Practical Christian Living Initiative

PROJECT TABITHA - ARE YOU AVAILABLE TO HOST US AS WE FEED & CLOTHE THE NEEDY?

🌹Do you live in an indigent area?

🌹Do you have your Church or Ministry in an indigent environment?

🌹Are you available to host us in the month of December as we feed & clothe the needy?

If so, pls click on this link https://forms.gle/yD8nhm45m6cFosyr8 or check in the bio, for Project Tabitha Hosting Form and let's work together if chosen.

WHO ARE WE?

PROJECT TABITHA is a bi-annual project(Easter and Christmas) since 2015 that reaches out to the less privileged /needy irrespective of age, gender, race or tribe.
In addition to our bi-annual events, we also reach out to the poor and needy at other times of the year to the extent that we are able to.

For more info, please go to www.pclng.org or send a message to 08173137189/08033315870.

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VALUES & CHOICES by Relationship Truths For Singles/Married Our values influence or dictate our choices. When about to take a decision on matters of great importance or less, the values we hold dear will come to play to budge us into whichever direction we choose. In order words, Values are very powerful and the right ones must be instilled in us and our chi...

Let’s consider Mr A who bought a new car (brand new or otherwise). It’s new to him and may actually have been sold as problem free which may actually be true . Although sometimes, even brand new vehicles have manufacturers defect however that’s not our focus. Whether brand new, second hand or otherwise, a car still needs fuel, water, oil to function well and I believe lack of either or putting in the wrong oil or fuel can damage the car extensively. So a brand new car needs to be topped up with fuel, water and oil periodically and diligently.

Same with our marriages . We come together as a brand new couple to do marriage together but still come into the marriage with beliefs and tradition carried over from our backgrounds and life exposures/experiences. All these will clearly need “marrying”and also we will require a regular topping up on love, communication, truth, support, respect, romance and every other ingredient that makes up a great marriage.

Good intentions don't make a marriage work. The fact that one has decided not to have a failed marriage must be backed up with action(s).

Love is an action word that must be exercised daily and in different and diverse ways. To this end, Practical Christian Living Initiative (PCLI) presents another Couples Dinner & Dance for all married couples tagged “Reigniting & Rekindling the Fire of Love” coming up on the 26th of Mar 2022 by 5pm prompt.

By the special grace of God, we have been building godly homes and marriages for about 15years and we know it’s time to take it up another level. Our Couples Dinner & Dance events are legendary and any couple who attends testifies.

We are very intentional. It’s not just another Couples program and it’s different. Testimonies abound from the dancing to the marriage building games, gifts etc it’s always an evening to remember.

This is specifically for any and every couple who wants to experience a better relationship. We look forward to hosting you .

Tinuola & Oriyomi Agbabiaka
www.pclng.org

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Lets consider a situation where Mrs G accepts a new role after a very long time of seeking employment. You are qualified and excited to be given the opportunity as this is a dream job and answered prayers.

Upon resumption, quickly discovers that there are a lot more is expected of her than was discussed at the interview. She is suddenly overwhelmed by the sheer magnitude of what her role entails and how to navigate and balance them. It’s either she gets better equipped or loses her job. Getting equipped entails going for short courses, acquiring more knowledge , retreats, seminars etc. She cannot afford to be let off.

Interestingly, there is Mrs G in a lot of us(male & female) . We look forward to getting married and for many believe they have finally met the man/woman that they prayed for but the wedding itself is just the beginning. Nothing could have prepared us for what we are confronted with in Marriage . From discovering your spouse, raising kids, Inlaws, relatives, work, ministry etc it’s hard , and it requires hard work. It is no joy that there are ready made agents of the devil willingly available to ensure the marriage doesn’t work. It’s either we work at it or be sacked🙄. God forbid

With expectations are heightened on both sides, and particularly for those in ministry attention can be easily shifted to minding the flock while neglecting the home.

Sadly, a lot of Pastors, Ministers homes are in disarray with no idea of how to get back on track. That is where we come in. By the special grace of God, we have helped hundreds of couples for the past 15years in building and rebuilding Godly homes by holding seminars, couples dinner & dance etc which focus on same.

To this end, Practical Christian Living Initiative (PCLI) presents the very first interdenominational Couples Dinner & Dance for Pastors, Ministers & Spouses “I did, I STILL do” on the 19th of March at the Lagos Oriental Hotel, Lekki

You don’t want to miss this. Limited slots available. It’s an experience and memorable time of your marriage waiting to happen. We look forward to hosting you.

Tinuola & Oriyomi Agbabiaka
www.pclng.org

Link in Bio.

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YOUR FAST & YOUR HOME
(A must read for every Couple)

Its the beginning of the year and a time when a lot of us have or will embark on a fast for many days or months depending on who called the fast or on whose authority we listen and follow.

A lot of instructions are often sent out about the mode, timing and duration of a fast with no mention or very few mention of how a fast affects a home and this post is for those who will fast and still maintain a godly home.

There is an assumption that everyone will fast or should fast otherwise, you are labelled at best not spiritual and with little understanding of spiritual matters but not necessarily so. Fasting is a spiritual exercise that is between you and God. Has absolutely nothing to do with who called a fast or it's duration. Your conduct as a spouse or parent will heavily impact on your fast and help determine whether you are truly fasting or on a diet.

The issues that come up during and after a fast in the home are some of the rea*ons I am writing this. Couples have been known to fight and quarrel over money, s*x, food etc during a fast! Some even keep malice throughout a fast😳. Some have spouses that are of a different faith or belief so it's important to know that everyone's circumstance is not the same however proper communication and request for support will ensure a smooth fasting period that will build the home and make your relationship stronger.

So BEFORE you embark on that fast, make sure you communicate and discuss the following with your spouse and ensure you are in agreement.

A) Ask if you are both going to fast. Some people are unable to fast due health rea*ons while some just don't believe in fasting. Others may do personal fast but don't believe in corporate fasting. And some just believe the fasting duration is just ridiculously too long. Whatever the rea*on(s) your spouse isn't fasting , you need to know. It's your business. You also need to communicate how long you will be fasting for. This is not the time to initiate a fast by insisting everyone must fast Remember, it's only God who can truly tell who is fasting. It's better to allow trust and transparency to reign in the home rather than have things done without your knowledge. Don't be deceived by the number of people who turn up at prayer meetings to "break a fast" . Sometimes, even the Pastor isn't fasting😜. Remember I already mentioned that some are unable to due health rea*ons. Fasting is not the way . Jesus is the Way.

Also, if your spouse is unable to fast due health rea*ons, DO NOT guilt trip them into doing so by asking them to claim it "by faith". Faith is an individual thing. It's your faith that will make you whole. My faith will not make you whole. I can't say this enough. Fasting is good but it's not a passport to making heaven .

😎 Discuss breaking time and type of fast. There are different types of fast- Partial Fasting, The Daniel Fast, Complete Fasting, Absolute Fasting, S*xual Fasting, Corporate Fasting, and a Soul Fast.

So which one are you embarking on? When do you want to break? What are the types of food that will help your fast? All these should be discussed especially between a couple so if a man needs to break by 4pm, a good wife will not begin to cook at 4pm so that the fast will stretch to 7pm.

In addition, the requirements of a fast especially if it's a Daniel fast may be increased housekeeping allowance because of the cost of buying fruits daily(no self respecting spouse should reduce housekeeping allowance because they are not eating three square meals please🙄😀).

Another challenge amongst couples is what they want to break the fast with. Men who say cook "anything" are usually not happy with the "anything" their wives present so say what you want😀.

C) Children- Are the children fasting? Are they old enough to understand what a fast is about or do you just want to put them under hunger strike because you are? It's important that adequate provision is made for the children so as not to traumatize them during the period of fasting. Food is good for a child's physical, mental and psychological growth. Don't force them. Even if they decide to join you, agree on an earlier time that they can break if unable to take it to the end. I pray a lot of parents will pay attention to this. Forcing a child to fast may also encourage stealing and lies. Trust and transparency is a better option.
Forcing our faith on our children inadvertently makes them long for worldly ways and embracing it with a vengeance believing the world is a better option. It's important that the welfare of your child(ren) should not be mortgaged on the altar of a fast. Fast or not, we need to pay proper attention to our children.

D) Praying together. Is it something you want to do even if one spouse is not fasting? Then agree on timing and do it. Both of you have the power to chase ten thousands as opposed to your one thousand so if it's something you can get your spouse to do with you, go ahead. It's to the betterment of your home. There is more power in both of you praying together in agreement. Either of you can lead and all the other party needs to do is say Amen. It's not a time to raise contentious prayer points or present your non spiritual/ fasting or unbeliever spouse to the Lord for salvation. It's a time to pray for your home, yourselves and children. There is so much more to ask from the Lord and by His mercies, He will answer.

E) S*x! A very important discussion for a fast. No wife should assume her husband will understand because he is a believer. A s*xually depraved husband is usually an angry one. Husbands too should not unilaterally take a decision on abstinence. It's a decision to be taken by both parties. Ask if it will happen at all throughout the fast and if it will, when. Timing is key. Agree, agree, agree. Refrain from ungodly s*x positions😜. I want to say so much more about this but can't on print media for obvious rea*ons😁.

Lastly, your fast is supposed to build you up spiritually and by extension, your home. . Don't ruin your marriage in the name of fasting.

©Tinuola Agbabiaka
Jan 2022

A few months ago, we received funds from a donor with an unusual request - the money was a pledge before God and should be used specifically for shoes(our donor had promised her daughter same) .

Consequently , I put out a notice for anyone in need of shoes but despite the very many responses, none suited the purpose for which I believed was the intention of our donor. Some responses requested for new shoes, some more shoes , work shoes, other party shoes etc.

While there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more shoes, I knew that wasn’t the intention of the donor.

Prayerfully, we took a decision to reach out to students with no shoes and one of our partners, Mr Wale Aribatise connected us with a school that had students in need of shoes.

When we saw the students we knew we were in the right place. We were able to fit some without shoes, some with worn out shoes etc.

Our NGO - Practical Christian Living Initiative is a duly registered not for profit that majorly visits indigent communities where we feed and clothe thousands of people during the festive sea*ons. We also serve as a channel for donors who wish to meet genuine needs in the lives of others.

Our next outreach aptly tagged “Project Tabitha” comes up next on the 18th of Dec, 2021.

Will you like to partner with us? You too can make a difference in someone’s life. Every little helps.

Our account details:
0001989303 Practical Christian Living Initiative GTB.

Mission accomplished to the glory of God.

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S*X & THE SINGLE LIFE

S*x was designed by God to be practiced between two people in a married commited relationship so in order words, if you are not married, don't have S*x!

However, the reality is largely different. There is a massive drive for S*xual activity by Singles and it's not unusual to see a Single Lady pregnant or having a baby (nature is kinder to men I guess. No proof available😀) .

Part of the challenge may be for the fact that the married people mentoring Singles have the handicap of perhaps never abstaining themselves or married early😀. So they can't give what they do not have.

Join us as my guests and I examine this very sensitive topic and proffer coping mechanisms and how to avoid triggers.

Trust me, you don't want to miss it. Forward to every Single you know including your adult children.

Meet my guests:

1) Mr Tunde Onakoya is a Lawyer by profession, he is the Minister in charge of RCCG Powerhouse(a Young Adult Church).

2) Mrs Bimbo Dayo-Aiyetan is a Consultant /Pastor/Author. CEO, Zohar Consulting

3) Mr Newman Anaba is a focused, goal oriented Single young man whose passion is to affect humanity positively.

Do send your questions and we will address as many as we can on the day.

It promises to be enlightening, engaging and motivating. Don't miss it. Set your calendar for Sunday 6pm and follow on IG.

Previous shows are also available to watch on our IGTV.

I look forward to seeing you.

Please share with all your contacts. Thank you.

Please don’t forget to join in at 6pm prompt today. I look forward to hosting you. Thank you

Money, Dating & Marriage.

How important is money in a relationship?

-Does money make a man more attractive? 😜

-How much influence does money have in taking a decision on who to date or marry?

-At what point should a woman begin to question a man's source of money?

-Should a lady loan or give her boyfriend money?

-When is it okay to be transparent about one's income - before or after marriage?

-What are the conversations about money to be had BEFORE commiting to a marriage?

-Is it right for a woman to compare her husband to an EX ?

-Should a woman accept money from an EX who just wants to "help her out? "

-Is a woman obliged to let her spouse know every source of her income?

-Should a woman accept cash gift from any man except her husband?

-Is it total submission for a wife to hand over her paycheck to her husband?

When is the right time to "borrow yourself brain" when dealing with a dishonest spouse?

All these and more tomorrow as you join me and my guests by 6pm on IG Live : timelesswithTinu1.

Meet my guests:

1) Mrs Uche Ukuta is a Lawyer by profession and a public servant. . She is passionate about empowering women to be financially stable and confident.

2) Titilope Ibilola is a Debt Survivor & Zero Debt Advocate. She provides financial advisory to businesses on issues relating to accessing loans, loan restructure and liquidation.
She is author of Zero Balance; a book that chronicles her struggle with finding her financial balance.

Both my guests are willing to share their knowledge on the subject matter.

It promises to be enlightening, engaging and motivating. Don't miss it. Set your calendar for Sunday 6pm and follow on IG now.

Previous shows are also available to watch on our IGTV.

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S07E05 Relationships We are all relational beings and managing the different relationships we have is fundamental to us living productive lives in every area. It is for this reas...

Countdown to the Easter 2021 edition “ Doing good on Good Friday”. We will be visiting the indigent community of Dopemu (Agege) and Odonla(Ikorodu) on the 2nd of April with clothing and foodstuff. We thank our partners for your support through the years. You make all these possible by the grace of God. We are expectant and believe God for a glorious outing.

Please partner with us as we put a smile in homes- everyone gets a meal and clothing. We bring the true essence of Easter as we share abroad the love of God.

Our account remains 0001989303 Gtb and you may call 08173137189 or 08033315870 for more info. God bless you real good.

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Project Tabitha (Easter Edition) 2020 now PROJECT TABITHA FAMILY SUPPORT- PROJECT 500

We are in interesting times and there are lots of families unable to feed. They were barely feeding pre COVID-19 so we can only imagine what they are going through now. The very low income ones have their breadwinner as a daily paid worker is unable to work so the whole family suffers. Even those with monthly budgets are unable to meet up.because of the sudden rise in foodstuff. People need food more than ever and sadly a lot may die out of lack of immunity due malnutrition or even just die of hunger than the dreaded COVID-19.

We encourage you to partner with us and sponsor a family or more as we attempt to feed at least 500 families at this time. We realise that you may have reached out to those around you however , this is for strangers and those without relatives who can help.

We will send money to as many indigent families as we have the capacity for by the special grace of God.

Some of us are blessed and have the ability to reach out to as many homes as possible. Each home will receive 5000naira only. Our aim is to reach as many as possible

Please DO NOT send food items or clothing as we are not equipped to receive or distribute them
We will only accept cash donations at this time due to obvious rea*ons.

If you know of any indigent family that is unable to feed, please give them our no 08173137189 (WhatsApp only)

Let's not forget; "Mercy to the needy is a loan to God and God pays back those loans in full" Pro.19:17

You may choose to sponsor 1, 2, 10, 20 families etc Want partner with us? Do send a message to 08173137189 (WhatsApp only)
Account details : 0001989303 Practical Christian Living Initiative GTB.

We are a fully registered charity and have been feeding families for years with the help of our partners.
Pls visit our website www.pclng.org for videos of our previous visits to different communities.

We continue to meet needs of families and homes. May God who sees all and rewards accordingly bless us all.

Home - Practical Christian living Initiative PCLI is the result of a God given vision to Tinuola Agbabiaka – a lawyer by training and a certified relationship counsellor – over eight years ago which has manifested as an NGO whose core focus is to encourage strong and wholesome relationships both in the home and in the public arena.

S03E12 Getting it Right For Marriage We end Sea*on 3 of The Now Show by sharing tips on how to begin a successful journey that leads to marriage. How do you know when you are ready for that rela...

CREATED FOR MORE.....”DISCOVER YOU 2019”

Late 2017, I was very unhappy and in a confused state about life. I felt unfulfilled and thought there was more to life than where I was. I believed strongly that God had created me for much more than I was doing. I knew I had capacity for much more.

Although I was HEAVILY PREGNANT WITH LOTS OF IDEAS & PLANS, I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO BIRTH THEM. Very frustrating indeed.
I (erroneously) believed that I needed tons of money to move forward and since I didn't have any to spare, fulfilling God's plan and purpose for my life became virtually impossible. Clearly, I needed help but wasn’t too sure what form of help and from whom. I was tired of waiting and waiting for something to happen. I was tired of writing, I wanted off social media; I wanted to just crawl somewhere and....
NO, I wasn’t idle at all on the contrary, I was very busy and appeared to be doing great (no thanks to great pics on social media😀). And perhaps by some other people's standards, I was doing fine but not by mine. I wanted more. I wanted to do bigger things. I KNEW I WAS CREATED FOR MORE.... I don't play small and I was my own competition. While i got comments from people "you have no problems o. Let me tell you about mine". I became more frustrated. I have no idea who said the fact that one person's challenges are perceived to be bigger invalidates or minimizes another person's. Some even cut me short and said "you have a supportive husband ke, please don’t talk while we are talking". So when did being married or having a supportive spouse make all your issues disappear? 🙄 It didn’t help that I didn’t look unfulfilled at all. The beauty of the Lord was upon me and strangers will stop to admire me. I recall anytime I sent a pic of mine to my brother, he would say "hmmmm, sis you look like a million dollars. Nobody will believe you have issues ooo" Even when I had no makeup on aka factory setting😀, I was still being mistaken for someone half my age.

A former schoolmate ran into me after decades and insisted on knowing the body cream and moisturizer I use - she has been using same since then; buying bottles upon bottles (I am not endorsing them please so don't ask me for the name)😀. I ran into a former colleague who excitedly told me she has sewn all my outfits on FB and is impatiently waiting for more🤣 but I was unfulfilled! There was an empty space in me that needed filling quickly.
Then I ran into a former boss and felt I could get a lifeline so I asked if I could come see him and he said “of course, please come". Then he dropped the bombshell "I LOVE IT WHEN YOU COME AROUND....I ALWAYS LEARN SOMETHING NEW FROM YOU". I was shocked! I looked around to be sure he was referring to me. When he saw the look on my face, he said "oh so you didn't know? Even my wife said you helped her through a recent long stint in the states. She looked forward to your writings daily and that was what saw her through" I WAS DUMBFOUNDED!

He went ahead to seek his wife out that evening and made her confirm his words (btw, Mrs. loves me to bits and the feeling is indeed mutual😘). I recall he told her "you have to tell her how you feel and encourage her"
AND IT CLICKED! I HAD THE ANSWER & SOLUTION. OH WOW!
They didn't realize they were MIDWIVES helping me BRING TO BIRTH......They gave me what MONEY couldn't buy. God used them to propel me into the direction HE wants me to tow. Sometimes, in our confused state, we tend to fix our gaze on what we think is the only way forward (money or paid employment) but God sometimes has bigger plans which we need to be sensitive to as individuals. THEY SAW IN ME WHAT I DIDN'T SEE.....Yes, hubby said it often but I always waved it off as words of a lovesick spouse 😂. The mindset propelled me into 2018 and I found myself functioning relatively well in four different industries even though I was a "latecomer" in a few of them while still doing God's work but not allowing my home to suffer. God gave me the grace and made it possible. Indeed, in God's plan, there are no latecomers and overtaking is allowed😀. He also gives capacity for every assignment or gift.

DO YOU FEEL THERE IS MORE TO YOUR LIFE THAN WHERE YOU ARE? DO YOU FEEL YOU WERE CREATED FOR MORE? DO YOU FEEL STIFLED? ARE YOU UNHAPPY? ARE YOU READY TO WORK HARD TO PURSUE YOUR PURPOSE? ARE YOU READY TO RE-POSITION? DO YOU NEED WORK/LIFE BALANCE? ARE YOU READY TO WALK THE PATH OF SELF DECOVERY? Then, let do this. 2019 has just begun. You can DISCOVER YOU. Do register
https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeQ7aTUQrNA4BAc7tN973loOb9_ymoW8u2xI9hS9rdegEdjtw/viewform and let's talk.

2019 should not end the same way as 2018.

Tinuola Agbabiaka
Certified Relationship Counsellor & Professorial Therapeutic Counsellor
08173137189
[email protected]

Keeping quiet or away from addressing issues lead to various assumptions and misconceptions which drive us further apart. Make time out to discuss issues, difference of opinion or hurts. You may discover a lot were not deliberate actions but misconceptions and errors of judgement which can be easily cleared up with an explanation and/or apology.

Rocking the gift that keeps on giving...." God forbid that I should collect money from you" was what you told me about 2.5years ago when I called you to pick up a fabric for a special program that required a statement outfit. You refused to allow me to pay😀. You had picked the fabric way before I got to yours and your very warm reception I still recall with joy. Clearly, your fabrics are timeless as this outfit still makes a statement anywhere , anytime. So though it's not your birthday( your queens do not even allow person to greet you on the day sef😀). I want to celebrate your warm, humble and very generous self. I know that you are beautiful in and out.....My darling, thanks again for the gift. You are blessed and highly favoured and much loved by moi.😘😘😘😘😘

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You can't have a perfect marriage but can have a great one....a perfect marriage doesn't exist anywhere....

Yes, In good and bad times....you've got to pull through together or have one spouse be strong for the other....