Marcela Chaves

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Drop your ideas below and let’s create some magic together! ⬇️

Being called
(Warning: this post contains triggering content)

I felt so much love and clarity, like if someone had unzipped me from head to toe and poured liquid love in me.

I asked God: How do I stop feeling angry at men and heal so I can get ready for my love?

His answer: You came here to help men heal.

During the ceremony every cell in my body knew this was true.

But it was after that my brain was furious.

My whole life I felt like I had always been hurt by a man.

I was molested at 3

My first boyfriend would threaten me with su***de attempts if I broke up with him, stalked me and ended up murdering the next person who he was with and went to prison.

My first time losing my virginity to my then boyfriend at 21 ended up in r**e.

I grew up seeing women at a disadvantage, they were mistreated, yelled at, disrespected.

I grew up listening to men talk about how they enjoyed having more than one girlfriend and how they kept it a secret from each other. How they decided on who was worthy to be a girlfriend or wife and who was just good for fun.

Women were only described as beautiful or ugly. Skinny or fat. Nice or bitch. Good girls or s***s. Loud or quiet.

I secretly wanted to be all the things that I thought the men in my family wanted and I equally hated them and myself for wanting to be these things.

There was so much anger.

But it was sweetly wrapped up in a quiet, nice smile.

A year later, during my second ceremony he said it again: You came here to help men heal.

Ughhhhh!

Later I rolled my eyes and shook my head in disbelief. I still couldn’t wrap my head around it.

Me (in tears) to God: But you know what they’ve done to me. I spent my whole life healing what they’ve done to me. How could you ask me this?

Then, a year later I heard it in the shower…




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¿Estás esperando a que pase la tormenta o aprendiendo a bailar bajo la lluvia? 💃

Vive cada momento, incluso en los días grises.

True success comes from finding joy in what you do. 🌟

When you love your work, success will naturally follow. 💪

¿Alguna vez has sentido miedo al enfrentar nuevos retos? 💭

La verdadera valentía es seguir adelante, incluso cuando el miedo está presente.

Comparte cómo superas tus miedos y sigue avanzando en tus metas. 💪👇

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💥asking for wonderful stories about how great sleep away camp is so I can handle this first week of no contact 💥

Today I am not the expert.

Today I am an aching mom missing her son while he is at sleep away camp.

Wondering how in the world did I agree to something where we cannot talk for a week.

I am missing everything and taking nothing for granted.

I realize how fast it has all gone by.

I came across this post that was two years ago.

Knowing what I know now, I wish I could go back and carry him for the 23 hrs. With p*e breaks 😂

I knew a woman who was always pushing her kids to the next developmental phase and then she was crying because she missed the younger versions of them.

I couldn’t fully understand that. Why not enjoy where they are in their development? And then miss what you were pushing for?

We rarely have to push. Our kids grow up. There is nothing stopping that.

And they will tell us what they need at every stage of their development.

I’m freaking proud of myself that I didn’t listen to those who told me not to carry my son too much.

I cherished every min of it. 

I am proud of all the women I have had the honor of working with and teaching them to honor their desires on how they want to parent. And learn how to tune out the noise of all the well intended opinions.

I’m proud of being able to learn to be proud of myself and not seeking external validation that I’m a good mom. I know this one is hard. Especially when we are being judged based on an old paradigm that to be a good mother means to sacrifice Herself.

I say F**k that.

For me to be a good parent comes down to 3 main things:

Love them unconditionally

Protect them and keep them safe

Teach and guide them how to be good humans

When you live like this, your life becomes the example.

Everything else is gravy.

I know this might sound dramatic, but not having contact with my son for a week is bringing up a lot of stuff!!!

Ok parents who out there can soothe my heart with wonderful stories of your kids at sleep away camp 🏕

This mama needs to fill her head with beautiful, funny and happy stories!!!

Let the stories roll in!!

Today is pretty much the last day of summer 🤦🏻‍♀️
It went by too fast!! When we got home Jacob just wanted me to hold him while he watched a little tv 📺 before dinner. Who else has little ones that just love it when you sit next to them?! 🙋🏻‍♀️

I told him I needed to make dinner so to find a happy compromise we’d pick a number and I’d set the timer. He said 23 hrs and I said 5 min.
We settled for 10min 😂 ⏰

2 love languages met in 10min:
-his quality time
-mine physical touch

Wishing everyone a great start to the school year ❤️

We always think we have more time.

Sometimes that’s the most dangerous lie we can tell ourselves.

I’ll call her later, we should hang out, one day let’s go on vacation....

I came to Colombia to see my cousin who had been battling breast cancer for 8 years.

I thought I had more time.

I got to see her once. And it never occurred to me that would be the last time i would see her alive.

I thought we had more time.

We were always busy.

Our boys are the same age.

We played phone tag these last months.

I’ve re-read all of our messages, feeling so much anger with myself that I didn’t feel a sense of urgency.

That I didn’t try harder.

I thought we had more time.

I don’t know who to ask for forgiveness?

I don’t know what to do with this pain?

She played such an important part in my life when I lived in Medellin.

I loved our friendship.

She’d was not just my cousin. But a friend who also could laugh with me at our crazy family.

We could laugh at ourselves and our own craziness.

At family gatherings we would hide so she could smoke a cigarette because she was afraid her dad would kill her.

I would tease her that she was 10 years older than me and still wouldn’t smoke in front of her dad.

But that’s who she was, she cared so much about everyone around her.

She was an amazing daughter, cousin, friend, wife and mother.

And life happened and we drifted apart.

That deep friendship turned into small talk. Which I hate with a passion. I fu***ng hate small talk.

And our last day together on this earth was the opposite of what our friendship once was.

10 feet apart.

Screen door between us.

Having to talk super loud because of a fu***ng mask.

Talking about the weather and her new puppy.

I crave closeness with the people that I love.

I replay that day and I fantasize about how I could have done it differently.

How I could have gotten closer. And not let all those barriers intimidate me.

I wish I had known that was our last day. I wouldn’t have fu***ng wasted it on small talk.

Before coming here, I had a dream that we were laughing and talking like we used to with her puppy jumping on us.

I really thought I had more time.

My one consoling moment, is that in spite of all the layers between us, I was able to stand in front of her and meet her eyes. The eyes I remember. She could see me. The real me. And I told her that I loved her. Those were my last words to her.

Pls pray for her boys, her husband, and all of us that she leaves behind that wanted more time with her.

Pls go love everyone you can. As much as you can, for as long as you can.

Go on that vacation.

Do the thing you’ve been afraid of doing.

Kiss

Love

Live

Dance

Play

Laugh

Cry

Just go do it.

Do it all.

Don’t hold back.

I love you ❤️

Peace IS the new SUCCESS 🌈⛅️

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I am so honored and excited to be speaking tomorrow at Take The Lead Emerges Virtual Retreat!!!! 🙌🏻❤️🎉💥

What a gift to be able to share with our community how to go from Suffering in Silence to Thriving during COVID.

I’ll be sharing what Suffering in Silence looks like, how I get myself out of it when it happens to me and how I’m helping myself, my loved ones and all my clients thrive during this time! 🥰

If you want to join send me a message so i can hook you up with a special discount 😉

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So excited to be interviewed by Temple Beth El of Hollywood for their show Nosh & Schmooze ❤️

Grab lunch and join us tomorrow as we talk about how no matter what is going on around us, we can always find a way to feel better, experience more peace, happiness & love in our lives 🙏🏻

See you tomorrow 🥰

Tomorrow at 12 pm EST, join Rachel Kaplan and Marcela Topf Counseling & Coaching, schmoozing about how to find more peace, happiness and love in your life.

Excited to watch these with my son 😍

Growth Mindset Videos: 10 Inspiring TEDTalks to Share With Your Kids Guaranteed to inspire kids of all ages, these 10 TEDTalks make the perfect jumping off point for opening discussion about growth mindset at home or school.

Thank you Jennifer Radnay for sharing this article! Such a great breakdown of how we can raise our kids to be good human beings that will also become good citizens. key points and good reminders (we all need them):
-Right now while we’re teaching them these skills it will Always be more work and take longer than if we did it for them, but the point is for them to enjoy the process and enjoy learning.
Today Jacob made his bed without me asking 😍
This is the part where the angels started singing and the clouds parted ⛅️😇🌈

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We spend so much time on planning parties, trips, shopping for gifts but how much time do we spend on DESIGNING the life of our dreams? I am so honored to share the stage on January 17 at the Ultimate Mom Conference-of the Year: YES WE CAN! I love that all the speakers are moms on a mission to make your dream/your version of motherhood a reality! We want to give each and every one of you our gifts 🎁 so you can up-level your life. Together we can CO-CREATE the life of our dreams 💃🏻 So excited for the magic of 2020 🙏🏻

Events – Yes We Can Moms!

Thankful for all the beautiful people in my life, my family, my friends, my clients & even the rascals that help me step into my growth 💪

Grateful for all of it!

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