Healing Graces

Denial - Invalidation - Gaslighting - Blame Shifting - Accountability Issues - Guilt Tripping

The Narcissist’s Prayer Explained The Narcissist's Prayer (by Dayna Craig) That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.

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This is so true. A lot of people think telling your story is a bad thing or just a waste of time. Got some of us - the therapy room is the only safe place they have to process their trauma. Some are so damaged they can’t even feel safe enough in therapy so the whole of their story doesn’t always get told. I think it should be a crime to chastise and belittle a person when they seem to be hung up on their trauma story. Seriously - who would choose to relive something that nearly broke them? I want to say it this way - a person might have to tell and retell their story a lot before they have collected all the pieces and healed all the cracks in their psyche enough they can move on. We need to stop victim shaming!!!

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For the children💔 the 215 they found in a mass grave, and for the thousands yet to be found

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What would happen if the government treated the mental health crisis like a pandemic? What if everyone worked together to protect their own mental health while also taking steps to prevent spreading mental illness in others? What if we were supported by our government because we know we are all equally vulnerable and every single one of us deserves to be healthy!

Mental health research saves lives We can make important breakthroughs in mental health.

Very true. Everyone wants to feel safe, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Having even the false sense of control over the external world allows us to feel less vulnerable but it’s only an illusion. As with the post before - focus on being the person who you are looking for and less on trying to orchestrate people and events to reinforce your illusion.

How do you know someone feels unsafe in their body (+ therefore the world?)

They’re controlling.

Controlling behavior looks different for everyone.

It can look like an obsessive focus on someone + creating meaning from all of their behavior.

It can look like people pleasing (attempting to control a persons view of you)

It can look like chronically ‘helping’ someone to do something the ‘right’ way (their way)

It can look like snooping, prying, or pressuring.

It can look like snide, or cutting comments to keep someone feeling small (keep them close)

When we don’t feel safe, we can’t trust ourselves. We don’t believe in our core knowing that we will be ‘ok’— so we fall into the illusion that we can control others.

If we can control others, we won’t get hurt. Ironically at the same time, we push away authentic connection. To ourselves, + to others.

Looking at your controlling behaviors with loving awareness can be helpful. When I fall into patterns of control I remind my inner child— it’s ok. I know how lonely + scary it was. I can be the loving adult who realizes we do not control what happens to us.

What we can do is consciously choose the meaning we assign to it.

What we can consciously do is make + keep promises to ourselves.

What we can consciously do is create loving discipline— new habits + behaviors that are in alignment with our highest (authentic) self

It seems like this would just be common sense, yet I am surprised by how often I can forget that knowing that something needs to change is not the same as being ready or willing to change it. Or seeing someone who needs help isn't the same as them wanting help lol - sometimes it's just best to be curious.