiety, stress, panic etc as they may be contagious and lead to poor performance. Encourage positive talk all the way.

Finally, try to secure an educational psychologist for your child to advise on strategies to help child with positive motivation, family support strategies, learning styles and strategies. Just like athletes, students need the support of educational psychologist.

Your take home; play your important role in helping your child prepare and pass examinations; stay calm and collected, encourage healthy habits, help them focus on positive talk.

Shalom!!!!!!!!

Poor Attention Control; such children
1. Are easily distracted
2. Lose things easily like keys, cellphones, school uniform
3. Appears constantly restless
4. Walks around class during teaching and learning times

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Exams approaching; contact us for exam writing strategies; You have prepared well, & surely u need strategies.
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Academic Literacy alone isn't enough. Normalise seeking Life Skills counselling for yo children or risk peer pressure taking over.

We help students with poor attention control/too playful to;

1. ;Focus on school work
2. Have fewer behaviour problems
3. listen & pay Attention better
4. Get along better with others
5. Be better organised

We help them build social skills to feel happier, confident, to cope with anxiety, to talk about their feelings, self control, follow directions and instructions, how not to lose temper or give up, organising school work etc.
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Short attention span in children, lack of focus, attention problems, seems forgetful, easily forgetful, difficulty paying attention during teaching learning processed , seem uncooperative during teaching at school; daydreaming, frustrated by yo child inability to remember a short list of tasks you've asked him accomplish.

We do assessments, compile report with recommendations for interventions, assists teachers with customised teaching strategies, parents with coping and guidelines strategies to support the child at home.

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No matter how much effort u put in yo studies, if u use the wrong tools, you might not make it. 77786009, educational psychologist

Why shouldn't we leave someone waiting for us?

To wait for someone is to hope that the person whom you are expecting will come back. When the wait is too long, hope fades, and the heart breaks.

When we wait for someone, our life comes to a standstill because we are afraid to move forward for fear of losing them. We avoid other people or relationships because we find ourselves in the bond of commitment. Waiting is worthwhile when that person comes back, but sometimes people don't, and we feel like we have lost the time of our lives and opportunities.

Never leave anyone with false hopes. If you ever ask someone to wait or you know someone is waiting, either walk away or, if not, give them a closure so they can move on.

Dr Bhawna Gautam

Your weekend take home; What do you think would happen if you stay in that toxic, fake, abusive, narcissistic relationship?

And your student is not working on the activity or class work for your ongoing lesson. Check the 3 do's n 7 don'ts here below.

DON'T

1. Punish
If the child is struggling with some social or emotional challenges at that moment, a punishment is going to push him/her away further. Your punishment will appear as uncaring, harsh, mean, humiliating,etc

2. Don't send the student out of the teaching room. I can't stress this enough. As a former educator,I know this might be a preferred option, reactive. The student might feel anger and resentment towards you. The message u might be sending to this learner is that you can't deal with the situation, but somebody else can;ie school head, snr teacher etc. Note students get much more Education by just being in the classroom and listening to discussions, debates etc than being at the school head's office.

3. Don't get in a power struggle. No one wins in a power struggle. So much energy will be wasted here.
4. Dont assume the student is lazy. Reframe your thinking to remember that the child is struggling and needs your support.

5. Don't act out of frustration or anger. This phrase:" He's not giving me a hard time, he's having a hard time". Remain calm n collected so you make the best choices in each situation. Yes, it's ok to feel frustrated with a situation, BUT, just don't act on that frustration.

6. Don't embarrass the student. Publicly chasing the student out of the teaching room might result in a power struggle, or escalate the situation. I suggest you consider better ways to privately support the student to help both of you get what you need.

7. Don't use threats. " If you don't do your work, I'm going to call your parents. Be mindful about what you say, make sure your consequences fit the crime

Do's;
keep teaching,
Focus on building the relationship
Meet with the student privately

Shalom

If yo child is a serial failure, don't blame, humiliate or shame them. The whole family needs support n treatment. Connéct 77 786 009