Marcy Rothenberg-Romer, Family Law/Divorce Attorney

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As of December 1, 2023, I will be providing Unbundled Legal Services a/k/a “customized client services” or “limited scope representation , in addition to traditional legal services as I have in the past.

“Unbundled Legal Services” a/k/a “customized client services” or “limited scope representation” are when an attorney and a client agree that the attorney will perform some, but not all, aspects of the client’s legal matter. The client is responsible for handling any and all aspects of his or her own case for which the attorney has not been retained. This allows the client to choose the level and scope of representation he or she desires and provides predictable control over the cost of various legal services.
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My areas of practice continue to be :

I have extensive experience in dealing with cases involving parties who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well as other mental and addiction issues.


Divorce and Legal Separation
Ending your marriage can involve many legal conflicts, and we will do everything we can to ease you through the process.



Child Custody (Parental Decision-making) & Visitation (Parenting Time)
We are dedicated to helping Colorado families arrive at creative child custody and visitation plans. We will give you our undivided attention and take the necessary time to listen to your situation and provide solutions that are right for you.



Child Support & Spousal Maintenance (Alimony)
We have protected our clients' interests in child support and spousal maintenance (alimony) matters since 1981.



Marital Agreements/Civil Union (Prenuptial and Postnuptial)
We have over 42 years of experience in advising clients about a marital agreement in order to assist them in planning for the end of the marriage by divorce or death, knowing that they may be more interested in planning celebrations and focusing on dreams of living happily ever after. This now includes Civil Unions which have recently become legal in Colorado.



Post Decree Matters
We assist our clients in enforcement and modification of prior orders such as child support modification, contempt for failure to comply with existing court orders, ect.



Grandparent Rights



Paternity



Allocation of Parental Responsibility for non-married individuals.

Marcy Rothenberg-Romer has handled numerous cases over the last 40 + years involving both high conflict situations, situations involving amicable resolution and everything in between. These include dissolution of marriage, legal separation, contested and non-contested custody matters, parental responsibility matters, child support matters, dependency and neglect matters, high conflict matters adoption, same s*x marriage/divorce, pre and post nuptial agreements, ect. Marcy has expertise in the area of Narcissitc Personal Disorder as well as addiction issues and other mental health issues. She is very dedicated to representing each and every client zealously and making sure that the process creates the least amount of stress as possible on her clients as well as any minor children involved given the difficult circumstances. Marcy treats each case individually as no two cases are alike and makes certain that all the many deadlines are met. She is assisted by her paralegal Paula King, who is highly qualified, has great attention to detail and is always there for our clients to assist them with the process as well. Marcy is passionate about making sure each and every client is treated in a respectful manner given the difficulty of their circumstances.

Admitted to the Bar
Colorado , October 1981

Education:

University of Colorado at Boulder, B.A.- 1978
University of San Franciso College of Law, J.D.-1981

Professional Associations and Honors :
Honors:

Top Law Practices
The Legal Network- Top Lawyers in Colorado- 2016 and 2017
Lawyers of Distinction

Martindale Hubbell- DISTINGUISHED Peer Rated Review for High Professional Achievement 2017

Denver Bar Association
Colorado Bar Association
Denver Bar Association Board of Trustees
Denver Bar Association-Chair Young Lawyers Division
Outstanding Young Lawer-Denver Bar Association
American Bar Association-Award of Achievement-Stout Street Legal/Medical Clinic for the Homeless
Ordained Minister-Perform Marriage Ceremonies for all faiths
Denver's Top 200 Power House Attorneys- Denver Magazine

This is a continuing theme in so many of my cases. When will these parents realize that the revenge they think they are inflicting on the other parent, is actually resulting in irreparable damage to their children.

Counter-Parenting: When the unhealthy parent has so much hatred for the other parent that their judgement center is compromised, and their actions are driven by revenge and anger.

This person is unable to act in the best interest of their child and is unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

They use every opportunity to berate, chastise or make digs at the healthy parent.

They undermine the healthy parent by disrupting the child's sleep schedule, diet and routines.

They contradict established rules and withhold information.

Ignoring school responsibilities, projects and homework to create chaos for the healthy parent.

It's also using the parenting time schedule as a weapon and forcing custody schedules that are not in the best interest of the child.

The abuser is so focused on hurting and controlling the other parent that their actions directly affect the children.

As we approach Thanksgiving, I wanted to repost this . Hopefully, it helps you to get through the upcoming Thanksgiving season. Unfortunately, this year will be even harder for all of us since we aren't able to share big gatherings with those who support us.

Your First Thanksgiving After Divorce: 6 Things to Do to Get Through Navigating your first Thanksgiving after divorce will require some extra effort, but that extra effort will be worth your time and energy.

Good Morning-

I hope that you are all able to deal with this very surreal situation . I know how hard this is for all of us.

My office will remain open if you need my services in the next several weeks. We , including the courts, are trying to do as much work as possible remotely to reduce the risk to everyone. I am happy to conduct phone consultations, skype or Facetime meetings . All of our filings are already done via efile, so there will be no interruption in that process.

The courts have made it clear that if there is an emergency situation-- the need for a temporary protection order or motion to restrict parenting time as an example, that they will remain open to address those issues in person.

For now, I am trying to maintain business as usual as much as possible . Please let me know if you have any questions.

Hang in there everyone- this too shall pass.

Unfortunately, this is way too prevalent in so many of the matters I deal with. I always try to get my clients to focus on “ THE BEST INTERESTS OF THEIR KIDS”, not their disdain for the other parent. So very important for the children that did not choose for their parents to split up.

Counter-Parenting: When the unhealthy parent has so much hatred for the other parent that their judgement center is compromised, and their actions are driven by revenge and anger.

This person is unable to act in the best interest of their child and is unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

They use every opportunity to berate, chastise or make digs at the healthy parent.

They undermine the healthy parent by disrupting the child's sleep schedule, diet and routines.

They contradict established rules and withhold information.

Ignoring school responsibilities, projects and homework to create chaos for the healthy parent.

It's also using the parenting time schedule as a weapon and forcing custody schedules that are not in the best interest of the child.

The abuser is so focused on hurting and controlling the other parent that their actions directly affect the children.

Just wanted to update everyone on my recent office move. I am still at 3600 S. Yosemite st.,Denver, but we have moverd upstairs to Suite 650. Everything else remains the same. Hoping to be of service to you in 2020.

Marcy Rothenberg-Romer, Family Law/Divorce Attorney updated their address.

Your First Thanksgiving After Divorce: 6 Things to Do to Get Through Navigating your first Thanksgiving after divorce will require some extra effort, but that extra effort will be worth your time and energy.

This is so important. Your children didn't choose for you to be divorced. Please, make it as easy as possible on them, even if you can't stand each other. They truly are the innocent victims .

4 Crucial Divorce Mistakes That Impact Kids - Divorce Magazine There are crucial divorce mistakes that parents came make that have a negative impact on their children. Here we'll discuss four of them.

Happy Monday! Just FYI-- I am now preparing simple wills and estate documents, including Living Wills(advanced directives), Medical Power of Attorney, Power of Attorney, etc. Call for more information. (720)482-0709.

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This is just too perfect!

What a great thought to end the week and start off the long weekend. Have a safe , fun Labor Day Weekend!

My Sophie!!!!

And one more .

Don't Be Bitter After Divorce: Be Better! - Divorce Magazine Bitter after divorce? If you’re holding onto bitterness, put it down. Don’t be like my father and sip poison for the rest of your life it’s only hurting you.

This is so very important when going through a divorce.

Coping with Divorce-Related Anger - Divorce Magazine Divorce-related anger can literally make you crazy – causing you to say and do things you'd never dream of if you were thinking clearly. Even though it's a normal part of the healing process, anger can become a destructive force in your life. Here's how to cope.

Thoughts to start the week !

Love this - so appropriate for all of us at some point in our lives whether it’s divorce or some other traumatic event. We all have been there.

So very sad, but so very true.

7 Stages of Grief During and After Divorce - Divorce Magazine During and following a divorce, you will experience various stages of grief as you begin processing your divorce and what caused your marriage to end.

This article contains some great advice for divorcing a narcissist.

12 Survival Tips to Help You Survive Divorcing a Narcissist - Divorce Magazine Will you survive divorcing a narcissist? In order to preserve your own sanity, it is important to understand how the narcissist thinks. Here are a few tips!

This is something that I try to get across to my clients on a daily basis. Such a great reminder to think about how your actions and reactions will affect your children-- then think twice about your actions.

Why High Conflict Divorce Damages Children - Divorce Magazine Excerpt from Children and Divorce “Children would rather be from a broken home than live in one.” Dr. Phil According to statistics, two-thirds of children who reach the age of 18 can expect to live in a divorced home. Divorce causes children to lose something that is crucial to their development...

Justice Ginsburg is my hero!

Justice Ginsburg Has No Remaining Signs Of Cancer, Will Return To Supreme Court After having surgery last month for lung cancer, liberal Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg is recovering well and has "no evidence of remaining disease," according to the Supreme Court.

So very true!

If you are stuck read this - www.divorcemag.com/articles/reasons-for-divorce-power-of-forgiveness/

11 WAys Narcissistic Fathers Damage Their Children A narcissistic father can emotionally harm his children. He will likely manipulate his children by withholding affection and neglect their children’s needs, for one thing.