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For a depressed mood, we often have to get moving, and think about what do we need to do (behavioral activation). For anxiety, our mind is moving too much, and we need to slow down and think about what do we need to do right now (mindfulness).

A couple at odds with one another come and consult me. While the husband is talking to me about his wife, I think what he would have said about her when they first became engaged. She may very well have changed since then, but in all probability not as much as her husband thinks.

Paul Tournier

Penn neurocriminologist Adrian Raine has found further evidence for the efficacy of omega-3 supplementation by conducting a meta-analysis of 29 randomized controlled trials. It shows modest short-term effects—he estimates this intervention translates to a 30% reduction in aggression—across age, gender, diagnosis, treatment duration, and dosage. Raine is the lead author of a new paper published in the journal Aggressive and Violent Behavior, with Lia Brodrick of the Perelman School of Medicine.

Showing appreciation to your partner daily is like building bricks in a strong relationship.

Use our free app Minute Mood to journal with your partner, and track mood and relational patterns to gain insight. Download the app in the Apple Store or on Google Play for FREE.

Expressing appreciation is known to make the biggest difference. Use our free app Minute Mood to journal with your partner, and track mood and relational patterns to gain insight. Download the app in the Apple Store or on Google Play for FREE.

What's the difference between a lawyer and a mediator?

What's the difference between a mediator and a lawyer? The mediator is non-coercive. Participating in mediation is voluntary – it takes two to tango. If one person cannot or will not participate for any reason, there is no mediation – and therefore, no role for the mediator.

Keep Calm and Carry On? - Blair Counseling and Mediation Photo by Monstera By Dan Blair, marriage therapist and family counselor The first half of this article reveals the anatomy of stress, and how we can respond to it. The second half applies what we learned about stress to parenting our kids. Hopefully you shall understand ways to help you and your chi...

Attacks by Panic - Blair Counseling and Mediation Panic attacks create what feels like unbearable bodily reactions. Perceptions is key to how it is experienced. Causes and risk factors should be examined.

Neuroscience Says Your Brain Craves 'New' For the Dopamine Rush, but Research Shows You Can Replace That Sensation Much More Productively New products and ideas can be attractive because they're exciting to discover. But they can also make it less likely you'll achieve your actual goal.

After a tough loss the loser is already stressed, with cortisol streaming through their blood. If you are the coach or teacher or parent don’t beat them down. If you are in conversation with yourself, stop beating yourself up. Research on professional rugby players found that watching what they did wrong after a game led to elevated cortisol and worse performance the next game. Watching what they did well had the opposite effect, a bump in testosterone and better performance.

Steve Magness

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Mediating with Your "Soon-to-Be-Ex" - Blair Counseling and Mediation An overview on divorce mediation, how to communicate with an "ex" about issues including parenting and financial decisions, and how to protect children.

Check in with your husband. Use our free app Minute Mood to journal with your partner, and track mood and relational patterns to gain insight. Download the app in the Apple Store or on Google Play for a FREE one month trial.

Anger is like walking around and talking to ourselves about ourselves all day long and thinking about how bad that person was and how good I was.

I have heard about the 90/0 rule: 90% of what happens right now internally is really about your past.

Fidgeting can help focus, if not too distracting for others:

The Body-Brain Connection: How Fidgeting Sharpens Focus Research shows that physical activity — even a little foot-tapping or gum chewing — increases levels of the neurotransmitters in the brain that control focus and attention. Learn how a subtle fidget may help block out distractions, fight boredom, and increase productivity.

Custody Mediation When You Can’t Afford a Lawyer A lawyer’s input in custody mediation can help you secure an agreement that is fair and in the best interest of your child. But a lawyer might be out of your price range. Luckily, there are affordable ways to get legal help throughout the mediation process. Legal aid Legal aid offices provide acce...

How I changed as a parent over time: (also on Successful Parenting Podcast):

https://blaircounselingandmediation.com/how-i-changed-as-a-parent/

How I changed as a parent over time: (also on Successful Parenting Podcast)::
https://blaircounselingandmediation.com/how-i-changed-as-a-parent/

"Bids" are requests for attention, and can be as simple and seemingly insignificant as one person saying "Look at that bird!" In a happy, long-lasting relationship, the partner would respond by looking out the window and commenting on the bird.

It's taught me to zoom in on a small detail in someone's life, ask deeper questions about it, and bring it up the next time I see them rather than just passively nodding along until I get to talk.

Use our free app Minute Mood to journal with your partner, and  track mood and relational patterns to gain insight. Download the app in the Apple Store or on Google Play for a FREE one month trial.

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