Dr. Bill MacLaney - Psychologist

Will Going Back to the Office and Classroom Have a Positive Effect?
Bill MacLaney, Psy.D.

During the pandemic, adults and children alike engaged in more isolating activities, which included less face-to-face contact. Conversations tended to be held over email, social media, text, phone, and virtual meetings. While all have their place, today, we are feeling the push to have more face-to-face interactions – more gatherings, in-person events, and less virtual everything. Companies are ramping up “back in the office days” by asking employees to come into the office more often per week. For some, they do not see the sense of these policies. Human resources often cites employees feel that they can do their job just as well if not better from home. And most agree that many jobs can be done well from home. Also, a major point of contention during the pandemic was getting the kids back into school in-person opposed to virtual, citing that our kids need to learn to socialize and the classroom is the best place for it.

So why the push for the face-to-face contact if we can do our jobs and our children can learn in the virtual world?

The lack of face-to-face communication has been cited as a strong contributor to higher levels of anxiety and depression in society. The brief interactions in the workplace in the hallways and through the day as well as when our children are in the classroom, all contribute to a positive well-being. During face-to-face conversations, multiple areas of the brain are engaged. The Broca's and Wernicke's areas handle language production and comprehension. The fusiform face area recognizes faces, while the amygdala processes emotions. Prefrontal cortex aids in social cognition and decision-making, ensuring a holistic interaction and understanding.

Face-to-face conversation offers richer sensory input: visual cues, body language, and vocal intonations. From a brain perspective, this holistic experience stimulates a broader range of neural pathways than virtual interactions. Direct eye contact activates mirror neurons, fostering empathy. Physical presence enhances trust and bond formation through the release of oxytocin. The immersive environment ensures better memory encoding and emotional connection, making face-to-face interactions more profound and neurologically engaging than virtual counterparts.

Throughout history, the art of conversation has been integral to the fabric of human social life. It has been a fundamental tool for exchanging information, expressing emotions, forming bonds, and understanding the world around us. From a psychological perspective, conversation plays a vital role not only in the way we relate to others, but also in the way we perceive ourselves and our place in society.

Deepening Interpersonal Connections
At its core, conversation is a bridge connecting individuals, allowing them to share experiences, feelings, and thoughts. Psychologists have long emphasized the importance of social connections for our well-being. In the 1950s, psychologists conducted studies with rhesus monkeys, demonstrating that social isolation leads to severe emotional and cognitive impairments. Similarly, human studies have consistently shown that individuals with richer social connections tend to have better mental health, reduced risk of depression, and even increased longevity.

Deep and meaningful conversations, in particular, have been shown to foster a sense of belonging and connection. Individuals who engaged in more substantive conversations were happier than those who partook in mere small talk. The intimacy and depth of these discussions promote understanding and empathy, both of which are fundamental for nurturing healthy relationships.

Self-Reflection and Personal Growth
Conversations also offer an avenue for introspection. In the process of articulating our thoughts to others, we inadvertently engage in self-reflection. Genuine conversation – one characterized by active listening and empathetic understanding – can facilitate personal growth. By discussing our aspirations, fears, and beliefs, we not only help others understand us better but also gain clarity about our own identities and values.

Knowledge Exchange and Cognitive Development
From a cognitive perspective, conversations are invaluable for learning. Social interactions, especially language-based exchanges, play a pivotal role in cognitive development. Understanding emerges primarily through dialogue with others. Engaging in discussions challenges our perspectives, exposes us to new ideas, and hones our critical thinking skills.

Moreover, conversations often encourage individuals to articulate their knowledge, leading to a deeper comprehension. When we explain a concept to someone else, we engage in a process psychologists term the "protege effect," reinforcing our understanding and retention of the information.

Navigating the World Around Us
Our ability to converse also shapes how we navigate complex social structures. We can compare social interactions to theatrical performances, with individuals constantly managing their "front stage" and "back stage" selves in conversations. We use dialogue to negotiate our positions in social hierarchies, establish boundaries, and seek collaboration. It's a dance of give and take, where mutual respect and understanding can lead to synergy and coexistence.

The art of conversation, from a psychological vantage point, is a linchpin in the architecture of human social life. It facilitates deep interpersonal connections, personal growth, cognitive development, and effective navigation of the social world. In an age increasingly dominated by technology and transient digital interactions, it is imperative to remember and cherish the profound value of genuine, face-to-face conversations. For in these exchanges, we find the essence of what it means to be human.

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Quarantined? If your house is like many others out there in this pandemic, you have had a few "incidents of misbehaving" on both your kids and maybe yourself as a parent or sibling. Kids are going to misbehave. Knowing how to effectively handle your kid can feel overwhelming at times. There’s so much advice about what you should do that it’s easy to start feeling confused and unsure of your own parenting skills. There is not a one-size-fits-all way to parent your kid. The true expert of your kid is you. Part of becoming the most effective parent you can is to begin to develop parenting skills that combine your intuition, your strengths, and the values most important to you. Think of "parenting" as a set of tools in a toolbox. Some are "go-to" tools, some are speciality tools used for that "once in a blue moon moment,” and some just DON'T work for you. Figure out what works best for you and is effective on the behavior you want to improve.

This COVID-19 pandemic is not meant for normal parenting. No book or passed down wisdom has really prepared parents for this type of situation. Be prepared to exam your parenting each day. Take a few moments to figure out what works and what doesn't. Do this on an individual child basis as well. Talk to the other people that are sharing your parenting with you, whether it’s a spouse, older sibling, or other family members stuck in the house with you.

@ Clark, New Jersey

Quarantined? If your house is like many others out there in this pandemic, you have had a few "incidents of misbehaving" on both your kids and maybe yourself as a parent or sibling. Kids are going to misbehave. Knowing how to effectively handle your kid can feel overwhelming at times. There’s so much advice about what you should do that it’s easy to start feeling confused and unsure of your own parenting skills. There is not a one-size-fits-all way to parent your kid. The true expert of your kid is you. Part of becoming the most effective parent you can is to begin to develop parenting skills that combine your intuition, your strengths, and the values most important to you. Think of "parenting" as a set of tools in a toolbox. Some are "go-to" tools, some are speciality tools used for that "once in a blue moon moment,” and some just DON'T work for you. Figure out what works best for you and is effective on the behavior you want to improve.

This COVID-19 pandemic is not meant for normal parenting. No book or passed down wisdom has really prepared parents for this type of situation. Be prepared to exam your parenting each day. Take a few moments to figure out what works and what doesn't. Do this on an individual child basis as well. Talk to the other people that are sharing your parenting with you, whether it’s a spouse, older sibling, or other family members stuck in the house with you.

@ Rahway, New Jersey

Quarantined? If your house is like many others out there in this pandemic, you have had a few "incidents of misbehaving" on both your kids and maybe yourself as a parent or sibling. Kids are going to misbehave. Knowing how to effectively handle your kid can feel overwhelming at times. There’s so much advice about what you should do that it’s easy to start feeling confused and unsure of your own parenting skills. There is not a one-size-fits-all way to parent your kid. The true expert of your kid is you. Part of becoming the most effective parent you can is to begin to develop parenting skills that combine your intuition, your strengths, and the values most important to you. Think of "parenting" as a set of tools in a toolbox. Some are "go-to" tools, some are speciality tools used for that "once in a blue moon moment," and some just DON'T work for you. Figure out what works best for you and is effective on the behavior you want to improve.

This COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine is not meant for normal parenting. No book or passed down wisdom has really prepared parents for this type of situation. Be prepared to exam your parenting each day. Take a few moments to figure out what works and what doesn't. Do this on an individual child basis as well. Talk to the other people that are sharing your parenting with you, whether it’s a spouse, older sibling, or other family member stuck in the house with you.

@ Rahway, New Jersey

We are in this together
The impact of impact of COVID-19 can be felt by everyone. Every public event is being cancelled. Our daily stress relievers -- gyms -- are closed. The normal socialization opportunities such as shopping, eating out or parties have been shut down.

With no live events to cover, media sources are focusing on the Coronavirus pandemic, which could be further exacerbating everyone’s concerns. Fortunately, mental performance and mental health practitioners and organizations are helping to mitigate the effects of this extremely fluid situation through online support.

The emotional rollercoaster is real
In the midst of the current global crisis, it is normal to feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster; the constant influx of information, changes to daily routines, uncertainty with personal health and the health of others coupled with rapidly changing reports, is characteristic of the ups and downs of a rollercoaster. All of which is physically and emotionally draining. The first step in managing your experience is to recognize how you feel. COVID-19 is impacting everyone differently, and the impact it is having on you is completely normal and valid.

Some common feelings are fear, anxiety, loss, relief, confusion, disappointment, exhaustion, frustration, and anger. In cities and towns across the globe, mandates to stay home and socially distance may cause you to feel physically alone, however, you are not emotionally on an island. Plenty of other people are feeling just like you and it is important to stay virtually connected. Acknowledge what you’re feeling, identify those emotions, and work on trying to understand and accept them. Anticipate that your emotions will also likely change over time as the Coronavirus pandemic evolves. If necessary, talk to a professional.