Attention to Living

When we weather the storm, we reap the rewards. Hard work: trauma work, self work, body work - it’s all worth doing. It makes way for the light to get in, and brings color back into your life. As the old stuff gets washed away, new life begins to grow. The flowers perk up. The vine inches higher. The fruit begins to ripen. The earth is soft and fertile. And sometimes, when you have the patience and awareness to look for it, you will see a rainbow.

Emotional unavailability in a relationship can cause great confusion and often results in feeling pushed and pulled by the partner who cannot provide secure emotional attachment. Here are some things to look for:
1. Can’t offer empathy for the other’s emotional distress
2. Avoids intimacy
3. Is often defensive
4. Is often unavailable
5. Avoids commitment; has great difficulty making/keeping plans
6. Displays a pattern of “leaving”
7. Avoids intimate discussions
8. Unable to follow through to the next level of; may not be able to even declare the relationship as a relationship
9. Claims the other is untrusting and jealousy as the end solution to a problem
10. Is often more agreeable after some break of time in the relationship

Remember to look up. Something very cool might be passing by you— which is very different than passing you by!

Releasing fantasy and illusion from your childhood is foundational to restoring your systems and your energy to YOUR original blueprint. Fantasies and illusions are crafted around trauma and in collaboration with your ego. Your ego will take your greatest wound and transform it into your superpower. This often leads to the dynamics of the parentified child. To learn more about time-travel and using your imagination for resolving trauma contact us at attentiontoliving.com

In our society, we have a negativity bias. We more often than not look at the perceived downside of a situation. We tend to notice when we feel poorly and less often acknowledge when we feel good. Trauma wires our brains to fear, putting us on high alert and making us hyper responsive to pain and potential threats. Invite yourself to do things differently today. Take a moment to stop and notice any sensations in your body that you like, and say to yourself “I like that. Thank you.” ✨

Neuro-linguistic programming is a psychological modality used to help us understand how our thoughts are programmed in our unconscious mind through language.

What if what we think we may be thinking or saying may not actually be what our unconscious mind believes we are thinking or saying? Such incongruence will certainly compromise your internal communication system.

With a respectful nod to Rene Magritte’s painting entitled, The Treachery of Images, Magritte challenges us to see that a pipe is not a pipe. It’s not a painting of a pipe. Instead, it is this thing we call a pipe, and for each of us that can mean something a bit different. For some, a pipe may immediately conjure warm feelings of a grandfather, while for others it may be a reminder of a dank and brooding place. For each of us, the pipe conjures different sensations in the body that correlate with associated emotions.

Learn more about language at attentiontoliving.com and how you may want to better understand it for healthy communication skills, emotional regulation, and increased behavior that best suits you.

Stop beating yourself up. Start saying “and.”
Allow situations and solutions to be multifaceted and open-ended by using the word “and.” Create possibility by reducing use of the words “or” and “but.”
The word “or” can keep you trapped in dilemmas, creating situations with finite variables, wherein you have finite choices, and you are limited by your own perspective. The word “but” negates what comes before it, engaging you in a habit of score-keeping in your own life. For example, “I went on a run today, but I also scrolled on tiktok,” implies that the social media time cancels out the run, as though there is then a neutral or negative outcome. When you utilize “and,” you create opportunity to see the full picture, beyond judgment, and you have access to more information. The social media time does not cancel out the run; they were both part of the day. By collecting the facts - “I went for a run and I scrolled on tiktok” - you can then decide how you feel about it - “and I feel okay” - and what you’d like to do next - “and now I’m going to read a book.”
Get unstuck with AND.

Are you waiting to be inspired or have you noticed that inspiration is everywhere? Everything about Luna's morning quail egg is beautiful. And then—it was gone!

Do you feel like you are on the outside looking in? Do you feel fragmented when others reflect how they see you? Are you a woman? A person of color? Are you young? Old? A white man? LBGQ? Straight? Employed or unemployed? Healthy? Unwell? No matter who you are, we all live in a polarized world. Our planet has a north pole and a south pole. We live in the day and sleep in the night. This results in seeing things as black or white, right or wrong, good or bad. Mind allowing yourself to become someone else’s projection of you. Or worse, strive for that. Leave the polarized thinking and embrace the full picture of who you really are.

Life is naturally magical.

Magical: beautiful or delightful in such a way as to seem removed from everyday life.

Studies show that people who are able to make meaning of difficult life experiences and integrate them into their life story and personal identity have better mental health. In the Attention to Living modality, we begin our work by identifying turbulent times in your life to date. What unfolds throughout our work together is a comprehensive understanding of how your experiences have shaped your brain, your body, and who you are. But you are not static - every part of you is adaptive. Together, we will integrate your experiences to create the life you want to live now.

Check out this interesting discussion about Bipolar Disorder that touches on the topic of Imposter Syndrome.

Podcast: Unmasking Imposter Syndrome: A Deep Dive into Its Origins and Impact Though not a diagnosis, there is still much to understand about Imposter Syndrome and how it relates to bipolar disorder on this podcast episode

Check this link out on Memory Care and Music https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EuIHStodfjs Know someone in memory care? Or someone who suffers from cognitive or physical health challenges? Music is an energy medicine for renewed meaning to live and connection with others.

Madeleine Peyroux | KNKX Studio Session On her last visit to the KNKX studios, singer and songwriter Madeleine Peyroux was debuting music from her then-upcoming album Anthem in a duet with pianist ...

Check out this link. It proposes creativity is necessary for humanity. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WRS9Gek4V5Q Ethan Hawks speaks out about creativity.

Can you accept that your job on planet Earth is to be yourself—your real self? Can you accept that when you do that you will understand how vital your creativity is to the healing of humanity? Begin today to be yourself. Outside the hyper-reality of our constructed culture, in the world of meaning, being your authentic self is really your only real job.

Give yourself permission to be creative | Ethan Hawke | TED Visit http://TED.com to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.Reflecting on moments that...

Super great group at the Attention to Living Quantum Energy Training this weekend. Great discussions on Quantum Physics, entangling with particles for manifestation, and the reality that everything is vibration! Talk about twenty-four hours of intellectual intimacy—this group had it going for sure. A true pleasure and lots of fun. Thank you all for bringing your all to it!

Every day we use our imagination to imagine what could go wrong. Imagine imagining how you'd like to feel in your life. Feel that for a change of scenery!

Accept what you are. Even if you stand alone. Even if you are seen. Our fundamental work as humans may be to release ourself from the restrictions of our culture that demand we be something other than what we are. Our life's work may be to become what we (already) are. Mind playing small. Go with your strengths.

The peony flowers are blooming. They are always so spectacular. From a spiritual perspective they are known to heal the deepest wounds. Flowers remind us of the natural unfurling of our DNA blue print—or bloom print! You can trust that flowers will bud, bloom, loose their form, return to their roots and emerge again. The same is within our nature. Let Peony inspire you to follow your true nature.

At Attention to Living we see the heartbreaking affects of s*xual assault. DNA testing is proving that America has an in**st problem. Please share and denounce this heinous crime to girls. Help others to recognize this abuse as a travesty to humanity.

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Want to better understand your sensitivity, your gift of empathy?
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Attention to Living Quantum Energy Medicine Training Level One!
There are a few live and virtual spaces left in the Quantum Energy Medicine training held Friday, June 14, from 4-7 and Saturday, June 15 from 9-4. Contact Tami.attentiontoliving.com to learn more.

While working with a client Bobcat appeared! The office is a busy place and Bobcat has never presented in this space before. I believe Bobcat came for my client. It was quite exhilarating! It is said that Bobcats embody ancient wisdom and when Bobcats shows up it is to share her wisdom with souls akin to herself!

This is fantastic!

Rediscovering Connection & Belonging | Mickey & Emma Rose Connolly | TEDxBoulder Division, polarization, and loneliness have become commonplace in our culture, while countless studies and statistics reveal that the costs of disconnection,...

Have you ever seen
anything
in your life
more wonderful

than the way the sun,
every evening,
relaxed and easy,
floats toward the horizon

and into the clouds or the hills,
or the rumpled sea,
and is gone--
and how it slides again

out of the blackness,
every morning,
on the other side of the world,
like a red flower

streaming upward on its heavenly oils,
say, on a morning in early summer,
at its perfect imperial distance--
and have you ever felt for anything
such wild love--
do you think there is anywhere, in any language,
a word billowing enough
for the pleasure

that fills you,
as the sun
reaches out,
as it warms you

as you stand there,
empty-handed--
or have you too
turned from this world--

or have you too
gone crazy
for power,
for things?

Mary Oliver
The Sun

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The friendship recession | Richard Reeves Why friendships are becoming rarer in America, explained by author Richard Reeves.Subscribe to Big Think on YouTube ► https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvQECJ...

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Erythritol: is it an issue for your overall + brain health? Erythritol, a popular "no-calorie" sugar alternative has been linked to higher risk of death, stroke and heart attack. But is there more at play?

https://medium.com/practical-growth/signs-weaponizing-parenthood-36ed0f8f9e25

The 5 most common ways we weaponize parenthood We can’t raise happy children if we hold them in resentment. If you want to build a family that thrives, stop weaponizing your parenthood.

https://medium.com/practical-growth/reduce-family-fighting-over-holidays-3fd4ae0b4f59

The best ways to reduce family fighting over the holidays Do you and your family fight every time you get together? These are the 5 best techniques you can use to minimize the blowups.

Let these habits go if you want to build happier families
Our family relationships are delicate. Protect them by letting go of these destructive habits.

Let these habits go if you want to build happier families Our family relationships are delicate. Protect them by letting go of these destructive habits.

The spirit of the holidays is rooted in love. Give the gift about the meaning of true love.

Give the gift about love this season!