Rebecca Luebbe, MS, LPCC, EAS-C

It's important to learn the difference between what happens to us and what we do with it. The bad things that happen to us don't determine our destiny; how we respond to them does. You own your life, not someone else. Remember, it's the owner who has the rights. No one can have control over your life if you do not let them.

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Is keeping quiet about evil Christ-like?

Not at all! God commands us not to yield to wickedness.

“Like a muddied spring or a polluted well are the righteous who give way to the wicked.” – Proverbs 25:26

We can take a stand and “speak the truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15).

Are you willing to take a stand in 2024? Feel free to share below.

Couples who make repair attempts are both willing to admit responsibility for their part in the conflict, and then begin the process of healing their bond. They realize their relationship is more important than the problem.

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This post is not intended to address situations of abuse; if you or someone you know is in need of help contact the National Domestic Violence hotline at 800-799-7233.

Why Date Nights Are So Important for Healthy Relationships Learn why you need to prioritize time for dates.

Do you strive to keep the peace no matter what?

God doesn’t want you to wink at sin and give people a hall pass to do whatever they want.

Be a peacemaker, not a peacekeeper.

What’s the difference?

A peacemaker strives to create peace and attempts to reconcile things and people that are at odds with one another.

Peacekeepers strive to keep peace at all costs.

Be a peacemaker today. Remember: it’s okay to disrupt the peace to create real—and lasting—peace.

You don't have the power to make your spouse understand your feelings when you have a bad day. But you can let him know you'd like him to empathize with your emotions. You can model the behavior by responding empathically to him when he has a bad day. Influence has its own power.

"The key to reinvigorating fondness and admiration is to get in the habit of scanning for qualities and actions that you can appreciate. And then, let your partner know what you've observed and are grateful for."

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Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to s*x, money, religion, work, family, or anything else.
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Unfortunately this is the truth for so many people. The church doesn't get it right 100% of the time. The church is full of imperfect people who do not always represent God's heart and/or His word. I'd love to come along side you and help to heal those hurts. [email protected], 937-557-1311

God designed marriage as a way for two distinct people to come together and create something bigger and better than either one could achieve individually. Ultimately, a balance between separateness and togetherness is required for a healthy marriage.

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Rebecca Luebbe, Licensed Professional Counselor, Lebanon, OH, 45036 | Psychology Today Rebecca Luebbe, Licensed Professional Counselor, Lebanon, OH, 45036, (513) 647-9686, My name is Rebecca Luebbe, (ACCEPTing NEW clients from 8am to 4:00pm Monday- Thursdays.) I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor who has a very eclectic, client centered approach to therapy. I enjoy working....

Time will not heal you. The saying, "Time heals all wounds" should be changed to "Time heals all wounds that are treated appropriately".

The truth is, if you just wait around for time to heal you, then time will only make your pain last longer.

Grieving your past and letting it go will heal you. We need to SPEND time working on our past wounds. Once you do this, then, you can face the future with confidence.

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You must work to become "two" who can then establish a oneness based on the real intimacy of two whole people, not a false sense of security in the other person. You must become a complete individual on your own.

If we genuinely seek to be faithful stewards of our time, our talents, and our resources, we must adopt a disciplined approach to life. Otherwise, our talents are wasted and our resources are squandered. Life's greatest rewards seldom fall into our laps; to the contrary, our greatest accomplishments usually require work, perseverance, and discipline.

A disciplined lifestyle gives you more control: The more disciplined you become, the more you can take control over your life (Which by the way, is far better than letting your life take control over you).

Your spouse is a separate person, distinct from you, with their own needs and feelings. In other words, they don't exist just to meet your needs. That mindset will wreck your relationship in a hurry!

Don’t think that just because you’ve forgiven someone that you need to trust them. Depending on the situation, you may need to put some structures in place that require change from them before you trust them.

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Don’t spend time thinking about the people and circumstances you can’t change. The most empowering thing you can ever do is stop blaming the outside world. It doesn’t mean that someone else isn’t at fault; it means that you decided to do take control of what you can do in regard to that situation.

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The truth is that some relationships are not workable if someone is not willing to change and reconcile. We can still forgive, but we cannot reconcile without their willingness.

We Need to Stop Romanticizing Our Lack of Boundaries "It's unhealthy, exhausting and potentially detrimental to relationships and mental health."

A lifetime of love is built through small, intentional choices every day.

It's not all grand gestures and hours of effort.

Sometimes it takes just minutes a day.

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You're Not Alone If You Freak Out When You're in a Healthy Relationship "When all we know are unhealthy, toxic and abusive dynamics, being in a new relationship can be scary, even if it's a good one."

How we react to our kids’ emotions has an impact on the development of their emotional intelligence. ⁠
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As a parent, when you teach your kid to identify their emotions, you give them a framework that helps them to explain how they feel, which makes it easier for them to deal with those emotions. ⁠In a time when you and your kids may have big feelings about current events, it's important to return to the basics of validation.

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"If someone is not ready to address their trauma, we cannot force them to heal. If someone carries heavy baggage from their past, we cannot pry that baggage from their hands. We can support their journey and assist along the way if they have the willingness to grow. But we cannot plant a seed of willingness for someone else."

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Please note: this post is not meant to address situations of abuse. For immediate support, please contact thehotline.org.

Your brain thinks what it thinks, and it’s usually sure about its perceptions, even if they have nothing to do with reality. Shifting your thoughts into a more reality-based perception starts with giving up the idea that what you think is always the way things are.