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اس زندگی میں جس انسان کو پیدا کیا گیا، ہر انسان کا ایک مصرف ہے جسکو وہ خوش اسلوبی سے انجام دیتا ہے۔ آیا وہ اچھا ہو یا برا۔ میں کسی ایک انسان کا نام لینا نہی چاہوں گی جو دنیا میں تھا یا ہے۔ بس ایک مثال کے طور پر ضرور کہوں گی۔ کہ یہ میڈیا کی جنگ کئ گھر اجاڑ گئ۔ اور اس طرح کی بہت سی ایپس نے انفادیت پسندی کو جنم دیا ہے۔ ہمارے ہاں جو جتنا فحش ہے اتنا سراہا جاتا ہے۔ سوال یے ہےکیا اس معاشرے میں اچھائ کو اس طرح سے شہرت ملتی ہے جیسے کسی بھی اوٹ پٹانگ حرکات و سکنات کو ملتی حرگز نہی۔ یہاں وہ مرد اور عورتیں زیادہ مشہور ہیں جو معاشرے میں بد کرداری، فحاشی کو پھیلایں۔ یے ھیں میرے معاشرے کے معززین۔ لمحہ فکریا یہ ہے کہ کل کا انتقال ہوا میں اس انسان کو نا کبھی اچھا سمجھا نا آج سمجھتی ہوں۔ مگر کلچر کو فروغ دینے میں ان سب کا ہاتھ ہے۔ جب میڈیا پروگرامز میں رمضان ٹرانسمیشن میں ناچ گانے والے لوگ اسلام کے ٹھیکےدار نظر آیئں گے تو معاشی بدفعالی عام ہوگی۔ بات مختصر کرتی ہوں جو عامر لیاقت ساتھ ہوا وہ اس کے اعمال یا اس جیسے اعمال کی سزا ایسی ہوتی ہے بتانے کا ایک طریقہ تھا خدا کا۔ سیکھنے والوں کے لیے بہت بڑا سبق۔ کچھ لمحے کے لیے ذاتیات سے باہر آ کر دیکھیں تو ڈپریشن، دماغی جھنجھلاہٹ بہت واضح تھی۔ اگر ایسے ہی سب غلط طریقوں سے شہرت کی طرف گامزن رہے تو یہ سلسلہ کبھی رکے گا نہی ایسے اور بہت سے عامر لیاقت جنم لیں گے۔ اس قوم کو خود کو پہچاننے کی ضرورت ہے خدارا یہ کی دنیا سے بہتر معاشرہ بنانے کی کوشش کریں۔ جن لوگوں کو پر بلانے کی ضرورت انکا شاید ہی کسی کو پتا ہو کیوں کہ یہاں talent ویڈیو وائرل ہو تو مل جاتا جیسے ye hai talent Arydigital.tv calling out tiktokers because talent hai BOLTV calling out tiktokers khuda ka wasta hai is nasal ko kitna tabah kroge?

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That FEELING💯💫

HOW TO TREAT YOUR WIFE: It Also Affects CHILDREN's mental well-being because parents are the first teachers of their own children.

●Don’t shout at your wife when you are talking. It really hurts her.
●Do not speak evil of her to anyone. Your wife will become who you call her.
●Do not share her love or affection with another woman. It is called Adultery.
●Never compare your wife to another woman. If the other woman was good for you, God would have given her to you.
●Don’t ever allow her to beg you for s*x. She owns your body just as you own her body.
●Be gentle and accommodating. She has sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts her deeply when you are hash and irritating. Be tender.
●Hide nothing from her. You are now one and she’s your helpmeet. Let there be no secret you are keeping from her.
●Do not make negative comment about her body. She risked her life and beauty to carry your babies. She is a living soul not just flesh and blood.
●Do not let her body determine her worth. Cherish and appreciate her even till old age. ●Never shout at her in the public and in private. If you have an issue to sort with her, do it in the privacy of your room.
●Thank and appreciate her for taking good care of you, the kids and the house. It is a great sacrifice she is making.
●All women cannot cook the same way; appreciate your wife’s food. It is not easy to cook three meals a day, 365 days a year for several years.
●Never place your siblings before her. She is your wife. She is one with you. She must come before your family.
●Invest seriously in her spiritual growth. Buy books, tapes and any material that will edify her and strengthen her walk with God. That’s the best thing you can do for her.
●Make time to play with her and enjoy her company. Remember when you are dead, she’s gonna be by your grave but your friends may be too busy to attend your funeral.
●Never use money to manipulate or control her. All your money belongs to her. She is a joint heir with you of the grace of God.
●Do not expose her weakness. You will be exposing yourself too. Be a shield around her.
●Honor her parents and be kind to her siblings.
●Never cease to tell her how much you love her all the days of her life. Women are never tired of hearing that.

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship:

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language.
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes.
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other.

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.

- Lynne McCarthy

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TO DO💯

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Bloom like its your season, show what you got, you are unique in your own world. Show the world what you are capable off.💫

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How to manage stress these are some of the basics that can help people/patients/clients to deal with the anxiety levels😇

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Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder

کیا ہم واقع ہی آزاد ہیں؟
آج آزادی کے موقعہ پر کیا ہم نے خود کو ان منفی سوچوں کی قید سے ریہای دی، کیا منفی جزبات اب ہمارے ارادوں کو کمزور نہی کریں گے؟ کیا ہم حیوانیت کی قید سے آزاد ہو گئے؟ کیا ہم زاتی انانیت سے آزاد ہیں؟ ہم میں سے کتنوں کو آزادی کا مطلب پتہ ہے؟ سڑکوں پر لوگوں کے کانوں میں باجے بجانے کو آزادی نہی کہتے۔ آزادی ایک جزبہ ہے جو آپکی روح کو بھی محسوس ہو وہ آزادی ہے۔
آج ارادے مظبوط رکھ کر خود کو آزاد کریں اپنی زات کو پہچاننا ہی اصل آزادی ہے ❤
ہما آفتاب شیخ
A Very Happy Independence day🇵🇰
Long live Pakistan
Clinical psychologist
IG@psychosocialminds

میں صرف ایک انسان ہوں
Sinners Judging Sinners For Sinning Differently 🤏 lilbrains

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Hi, I hope you guys are doing great, posting for everyone
My days at bahria international hospital, lahore are wednesday, thursday and Saturday 3 to 6pm.
Soon i ll be having morning schedule too will update you guys once hours been finalized.
Scheduled appointments of the patients will be held on the same day as planned. Thanks
Regards
Huma Aftab Sheikh
Clinical Psychologist

Why force someone to stick around when they no longer feel it 💔

Why choosing someone you arnt happy with, cant be your support, cant understand, cant love, cant make you happy why compromising.

If Allah SWT has not chosen it then My Friend he ll just take away the Wish of even Having it.😇

The Moment You think This Is It,
Trust Me right there Is The New Start.
Experienced stuff.
Share Your Point OF View🖤

Alot of People have this question "Ji humein sakoon nahi milta or na khushi mehsoos hoti"
We dont find peace within ourselves nor Happiness.
I have a counter question instead..
Kia ap apne zameer ka Bhoj Uthaye howe hain?
Kia bohat se kaam aise hain jo uljhan ka shikar hain or ap un tasks ko bus pending pe rkhe ja rhe hain.
Kia apne kbi kisi ko dil se apna ap maar k khushi ya asaish dene ki koshish ki hai?
Kia kabhi us Khuda ki raza k lie kisi ka bhala kia hai?
Kia kabhi jis insan ko takleef di hai jane anjane mein kabhi maafi mangi hai us se?
And million of questions that I am unable to write.
Or jawab me majority sawalo ki Nafi(نفی) hoti hai.🙂
Ab khushi k lie zroori ye hota hai k insan khud ka dil behlaye rakhe ab dil Behlane ka hargiz maqsad ye nahi k bus nashay pe lag jae, parties attend kre, manmouji ho jae.
Is ka matlab ye hai khud ko un logo k sath involve rakhein jo apko waqe e quality time dein, apki tbeat ki chirhcharahat ko kam krein, khud ki personality development khud ki islah, khud ki pasand na Pasand ka khaas khayal rakhein.

Because personality has power to uplift, power to depress and likewise has power to make you bless.

Upar se in halaat me koshish krein ek dosre k sath waqt guzarne ki, asaaniya bantne ki.
Regards
Huma Aftab Sheikh

رمضان مبارک ❤
Dua hai us Rab e Kainat se K Allah tamam bimaron ko shifa ata farmayein
Sab k maa baap ka saya unke sir pe Qayam rakhe
Or Logo ki jayaz hajaat ko poora kre or sab k Gharo me afiyat o Barkat ki fizza chale ameen sum ameen ....💫

Absolute 💯

If you choose a working woman, you have to accept that she can't handle the house full time.
If you choose a housewife who can take care of you and manage the home completely, you need to accept that she doesn't make money.
If you choose a submissive woman, you must accept that she depends on you.
If you choose to be with a brave woman, you must accept that she is tough and has thoughts of her own.
If you choose a beautiful woman, you have to
accept expenses too.
If you choose to be with a great woman, you must accept that she is tough and firm.

No woman is perfect.
A woman has her own ′′ good thing ′′ that defines who she is and makes her unique.

- Unknown

One Day Little By LIttle you ll again cherish your existence 😊

Give yourself the same care & attention that you give to others, and see yourself BLOOM like a Flower. 🌸

When the world feels like an emotional roller coaster, steady yourself with simple rituals. Do the dishes, fold the laundry, water the plants do some art work.
Simplicity attracts wisdom. 💝




#2021跨年

Huma's Online_Clinical Psychologist and Counselor

! Wishing you a year filled with blessings of Allah. Happy New Year 2021! Here's to another year full of joy, laughter, success, and unforgettable memories.. ❤️

Shoutout to all men going through a lot, with no one to turn to, because this world wrongly taught our males to mask their emotions with some eccentric belief system and that strong means either go beyond the limits being too aggresive or being too silent and not letting it go out.
So what we need to teach our male kids from birth is emotional regulation how to appropriately show what they feel.💪



Huma's Online_Clinical Psychologist and Counselor

Sometime we all spend an insane amount of time over things wondering as to if we are doing the right thing or not. So many questions?? Right
But all you have to do is remind yourself that I'm doing the best in my capacity and that is more than enough until I'm not hurting somebody. ❤️


Huma's Online_Clinical Psychologist and Counselor

Su***de doesnt end the Pain, it just passes it on to someone else.
We think by ending our miserable life we will taste the freedom but in actually you are not stopping it there you have just ignited a whole new level of Pain that your closed ones will go through.


Huma's Online_Clinical Psychologist and Counselor

No matter what you do, someone wont be pleased. Someone ll think your choices are wrong and will tell you what you should do instead. No matter what path you choose, u ll feel someone is doing better they have more than you. If you are beinh true to yourself, none of that will matter because you'll have something more satisfying than approval, a life that feels right to you not to others based on your own wants, needs, values and priorities.
😇😇
Huma's Online_Clinical Psychologist and Counselor