Wildflower Wellness Center

“My ex would ignore me if he did something hurtful to me, then when he’d come back pretending like everything was normal, I’d ignore him until he took accountability.”

“My ex would claim he ‘wanted peace’ when I would show a hurt reaction to his abusive action. Then, I would say I ‘wanted peace’ when he’d be abusive and ruin good days with heartless action.”

Abusive relationships are like two pendulum balls swinging back and forth. The action causes a reaction, then the reaction causes action. The movement of both begin to look very similar. There’s just one difference: only one pendulum starts the movement.

This is why it’s so important to get out of these relationships bc you are pushed into reactions that make you feel abusive, crazy, and hurtful, and it’s 10 times more agonizing for you because this goes against your nature. You’ll find when you escape this dynamic and recover, you can enter a new relationship format where the pendulum swings are filled with positive momentum instead of destruction.

“Your ability to create the reality you want is directly related to your willingness to face its opposite.”

I’ve been accepted into the MSW program at IU! I’m excited for the pathway that will lead to becoming a licensed therapist. Due to this change, I will only offer wellness sessions on Friday. When I’m finished with my degree, I plan on offering therapy sessions in addition to the holistic services, including hypnotherapy regression and intuitive reiki. To check out the updated website, please visit https://www.wildflowertales.org

Have a beautiful day!

Thanks so much Tobie Hall for the beautiful lavender rose painting to add into Wildflower’s space. Your painting is the perfect addition!💜🩵

Our energy field is a system, just like the cardiovascular or gastrointestinal system, composed of an aura, meridians, & chakras. When you are in an abusive relationship or traumatic experience, your mind will disconnect from certain parts of that energy system because it is too painful to feel them or because you’ve lost belief in that part of yourself. Due to this, you can imagine your energy system has an illusion of black holes - areas of disconnection & dissociation. These areas commonly feel hollow, void, and empty. As a result, an individual will begin to externally fill these areas in externalized ways. For example, someone disconnected from their masculine energy might feel a need to have a masculine partner even if that person isn’t healthy for them. Someone whose self-worth in the solar plexus is disconnected might try to fill this space with temporary solutions that offer fleeting moments of self-worth, by means of shopping, for example. Someone might develop an addiction to temporarily fill these spaces in their energy system. All of these external behaviors reflect a way for an individual to have their needs met, which is why they are SO challenging to quit. Do you want to know how to quit these externalized, unhealthy ways you’re meeting your needs? Reconnect! Your energy system is still whole. Your mind has just disconnected to feeling certain parts of it. Everything you need is inside of you… right now. During Hypnotherapy Regression, I help individuals reconnect to the areas in their energy field they have “shut off” due to abuse, pain, trauma, oppression, or domestic violence. To schedule a free virtual consult, visit

Hypnotherapy Session | Wildflower Tales Wildflower Tales offers hypnotherapy sessions, life coaching sessions, distant reiki, tarot card readings, & karmic chart readings to help individuals blossom into their higher selves on the tale of their journey.

I have two available appointment times left until Sat, August 5th. To book online, visit www.wildflowertales.org ✨ The answers are all within you, but sometimes, fear, limiting beliefs, and trauma block us from finding them. Hypnotherapy and Reiki sessions are tailored to guide you safely through those blockages on your inner healing journey.

Happy summer.🌱

It’s hard to figure out how to build a sturdy relationship or foundation when you were never taught or shown. Keep trying - the failures and mistakes are the growth needed to figure it out, and eventually, you will. 🌱

Don’t forget to clap for yourself as well 🙌
We often don’t do enough of that.

❤️ Trudi Jane

Meme author: unknown

Trauma disconnects you & healing reconnects you.🌟🧚‍♂️💫

The reason talk-therapy can take years to provide benefit is because most individuals can only afford to attend once a week, or maybe even less. Imagine if you were able to become your own support system? Your own life coach or guide? Your own positive inner voice? This process takes place in the initial hypnotherapy regression session where you visually meet your inner-critic. The one that puts you down, judges you, criticizes you, and won’t validate you. Learning how to work with this “part” of you will allow you to heal that negative inner voice. And when that happens, you will learn how to parent yourself the way you needed. You’ll learn how to validate, affirm, and support yourself. When this shift happens, you most definitely will still benefit from talk-therapy, but now, you’re learning how to become your own inner therapist.🖤🖤🖤

To schedule a free consult, visit www.wildflowertales.org

Perfectly timed Moon from Mie Prefecture, Japan 🌙

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Narcissists and codependents are opposites on the same scale - low self-worth. Continue reading to learn more.

The empath or codependent has low self-worth. Sometimes, with enough external validation, they, too, don’t acknowledge their own internal wound of unworthiness, but typically they have awareness. These individuals are in a constant state of people-pleasing. Someone could intentionally hurt them and instead of caring about themselves,they will still only care about receiving validation from the individual who hurt them. This maladaptive behavioral response was formulated during childhood as their inner child was on a quest to receive validation from a parent for who they truly were, but never got it. Most likely, their parent tried to mold or conform them to be exactly like them instead of guiding them to find their true self. This is why they are so empathetic, intuned to even the slightest energy shifts, and might even turn into a chameleon, shifting into the personality of whoever is before them. All of this happens because they weren’t ever allowed to be their true self. Only ”same” qualities were nurtured while differences were stomped into the ground. Overtime, they associated differences as confrontation and to avoid confrontation, they decided to hide all their true authentic characteristics that might be classified as different. Due to this, these individuals do not feel capable. They feel shame for most qualities that represent them. They feel insecure about themselves. They feel like they are a problem.

The narcissist hides their low self-worth by overcompensating themselves in everyday life. Their underlying, subconscious goal is to always be the biggest, most dominant person in the room. They might or might not acknowledge the low self-worth. If they do, they’ll most likely engage in victimizing themselves to avoid consequences or repercussions. If they don’t, they’ll be in such a rigorous state of control that there is minimal flexibility within their daily life. These individuals will mirror someone in the beginning of a relationship to secure that relationship. They will initially engage in love-bombing to overcompensate their inability to emotionally connect. Narcissistic personality traits are maladaptive behaviors to get their needs met. That is their NUMBER ONE priority and what they fail to acknowledge is everyone else they’re negatively impacting or harming to fulfill this purpose.

Some individuals might have traits from either side of the scale that were learned from childhood.

💫The co-dependent gives. The narcissist takes.
💫The co-dependent people-pleases and adapts. The narcissist controls and could be rigid.
💫The co-dependent receives. The narcissist projects (literally all their faults or negative traits).
💫The co-dependent hides. The narcissist shames.
💫The co-dependent tries changing themselves because they inherently believe their personality is the problem. The narcissist does not change anything.
💫The co-dependent feeds on validation. The narcissist feeds on empathetic light.
💫The co-dependent gives everything they have. The narcissist expects all their needs to be met.
💫The co-dependent feels like they’re walking on eggshells. The narcissist is who says they are the ones walking on egg-shells (projection, remember?)
💫The co-dependent bears the entire emotional overload from this relationship. The narcissist stays in control, placing ownership of the good qualities onto themselves, while blaming the co-dependent for the bad.
💫Then co-dependent might feel like they’re dating two different people (one cruel, one kind) because their reality shifts back and forth between the truth and the lies. The narcissist only lives one reality.
💫The co-dependent feels guilt and shame. The narcissist feels none.
💫The co-dependent might be single after the relationship ends for a very long time to recover. The narcissist will be on tender within two weeks.
💫The co-dependent appears emotionally unstable and their addictions might drastically increase to cope. The narcissist appears stable and in control. Guess why? Because they are in control... control over someone’s life that they are ruining for the purpose of getting all of their needs met.

This is a toxic relationship. Both individuals suffer from the same root cause. Until you heal your low self-worth in an INTERNAL WAY, this type of relationship will continue to reoccur. And the treatment to ending this is learning how to fulfill your own needs/validating yourself.

I specialize in helping individuals recover from the CATASTROPHIC effects of these relationships. I guide co-dependents to validate themselves, grow their oppressed/repressed qualities, and find capability to fulfill their needs. When that combination happens, co-dependency ceases to exist, along with the maladaptive version of you that was drawn to this type of relationship. We’re drawn to what we need until it is healed.

Are you ready to heal? To schedule a consult, visit

Hypnotherapy Session | Wildflower Tales Wildflower Tales offers hypnotherapy sessions, life coaching sessions, distant reiki, tarot card readings, & karmic chart readings to help individuals blossom into their higher selves on the tale of their journey.

When someone initially lies about who they are (or mirrors), for the rest of the relationship, the person on the receiving end moves back and forth within their mind trying to maintain their original core belief they formulated about this individual. This causes cognitive dissonance, and eventually, that belief can split in two (a phenomenon known as splitting). This leads to a permanent state of imbalance, confusion, self-doubt, and major inner conflict. It is exhausting, depleting, and since the body’s number one goal is to achieve homeostasis - all of their energy is directed toward this.

People-pleasers, empaths, or co-dependents, will often mirror someone at the beginning of the relationship bc they were raised to believe that differences are directly linked to conflict. They might also be in a desperate place to secure the relationship due to fear of being alone, abandonment issues, or low self-worth.

Narcissists, or abusers, will also often mirror someone at the beginning of the relationship bc they either don’t have a true authentic personality or they are engaged in “love-bombing” aka overcompensation to secure the relationship so that they can have a partner to fulfill all of their needs.

Both opposite sides of the spectrum engage in this behavior. It is vitally important to move through your layers of dysfunctional or maladaptive behaviors (people-pleasing, codepenency, narcissistic behaviors, etc.) to discover the authentic form of you without these. And once that process has been complete, you won’t engage in this pattern or fall victim to it.

Truth and discernment come when you clear out the box in your head labeled “subconscious.”

If you are recovering from domestic violence or a narcissistic relationship, schedule a free consult at www.wildflowertales.org

An exited moment. Moon and firefall in California.