Family and Couples Therapy Clinic for English Speakers

One of the most important secrets of happy couple life in a nutshell:
https://brightside.me/inspiration-psychology/scientists-say-happy-relationships-are-defined-by-these-two-basic-traits-221255/

Scientists say happy relationships are defined by these two basic traits Perhaps this is the most important thing for you to learn.

Nine phrases that could destroy your relationship ...plus those you can say to save your relationship and make your love even stronger.

Are you curious to know what family therapy and gardening have in common?
Not so long ago I asked my friend who is a gardener about why my Ficus tree stopped flourishing.
His answer was that the pot became too small for the tree and that’s why the tree keeps living but can’t keep growing. However, if transferred into a larger container it would recover and keep on growing again.
Amazingly, the same can happen to our relationships. Relationships are living, dynamic, developing entities, but sometimes they get stuck or worse- they begin to whither and wilt.
This is often experienced as arguments, disappointment, anger, a sense of loneliness and drifting apart and lack of warmth.
If the blockage is removed and the needs are accurately met- the relationship will prosper once more.
I wish you growth and vitality in your relationships!
Please get in touch if you feel that you need help and together we will explore the cause of the problem so that healing and development may start again.

Deeply excited to be at the King's College London alumni event at the British Ambassy. Reconnecting with memories of intense learning, research, curiosity, excitement, first ever sessions with couples and families, friendships with fellow students from around the globe, understanding the meaning of diversity and a whole journey of personal and professional development. Looking back at the last 10 years of my professional experience I know I wouldn't be the same professional I am today without my training at King's.

Thinking about getting help? Starting therapy therapy has been on your mind?
Just do it! It is never easy, but every change begins with a first step.

If you are interested in an initial consultation you can write a message or call me on 0545567848

A very moving little tale about love and fear. About the fear of love, and fear in general. Too many times we let fear stand in the way of love. Too often we let go because we dread pain. However sometimes when we manage to hold on to each other, despite it all- wonders happen.

https://vimeo.com/67325705

Tumbleweed Tango A balloon dog is lost in a world of danger. One wrong step and his dancing days are done. Only love, and tango, can possibly save him.

A little about me:
Hi, my name is Julia, I’m a licensed Couples and Family therapist; My clinic is located in Kfar Saba.
I hold an M.Sc in Systemic Psychotherapy and a B.S.W degree in Social work.
I’m licensed by the Israeli Association for Couples and Family Therapy, and by the UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy).
I have been working with clients in various therapeutic settings for 10 years and have been working in my private practice with couples, families and individuals for the past 6 years.
My specialties in therapy are:
Couples- relationships in crisis, lack of emotional safety and trust, couples communication. Families- difficulty in communication between parents and children, and families going through divorce.
Individuals- working towards personal growth and building resilience.
That’s the short version- however if you want to get to know a bit more about me – you’re welcome to keep reading!
When I was 3, the kindergarten teacher called my father in for a talk. She told him that I wouldn’t let the other kids play quietly because I’d always get involved, try to solve their fights and teach them how they should play with each other and talk to one another. So my calling was pretty clear to me from a very young age.
That is the reason why, I started my degree in Social Work at the Hebrew University immediately after I finished my Army Service.
Then, during my studies, I heard about a type of therapy which focuses not only on the individual, but also on the family – Parents, Children and Spouses.
I understood the power inherent in this kind of approach, and the significance of the changes that could be achieved with it.
Upon graduation, I knew that studying Systemic Psychotherapy would be the next step, however, I also knew that I needed to gain hands-on experience as a therapist.
I started working in the field of mental health and also began studying in a program which trains Couples and Family therapists at Shiluvim Center in Givat Brener.
However, at that point, something changed which profoundly affected my academic and professional path.
I found out that King’s College University in London has an exclusive and unique program for a Master’s degree in Systemic Psychotherapy. An approach which combines and incorporates all the major techniques and skills used in Couples and Family Therapy.
I dared to register for a position in the program, at the conclusion of an interview and selection process I found myself setting forth on a new path as 1 of 10 participants accepted worldwide.
I moved to London and during the next 3 years I encountered, studied and specialized in a wide variety of approaches and therapy methods.
The studies included a clinical practicum, which gave me let me acquire experience in a vast number of areas, such as: Mental health of children, and also separately of the parents. Addiction related therapy, Eating disorders (e.g. Anorexia, Bolemia, Compulsive Eating).
At the conclusion of my studies, I had close to 1000 hours of practical experience and professional guidance. I had submitted my graduate thesis and had created valuable and amazing friendships with my classmates.
When I returned to Israel, I started working with the Eating Disorders unit at Tel Ha-Shomer hospital while opening my private clinic in Tel-Aviv.
After a few years, I moved to The Sharon district and decided to move my clinic to Kfar Saba.
Now you that you know me a little bit, I want to thank you for reading. Please feel free to contact me with any question regarding my work or systemic psychotherapy in general.
All the best,
Julia

Have you ever wondered why it’s so much easier to fight than to apologize and give a hug to someone? Actually, it happens to all of us. we get upset. Often we get far angrier at the people closest to us than at anyone else. How does this happen? This seems to be exactly the opposite to the expectation that our spouse, children and parents are the people who are supposed to make us feel confident and satisfied. They're the ones who are supposed to make us happy. And within this expectation is the answer to the question. All of us have a part which is soft and innocent; that just want to be loved and held. In all of us, there exists an inner child which yearns for their needs and desires to be understood and provided for without having to explain what they want.

We keep this inner child deep within ourselves. So deep that we forget it's there. And many times we don’t know that our misplaced feelings of bitter anger and disappointment, are not caused by the people close to us not caring, antagonizing us, behaving irresponsibly or not doing their part. But simply caused because they’re different from us, and act in their own individual manner, which sometimes means that they fail to recognize and identify our needs and provide us with the support which we so need.

What can we do? How can we overcome anger and estrangement and truly be together with our loved ones? The answer is – by taking responsibility. There’s no use blaming the other person and explaining to them how they’re wrong. Taking responsibility means taking a real and honest look at our feelings and our needs, and then starting a truthful and respectful conversation, in which each party tells about their own experience without accusations and without trying to explain to the other person how guilty they are and what's wrong with what they are doing. Also, of course, we need to understand that this process requires a lot of work, because relationships and family ties are a journey which is often as long as life itself.
The statue in the photo by Alexandr Milov from Ukrane.

Something my dear colleague and friend from London wrote and I am happy to share with you.