Core Counselling - robin huppmann

The moment I knew I had trust issues was in therapy :).

I wanted to take an old platitude and give it a twist: We do forget painful memories with time, but it’s the process of healing that lets us forget even faster.

Sometimes the truth is simple.

"Peace comes through surrender and healing in silence."
-RH

It is through sadness that we know that we have loved, and without love, there cannot be sadness. They are interconnected.

We can supercharge our kindness by giving words to our intentions. By making the implicit explicit, we can increase our connection in relationships.

Innately we are born to try, overcome, and grow, but life can condition us to expect failure.

I have never met an anxious or depressed person that is kind to themself.

You can't be responsible for repairing a relationship when the other person does not want to repair it.

"Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor."

- Alexis Carrell

The tyranny of positivity is a burden. Happiness is an outcome, not a mandate because the mandate of happiness makes you constantly have to wonder, "Am I happy? Am I happy enough? Could I be happier? Should I leave this relationship? I'm happy, but maybe I could be happier somewhere else." So it becomes, how do I know? And then it becomes massive uncertainty, massive self-doubt.

This is the first time in history that you ask Western parents what they want for their children, and the first thing they say is, "I want them to be happy." They don't say, "I want them to be healthy, alive," because child mortality has gone down. They don't say, "I want them to be good people." They're supposed to talk about, "I want them to be happy."

The depression and anxiety of today are the mirror response to the pressure on happiness. You can't be sad. You can't be blue, melancholic. Then you get the permission to be sad if you're depressed. So let's pathologize it. And if depression isn't enough, let's say you’ve had trauma.
Esther Perel

Often when I am judgmental or critical of others. When I take a moment and reflect, I always find a part in me that is scared, worried, or insecure. When I show kindness to this part, I can then also extend kindness to others.

The therapist does not cause the client pain. The pain comes from what the client had to experience. It is only by attending to the pain, in support with the client, that pain can be released and undone.