The Relational Couple
I teach Couples the relational skills needed to ensure their relationship withstands the test of time.
I was surprised by how many couples took action when my program went on sale last year.
They've since told me that they were watching and waiting. The sale moved them into action.
Complacency is a relationship killer.
Where will you be next year? Still watching and waiting?
Or will your relationship be in an entirely different place because you took action?
Join the rest of us who aren't waiting around for our relationship to change. Make it happen.
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Let's be honest, complacency is a relationship killer.
Let's start small.
I can understand not wanting to dive into my other options, because it's a big commitment.
But if watching my 2 hour mini course could potentially save you from having another 2 hour+ fight...seems like a no brainer.
I teach you the basics of communication and conflict management, with a few other bonuses, to get you out of the "fight funk" and into effective communication.
Join me! Use coupon code BIRTHDAY60 to get 60% off my "2 Hours to Better Communication" mini-course!
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Take advantage of my birthday sale!
If you've been curious about my coaching program but are more interested in learning at your own pace, then my coaching content is for you!
Don't worry I'm not offended. I recently took a self-governed course, that's usually taught in-person, to test my ability to teach myself some complex topics and I learned a ton! So I'm a firm believer you will get something out of it!
I have 2 other sales going on for my complete coaching package (with personal coaching from me) and my mini-course. You can buy my coaching package for 20% off (BIRTHDAY20) or buy my "2 Hours to Better Communication" mini-course for 60% off (BIRTHDAY60)!
I only do this sale once a year!
I can't wait to meet you! Or hear about what you've learned!
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Take advantage of my birthday sale!
If you've been curious about my coaching program now is your chance to buy it on sale!
Last year was super rewarding to meet and work with my couples who took advantage of my birthday sale.
For a few, the sale was the thing that got their feet in the door. And it was transformative!
My complete coaching package (which includes personalized coaching from me) is the most transformative option.
I work hard to provide corrective action and personalized feedback for my couples so your unique relationship can thrive!
I have 2 other sales going on for my content only (with no personal coaching from me) and my mini-course. You can buy my coaching package for 50% off (BIRTHDAY50) or buy my "2 Hours to Better Communication" mini-course for 60% off (BIRTHDAY60)!
I only do this sale once a year!
I can't wait to meet you! Or hear about what you've learned!
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Emotional intelligence matters in all relationships. But it’s especially important for long lasting relationships.
Stayed tuned as I talk more about emotional and relational intelligence.
Just because you use these regularly and no one has said anything, does NOT make them effective OR healthy.
Gain awareness into your own poor communication strategies and change your relationships…all of them.
No one wants to be in a relationship with a poor communicator.
Yeah, I said it. Truth.
Emotional intelligence anyone?
Conflict avoidance and pleasing are temporary solutions to long-term issues.
They only prolong suffering and push the relationship to a long slow death.
Learn how to communicate more effectively so you don’t need to use avoidance or pleasing to get by in your relationship.
Instead of saying all the things you don’t like, start asking for what you really need instead.
Underneath every complaint is an unmet need.
Are you brave enough to say it?
Here's a summary of the 10 Day Gratitude and Appreciation Challenge.
You may notice that most of the prompts don't include "thanking" them for something.
Expressing your gratitude and appreciation can come in many variations. Don't limit your opportunities by thinking expressing gratitude or appreciation means you have to thank them.
Chances are your partner will walk away feeling appreciated when you express positive qualities you see in them or positive memories you have.
When the positive is expressed, we feel seen, heard, and valued.
So make it your goal to express more positive statements to your partner. Unprompted by me.
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23/02/2023
DAY 11....WAIT you told us there would only be 10.
There is.
Day 11 is just something everyone needs to hear.
It doesn't matter what it's in regard to.
Just tell them you believe in them.
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21/02/2023
Day 10
You've made it!
How'd it go?
What was it like for you?
How has doing this challenge impacted your thoughts about your partner?
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Day 9
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Day 8
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Day 7
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Day 6! Almost there!
Notice today whether expressing these has been easy or if you've been resistant.
Are you behind? What's getting in the way of completing all the prompts?
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Day 5
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What does accepting your partner "as is" really mean?
Is this possible?
The answer to this (and all relational issues) is yes, if you choose to do it.
So the next time you feel the urge to criticize or judge your partner, instead ask yourself what it would be like to fully accept them in this moment?
What might that look like? What might you say instead?
Again, remember that acceptance isn't being a "doormat" or engaging in codependent behaviors. We are talking about relational skills.
Acceptance is a conscious choice.
Surrender and resignation are passive and promote a victim mentality.
Choosing to accept your partner, warts and all, is a conscious choice.
You must choose to do this and use language that supports this.
My “2 Hours to Better Communication” is jam-packed with content re: communication skills and conflict management skills, and an intro into relational skills. It’s great for those looking for a quick but effective jumpstart to change.
Or try my 12-week Couple’s Coaching Program which has a no-fluff approach to learning and mastering the above-mentioned skills. There are video tutorials, digital worksheets, weekly emails, and 6 face-to-face couples’ sessions! My 12-week program includes my “2 Hours to Better Communication” for FREE! Links in the bio!
09/02/2023
Valentine's Day can't save your relationship.
But I see a lot of people sure try.
All the focus on love and the "fairytale" parts of Valentine's day can motivate some.
So they buy the BIG thing or make some grand gesture to try to revive their relationship.
The only thing that can revive your relationship is both you and your partner working on it together.
With the same mindset and commitment to the process.
My couples aren't interested in the hail Mary attempt at fixing their relationship.
They want to proactively engage in the process.
It doesn't mean they are perfect, obviously. But they aren't waiting around until divorce is on the table to take action.
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Day 3
07/02/2023
It's important to take a step back and take an honest look at your relationship.
Are your thoughts about your partner positive or negative?
Analyzing yourself can help you to reframe your perspective.
I know it seems great to think your relationship issues are just because of your partner. But how you think about them impacts your happiness and satisfaction.
It's up to you.
Day 2.
30/01/2023
Relationships are full of ups and downs, but don't let negative thoughts get in the way of your happiness.
Make choices to combat negative thinking so it doesn't consume you!
What choices are you making in your relationship that contribute to your happiness?
Having a happy relationship isn't luck.
There are choices you are making everyday that either contribute to your happiness or contribute to your unhappiness.
Do you know what they are?
26/01/2023
Choose to be gracious or extend grace.
Grace isn't deserved.
You don't earn grace.
It's freely given (in its truest sense). Its an act of generosity.
Are there times your partner needs grace?
No doubt.
Are there times you need grace from your partner.
Absolutely.
Again, we aren't talking about codependency or enabling poor behavior by ignoring it.
Grace acknowledges there is a wrongdoing and chooses to forgive or show benevolence.
How can you show grace today?
Purchase my "2 Hours to Better Communication" mini-course to learn a few things! Check out the link in my bio!
And if you haven't already, you can join my email list so you aren't missing out on some juicy tips, insider knowledge, and entertaining info.
25/01/2023
Have you ever thought about how often you're telling your partner what you don't need or what you don't like?
Do you ever tell them what you do need?
"Ugh pizza again! I don't like eating pizza this often!"
OR
"I'd really like to try that new Thai place next time instead of pizza. What do you think?"
Now a food example is easy.
But what about this.
"You never take me out anymore. I wish you were the type of person who wanted to date me!"
OR
"I would like to go on more dates. Does that sound like something we could make happen?"
A simple shift in how you express your needs can make all the difference.
So instead of focusing on what you don't need, start focusing on what you do need.
Purchase my "2 Hours to Better Communication" mini-course to learn a few things! Check out the link in my bio!
And if you haven't already, you can join my email list so you aren't missing out on some juicy tips, insider knowledge, and entertaining info.
24/01/2023
The benchmark for success for most is whether or not conflict exists.
I hear it all the time. And most people's goals are to "not fight anymore."
But the reality is, research shows it's not about the existence of the conflict that matter, it's how it's handled when it does.
It's usually not the content that's the issue either, but rather the process that couples engage in.
This is where communication and conflict management skills go hand in hand.
Typically, if one's communication skills are not great their conflict management skills are going to suffer.
There are tools and skills you can learn to better manage the conflict when it occurs.
Are you willing to learn them?
24/01/2023
When we focus on the negative, we lose sight of the positive.
The positive is there. You must choose to see it somedays.
Letting yourself go down the negative spiral (or feeding the beast) traps you into a negative perspective.
It taints everything. It's like poison to your relationship.
So choose to see the positive. That's not saying to ignore the negative.
It means you must acknowledge both.
Check out my “2 Hours to Better Communication” mini-course if you’re looking for a quick jumpstart! Link in my bio.
Or book a call to find out more about my 12-week couples coaching program! Links in the bio.
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3350 W. Americana Terrace Ste 215
Boise, ID
83706