Leia Gamache - Certified Personal Coach

“You are comprised of 84 minerals, 23 Elements, and 8 gallons of water spread across 38 trillion cells.

You have been built up from nothing but the spare parts of the Earth you have consumed according to a set of instructions hidden in a double helix, and small enough to be carried by a s***m. You are recycled butterflies, plants, rocks, streams, firewood, wolf fur, and shark teeth, broken down to their smallest parts and rebuilt into our planet’s most complex living thing.

You are not living on Earth. You are Earth."

Words by Aubrey Marcus
Artist- Brian Kiriagis (BK the Artist)

Mama,

You don't need to take care of everything, you don't have to be a super mom, a super housewife, a super professional, a super woman.

Because when your body gets tired, there will be few who will remember that you tried to be all of this in one person.

So, leave the house for later, go for a walk, go to the park, start the gym, buy clothes, go to the salon, sleep, be yourself, take care of yourself, love yourself, and do it exclusively for and for you.

Kids grow up, the husband sometimes leaves, the job finds a replacement, the house will get dirty again, but you don't get a second chance.

Words ✍️: ctto
Artwork: ctto

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Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and being alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You have to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes too near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself that you tasted as many as you could. ~Louise Erdrich

(Book: The Painted Drum https://amzn.to/43rf7WP)

I was raised to be kind and to be fair. Mom, (both moms) somewhere in and between the lines of what you tried to teach me is this...

Be accountable for your actions.

Is this the hill you are willing to die on?

How can we know where we are going, if we don't know where we stand?

Unwind yourself each night.

How was my day? What happened?
What was my intent? What was the outcome? What will I do differently tomorrow?

Somewhere, someone will be impacted by you, so if you are going to challenge someone, make it about something that is worth standing for... and care for your impact.

Conserve energy.

There are people who will feed your soul and those who will seem to want to erase it. Keep the ones that feed you. That is fair. Throw love at the others if you can, as they go.

Be kind to everyone until it becomes necessary to meet the energy, then be fair, but meet the energy.

Speak the unspeakable with ruthless compassion.

When you have to, make it clear, short, and firm. Then, let your actions follow your words. That is integrity.

Rage is the teacher of truth. There is always new life after a storm.

That is how things work in all of nature.

So, when you meet someone who is upset about something, remember that they are not the person who pulled the trigger.

Hear them. That is triage.

A child, in their simple wisdom might ask, "I wonder why that person is upset?"

Be a child. A child is teachable.

If someone tells you they don't care by word or deed, stop trying unless they are worth dying for.

If someone pulls the trigger and blames you for caring, it doesn't matter why. That is their baggage. Let them carry it.

If someone refuses to communicate with you because you are upset, what did they do with all of the opportunities to make things right when you were not? That is more telling of their character and intent.

There is a difference between trust and faith. Have faith that a person will keep showing up the way they do, unless they care... to change it.

You cannot change it for them.

Care for where you spend your energy, or you will either end up sick or hardened.

Boundaries are not for other people. They are for us.

They are our deepest held values... they are our intent to go forward into the world, supported and appreciated for the gifts we have to offer...

They are you, stepping into life in ways you were meant to... and they are the actions you will sometimes need to take to birth your dreams.

At the centre of all boundaries is care.

If we care to listen, people will always share what is important to them.

If we don't care to listen to the whisper, we will inevitably hear the roar... or we will lose a friend.

Yes, we are all accountable for our actions... even the ones who quietly sit behind their perceived power and pull the trigger.

Sometimes being angry is a perfectly sane human response to an extraordinarily entitled world.

"What kind of human will I choose to be today?"

I will choose to be kind, fair, and empowered in places where I used to only be kind and fair.

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