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Ideas every mother should know 💛

This took me down memory lane around 2012-2013 in my village.

This woman, I’ll call her mummy C.

Mummy C moved to my village with her son and husband who owned a struggling chemist at our village square.

She attended a Pentecostal church with her husband but they were POOOOOOR.

We didn’t have much then but I had to sneak out foodstuffs sometimes to go give her.
Yes, it was that bad.

Mummy C is pregnant AGAIN!

One day after she put to bed TWINS 👯‍♀️, her husband called the marriage off and drove her out. This attracted the church pastors and their family members to resolve the issue.

Why?
In her words, “He said that ever since he married me that everything has been crumbling. His business no longer moved, everything he put his hands to do, hits rock bottom. That I’m bad luck 🍀 to him.”

The case was still up when I got admission and left for school. By the time I came back, they no longer stayed there. I lost contact with her.

It is the sheer shamelessness of some men to instead of taking responsibilities for their failing lives, they push the blames on their women.

Bro, you can’t comfortably feed yourself, but you’re out here looking for a wife. A wife to come and do what?
Women NEED MONEY to maintain themselves, to maintain you, to cater for your children and the home 🏠!

I know it’s konji that hold a lot of men that makes them not sit down and calculate this journey before chasing a woman down.

You don’t own a land or 3 square meals, yet you want another responsibility!
When this at-the-moment jobless woman comes into your life as a wife, the next thing is, you impregnate her and then expect responsibilities not to increase?

Not disputing the reality that there are certain people that when they come into your life, you feel the negative impact but in most cases, it is sheer desperation to marry and have s*x that has driven a lot of people into marriage unprepared.

Sister, I know demons work, but don’t contribute to it by getting married as a prayerless and jobless woman.
Inside marriage eeeeh, a time will come that the thought of him touching you for s*x will be making you angry. So, relax and get your life fixed!

Financial Issues are REAL MARITAL ISSUES that can even lead to the dêath of a marriage even if it was God that told him you are his wife.

Lemme drop my pen here and look for evening food abeg.

🖊️ Nnalue Ifeoma

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind, replied the author.

Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet. "Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know

WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

Credit: to the right owner

Dear Men, if a Woman stops getting jealous, asking questions, texting first, worrying about You, asking about your female friends and start saying
"I'm fine"
" it's cool" "I'm not angry", "No problem"...just know that the last tears has dropped and she does no longer care what happens.

No woman leaves a man because he made a mistake, she left because he made it a habit.

When she put all her best and effort to make the relationship works don't think she's desperate.
She wants to be the best woman for you.

A woman does not make noise when She's leaving You. She made noise before when she wanted to stay, but You did not listen.

Listen bro, once a woman stops showing signs of jealousy.. Her spirit has left you.

Don't take a good woman for granted.
Her simplicity is not a sign of weakness.
Good women are not easy to come by these days.
Value the woman you have .

CLASS DISMISSED.

✅ If she looks down after you make eye contact, and then connects with your eyes again the next minute, she wants you to approach her

✅ If she casually mentions that she's single, she wants you to ask her out

✅ If she touches you or allow you to touch her, it's never accidental. She already likes you.

✅ If she casually insinuates séx, she already imagines it with you

These are all green light she's giving you, to encourage you to make the move.

But what if she gives you these signals and you shoot your shot, and then she ends up rejecting you?

That's where the "Bad Boy" Formula comes in.

The first golden rule the bad boy never goes against is... Don't ask a girl out officially or tell her you love her or how you feel about her... until you are sure she's crazy about you.

These signs are indications that she likes you and wants you to take the Lead and make the move (as it should be).

But when you do... she begins to feel herself and start playing hard-to-get... leaving you confused, and you wouldn't know whether she really likes you or she's just playing games with you.

Well, the thing is... She may actually like you, but her behaviour after you confess your love for her, will throw you off balance and confuse the hell out of you.

Bro... That's what they do. It's the game they play, so that you will start investing your time, resources, your affection and even your EMOTION in her, and make it look like she's the PRIZE.

And that's how you immediately and automatically give her the power in the relationship.

Understand weemen's game, bro.

But the way to beat her to this game is this... (pay attention)

✅ When she gives you these green lights... turn things around and make her to start pursuing you by playing hard-to-get in an entertaining way. (that's what you learn PRACTICALLY in the "Bad Boy" Formula)

You see... Weemen cannot handle the things they do to men. That is... the game they play on you... if you understand it well and play it on them (reverse psychology), they won't be able to handle it. They fall hard for it.

You hit the game hard on her such that when she finally lays down her guard (it's quite easy to do that using the "Bad Boy" tekniks) and you pipe her for the first time... she will ask you the golden question... "so, what are we now?" 😂

Then, what you do with her after that is totally up to you.

Now, you may say you don't have time to play games with weemen. You just want to focus on yourself and (maybe) get a good girl and start a relationship with, later in the future.

I understand, and it's no problem at all. That's fine. But like I always say... (this quote I am known by)

"Life and relationship is a Game. If you don't learn how to play it, you will get played - every time!"

Weemen are constantly playing games in their relationships and marriages. It is in their nature, and they have been introduced to Game since from their teenage age when they started growing nyash and bress. It is innocent men who are ignorant that get burnt.

So... if you want to take FULL control of your interactions and relationship with weemen... then you MUST instill quality Game into your psychology and take charge of your life.

Vamøs! 💪🏾

There is a married man that I really pity. He works hard to spoil his wife. He doesn't even know that she is a pr******te.

This woman does her job during the day when the husband is away at work. The husband provides everything. Despite this, his wife still chooses the streets. Men just offer her money plus fare, she goes to where they are.

The husband leaves for work at around 6:30am. The woman will do the house chores and leave at around 9am. She'll go do her business and come back in the evening before her husband arrives. In case he gets there before her, there are numerous places she can say she was at. There are church meetings, family meetings, work interviews, a sick friend etc. She never runs out of excuses.

It gets really bad when the husband travels. The woman will abandon her house and come back when her husband is also coming back. She has men all over the district. When the one with a lot of money pesters her for a meeting, she'll arrange with her sister to lie to her husband that the sister is sick and she's going to nurse her. The poor man always falls for these tricks.

She confesses that the money she gets in her hustle, exceeds the little her husband gives her and she hopes her husband will never find out. The problem is that she can't enjoy the money because the husband will start becoming suspicious and ask for the source. She just uses the money on fashion and saves the rest.

I asked her why she can't quit her marriage and she told me that she loves her husband and that is just a side hustle.
As the interim chairman of all men, up to now, I have been wondering what sort of love this is.

I mean, a lot of modern married ladies do this.
What could be the cause of this?

Let's discuss!
🙏

Jack Ma the richest man in China said, "If you put the Banana and Money infront of a monkey. The monkey will choose Banana because the monkey don't know that money can buy alot of Bananas."

In fact, if you offer WORK and BUSINESS to people, they will choose to WORK because most people don't know that a BUSINESS can make more money than salary.

One of the reason the poor are poor is because the poor are not trained to recognise the entrepreneurial opportunity.

They spend alot of time in school and what they learn in school is work for a salary instead of working for themselves.

Profit is better than wages because wages can support you, but profits can make you a fortune.

Keep following

Ẹgbọn Adugbo.

Every street has an Ẹgbọn adugbo. Oftentimes they grew up in the area and sometimes migrate to another hood to dominate.
If trouble comes from nowhere, Ẹgbọn adugbo is there to your rescue... Sometimes they're the trouble themselves.
Midlife crisis doesn't concern ẹgbọn, he's the crisis himself.
Those in bushy areas, if you see venomous snake in your compound and you scream for help, he's there to kpai it.
If tiff enter your house and you loud am, Ẹgbọn adugbo na first contact to give am "body heating" before Police or vigilante land. Sometimes ẹgbọn sef gangan na the CCTV of the area, dem no dey quick sleep... for 1am him eye go still clear like Halogen lamp, dey burn him "midnight candle" 🚬
Some Ẹgbọn adugbo are lone wolf while some have clan even with OPPs.
Some Ẹgbọn adugbo are the great grand children of few houses you see around. They survive on those properties cos that's their only inheritance.
Ẹgbọn adugbo might not ask anything from you for a whole year, but once it's Sallah, Christmas or New year eve, and he ask you "baba Oo, mama Oo... Ẹ fun wa n'kan Ọdun, ko ni bajẹ... 🙌🏾twaleyyy!!"...Oya ẹ filẹ fun!!
Be kind enough to tip him.
In street party/carnival ẹgbọn uses bottle to open bottles or he uses teeth to open multiple bottles, he needs no bottle opener.
Ẹgbọn adugbo knows a lot of things you don't. He has one useful gist or the other and he has connections in the neighbouring streets.
Don't underestimate Ẹgbọn oO...
Once an Ẹgbọn adugbo, always an Ẹgbọn adugbo.

Just in case you needed to be reminded…. Summer months are upon us!!!!
If you see a small girl wearing a bikini, mind your business.
If you see a big girl wearing a crop top, mind your business.
If you see a girl not wearing a bra, mind your business.
If a girl of any size doesn't fit your definition of beautiful, hott or s*xy because she is too “skinny” or too "fat"…. Keep your toxic sh*tty comments to yourself . ✌🏼
You do not have the right to make anyone feel any less for being a certain size.

Mind ya damn business!!

Your husband today can be someone's wife tomorrow.

No see anybody finish 🙏🙏

Most girls in Nigeria have 4 boyfriends.. Bestie, Boo, Big head and Shuga Daddy.

Bestie- Usually a childhood friend or high school boyfriend. Nigerian girls are more fond of this person,share secret with him, they're very free with this guy even tho they know he can't marry them. They can come out of the shower naked while he is sitting on her bed pressing phone. He's usually the guy that satisfy her when she Want to prove to Boo she can stay 6 months without s*x. They usually cheat on their marriage or relationship with this particular person. In Nigeria, Bestie dey shift pant. Bestie cannot make heaven.

Boo- The official boyfriend. The one they post his picture on social media and tag. He is usually financially balanced and takes care of small small needs. He is d one she is hoping will propose and give palm-wine to her village people. Every girl has atleast one boo in Nigeria. He is also sometimes d beneficiary of shuga Dadies generosity.
Boo will make heaven.😭😭😢

Big head- That innocent guy who loves them and are really ready to spend on them, they see guys like this as ATM and will always like to tease him with some funny names like big head and all that to make him feel involved but deep down their heart he has no place in their hearts..Sometimes when bestie and boo disappoints, Big head becomes important... Big head is also d one they ask to keep quiet when their phone rings, big head can never get head or s*x, big head can only get a Peck after she gets alert, big head is usually d MUMU and MUGU. Big head never gets angry because he is hoping that she might love him back someday. Big head is d one they save as big head, fool, idiot, mumu etc in their phones.
Big head cannot make heaven, there no place for fools in heaven.🤣😂

Lastly is SHUGA DADDY
Almost every girl in Lagos,Abuja and Porthacourt has a shuga daddy. He is d one they call Zaddy. He is d one they call uncleeeee, he is d financier, the real maga, he is d one that takes her on trips

“We're so obsessed with dating and marrying financially stable partners in this generation that we forget to check if they are mentally and emotionally stable. If they're spiritually sound and have been raised right. If they know the value of family” - Erigga

But come to check if it, can you remember the last time you truly cared about your partner?. When was the last time you sat your woman down and ask her if she is battling with something?. When was the last time you gave her a hug, looked at her into the eyes and assured her that you will always be there for her?. Women acts on emotions and just having a good communication and giving her your attention and care will bring out the best in her.

Call your partner today, tell them how much you love them and show them with actions. Life is short to live with regrets. Live everyday as though it’s your last. Go out on simple dates, gifts each other oftenly and appreciate each other. Tell him that he’s your king, Tell her that she’s your queen

MORAL LESSON: To be good lovers you have to be good friends first. Love is a combine effort

There's nothing more beautiful in this world than seeing a woman reach or*gasm in your presence.

It comes in Four stages.

The first stage is what I call the Triumphant Entry.

This is the stage where you must have dribbled from your defence, through the midfield until you enter the Box 18.

That's where the foreplay comes in. Your kisses, your necking. B*oobs sucking. Caressing. Till you find your tongue, fingers or d*ick in between her thighs.

The second stage is the Announcement Stage.

When you must have entered the Box 18, you still clear out some defenders, by dribbling the ball through them.

This is the stage where skill is important in clearing these obstacle. You could do a leg over to beat one obstacle. You could do a snake bite to beat another defender.

The main idea is to maneuver your way around these obstacles in the 18 yard box, so you can get a clear chance to shoot.

These skills include knowing how to use your tongue and fingers expertly. It includes finding her g-**ot and making sure you hold on to it, because that's the key to your end goal.

If you are really skilled, she starts announcing.

"Baby, I'm about to c.um."

"Baby, yes! Baby, yes! Right there! I'm cu.mming. Oh my God, I'm cu.mming!"

The Arrival Stage.

This is the point where you actually shoot with every intensity in you to score a goal.

When she announces that she wants to c.um, you increase the intensity of whatever skill you're using. If it's your fingers, you keep thumping that g-**ot. If it's your d*ick, increase the pace at which you are thrusting. If it's your tongue, make sure it doesn't leave that c.litoris.

What will follow next is a very loud scream indicating she has reached crescendo. If you have neighbors around, they are definitely going to hear it.

Of course, the scream follows by involuntarily clamping of her legs so tight.

Followed by incessant, uncontrollable vibrations of her lower body and her hands holding clutching tight to the sheets to stop her soul from leaving her body to heaven.

Her toe simultaneously starts to curl and bend backwards like an epileptic patient suffering from seizures.

If your finger or d*ick is inside of her, she would make an attempt to remove it, because too much pleasure is driving her crazy, but don't let her. Keep doing what you're doing till you feel her v*agina tighten so hard against what you're using.

The Silent Stage.

After the arrival stage, comes the silent stage. She doesn't say anything. She only keeps jerking forward like an old-rickety vehicle that is exhausted. You know how you jerk when you you have hiccup? That's how it happens for them.

Then, she opens her eyes to look at you.

"Thank you, Father Figure. Thank you so much!"

That was what the last person said to me.

Shame on you if you've never made a woman experience or**sm.

Shame on you for 600 years!

©Kosi Ugo.

This gender is the most complicated. No man can satisfy their needs. Therefore a normal man must not even break his back for them because his efforts of 15 years can be forgotten in 5 minutes.

You buy her slippers her heart says if it was sneakers. You give her 1K money she wishes it was 10K. You shower her with care, she fails to appreciate it because she might be craving for going out to a Mall.

The Truth is no man can please a woman on this planet. Even Satan herself has failed to satisfy her. It's time men learn to invest much in themselves, not in this gender, because they can disappoint you at anytime and you will suffer from cardiac arrest.
🙏
Class dismissed 🥂

When she had no dragons, she was weak, humble and yielding, attracting all the viewers’ empathy and mercy.

When her dragons grew, when she had power, she destroyed cities and expressed virtues like rage, control, dictatorship and destruction.

This is a woman for you. All of em.

I saw them.

These two people.

Father and daughter.

They entered the bus I was in as it made its way down Ozumba Mbadiwe road in Victoria Island.

I gave them a moment to settle down, before I gently tapped the father on the shoulder.

He looked back.

I greeted them before I said.

"Good job on your daughter."

His brow furrowed, evidently confused, before he said.

"I don't understand."

I continued.

"You are teaching her a life lesson, right, by taking her with you on public transport?"

His eyes widened in surprise.

I smiled.

He asked a question, just above a whisper.

"How did you know?"

"I can see how she is looking around and I can see the aura you both have coupled with your dressing and the condition of your skin. Especially the quality of accented English you both speak to each other. It is evident that you both are definitely in the upper middle class and public transport is not in your every day life."

He smiled.

"You are right. She is having summer classes and she was complaining bitterly yesterday that the ac in her school bus wasn't working. So, I told her that I would come today to pick her from school myself and we would both take public transport, so that she would understand the kind of privilege she has and what life is like for the everyday person in Nigeria..."

Lagos

Jude Idada
August 22, 2024

What do you see?? Get it right and win 💰

GENTLEMEN, THIS IS WHAT THEY WILL NOT TEACH YOU AT SCHOOL

No woman ever misses her man once she is with another man who has replaced you perfectly well.

Women don't care about you men. They don't love you. All they care about is their SURVIVAL. That's their primary reason of needing a man.

A woman will only pretend to miss you when she has not found another man who can do for her what you have done for her.

It's not as if she misses you or loves you. It's just that she misses your sacrifices for her and how you made her feel. Any other thing aside this is inconsequential.

Be wise.
🙏
Class dismissed 🥂

A man was on his deathbed, and he asked his wife, “Martha, soon I will be gone forever, and there's something I have to know. In all these 50 years of marriage, have you ever been unfaithful to me?"
Martha replied, "Well, Henry, I have to be honest with you. Yes, I've been unfaithful to you three times during these 50 years, but always for a good reason."
Henry was obviously hurt by his wife's confession, but said, "I never suspected. Can you tell me what you mean by 'good reasons?'"
Martha said, "The first time was shortly after we were married, and we were about to lose our little house because we couldn't pay the mortgage. Do you remember that one evening I went to see the banker, and the next day he notified you that the loan would be extended?"
Henry recalled the visit to the banker and said, "I can forgive you for that. You saved our home, but what about the second time?"
Martha asked, "And do you remember when you were so sick, but we didn't have the money to pay for the heart surgery you needed? Well, I went to see your doctor one night and, if you recall, he did the surgery at no charge."
"I recall that," said Henry. "And you did it to save my life, so of course I can forgive you for that. Now tell me about the third time."
"Alright," Martha said. "Do you remember when you ran for president of your golf club, and you needed 73 more votes?"..
In his heart Henry just, “This gender” and shook his head.
🙏
Class dismissed 🥂

Before King Ahmed of Ottoman went to war, he locked his wife (the beautiful Queen) in a private room and gave the key to his best friend Mousa and said: "If I'm not back in four days, open the room and she's yours”He climbed on his horse and gallops off towards the battlefield. Half an hour later, the King noticed a cloud of dust behind him. He stopped and saw his friend galloping very fast towards him.
"What's wrong ?" Asked the King. Out of breath, his friend Mousa responded: "You gave me the wrong key"
What???😳
Can you imagine🙄
He didn't even wait for the said 4days before trying the keys😂
Be careful with the one you consider your best "friends" and whom you think you can entrust them with your hard earned treasure - they could be wishing you dead soon and hopefully inherit your God-given fortune!

Just an Advice🤗

Nigerian bolt driver shared an insight!!

As I jumped into the back seat, I noticed there was a curtain that you could use in blocking the front view.

"Abeg, driver, wetin dem dey use this curtain for?" I asked out of curiosity.

"Na to give passengers privacy make dem do wetin dem wan do." He replied.

"You mean am? So, passengers dey misbehave for inside motto too?"

"My brother, if I tell you wetin my eyes don see as bolt driver enh, you go pity me." He continued.

"People dey k.iss for inside your car?" I jumped straight at it.

"If na k.iss, e for just better. Passengers dey give head, even knack sef."

"Wow! You don't mean it!" I exclaimed.

"I don carry girl from club before. This girl don high finish, remove her paynt for inside my motto, come dey chook hand for inside her iboki dey moan 'driver harder!' Still come forget the paynt for inside my motto".

"Abi, I fit count how many times girl go unzip man trouser dey suck him preeq for my motto?" He continued.

"Why don't you just ask them to get down from your car." I asked.

"Who go come pay for the journey? You just have to endure. Moreover, I been dey enjoy the view sometimes." I could see him from the rear mirror smiling mischievously.

"If you used to enjoy the view, why did you now put this curtain?"

"Omoh, e get one wey happen one time. The girl climb untop this brother dey fire am for inside my motto. Na so I dey look my rear mirror dey enjoy, not knowing say trailer dey come for my front. Na small thing trailer for jam us that night. Nobody tell me make I rush go buy curtain."


©Kosi Ugo.

KNOW THIS, KNOW PEACE.

If you are at the level where you see nothing wrong with cohabitation, kissing, romance and $£× before marriage, you are deluded.

If you still believe that fornication is a proof, sign or show of love in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, you are deceived.

If $£× outside marriage is still part of your life, you are burning, going down to hell and you will be reduced to a piece of bread.

If you are living in fornication and think you will stop immediately you get married, you are doomed. If it were that easy, adultery would not have existed.

If you are commiting $£×ual immorality in every relationship, with multiple partners or as a pr******tes/gigolo, you will have many altars and covenants to deal with.

If you still believe $£× outside marriage is enjoying life, catching fun or pleasure, you will pay dearly for it.

Whether you believe it or not, many have lost their wombs, glories, visions, purpose, ministries and lives because of $£× outside marriage.

Whether you know it or not, many have inherited generational curses, contracted incurable diseases, possessed by demonic spirits, fallen down, and damaged beyond repair as a result of $£× outside marriage.

In case you need to know, many are out there empty, shadows of themselves, weeping, lamenting, regretting and gnashing their teeth as a result of $£× outside marriage.

The Bible warned. "Flee youthful lust" ✅

You and your husband soon
🫄👯🙌🙏💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Hmmmm eso fun alaso igbalode kose mee’doo.....🙄

some properties even children won’t inherit it, 🤔

see the owner lying outside his hard earned built house.🤔

Try and be humble always ..🙄
Happy Sunday 😊

Absolutely True!!!
The truth is those you felt held you closer to their hearts are actually the first to run off 😔