Raising Kids In Emotionally Intelligent Way

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"The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life."
- Confucius

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Raise your Kids - not in the way as common parents doing nowadays like being over protective, instant gratification of their demands, developing a scarcity mindset creating a deep sense of entitlement and many more.

Prepare them for a day when as a parent you are not around to take care of them.

You can not create an ideal future for them, you can prepare them for uncertain and difficult future instead.

Prepare them as an eagle does.

Raise your Raising Kids In Emotionally Intelligent Way .

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The fight-or-flight response, also known as the acute stress response, refers to a physiological reaction that occurs in the presence of something that is terrifying, either mentally or physically. Understanding the purpose of the fight or flight response can lead to greater insights into our own behavior when we’re stressed out. The fight or flight response is characterized by feeling bodily sensations of stress — for instance, an increased heart rate and faster breathing. You can feel a pressure in your chest as though something is pressing down on you. You may also have heightened sensory sensitivity — you’re more sensitive to sights or sounds around you.

All of this occurs to ready the body for one of two reactions to a perceived threat in our environment — to fight or to run (flight).The body’s sympathetic nervous system is the thing responsible for readying the body for one of these reactions. It stimulates the adrenal glands, which in turn trigger the release of things like adrenaline and noradrenaline. This is what causes the body to increase its heart rate, blood pressure and breathing rate.

When the threat has been removed — either by running away from it, or by defeating it through fighting — it can take up to an hour for the body’s sympathetic nervous system to return to its normal level.The evolutionary purpose of this response is obvious. In prehistoric times, a person might have found themselves in a situation where a quick choice has to be made. If the person had spent a lot of time thinking about it, they may have become dinner for a lion or other animal. The body’s fight or flight response, it’s theorized, took thinking out of the equation so we could react more quickly — and stay alive.As our bodies and minds have adapted and evolved to the changing times, the threats have become less obvious — and sometimes they aren’t even real. Today, our body can react to even perceived or imagined threats.

Virtually any phobia can trigger the fight or flight response. People afraid of heights, for instance, will not only feel an overwhelming fear of them — they will feel their body react to being in a high place through increased heart and respiration rates. Standing up in front of a crowd to give a presentation can do the same for some people — triggering the fight or flight response even though there is no real threat.Walter Cannon realized that a chain of rapidly occurring reactions inside the body help mobilize the body's resources to deal with threatening circumstances. In response to acute stress, the body's sympathetic nervous system is activated due to the sudden release of hormones.

The sympathetic nervous systems stimulates the adrenal glands triggering the release of catecholamines, which include adrenaline and noradrenaline. This results in an increase in heart rate, blood pressure and breathing rate. After the threat is gone, it takes between 20 to 60 minutes for the body to return to its pre-arousal levels. The fight-or-flight response is also known as the acute stress response. Essentially, the response prepares the body to either fight or flee the threat. It is also important to note that the response can be triggered due to both real and imaginary threats.Sensory nerve cells pass the perception of a threat, or stress, from the environment to the hypothalamus in the brain.

Neurosecretory cells in the hypothalamus transmit a signal to the pituitary gland inciting cells there to release a chemical messenger into the bloodstream. Simultaneously, the hypothalamus transmits a nerve signal down the spinal cord. Both the chemical messenger and nerve impulse will travel to the same destination, the adrenal gland.To produce the fight-or-flight response, the hypothalamus activates two systems: the sympathetic nervous system and the adrenal-cortical system. The sympathetic nervous system uses nerve pathways to initiate reactions in the body, and the adrenal-cortical system uses the bloodstream.

The combined effects of these two systems are the fight-or-flight response.When the hypothalamus tells the sympathetic nervous system to kick into gear, the overall effect is that the body speeds up, tenses up and becomes generally very alert. If there's a burglar at the door, you're going to have to take action -- and fast. The sympathetic nervous system sends out impulses to glands and smooth muscles and tells the adrenal medulla to release epinephrine (adrenaline) and norepinephrine (noradrenaline) into the bloodstream. These "stress hormones" cause several changes in the body, including an increase in heart rate and blood pressure.

At the same time, the hypothalamus releases corticotropin-releasing factor (CRF) into the pituitary gland, activating the adrenal-cortical system. The pituitary gland (a major endocrine gland) secretes the hormone ACTH (adrenocorticotropic hormone). ACTH moves through the bloodstream and ultimately arrives at the adrenal cortex, where it activates the release of approximately 30 different hormones that get the body prepared to deal with a threat. The sudden flood of epinephrine, norepinephrine and dozens of other hormones causes changes in the body that include:

*heart rate and blood pressure increase
*pupils dilate to take in as much light as possible
*veins in skin constrict to send more blood to major muscle groups (responsible for the "chill" sometimes associated with fear -- less blood in the skin to keep it warm)
*blood-glucose level increases
*muscles tense up, energized by adrenaline and glucose (responsible for goose bumps -- when tiny muscles attached to each hair on surface of skin tense up, the hairs are forced upright, pulling skin with them)
*smooth muscle relaxes in order to allow more oxygen into the lungs
nonessential systems (like digestion and immune system) shut down to allow more energy for emergency functions
*trouble focusing on small tasks (brain is directed to focus only on big picture in order to determine where threat is coming from)

All of these physical responses are intended to help you survive a dangerous situation by preparing you to either run for your life or fight for your life (thus the term "fight or flight"). Fear -- and the fight-or-flight response in particular -- is an instinct that every animal possesses.

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Pillars of Positive Psychology

Your preparation in life determines your success in life. Strategy is key to win in every event / situations. Your winning in life is a function of a sound strategy. A great future is a function of adequate preparation. Planning is not a transferable responsibility. Success is not a product of positive confession alone, a proper plan is also needed.

S -See your goal
U -Understand the obstacles
C -Create a positive mental picture
C -Clear your mind of self-doubts
E -Embrace the challenge
S -Stay on track
S -Show the world you can do it.

Planning for success is deciding in advance what should be done, why it should be done, where it should be done, when it should be done, who should do it and how it should be done. Planning is a written down list (goals) of arranged actions on what you intend to do and visualization accordingly. Plan your life continually. A plan must be written down for its effectiveness. Any plan not written down is a wish depending on luck.

Planning is what differentiates a failure from success. To avoid stress in life and your family, your life management (Economical, Social, Spiritual) is highly important. You must be a good manager of your life resources /tools (education, experience, family background, close circumstances) to avoid waste and leave a better place for others too.

Whenever we are faced with a problem, people following one of the 2 approaches:

1. Problem Domain to Solution Domain - This approach is really to start with spending time analysing the problem & then slowly moving to the solution. Essentially this can also be called "Staying with the Problem" long enough till you find a solution. We can also call it "Thinking"

2. Solution Domain to Problem Domain - This approah is really a more hands on approach where you start trying out solutions even before you understand the problem. Also called "Taking action" or "Doing"

Business Problems do need us to think before jumping to solutions. In startups especially one is always moving into Action mode, thinking is limited. This does increase the risk of failure. The following tips will help you ...

1. Live in the now.
You cannot change yesterday or control tomorrow. Focus on doing your best right now.

2. Seek support in nature.
Fresh air and sunshine are wonderful antidotes for depression and anxiety. Try out activities like hiking and surfing to establish a deeper connection.

3. Tap into your creative side.
Paint, draw, sculpt, sing or dance. If it gets the creative juices flowing, it’s good for your sobriety.

4. Don’t test your willpower.
Get rid of all of the alcohol in your house, including bottles “for guests” or special occasions.

5. Embrace change.
Change is good, especially when you are becoming a better person. Let go of the past.

6. Let go of resentment.
Focus on forgiveness; grant yourself and your loved ones forgiveness. Without it, moving forward is impossible. Reconnect with family and friends and make amends as needed.

7. Try meditation.
There is no right or wrong way to meditate. Choose the method that appeals to you. Meditation will help you quiet your mind and center yourself.

8. Don’t live in fear of relapsing.
Worrying about slipping back into old destructive patterns can consume your mind. Instead, focus on your strength in recovery.

9. Fend off loneliness.
Isolation can be dangerous. Spend time with family and friends who will support your recovery and provide positive reinforcement.

10. Use the 24-hour plan.
If a lifetime of sobriety seems overwhelming, start with a smaller goal. Decide that for today, you will not drink or use, no matter what.

11. Don’t put too much pressure on one short stay in rehab.
It takes more than 30 days to develop and nurture a solid foundation for sobriety. It’s something you’ll need to work on every day.

12. Be good to yourself.
Addiction beats you up. Now that you’re in recovery, treat yourself to a massage or a new pair or shoes to celebrate how far you’ve come.

13. Get active.
When your mind and body are engaged, there is less room for cravings. Go for a run in the woods or kick a soccer ball around with the kids. You’ll feel energized, alive, and best of all, sober.

14. Adopt a pet if you don’t already have one.
The responsibility of a pet will add more structure to your lifestyle, and the unconditional love that animals offer is truly irreplaceable.

15. Check yourself frequently.
With every decision you make, ask yourself: “Is this the healthiest choice for me right now?”

16. Give back.
Whether volunteering your time or your skills, helping others just feels good.

17. Be willing to walk away from stressful situations.
You have enough stress in your life. Learn how to let go of what you don’t need.

18. Create a gratitude list.
Each and every day, write down a couple of things you are grateful for. If you’re having a bad day, look at your list and remember how far you’ve come.

19. Clean your mental house.
Get rid of the negativity. Speak to yourself with loving, supportive, encouraging words. If this is hard, be kind to that struggle.

20. Create goals.
Always have a challenging goal in the back of your mind; something that pushes you to be better and reach new heights.

21. Don’t stress over discouraging statistics. You are an individual in control of your own success in recovery.

The Universe knows exactly what your needs. As much as you want to plan your life, it has a way of surprising you with unexpected things that will make you happier than you originally planned. He will make a way for you. He knows and cares, that's why sending help in forum of partner/ mentor/ motivators. Like "a relationship requires efforts from both the persons as a bicycle can't run on a single wheel likewise single sided efforts can't hold the relationship for long, the Universe is your other side success partner, don't wait without your contribution /efforts.

Prayers, blessings and good wishes do make a differences in our lives. Those who humbly attribute their success and achievements to the blessings of others than to their own efforts are more near to truth than those who get egoist about their deeds. A well said truth about our lives is we are all connected. The same spirit flows in all the living beings. If you are trying to do better than what others think/perceive of you, one day you will get to where you're supposed to be... On time...

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Understanding Purpose

A combination of Passion, Mission, Profession, and Vocation; The gift of Ikigai focused on

Passion = You love it + You are great at it.

Mission = You love it + The world needs it.

Profession = You are great at it + You are paid for it.

Vocation = The world needs it + You are paid for it.

Our life scripts are often encouraged and shaped by parents and other family members, whose life scripts were shaped by their parents and so on. In this way, we become a product of our family's history. Likewise, our scripts are also woven by cultural and national forces. Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them.

A fearless life plan should made in childhood, reinforced by parents / teacher justified by subsequent events and culminating in a chosen alternative. Sometime we create stories about our lives, what they have been and what they will be. This starts in childhood where we weave our perceptions of our selves and of the world around us into a narrative about what we can and will do.

A Life Script is a set of childhood decisions made unconsciously by a person in response to parental messages about self, others and world. These decisions are influenced by child’s perception and interpretation of happenings around him.

This explains why children brought up in the same home are totally different. These life scripts then continue to have a deep and unconscious effect on how we live our lives. They affect the decision we make. They shape our self-image. Experts say, our life scripts come from the messages given to us by our parents and other key influences in our childhood, both verbal and non verbal, as : Modelling- observing how others behave, Attributions -being told what we must be, Suggestions / hints and Injunctions- demands what we shouldn't do.

There are positive scripts that can be empowering, and there are negative ones that can severely limiting. The greatest power of understanding life scripts is in the ability it gives us to change them. Identify negative script, Change it with positive script and Practice.

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The acronym BEST can identify if you apply your strengths optimally or if there is space for improvement.

Fundamentally, it is vital to identify
your signature strengths first and then
concentrate on them. Keep in mind not to compare yourself with others. Rather see people who inspire or challenge you as an opportunity for growth (Buckingham 2019)

The following reflective questions can
help you sharpen your awareness of what stops you from maximizing your strengths (Buckingham & Clifton, 2020):

The following thoughtful questions can
help you sharpen your awareness of what stops you from maximizing your strengths (Buckingham & Clifton, 2020):

⏩ Have you taken the time and effort to
define your strengths?

⏩ Do you take the risk to shape your role to maximize your strengths?

⏩ Do you ever need to "apologize" for your
strengths?

⏩ Do you ask for support to work in
alignment with your strengths?

Remember: if you focus on too many
things at once, you won't be able to
achieve your best results. Ensure your
energy is on what you do best rather than your weaknesses. Give yourself and your clients a chance to shine and break out of the weakness-focus

What can you do to maximize your
strengths? Feel free to leave a comment
below.

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Understanding Self-discipline

Self-discipline is the ability to control one’s emotions, impulses, desires and behaviour. It is being able to resist the desire for instant gratification in favour of gaining the long-term satisfaction and fulfilment from achieving higher and more meaningful goals. It's no secret that the unhealthiest foods are the most addictive, this will allow you to feel like you have more control over your eating habits.

Your subconscious is the autopilot running in the background, allowing your conscious to think, learn and grow. You have to change your thoughts to change your life and, at first, you might resist the idea of losing your identity. There are different aspects to areas of mental strength for our young athletes to understand:

(Mentally Tough) The ability to overcome hardship and have the self-discipline to move forward with the right mindset.

(Mentally Sharp) The ability to have a clear mind and incredible focus during game time or stressful situations.

(Mentally Strong) The ability to control your emotions, using your mind to influence your physical behavior.

If you have any mental toughness, if you have any fraction of self-discipline; The ability to not want to do it, but still do it; If you can get through to doing things that you hate to do: on the other side is greatness. Successful people are in control of their lives. They possess the willpower, self-discipline and emotional intelligence to design a life they’re proud of and it’s because they take the time to learn how their mind operates and how best to use it to their advantage. Even when the culture tells me that I am a slave to my urges and desires, fasting reminds me that I have the ability to control how I act. It’s so easy to be great nowadays, because everyone else is weak.

Children born after 2000 in China are growing up with artificial intelligence and internet. Children not only have things like online classes at their fingertips, but can also ask smart robots if they encounter any problems they do not understand. They play Go with smart robots and chat with. That is to say, they live a very different and more digital life than their parents culture, life goes virtual, high-tech.

Most of their parents are post-80s who have been exposed to the Internet since they were students and now are enjoying the convenience of e-commerce, social media, and the sharing economy. If you think you are growing increasingly attached to online life, look at the younger generation, who are even more tech savvy.

Unlike those born in the 1960s or 70s, these internet-exposed parents pay more attention towards nature / to equal communication with their children and respect the culture as well as personality characteristics and choices of their children. However, there are potential risks as well, which require parents to pay more attention.

The inclination to use high-tech devices has led to a high incidence rate of myopia among increasingly younger children and face-to-face social skills are on the decline. In face of a more complex and diverse virtual world, the young souls may also encounter risks such as game addiction, cyberbullying, and online po*******hy. Therefore, parents should guide their children to strengthen social interaction, reasonably plan their time spent online, and cultivate their self-discipline ability, said experts...