Amaya Shiva Coaching & Astrology

Your attachment style shows up EVERYWHERE in your life- especially in the bedroom.

How soon you sleep with someone, what you do after, and how connected you are doing?

All relate to this.

If you jump in fast, and get pi**ed and withdraw when you don't get what you want...

If you take a really long time to reach out to someone..

If you don't want to snuggle...

If you fantasize about trips to Mexico after 1 makeout session..

If you've been single for 2 or more years..

If you feel like there is NOBODY out there for you..

Or you are waiting for your King or Queen to show up??

It's time to talk 🥰

Because you might be sabotaging opportunities for aligned, juicy connection, without even REALIZING it!!

Drop a heart in this post if you want to learn what to do about this...

If you are wondering..”why don’t I want to have s3x anymore??”

You are not alone.

One article I read said that 40-70% of women have low libido!

And part of what made me become a s*x and relationship coach is that I used to struggle with the SAME DAMN THING!

Or so I thought…

However, the truth of what was REALLY happening?

Might surprise you- and hell, it might even INSPIRE you..

Let me start at the beginning.

When I was teenager and young adult I definitely had a strong libido.

But I didn’t really like having s3x.

Weird??

Not really (more on that in another article, so stay tuned)

MANY of my clients report something similar.

As I entered my late 20’s and 30’s and years of marriage under my belt..

My libido all but disappeared.

I remember laying in bed crying, wondering how the hell I was going to fix this..

Fast forward 10 years and a divorce..

I was at my first week long workshop to help me unravel s*xual shame and trauma, and I was super nervous.

Were icky dudes gonna hit on me?

Was NOBODY going to hit on me??

As we went through the exercises, I had a MASSIVE breakthrough…

I actually have a very healthy libido

AND- I’m not ge***al pe*******on driven.

As I learned more and more about my erotic blueprint, I realized-

All those hollywood movie scenes where the girl is hot, heavy, and ready to go in an instant???

Had left me with a concept of how to get turned on that was COMPLETELY wrong for my erotic and intimacy blueprint type!

The truth?

I hadn’t been receiving the kind of attention and stimulation that worked for ME- I had been trying to stumble along by learning what some fictional characters on TV do…weird that it didn’t work, right?? Lol

This is why one of the BIG parts of the work I do with my relationship coaching clients in Austin, the Bay area, and globally..

Is help them unravel how to get turned on according to their UNIQUE NEEDS!!

Not based on some Hollywood fantasy that probably did more harm than good to your s*x life.

The REAL reason so many people have low libidos??

Is this 👇🏻

They have no clue what their sensual needs are because nobody teaches us this stuff!

The great news? This means your low libido problem could very well be-

A LACK OF RIGHT ACTIVITY THAT TURNS YOU ON!

Because I’ve seen the transformation in hundreds of people and clients first hand.

Clients who went from thinking they would NEVER have great s*x or feel safe in partnership-

To now having the best s # of their lives- after decades of marriage, years of mediocre connection, and feeling completely hopeless..

If they can do it?

So can you.

Your loving s # and relationship coach in Austin, TX, who is here to help you make your dream s # and relationship life come true!

Amaya Shiva

Falling in love with potential

Any of you have “the one who got away?”

I did.

We will call him B.

I met B while we were teenagers, and I had an IMMEDIATE crush on him.

We were both in bands, and over the years, played some shows together and would see each other out and about as part of the scenes we were in.

We also saw each other at University, and I would visit the building he worked in, hoping for a glimpse of him in the hallways, my heart rate always jumping when I did “happen” to run into him.

It didn’t lessen over the years- it got stronger.

One time we were both at a wedding and I all could think about was sneaking down to his room to find him and make out with him, my mind consumed with the fantasy of it all.

At one point, years later after my divorce, I told him about my crush.

He was SO surprised- and expressed that he had felt similarly.

We couldn’t believe it.

We started texting as friends, and eventually, it morphed into something else.

But here’s the big catch- he was living overseas

AND- he had a girlfriend.

When I let him know that for me, this wasn’t a game, and that I had real feelings for him?

He retracted.

I was devastated- and was REALLY clear that this was not going to work for me unless I could have more.

We broke off communication.

Time passed.

Eventually we came back together to the same pattern- first as friends, and then as lovers in the throes of unrequited desire.

Again I spoke my deep desires.

Again he pulled away.

Now, I have always been a sensitive, creative, and imaginative person.

What I came to realize is…

I had concocted a whole FANTASY that led me to fall in love with him.

But when I look at the cold, hard facts?

He had never actually showed up the way I wanted someone to.

Yes, he had great words.

Great words aren’t enough.

Nor is desire and a long term longing.

Moral of the story?

Don’t fall in love with the fantasy of a person-

Connect to what is ACTUALLY showing up for you!

Otherwise you will be left chasing breadcrumbs…

Trying to heal subconscious childhood wounds about “worthiness”....

Instead of seeing who is worthy in front of you.

Because now instead of seeing someone who got away??

I see how I dodged a freaking bullet.

This is what we are up to in this community❤️

Radical truth, radical self accountability, and radical SELF LOVE that doesn't let you play games or be breadcrumbed.

Your loving relationship coach,
Amaya Shiva

There is a secret reason that BOTH anxious and avoidant people feel stress around relationship…

Even though their behaviors might be completely opposite.

Now, how it manifests in their lives is of course very different..

One style tends to cling, staying in relationships way too long and accepting breadcrumbs..

The other style pushes away emotionally available people, often finding them to be “boring” and takes the course of hyper independence.

But the truth?

They both carry a deep seated fear of abandonment.

The good news?

This CAN be worked through.

Once you make all that unconscious noise in the background CONSCIOUS??

Then you can start to self soothe and move through the stories that kept you playing the same old games.

Because if you’re here?

You’re ready for something different.

You’re ready for quality, deep, embodied love.

It’s time to get your nervous system ready to receive it.

Because until then?

You will push away every great option OR cling to s**tty partners that don’t truly nourish you.

No thanks!

There is a MUCH better way.

Your loving relationship coach,
Amaya Shiva

Is “casual s*x” good or bad??
🧐
Here are my thoughts…

First, here’s how Oxford Language Dictionary defines it

“s*xual activity between people who are not established s*xual partners or do not know each other well”

I can accept that.

AND- I can NOT accept that “casual” is ever a word that can be paired with s*x.

Non-committal s*x?

Totally.

One time only s*x?

Yup, also a real thing.

Occasional s*x?

Yup.

Why do I say that?

Because s*x, by it’s very nature, is anything BUT casual.

It is my belief that when we have s*x that there is an intertwining of our subtle energies with that of our partners.

For some of you, myself included- this leads to an energetic connection.

Energetic connections often lead to emotional connections.

In fact, one of the REAL reasons breakups hurt so much?

Is that your Aura or energetic field actually changes shape when connected deeply to another person, and losing that person means your energetic field has essentially lost a LIMB which it needs to regrow and repair.

You literally LOSE a part of yourself that then needs to regenerate. That’s why its important to regenerate your energetic field between partners- so you can come in WHOLE.

Because as humans, we fuse with one another.
Back to the main question- is it okay to have non-committed s*x?

That depends on you and the person in question.

If you are transparent, you both find joy in the exchange, and you are honest and clear-

Then absolutely go for it.

IF that is in alignment for you.

If NOT?

Don’t do it.

And- DO always treat your s*x and that of another person as divine, holy, and with reverence.

Because s*x is the most powerful, creative act on Earth.

Treat it as such 🙂

Let me know what’s landing for you 🥰

What is the WORST and BEST experience you've had from casual s*x?

I got the most incredible message from a client yesterday...

We met when she attended a Wild Women Rising retreat I hosted a couple summers ago, and a few months later she came to me seeking support.

"I have the most wonderful husband" she said,

"But I feel completely disconnected from him. I don't even really want to have s*x anymore, and I don't know what's wrong with me"

Nothing was WRONG with her.

She was just unpracticed at speaking her real needs, and was experiencing the weight of 1,000 small requests she never made because her inner people pleaser was ruling the show.

So we went DEEP into emotional release work, and helped her feel safe expressing ALL of her.

3 short months later?

She and her husband had the BEST s*x of their LIVES.

But that was just the tip of the iceberg

Because THESE are the messages I got from her yesterday...
eah...

Pretty freaking amazing, right?

The truth is- you CAN transform your intimate life with the right guidance.

My clients experience it on the daily.

It is truly the gift that keeps on giving 🥰

Because if you take the leap? This could be YOU in 6 months..

But if you don't? You'll keep getting the same results you have right now...

Which do you prefer?

Your loving s*x and relationship Coach,

Amaya Shiva

Want to know EXACTLY how to tell if someone is interested in you?

I was talking with an incredible client the other day, and he said

“Amaya, I really want to know how to read women’s cues so I can know whether to approach them or not”

I replied

‘Wow, you are clearly a gentleman and I can feel how much you care about respecting women and helping them feel safe! Here is what you need to know..”

Now before I tell you what I told him I want to share something that might be hard to believe…

Before this work of becoming a relationship coach and everything it took to get here..

I used to be TERRIFIED of rejection.

And when I saw guys I found attractive, you know what I would do??

I WOULD LOOK AWAY!

Uh, yeah, not a very good way to have men approach you, is it?

Back to my story..

‘Here’s the BEST way you can know if someone is interested in you…

You ask them.

Yeah.

Not the mic drop you were hoping for?

Here’s the truth-

You DONT KNOW UNLESS YOU ASK!

Because men and women can get shy, introverted, and even hide when they are attracted to you- so there is only one sure fire way to find out the truth.

Yup.

That thing you’ve been avoiding…
Asking without knowing the outcome.

The only CUE you should be looking for???

Is the one that comes from YOU that says

“Hey! I’m attracted to that person and am curious to know more!”

The rest? Is not for you to control, my love.

Your loving relationship coach,
Amaya Shiva

But at the same time?

My Higher Self was shining brighter in Her Divine Consciousness than EVER before.

Because I didn’t betray myself or make concessions.

I stood in my truth.

I stood in my desires.

I stood in my worth.

And I’m so glad I did.

Because when he walked away, he showed me the ways in which I had grown.

How I had become an embodiment of everything I teach my clients.

My capacity to be with grief. My capacity to go for long term instead of the quick fix.

THIS is what conscious connection is ALL about.

And if you’re ready for that journey?

DM me.

I’m here to help you through the fires and out the other side so you can be clear, confident, and magnetic for what you WANT.

Because you are WORTHY of healthy, secure connection, and deeply connected s3 # # # and intimacy.

But if you want it and don't have it?

There are some powerful tools that can help you get there.

Your loving relationship coach,
Amaya Shiva

Why is knowing your attachment style, important??

Because if you don’t know it.. You will make ALL kinds of mistakes.. And act all kinds of crazy (ahem, guilty as charged..)

Why should you understand ALL the attachment styles? Because knowing about them helps you understand yourself, your partners, people you date, and your friends on a much deeper level! This helps you when you want to connect, and it also helps when it’s time for moving the frick on!

Before I got into the work of supporting my clients in healing attachment wounding so they can have loving relationships with high quality partners, I struggled with anxious attachment wounding that had me doing all kinds of things that didn’t serve me.

Like what, you ask?

First mistake?

Staying in relationships waaaaay too long and ending up bitter and resentful.

Second mistake-

Having s*x waaaay too soon before knowing if the person you are sleeping with is a good match (because when you have s*x with someone, you get spiritually connected, it’s true)

Third, less known habit?

Exploding at your partner after building up secret resentment that they didn’t text you back fast enough, or get you the right snack, or whatever little thing sends you into a spiral because you have a hyper-vigilant nervous system.

See, each of the styles has a shadow, and if you don’t know yours?

You could be missing out on opportunities for powerful intimacy

AND

You could be selling yourself short and settling for partners who will never REALLY fulfill you.

Nobody wants that, am I right?

Your loving s*x and relationship coach,
Amaya Shiva

I was recently invited to a retreat in Austin as a guest facilitator for REWILD, and it was an INCREDIBLE experience. We got weird, yall, with 65 women from all over North America coming together to celebrate sisterhood in all its iterations.

We did yoni mapping, yoni steaming, prayed to the land, honored our ancestors, ate delicious food, sang songs, and sooo much more.

And that got me thinking…

It’s a strange time in the world where it is WEIRD and WILD to connect to your own body.

Am I right?

We tend to view our bodies as

-something to attract lovers
-something to adorn and dress up
-something to do work with
-something that is a real PAIN when you are sick and not feeling well

But we have largely forgotten that our body is a divine antennae, and is a host to trillions of other organisms that are working together for our survival.

Pretty freaking cool when you think about it.

It’s also a pretty clever tactic to get people feeling ASHAMED about their bodies and biologies, and trick them into believing that pleasure is bad for you, that your main measure of worth is your productivity, and that you have to EARN love.

One of the most profound experiences I’ve had was a ceremony in which a group of 50 of us took turns being living altars.

The altar group laid down, covering their ge***als if they desired, letting them be seen if they desired, and we would bow down before them as an acknowledgment of the incredible POWER these body parts hold.

They create life!

They bring or**sm!

Those are incredibly sacred acts!

The truth?

Reconnecting to your body and pleasure portal is a revolutionary act- but it really shouldn’t be.

It should be NORMAL.

Let’s normalize this TOGETHER!!

Thank you for being on this journey of making the world sane again with me… 🙂

Also curious- what’s the WILDEST thing you have ever done in the name of reclaiming your body as a portal that is sacred, sensual, and SOVEREIGN?!

Your loving s*x and relationship coach,
Amaya Shiva

There is a shadow side to being good looking that is NOT often talked about and is poorly understood.

And I’ve not only experienced it firsthand, I have seen it in my very attractive, successful clients who struggle with finding their person.

Some of y’all are saying “What on earth is Amaya talking about right now? Those people are LUCKY!”

Hear me out…

While most people want to be good looking and wealthy- if this is coupled with an insecure attachment wound?

You may struggle to feel like you can find the perfect partner… and here is why.

Really attractive people who didn’t experience secure love as children will feel a pressure that they have to meet someone who is “perfect”, or they will feel like they missed an opportunity and are a failure.

This is often coupled with projections from those around you who assume that because you are good looking, life has been easy for you.

You are pressuring yourself to find the “perfect” person, but you are secretly terrified of making a mistake.

This is a perfect recipe for avoidant attachment, loneliness, and a chronic string of short term partners.

This is also a recipe for chronic dissatisfaction in relationships.

There is a way through.

One that teaches you how to BE LOVED fully- without worry that someone will leave you when you get old, or get a wrinkle…

And one that shows you how to LOVE fully- without letting that sneaky voice saying “yeah, but look at their flaws” run your intimate life- one that teaches you how to EMBRACE others imperfections by learning how to embrace your own.

If you’re ready for that- DM me.

I can help.

I was talking to a girlfriend the other day who I hadn’t seen in a while, and she asked how my dating life is going 🙂

“Oh my god, the last date I went on was really great- we went to a really cute restaurant that my date picked out, and afterwards we went and spent time in nature and it was GLORIOUS! Oh, and did I mention he paid for everything, was super attractive, and a total gentleman to boot??”

My friend replied

“Wow! How did you pull that off?”

“Well, the same way I pull off every successful date that leaves me feeling s*xy, desired, and inspired- by letting my dates know before we meet exactly what I want.”

“Oh yeah? Like, what do you do?”

“I tell them I desire to be in receivership and that I love spending time with men who love providing for women. And I make it clear that while I fully respect everyone's right to engage with dating how they choose, what I am choosing is being cared for by my dates paying, opening doors for me, and being my masculine protector.”

She said

“Damn!- you actually say all that?”

“Yes, ma’am! I don’t expect anyone to be a mind reader, and this way I can make sure it’s a great fit for both of us”

She paused for a moment and then asked

“How did you get so confident that you can ask for that?”

Well truthfully? I have done a LOT of work healing limiting beliefs around

-my own self worth
-what I “think” I can have vs what I actually desire
-who and what I have to ‘be” in order to get what I want
-how to communicate consciously with respect for myself and others

This is the same framework I use with clients to take them from

-staying in relationships waaay tooo long
-dating guys/girls who treat you poorly because of an anxious attachment system
-having bad and boring s*x OR hot s*x with emotionally unavailable partners that leave you in emotional pain when they pull away

To

-connecting with highly aligned connections while knowing your person is on their way
-dating men/women who treat you as the Divine because that’s how you treat myself
-incredible, connected s*x that leaves you feeling valued with people who care about you and respect you the way I desire

If you’re ready for this?

DM me for a link to my upcoming Masterclass this Thursday at 7pm Central- but hurry! 91 of 100 tickets have been sold and this WILL sell out today.

Letters from India...an excerpt from my new book coming soonish :)

Sometimes I wonder what karma brought me to America, what pull in my past actions created the momentum that took me out of the lap of Mother India, where most certainly I have spent numerous lives, and dropped me into the rebellious lap of the United States, which in many ways couldn’t be more opposite.

Was it a desire for freedom that had me traverse space and time into a childhood with almost no boundaries that left me flailing for structure? Was I disrespectful to the strictness of my parents in a previous incarnation, thus sent to experience what the opposite of that is like? And what grace that amidst all of my chaotic behavior, my years of drinking, doing drugs, getting obliterated into oblivion, that somehow I have found myself at the feet of such high calibers of Saints- not once, but repeatedly in my life?

What grace in my past has inspired these wise beings to welcome me into their arms, even when I fail to do what they have requested of me?

I do not understand people who do NOT believe in karma- how else can you explain this chaos of circumstance?

This wild web woven beyond time and space, that the human mind cannot comprehend. People with no imagination believe that if they can’t conceive of it, how could it exist. People who have touched God, felt her breath whispering into their ears “Rise, my child, for you are the Infinite veiled in Form”- they understand that not all things can be explained within this limited construct called words. Ah, what a limiting experience that must be to be stuck in the world of mundane. Do not judge those souls who have not awakened their awareness of the Divine, but hold them in the knowing that their awakening is inevitable.

India has fascinated me ever since I saw the movie “Little Buddha” with Keanu Reeves as a 12 year old girl growing up in small town Kansas. I was entranced by his journey- what power must lay within that you would turn away from literally EVERYTHING the West holds high- Status, power, women, a beautiful body.. None of that could satisfy his Yearning for something greater.

What was this magical, dusty paradise where elephants and monkeys roamed the streets and strange men wore turbans while playing magical flutes that no cobra could resist? I wanted to go, to experience the wonders and strangeness and of this far away land.

It’s strange to me that we use only one name for a land that has such a diversity of culture, language, and religion. My Guru said it best when he said it’s really more like the EU- only colonialism could do something as ridiculous as a slap a line down around a Land with hundreds of languages (who knows the exact count), 8 different forms of Classical Dance, millions of deities, and think that it could thus be tamed.

But I won’t romanticize it either. India’s wealth is in its spiritual richness, its knowledge, its debate, its love for Guru and God. AND- it is a total s**t show to navigate.

My first trip to India was in 2013 with my then husband, and I was so excited!! I had visions of meeting mystic sages in far off caves, of seeing Lord Shiva in Form, of elephants and cobras and monkeys and all the thrills onscreen that had tugged at my heart and imagination. Surely this was going to be my chance for enlightenment made manifest!

What a rude awakening it was to land in Delhi and arrive at my hotel only to realize they had used pictures of the hotel next door for their online booking services. What bold silver tongues the clerks had! I was astounded and oddly admired the audacity they had to use their neighbors facade as their own, but far too tired to do much besides grumble about it and be led up to my room. The paint was peeling on the walls and it was dark and dingy, but my weary body didn’t care after over 24 hours of travel with no sleep to get there.

It was winter and surprisingly cold, so I plugged in my heating pad which I used to give my aching back some love at night, and went to sleep. Throughout the night I kept waking up to a strange smell of burning plastic, which at first made me concerned the hotel was burning down, but as it happened over and over again and no fire alarm or flames engulfed me, I fitfully fell back asleep. Alas, upon waking I discovered the REAL culprit of the odor that had plagued my nose all night- no, it wasn’t plastic burned in the streets per the sanitation customs of Delhi- it was my heating pad that I had unwittingly plugged into the wall without a convertor. Surges in electricity had caused it to melt in numerous places, and thus ended its life as anything useful, and my first night in India was complete...

Pic circa 2013 from the temple rooftop in Pushkar, Raj

Define what it means to have a spiritual attitude towards s*x 👇🏻

I've noticed there are some pretty big assumptions about what it means to be s*x positive and how people tend to categorize people who are comfortable talking about s*x.

I am a s*x positive person. For me this means

✅I believe s*x is a natural and beautiful act
✅I believe s*x is sacred and nothing to be ashamed of
✅I believe you can greatly improve your s*x life and happiness by learning about your body and what brings you pleasure.

However, I've noticed that people tend to assume being s*x positive means

❌You are s*xually indiscriminate and sleep around without care for peoples feelings
❌You will have s*x with anyone who wants to have s*x with you
❌You are weird and maybe bad to hang out with
❌If your partners hang out with s*x positive people, they are going to start sleeping around and becoming promiscuous

Now, I am a BIG believer of respecting other people and how they wish to live their lives.

If you want to suppress your s*xuality and and don't feel comfortable talking about it, that is your right.

But if that's you, you probably aren't here hanging out on my page.

I’m going to teach all about it in this 5 part spiritual s*x ed series…

For today, I want you to think about what you have learned about s*x growing up and how that has shaped your beliefs about s*x, and people who are comfortable talking about it and having it.

Which, if it was anything like my education in school

Was some perfunctory “this is how you get pregnant”

“Here’s how you use a condom”

“Sex can lead to STI’s”

Boy oh BOY that is sure leaving out a whole bunch of really important information!

Like

✅How to negotiate consent so both parties are clear and comfortable with what’s happening.

✅How to intelligently bring up your boundaries so you don’t get stuck feeling awkward about needing to stop something in the middle of a make out cause it’s going too far.

✅How to ask for what you desire in a way that respects both you and the other person.

✅How to make s*x a sacred, connected experience.

✅How to deal with getting stuck in freeze or fawn.

✅How to heal s*xual trauma.

✅How to heal s*xual shame!!

If you agree that these are important topics- please like and share this post!

And stay tuned this week, because I have some REALLY great content to inspire you coming up 😍

To reclaiming your s*xuality as something sacred, and to higher education around pleasure and your birthright to feel good with and in your body

I had one client who legit developed some psychic abilities of mind control where she could subtly persuade people to do what she wanted.. Which on the surface sounds cool..

But what's really fascinating about this Queen is she developed this as a response to feeling rejected as a child... and internally developing a massive fear of asking for what she wanted...

She was really uncomfortable using her voice to get her needs met...

Because that felt way scarier and intimate...

And she recognized how this habit was blocking her love life from truly developing in the way she desired..

How did I help her work through this?

Like with all my clients, we identified her internal "trigger" behaviors that let her know she had a need to express.

While I can't share her trigger, I can share mine..

When I feel disappointed or resentful, or have critical thoughts about someone or experience, this is almost ALWAYS a cue that there is a need to be expressed...

Or when I feel a little scared and start to get shy...

Want to know about some of the dope experiences I had because of overcoming this fear?

-Made out with the hottest guy at the party (multiple times)
-Got backstage parking for my mom and I at the Reggae Fest this year
-comfortable car rides where I'm a comfortable temperature instead of suffering through it because I don't want to be "too much"
-Dates with high quality men who are HAPPY to pay for everything.

and this is a small list..

As for my badass client I mentioned earlier?

She not only manifested an amazing partner..

She manifested a whole new LIFE in a magical foreign country.

And it all began with...

Learning to ASK for what she REALLY wanted!

Pretty cool, huh?

Wanna learn how to do this for yourself?

DM me for a free 30 minute session to see if I can help:)

with love from the sea in India,

Sarah "Amaya Shiva" Otto-Combs

Mental health struggles can become a tremendous block for dating and partnership.

Not because the mental health issue itself is a problem.

But because the person with mental health struggles often feels a deep, deep shame around it, and so they don’t want to talk about their needs or how to help them navigate the mental health issues when they arise

As someone who has struggled with generalized anxiety disorder, adhd, and depression to name a few, I know all too well how real this is.

And it can be super scary to talk about.

But facts- NOT talking about it?

Is the scariest fate of all.

Because it then isolates you.

It keeps a part of you hidden in a box.

It deprives you of the opportunity to let all parts of you be loved.

And to love all parts of you yourself.

There is no shame in needing support.

I have a therapist, psychiatrist, business coach, and 3 astrologers I regularly go to for advice.

Plus an Ayurvedic doctor in the US, and India.

I used to self isolate because I was scared that people knowing about my mental health struggles would somehow amplify them, or worse, that I would be ostracized for them.

In fact, I couldn’t have been more wrong.

The lone Wolf era is over.

For all of my neurodivergent peeps out there-

I see you.

I love you.

You are worthy of connection, partnership, and love.

You are worthy of support.

With love from an Ayurvedic healing center in Kerala,

Sarah “Amaya Shiva” Otto-Combs