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Hey dear Soul
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Hello dear Soul,

If we, as adults, can gather the hurt that has been inflicted to us when it is in obvious matters, meaning with clear memories of traumatic or hurtful events, it’s much less accessible to us if what happened to us is a lack of…

Same as proving that something did not happen is much harder that to prove it did… this is the main issue of understanding the trauma of a neglecting mother.

Not only is it very difficult to point out clear actions that were abusive, the child who has grown up with a neglecting parent has been modeled to these kind of relationships being the norm. So how could he even realize that this is not how it is supposed to be.

But the consequences are very deep. A neglecting parent doesn’t bring emotional support to his child making the child believe that relationships are not about support. Not only does this child grow alone but he won’t search for support when dealing with difficult situations.

Children of neglecting parents tend to become over empathic as they become, even to their neglecting parent, the parent they never had. They tend to feel responsible and blame themselves for whatever attention or love they don’t get. Those children shut out their needs as anyway, they are never taken care of.

As the mother-child relationship is the basis of any other relationships, getting rid of the consequences of the traumas that occurred means the need of a total emotional reprogramming.

So not only is it very difficult for the child to realize what he’s been through, but even when he does, the healing process is often not about treating a trauma but is more about rebuilding everything from scratch.

Often, negligent parents, in order to justify their behavior will lie, make excuses, try to attract pity, blame others - might be the other parent, his own childhood or the child himself - which makes the psychological diagnosis even harder.

All of these reasons are the reasons why, as traumatic and detrimental as it may be, a negligent but present parent can be one of the most challenging traumas to point a finger on.

If this article resonates with you, I invite you to try to perceive your childhood not through anyones’ words but simply by analyzing your feels. Did you feel loved? (saying «I love you» is not love. Love is when your well-being is a priority). Did you feel encouraged? Did you feel protected? Did you feel that you had the freedom to be a child or do you feel that since very young, you needed to be responsible? Did you feel like you could turn to your parent for help?

If it’s not the case and you are going to therapy, I hope this article might help you open yourself into talking about your neglecting parent. From personal experience, I lost years in thinking that the problem was everything but what it truly was. In the case of emotional neglect, maybe even more specifically than in other cases, understanding our story is the key to healing.

Nb: A lot if negligent parents are NOT especially negligent with ALL their children. Often, these parents have a narcissistic profile and may have found in one of a sibling a « golden child ». Let’s remember that children growing up in the same family have very different experiences.

I hope these words will help you,

I wish to you a beautiful Monday,

xox,

Aline

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Hey dear Soul.

I hope you are doing well on this last Saturday of spring ✨

The post of today is such an IMPORTANT topic!

Did you hear about this theory saying that when something is bothering us… it’s because it’s a reflection of us? That the bother comes from a place in ourselves that we are struggling with?

Please… DELETE this “theory” from your system.

Being what we may call an expert in perception, I always had a problem with this theory. There is something SOOOOO wrong with it.

Because what we see in others might have nothing to do with us.

It might be something that we already experienced in the past and learned to perceive and this is what we are reacting to.

Not to say that this theory is also, when projected back at us, a very toxic weapon to justify any inappropriate behavior.

Believe it or not. I had someone project me this theory related to a sexual abuse I’ve experienced…Yep…

Reality is that people perceive us as what they think we are. Their behavior towards us depends on who they are and / or WHAT THEY BELIEVE US TO BE.

So please… Stop questioning yourself when someone projects something on you or treats you inappropriately. It makes no sense to take it personally.

Yes. It is personal as this is how they perceive you but no… It doesn’t say anything about you.

The fact that it is personal allows you, if it’s worth it, to set the record straight and express your truth, your reality or you perception. And for that matter, it is extremely important not to dress yourself up with the distorted lens they see you through.

Today especially, as this false mirroring theory that goes around is so toxic, I for once truly encourage you to share this post. Destructing false beliefs is super important and especially the ones that insidiously induce self-doubt and self-questioning where there shouldn’t be.

I wish you a beautiful weekend
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xox,

Aline

Hey dears. Hope you are doing well. It’s been some time and I decided to come back with a post intended to help you make the most of your profile pictures.

Ourdays, our pictures are essential.
As much as we want them to be beautiful, pictures tell a story and a very important one as it became our entrance pass when we are searching for love/work online. The right set of pictures can make it or break it. If our pictures don’t attract the eye, the story ends there.

So here are a few tips:

Are your pictures representative of you?
There’s a difference between beautiful pictures and good pictures. Often people think about putting beautiful pictures online but what we truly need are good pictures.

What is a good picture?
A good picture is a picture that truly represents you. If after seeing your pictures, people can’t recognize you in the streets, it’s not a good picture. But a good picture should also reveal your inner self. Your colors. Because this is what makes you special. Pay attention to your cloth. To the environment. To the colors of the picture. To your position. Your expression. To the general atmosphere of the image.

Can I use the same profile pictures in my linked’in profile and in meeting sites?
Maybe some pictures might work for both, but the same way that we won’t dress the same for a work meeting as for a date, our gallery, and especially our main profile picture should be dressed accordingly to the type of meeting we are preparing ourselves to go to.

How many pictures should I have?
On linked’in, 1 good picture is enough. On meeting sites, I believe 5 pictures is ideal. It’s enough to have a clear feeling of someone.

I added you down here some profile pictures of me with the explanation of why and where they are the most adapted to.

I hope these tips are helpful. Feel free to add any question you may have in the comments.

Aline Frisch

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Good morning ✨☀️✨

I hope you are all having a great weekend.

I thought it was time to talk about one of the subjects I know particularly well due to my particularity. I perceive SouLs. And I wanna share it with you because you can learn from it :)

You might think that seeing SoulLs is great. In fact, it’s not really. It’s very helpful in my work but in my personal life, it’s quite disturbing. Because what I see is potential while what I am dealing with is ego.

Let me explain.

Our SouL is an energy that runs through us. It’s the energy we were born with. Our electric wavelength if you will.

We mainly don’t perceive our own SouL because what we experience is our ego - not in the negative sense of the word (like in egomaniac) but in it’s true meaning.

Our ego is like a shield that we create during our life. It’s created as a protection to our SouL and is shaped according to the experiences we went through. It usually starts to form itself around 7-8 years old.

What we experience in our daily life is our ego. It’s the one that gets angry, frustrated, needy, hurt… that reacts to external factors. And this is the one we are trying to heal.

So in fact we can say that we are all living with 2 people inside of us (at least…🤣). One is our SouL and the other one is our Ego.

The more we feel free and secure, the more our SouL shines through. The more we feel uncomfortable and in lack of security and love, the more our ego is in the front.

Ideally, we should be able to live our SouL. By learning to know our ego, we can slowly peal it off, thin it and allow our inner light - our SouL - to shine through.

This is the true work of healing. Understanding our ego and lowering the need of its protection to get access to our essence: Our SouL.

I hope this is clear and helpful to you. Please let me know ✨☀️✨

I use my special perception when I treat, and this allows me to very quickly and effectively help you. So if you struggle, if you are at a crossroad in your life, if you feel stuck… feel free to contact me. I am available worldwide through video conferences.

I wish you a peaceful or crazy Sunday… Whatever your SouL feels like 🤩

Xox,

Aline

✨Good morning dears✨

Are you ready for one of the most important post I ever made?

Today we are talking about what keeps most of us from evolving in the direction of true happiness. And how do we get on the right track?

We all know by now that what keeps us from happiness is in ourselves, but what does it mean? And how do we change?

So here it is…

We tend to makeup stories in our head when we are uncomfortable about a situation. We are rarely the vilain of the story. And even if we are, somehow the story let us keep face. It’s a classic way to calm the stress and push away the feeling of shame. It’s an ordinary emotional behavior.

Growth starts when we open ourself to question these stories.

It would be easy to think that it’s more comfortable not to question these as they keep us emotionally safe but in fact they are not.

Believing in those stories keeps us stuck. This is when we get into repetitive cycles. The never ending frustrating story!

Keeping up these stories create a mental distress that does not go away. With time, we drown under the internal pressure of stress and self hate. We get into a cycle in which we distance ourselves from our true self and keep up with a perfunctory happiness.

Being able to reinterpret the story might not be an easy task. We must be able to take the necessary distance to revisit what happened from a humble, non-judgmental observer point of view.

When it’s possible, a healthy honest conversation between the parts involved in the story may be very enlightening as it allows to get access to another perspective and maybe reevaluate ours.

Otherwise, a mental health specialist can help us to see what false belief we carry or which emotional protection gate us. This is my expertise. Thanks to my ability to read above words and through the vibrational quality of emotions, I can very rapidly perceive the story from a different angle. No need for hours of therapy. Just the true will to understand and embrace what’s going on. I’m available worldwide by teleconference. So if you need me, feel free to send me a pm.

Have an inspired day my dears ✨✨✨

xox,

Aline

Good morning my 💗

Ready for some amazing psychology?

Ivan Pavlov (physiologist 1903) studied the gastric function of dogs by analyzing their saliva.

Pavlov realized that dogs didn’t need food to salivate. Hearing the door opening at time was enough to create the same saliva effect than food.

To test his observation, he started to ring a bell right before food came in and soon, he realized that the bell created the same saliva effect than food, no matter if food was given or not.

The bell, which is in fact a neutral stimulus (the bell has no connection to food and does not create saliva) can easily become a conditioned stimulus (the bell is not just a bell anymore. The bell creates saliva) by repeatedly being associated to something else (food).

Neutral stimulus ( NS) become conditional stimulus (CS) by being used as unconditional stimulus (US) multiple times.

A traumatic experience can turn a NS in a CS instantaneously. Like, for example, if a person is attacked in a parking, chances are this person will fear entering a parking. The parking, which was a NS became a CS instantaneously by the trauma associated to it.

The higher the emotional impact is, the quicker the switch from NS to CS is created.

This “Pavlov’s effect” has since been used in multiple ways. Especially for therapeutic matters and, of course, by politicians and advisers in order to condition us to do what they want.

By associating a product/person/idea to other stimulus repeatedly, and especially emotional ones, we are conditioned/manipulated.

So a Coke is not just the brownish drink anymore. It’s red, icy freshness, youth, cool attitude... It’s not just a drink. It’s a lifestyle.

Can you imagine how many “made-up” connections we live with? How conditioned we are? How easy it is to manipulate us? How many automatic responses are inserted in us? How our unconscious is tricked?

I invite you think about it. You’ll be shocked! Awareness is the only way to resist. So pay attention to what u look at and to what u believe… question it! Is it a real belief or is it a conditioned belief? Does it serve me or does it serve someone else’s purpose?

Have an inspiring day ✨

How does life challenges impact you? Are you the «get up and go» or can any trigger impact you at a very deep level and put you down?

How comes that some people succeed to navigate through life without being drown by hurt when others are? How comes that the same experience can be experienced so differently?

I have friends that never drown. It’s not that everything is easy on them but nothing is difficult to the point that it brakes them.

I really wondered what is the superpower some have and others don’t. So I made a list of my friends and tried to find the commun theme. And this is what I came up with.

The main difference between the 2 groups relies in their childhood and to the care they received from their surrounding in their early years.

People that navigate through life with ease have at least one parent that embraced his role with warmth, devotion and attention. The parent was able to be sensitive to the child needs, physical and emotional. The child felt safe and secure. The roots of the emotional tree of this group of people is solid.

People that navigate through life with more difficulty all have this thing in common. As a small child, some basic needs were unanswered, the survival instinct got triggered and the feeling of security broken. The foundation of the self is then cracked and life triggers might be felt at a very deep level. The younger the lack appeared, the deeper the crack.

If you are from the 1st category, lucky you! You have no idea how lucky you are. I know that life might not always be easy on you but you have a solid ground that holds you and that’s your SUPERPOWER.

If you are from the 2nd category, I feel you. Don’t feel bad for experiencing things the way you do. Be tolerant with yourself. Don’t judge yourself weak. Trust me. You are not. If you survived until now it’s thanks to you. So be proud of yourself.

People of the 1st category might react hardly and coldly to the 2nd category’s suffering and distress, judging them as weak or problematic. So let’s just all keep in mind that we don’t experience life in the same way. Keeping an open mind and not judge ourselves and others is the only way to go.

Beautiful. For all you parents 💖💕💖

Dear Mum and Dad,

Please stick with me.

I can’t think clearly right now because there is a rather substantial section of my prefrontal cortex missing. It’s a fairly important chunk, something having to do with rational thought. You see, it won’t be fully developed until I’m about 25. And from where I sit, 25 seems a long way off.

But here's what i want my parents to know..

My brain is not yet fully developed

It doesn’t matter that I’m smart; even a perfect score on my math test doesn’t insulate me from the normal developmental stages that we all go through. Judgement and intelligence are two completely distinct things.

And, the same thing that makes my brain wonderfully flexible, creative and sponge-like also makes me impulsive. Not necessarily reckless or negligent but more impulsive than I will be later in life.

Please stick with me.

So when you look at me like I have ten heads after I’ve done something “stupid” or failed to do something “smart,” you’re not really helping.

You adults respond to situations with your prefrontal cortex (rationally) but I am more inclined to respond with my amygdala (emotionally). And when you ask, “What were you thinking?” the answer is I wasn’t, at least not in the way you are. You can blame me, or you can blame mother nature, but either way, it is what it is.

At this point in my life, I get that you love me, but my friends are my everything. Please understand that. Right now I choose my friends, but, don’t be fooled, I am watching you. Carefully.

Please stick with me.
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Here’s what you can do for me

1. Model adulting.
I see all the behaviors that you are modeling and I hear all of the words you say. I may not listen but I do hear you. I seem impervious to your advice, like I’m wearing a Kevlar vest but your actions and words are penetrating. I promise. If you keep showing me the way, I will follow even if I detour many, many times before we reach our destination.

2. Let me figure things out for myself.

If you allow me to experience the consequences of my own actions I will learn from them. Please give me a little bit of leash and let me know that I can figure things out for myself. The more I do, the more confidence and resilience I will develop.

3. Tell me about you.

I want you to tell me all the stories of the crazy things you did as a teen, and what you learned from them. Then give me the space to do the same.

4. Help me with perspective.

Keep reminding me of the big picture. I will roll my eyes at you and make all kinds of grunt-like sounds. I will let you know in no uncertain terms that you can’t possibly understand any of what I’m going through. But I’m listening. I really am. It’s hard for me to see anything beyond the weeds that I am currently mired in. Help me scan out and focus on the long view. Remind me that this moment will pass.

5. Keep me safe.

Please remind me that drugs and driving don’t mix. Keep telling me that you will bail me out of any dangerous situation, no anger, no lectures, no questions asked. But also let me know over and over and over that you are there to listen, when I need you.

6. Be kind.

I will learn kindness from you and if you are relentless in your kindness to me, someday I will imitate that behavior. Don’t ever mock me, please and don’t be cruel. Humor me-I think I know everything. You probably did as well at my age. Let it go.

7. Show interest in the things I enjoy.

Some days I will choose to share my interests with you, and it will make me feel good if you validate those interests, by at least acting interested.

One day when the haze of adolescence lifts, you will find a confident, strong, competent, kind adult where a surly teenager once stood. In the meantime, buckle in for the ride.

and.. Please stick with me.

Love,

Your Teenager
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By Helene Wingens
https://grownandflown.com/letter-from-teen-to-parents/

« What sports are you doing? « 

« Well… I don’t know…

Muscle work (I clean my house)

Dance (I put music on and move it!)

Cardio (I jump on a trampoline :)

Walking (going for a walk)

Including health and movement in my life from a natural place. There’s something very liberating in this. In just taking care of ourselves from a place of release instead of pressure. From a place of « I want to » instead of the heavy « I have to ». Feeling ourselves instead of imposing on ourselves. No diet to loose weight. No sports to look good. Not doing things to get things. Just doing them from a place of self-love and care. And this….We can hold on to for a lifetime 🤩 Try it. And let me know!

And if you want some cool relaxing nature vibes to inspire you, you are welcome to follow me on my private profile alinefrisch

Aline

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Time for a new self-mirroring session. Yesterday, all studio except the camera. These are iPhone pictures (no filter) most of them in portrait mode.

Picture yourself. Just for the fun of it. And to see that we have million faces... Never judge the way you look by a picture as it does not show the reality and in real life, we are never in stop motion. Nobody analyse you the way you do, cause even if they wanted to... they could not. Remember... people don’t care about how you look. They remember how you make them feel and the energy that shines from you. So put your energy on working on your inner world. This is what people remember you by ✨✨✨

Are you uplifting others? Don’t answer too quickly. Think about it.

Lately, I really needed support and I have to say that finding it was a real challenge. For month, I had no one to turn to. And even when I found someone willing to listen to me, I still got a sceptic look and negative vibes.

This is such an important message!!! Support others. Pay attention to your words! Be the one that builds and not destroy. Be the one that gives hope instead if killing dreams.

2nd image: repost from .love.and.light 🙏🏼💕🙏🏼

Aline

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