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Most days I don’t even recognise who I am

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Morning coffee reflection time

Be as kind to yourself today, as you would for others

Recognise the strength and awesomeness you hold within you, and that it is ok if some days that is exhausting.

You are here and showing up

Thankyou ❤️

Yesterday was a difficult long work day

Moments like this though make me come back tomorrow. Written by a young lad with emotional, social, learning and sensory difficulties whilst I was on a lunch break.

A few minutes after giving me this note, I was lashed out at, but nothing I couldn’t handle. Maybe writing that note was harder and riskier than it seemed. Attachments aren’t easy for everyone.

Working with hard to reach children and young people can be challenging and exhausting, but what they give back when they are ready makes it all worth it

There is nothing that inspires me more than seeing someone I have supported either give back or give forward.

Yesterday I also received a call from the wonderful .chante.maddison who has recently joined up with . She told me that she is bringing the girls to my house to help do a garden makeover because she wants me to love my garden as I used to. That they appreciate what I do to support others with their mental health. It was emotional hearing that her friends who don’t know me want to help. How amazing though, that she has a found her tribe to make a difference to others, and how fortunate am I that they thought of me?

They are also keen to get involved helping others in the Reading, Berkshire community. If you have any idea’s please DM them

Honestly, yesterday was difficult, but any tears that dropped were of gratitude and joy that while there is kindness there is hope ❤️

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If you are having trouble finding the light, shine yours, however dim you feel it may be!

Others who are struggling will also join you, and shine theirs on you

Before you know it, together you become a beacon of hope

Find your tribe and let your light shine

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lost and found

Going sleep exhausted and waking up exhausted at the moment

Anyone else find grief so exhausting?

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Hoping these aren’t *too* relatable today 🫣😅😭 🆘

Which one hits a little too close to home?

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One day at a time

I hope this day will come soon though

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Destigmatization and other dreams for 💭 There’s still so much progress to be made—let’s keep the conversation going, this month and beyond. 💛

https://www-bbc-co-uk.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66731265.amp

Autistic people dying despite warnings over care - BBC News BBC analysis of notices issued by coroners shows repeated failings in the care of autistic people.

A few of the amazing and inspirational people you will meet if you join us on the 10th September at Novotel Reading between noon and 6pm!

We will be raising funds for Papyrus and Su***de&Co

The event is also supported by the NHS who are providing emotional support for anyone who needs it on the day

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/every-little-thing-festival-tickets-695656957687

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You know you better than anyone else, so when your mind starts fighting against you, do something that makes your body feels good

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It's a hard mindset to be in illnesses
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If you are able to contact anyone who knew Diva, please remind them about the event. It may be they don’t know and would want to come together with us.

Please don’t assume they know!

Every Little Thing Festival The Every Little Thing Festival has been created to support wellness and mental health, and is to be held annually on the 10th September

How can it be that you are not here to celebrate your 30th birthday.

Nothing makes sense

I could never have imagined my child would die before me. It’s the wrong order,

Each day I wake, Diva is my first thought. My first is I wonder how she is, then the tightness in my chest with the emptiness of not knowing if she is ok.

Missing my babygirl and I all I lost when she left the world

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Beautiful words by 🤍

Looking back at it, I wish school prepared me for moments like that - departures.
I know nothing will ever fully prepare us for losing a loved one and coping with all the emotions that come with it, but a heads up would’ve been appreciated 🫢 and awareness around grief would probably have made me feel like less of a freak 🫣

I can’t tell you how important it is to know what services are in your area that are able to support you and your children if you need it.

Equally it is important for services to come together and understand what they can provide to their community.

Enjoy live music, and DJs as well as hearing from those with lived experience and those who provide support to those having difficulties with their mental health.

Ticket link in bio

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You can do this

Grief hurts like hell, just keep doing what you need to, so you get through each day

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I don’t actually need to add anything to this!

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I feel busy, but nothing gets done. I feel tired, but sleep doesn’t help. I feel anxious, but I’m not sure why…
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Hi and welcome to Every Little Thing festival!

Whether you are a charity, organisation, community group or have an interest in mental health, we hope you can join us!

There is no hierarchy in mental health and we need to connect with each other to support and find strategies to help those who may be struggling.

We have some exciting guests, TED talkers, TV presenters, Service providers, DJ’s, Live music, mental health activists and YOU!!

We are keeping the ticket price low to make it as accessible as possible, so if you are able to, please donate to our go fund me page - link in bio

Tickets now available on Eventbrite - link in bio
More on the door!

Please SHARE and TAG friends as this is going to be an incredible event they won’t want to miss!

I hope today the seeds you planted in your yesterday bear fruit today

Nothing we do is wasted

Even failure is a lesson and all the wars you have been through to better your life will one day pay off

Don’t give up when your good times may be just around the corner!

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Lifelong love and pain

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This is my experience of grief.
Leave a heart if you agree.❤️

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Drop a ♥️ if you’re gonna be conscious about spreading kindness today 🙌🏽.

As much as I try, that deep, dark agony finds a way to escape

I can appear to be living my best life, living in the moment and the sigh appears completely out of context and often appearing ungrateful for whatever experience I am sharing with someone

The one which is the worst for me though is when I involuntarily take a breath in. I hope you never hear it, or experience it yourself

It is a short sharp intake of breath which makes@a strange noise when I do it

You see the pain of losing your child to su***de lies deep within. If we walked around looking how we feel can you imagine how uncomfortable others would be?

We have to try and regain some kind of new normal, so the grief has to be held in

So please excuse your friend or loved one when you catch a glimpse

That isn’t half the story

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Today, if you can only do one thing…

BE KIND TO YOURSELF!!!

This is such an important post, and a great starting point to turning your life completely around

DON’T GIVE UP NOW!!!!

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Even the shiny people who you assume are 'perfect' and nailing life have fu**ed up. If there is one thing I've learned from the twists and turns in my life so far, it's that forgiveness is a must. It might not be easy or instant, but if you can forgive yourself and find compassion for yourself especially in the moments where you've gotten it wrong, or acted from a place of pain, then you'll be able to find a little more happiness along the way.

Sometimes my moral compass is a little too rigid as I'm driven to constantly do 'the right thing'. This can send me into a huge spin when I get things wrong. But what I'm gradually learning is that sometimes I need to loosen the reigns, be a little reckless, step outside of my own set of rules, makes mistakes and pick myself up again.
We are all bumbling through life the best we can and bumbling is perfectly alright.

On Sunday 10th Sept 2023, it would have been Diva's 30th birthday, and it is also Su***de Prevention Day, so we are coming together as a community to look at what we can do to prevent su***de, sharing strategies, hope, light and connection.

Thank you to all who have encouraged, shown love and helped the seed I planted grow into fruition.

Now the hard work starts and there is no going back!

We are still looking to secure some sponsorship for Every Little Thing Festival to make it every thing it could be and more!

We have some AMAZING speakers lined up, from all sectors of our community to share and educate through their lived experiences.

DJs and performers will also inspire, enlighten and keep us held.

We will also have trained professionals on hand should anyone wish to talk, or need support during the event.

SAVE THE DATE AND LOOK OUT FOR FURTHER UPDATES!

FOLLOW to ensure you don’t miss anything!

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Thinking of Emily, her family and friends. Such a devastating loss. No one should be treated the way Emily was, and no parent should have to deal with this level of pain 💔❤️💔

The su***de of Emily Drouet: ‘She was used and made to feel like nothing’ Emily died in 2016 after her on-off boyfriend, Angus Milligan, assaulted her and sent her threatening messages. He got community service – but her family is now suing him over her death

When you are hurting, do you hide it, or allow yourself to feel it?

Is it something you need to explore? Or do you work out how to stop it?

Grief is so complex and some may say the pain is always there, it just doesn’t show on the outside all the time

Others talk of being grief bombed, of seemingly living normally and then suddenly being overcome with grief

Do you heal from the inside, or from the outside in?

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Sometimes you get temporary relief but It never seems to really stop.
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Life feels so hard, for so many and I see signs of people giving up or feeling neglected and unwanted

Imagine if you could no longer look out of a window, or walk barefoot on the beach

Remember that film that had you belly laughing, or the book that had you living two lives you were so engrossed in it

Remember that deadline that stressed you out so badly, and now that qualification or lack of actually makes no difference to your life whatsoever

Remember that friend you bumped in to and it felt like you had never been apart? Text them, phone them, link up with them

Please remember all the things you take for granted, that you would absolutely be lost without. YOU are that for others too

There are so many reasons that we feel life is too hard to continue, but if we could write a list of things we have enjoyed in the past, and work our way through them again, we would discover there are so many more reasons to be here

Write your list while you are in a good place, and put it in a box with some of your favourite things, and photos, so when dark thoughts come uninvited, you don’t have to look far for reasons to stay

You really are worth the struggle and you really can come through it

Dig deep and remember the things you love and take for granted or promised to do one day, instead of looking at what society says you should have or should do

YOU know YOU better than anybody

Keep trying

⁣Thankuou for this inspiration, you reminded me of so many things I often forget to appreciate 🙏🏼⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Quality time with one enjoys the finer things in life

Sometimes you need a day away just to be.. and talk just for the sake of it

And a lot of eating and drinking

Reconnecting in what is often a world too busy and disconnected

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“𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 ‘𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟’ 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝟕 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐥𝐛𝐮𝐦𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐳𝐞𝐝, 𝐲𝐞𝐬, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐝 𝐯𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 … 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐜 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 ‘𝐟𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐧’ (𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐈 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥), 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡 - 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧, 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐮𝐞𝐥 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐠𝐮𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲 … 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐜 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐨𝐟 “𝐢𝐜𝐨𝐧” 𝐚𝐧𝐝 “𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝”. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐎𝐍𝐋𝐘 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐮𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐩𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝 … 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐝, 𝐟𝐚𝐭, 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐚𝐧𝐞 … 𝐨𝐡 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲! 𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐜 𝐂𝐄𝐎𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐩𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐫𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐠-𝐮𝐩 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐚 “𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐜𝐨𝐧”, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝟏𝟓 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞 𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐝 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐞𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐓𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐣𝐢𝐛𝐛𝐞𝐫-𝐣𝐚𝐛𝐛𝐞𝐫 … 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩 … 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐰 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐝. 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐀𝐍𝐘𝐁𝐎𝐃𝐘 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐎’𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐫 𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐝? 𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐉𝐮𝐝𝐲 𝐆𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐝, 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐧, 𝐀𝐦𝐲 𝐖𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞, 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐥𝐲𝐧 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐫𝐨𝐞, 𝐁𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐞 𝐇𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐲? 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞? 𝐖𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐜 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐝’𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞? 𝐍𝐨, 𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐱𝐞𝐝-𝐮𝐩, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟. 𝐇𝐞𝐫 𝐞𝐲𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐟 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧. 𝐀𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐣𝐚𝐰𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐩𝐢𝐝 “𝐢𝐜𝐨𝐧” 𝐚𝐧𝐝 “𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝” 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐟𝐚𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐮𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐞. 𝐓𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐰𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐩𝐬 𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐩 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐬𝐲 𝐂𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐫 𝐂𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐛𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐯𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐭 … 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲 … 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐬𝐥𝐨𝐩.”

𝐌𝐎𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐒𝐒𝐄𝐘 𝟐𝟔 𝐉𝐮𝐥𝐲, 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟑.

via Morrissey Central:
https://www.morrisseycentral.com/messagesfrommorrissey/you-know-i-couldn-t-last

Reading about Sinéad Marie-Bernarde Aoibheann O'Connor is just devastating on so many levels, for her family, loved ones and fans

Any mother in a similar situation knows how unbearable the pain is, that she has openly lived with since her son ended his life

For those living with the loss of a child, or in pain because a loved one ended their life by su***de, Im thinking of you and how difficult it is on a day to day. But also how difficult it is to read some of the well meaning comments

I know it’s not intentional to say anything that’s harmful, and mostly they come from a place of discomfort and a loss for words to make anything better.

They also come from generations before us, and it feels like they are words we are expected to say. I have been guilty too of regurgitating phrases I have grown up hearing as appropriate say to those grieving

As someone who lost my child to su***de, some phrases I find really difficult to hear, and I wonder if people would still say them if they knew how they sound to someone like me

If someone tells you they want to be with their child, and won’t find peace til reunited, I am sure it would make you feel uncomfortable and you may even have concerns for their mental health

Yet I am reading comment after comment about how at least Sinead is at peace and reunited with her son

It sends a message to those struggling that they can end this pain they are living in and be at peace with the loved one they are painfully missing

We all have different beliefs. The truth is when my daughter died, all beliefs died with her. I don’t know what I believe any more.

I still hold hope we will be reunited but belief is too strong a word

I am so sad about Sinead, she had so much to give the world, and the world had so much to learn from her

There is no at least

We don’t know if she is with her son, or even now at peace

Being sad someone has died is ok, we don’t need ‘at least’

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A part of grief is letting go, of things that once belonged in your house, but now sit unused because your loved one is no longer there

Today I am going to sit and go through some of those belongings which don’t have a home, and are waiting for a decision as to what to do with them

Being decisive can be difficult when it comes to deciding whether to let go or hold on to these items so I am going to set a timer

A timer to concentrate on the job in hand, and an alarm to stop all the thoughts and emotions that come with it

Part of me doesn’t care about the belongings, nothing comes close to the loss I have experienced, but then sometimes I feel I want to keep hold of anything that was ever once connected to Diva

Why is letting go so hard?

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If my grief could be captured in pictures ….

I feel like each one is part of me now and I feel it to different degrees depending on my day

Which resonates with you most?

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Sundays can be a day of sadness, but it's also a day to find strength and embrace all the moments that matter

If you are struggling with grief or with your mental health, the single most important thing you can do is breathe

Look at what you have got through to get to this point, look at the strength that it took, it is no surprise if you feel tired.

Look at what you have achieved, reflect on the positive things in your life and put aside your worries, even if it is just for a couple of hours

I am missing my beautiful babygirl but also appreciating those who continue to show me love and support, giving me moments that matter

I am also reflecting on the days I thought I couldn’t get through and yet here I am

I am also reflecting on the days ahead, which I need to prepare for, but that everything doesn’t need to be achieved in a day.

Moments that matter include this moment you are in right now

And if all you can do is breathe, then it is successful

What are you reflecting on today?

Grief taught me that today needs me to be present, because tomorrow may not be mine to live

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Sometimes we need a reminder that it’s ok that you are not a superhuman and are affected by your life experiences

One of my favourite sayings has always been -

‘Rest if you must, just don’t quit’

I needed this reminder, rest is my friend more than anything as sometimes I barely stop for air, and then feel a failure when I am exhausted or don’t get everything done

I can view my tiredness as a weakness, if I forget how hard my body and mind is working each day on top of living with grief and trauma

Which reminder did you need to hear today?

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I CAN'T BE THE ONLY ONE WHO NEEDS THESE! ❌

Friend, along the grief journey, you're bound to have more than your share of grief-y days. You know ... those days when you wish you could just curl up in the bed and pretend that life isn't continuing to move forward. 😩

In case you're having one of those days today, here are a few reminders. They're not designed to bypass what you're experiencing. Rather, they're simply little nuggets that like me, you may easily forget.

Drop a 💛 in the comments if you needed this today.