Law Turley - MBACP Integrative Therapist & Supervisor

Fantastic idea offering training like this to hairdressers!

We are looking for a hair salon in Exeter that would be happy to:-
give a discount to our clients,
Donate any used magazines for our vision boards

and in return we will:-
give you free domestic abuse awareness training
join you to the J9 Domestic Abuse Initiative UK
give your staff free access to our Rediscovering You - Self Care Toolkit
Promote your salon

email [email protected] if you would like to have a conversation about this.

"I took from them that ‘yes, me too!’ feeling that feels so validating when you realise you’re not alone in your experiences"

‘This too shall pass.’ World-first study proves the power of mental health recovery stories - Positive News New research proves that personal accounts of how people have overcome mental health struggles are effective at helping others

Unsurprising news about BetterHelp...

Therapy App Hit With Class-Action Privacy Complaint Online therapy app BetterHelp has been hit with a privacy lawsuit for allegedly sharing users' sensitive mental health data with outside companies.

"Practicing honesty and vulnerability is probably not going to go as you plan. So forget planning and start noticing instead."

I wrote a new article about taking the practice of Radical Honesty home from workshops:

If A Thing’s Worth Doing, It’s Worth Doing Poorly Taking Radical Honesty home with you after a workshop, isn’t about trying to replicate the workshop. Work on getting comfortable with being…

"Being liked is not my One Thing; Integrity is."

Happy New Year All!
https://www.instagram.com/blessthemessy/

So this week I officially moved office, admittedly only across the road to the ground floor of 23 Southernhay West, but it did mean that - for the first time - I got to furnish my room myself from scratch 🥰

Law Turley - MBACP Integrative Therapist & Supervisor updated their address.

A quick and simple guide to making choices:

Never a truer word was spoken :)

I'm a big fan of Jess Bird (blessthemessy). I love her thoughtful warm funny and vulnerable messages of affirmation and kindness. Why not give her a follow x
https://www.instagram.com/blessthemessy/

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13588356-daring-greatly

Daring Greatly Researcher and thought leader Dr. Brené Brown offers a powerful new vision that encourages us to dare greatly: to embrace vulnerability a...

What we really mean when we say :
https://www.nbcnewyork.com/investigations/nycs-non-police-mental-health-pilot-increasing-rate-of-those-getting-aid-data-show/3165520/

NYC's Non-Police Mental Health Pilot Increasing Rate of Those Getting Aid, Data Show A New York City pilot program to respond to 911 calls for mental health crises with social workers instead of cops appears to be reducing unnecessary hospitalizations, while increasing the percentage of people who accept help when offered. The Behavioral Health Emergency Assistance Response Division...

"People treat you exactly the way you unconsciously treat yourself. Their outer mannerisms toward you reflect your inner mannerisms, so one of the most powerful ways to transform your life is to become consciously aware of your beliefs and feelings about yourself."

John F. Demartini - 'The Breakthrough Experience'
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12006253-the-breakthrough-experience?

Breakthrough Experience This title presents inspiring science and philosophy in a way that is completely accessible to anyone, to reveal and explore the universa...

I really liked this blog article of Marvin's, about the pitfalls we often fall into when we start practising Radical Honesty:
https://www.radicalhonesty.com/rh-blog/2021/6/17/four-subtle-pitfalls-of-radical-honesty

Four Subtle Pitfalls of Radical Honesty — Radical Honesty In last week’s newsletter , my friend Tuulia shared some strategies for getting over everyday bu****it. It’s a great, peer-sourced collection of tricks, suitable even for beginners. Reading it, I inspired myself to write about four subtle pitfalls of Radical Honesty .  These are four pa

"No one has ever experienced an “objective” world outside of their subjective awareness. Even the most rigorous scientific experiment can only be experienced subjectively. There's simply no world outside of our subjective awareness."
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/48723528-existential-kink

Existential Kink A smart, s*xy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power an...

Much love to Fiona Gilbertson for sharing this with me...

If you want to be a bad ass s*xually empowered woman, embrace your inner hag.
Thats right.
The crone. The ancient old woman. The witch. The hag.
The crone archetype is an aspect of the feminine not exactly associated with s*xuality.
Women groom themselves to be girls. The younger the better.
Paint those lips red and blush those cheeks like you are wet and ripe for impregnation.
Make them believe you are in perpetual ovulation.
Make them hard. Make them desire you
Get that face lift. Suck in that belly. Bat those lashes.
Guess what.
The crone doesn't give a f**k.
And that is her power.
She embraces her spider lines and swinging, sagginesss.
After all, this is what life does to the body of a woman...eventually!
Does that make you uncomfortable? Would you rather not see?
Her secret threatens to corrupt you.
She can make you wild.
She can reveal to you your power.
Your volcanic senseless holy
Once she opens her mouth, the jig is up.
They tell you she is crazy.
Dangerous because she has broken out of that jail cell you call restrictions.
How would you have s*x if you didn't give a f**k about how pretty you look?
Or how flat your stomach is?
The crone is not an object of desire.
She is free to claim her own desire.
In a world that praises women for being objects of desire.
Where the more lust you can seduce the more value you possess, the crone is laughing with that cackle that only women of power have.
She does not possess the enchanting beauty of the maiden or the fertile reproductive juices of the mother.
She no longer bleeds. She no longer bares children.
Her s*x no longer waxes and wanes with the moon, gaining and draining energy with each passing tide.
She is full.
The portal to her blood has been sealed.
She is drinking in the nectar. She is bathing in its luminous darkness.
Her s*x is a diamond pressed and polished by years of experience and wisdom.
She has passed through all the phases of initiation as a woman.
That heavy web of social conditions all feminine creatures are baptized into.
She is unraveling herself from these webs.
She has liberated her s*x from all their stories.
She is making it to the other side.
Freeing herself.
Without the ability to be a mother or a s*x object, what is left of a woman and her s*x?
I’ll tell you what.
Pure power that doesn't give a f**k.
Crazy wisdom that knows how to make love to the moment.
S*x that ripples through every authentic cell of your body.
S*x that pulses with every tiny whisper of life knowing life.
If you want to find the seat of your s*xual power.
Your real deep sovereign s*xual nature.
Find the crone that lives in you.
Wild. Ugly. Innocent. Real.
The real initiation begins here.

Author: Maya Luna

Photo Art: Sarah Peirse

Saw this Phillips Brooks quote on HONY today, and thought we could all do with a little bit of his 19th century common sense.

I think about this quote from Carl Rogers at least once a week.

"Without giving up hope—that there’s somewhere better to be, that there’s someone better to be—we will never relax with where we are or who we are.

We hold on to hope, and hope robs us of the present moment." - Pema Chödrön
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/19347541-when-things-fall-apart

When Things Fall Apart Pema Chödrön reveals the vast potential for happiness, wisdom and courage even in the most painful circumstances.Pema Chödrön teaches tha...

"Sometimes I’d say or do something, pick up a Barbie, try on girls clothes, make a passing but unmistakably girly gesture, that would incite distress or even anger from the adults around me. So, in fear of their scrutiny, I made the world a theatre..."
https://medium.com//out-of-the-closet-and-into-the-fire-how-i-stopped-performing-and-learned-to-become-myself-6ff0dca4463d

Out of the closet and into the fire — how I stopped performing and learned to become myself As a child, I became obsessed with the idea that my life was an elaborate production. It took me years to understand that the only one…

Law Turley - MBACP Integrative Therapist & Supervisor updated their business hours.

Fantastic article about how the last year has led a lot of us to think differently about touch.

"Over the past year, I have often daydreamed about embracing my friends, holding my infant nephew and getting a professional massage. I have even craved those less intimate forms of touch: crowded dance floors, the ecstasy of a rough shampooer at the hair salon. But this long isolation has also been a respite from navigating forms of touch that I find more intrusive, even violating." - Melissa Femos
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/31/magazine/consent.html

I Spent My Life Consenting to Touch I Didn’t Want A year of isolation made me consider all the casual, unwanted touch women endure — and why it’s so hard to refuse it.

Dr. Cheryl Fuller on beloved psychotherapist Irvin Yalom's infamous essay on his obese client:

"Yalom was naïve to think that his distaste for Betty’s body had not been evident to her. She lived in a world that reviled her body and likely she, like many fat people, expected to encounter judgement. A more interesting question is why, given that she knew all along of his distaste, did she continue to work with him? The answer? She herself carries and directs those same feelings of disgust at herself."

https://jung-at-heart.com/2021/04/01/even-good-guys/

Even Good Guys... — Jung at Heart This week there was a thread on Twitter about Irvin Yalom and how kind he is. I have read many of his books and have no doubt that in general he is indeed a kind person.  I have been thinking and writing about the essay, “Fat Lady” in Irvin Yalom’s book, Love’s Executioner, which I […]

This is a great article for anyone struggling with justifying putting yourself first and potentially saying "no" for the first time:

"Too much or too little selfishness is a problem—both for you and for those around you."
https://humanparts.medium.com/dont-freeze-to-death-254eea721cbe

You’re Supposed to Be a Little Bit Selfish Many of us neglect our own needs to avoid seeming self-centered — and then we wonder why we’re so unhappy

One of my heroes - Stephen Porges - eloquently explaining the freeze trauma response, and why victim blaming is anti-human:

"Much of our society defines trauma by the event when the real critical issue is the individual’s reaction. By not accepting that, we end up saying: “If I can survive this and do well, why can’t you?” So we start blaming the survivors again."

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jun/02/stephen-porges-interview-survivors-are-blamed-polyvagal-theory-fight-flight-psychiatry-ace

Stephen Porges: ‘Survivors are blamed because they don’t fight’ The psychiatry professor on the polyvagal theory he developed to understand our reactions to trauma