Dr. Chelsi Davis

Obsessing about what you should eat, what you should look like, and how you are failing at both is miserable. I’d love to help ❤️

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It's nothing personal. I just can't stand you.

This one comes up A LOT. And..it's complicated. Therefore, this is Part I of a series on this question. How many posts will there be in this series? Only time will tell :)

Anyway, since I am a therapist, I am legally obligated to ask questions back instead of answering the question of how to stay motivated :)

When asked this-I ask back:
What are you trying to accomplish?
What makes you want to that?

For example:
What are you trying to accomplish?
"I want to wake up early in the mornings to have some time to myself before everyone wakes up."
What makes you want to do that?
"I just feel like I should do it. It shouldn't be this hard, but I can't do it."

In this example, we would talk about how feeling like you should do something isn't super closely tied to a value, which makes it not motivating to you! If this was your response, we would try to find a value that is important to you that is tied to the goal of waking up early. For example-the values of efficiency or parenting.

How could this tie to efficiency?
We would identify how waking up earlier could make you more efficient. Will you get tasks done without a million questions thrown at you and thus get tasks done more quickly? Are you able to take a deep breath and have a coffee which sets your mood up right and makes you more efficient later in the day?

How could this tie to the value of parenting?
Would you be in a better mood if you had one gosh darn moment to yourself before taking care of everyone? Would waking up early to your alarm make you less frantic than waking up to wailing cries, making you calmer and more patient when everyone wakes up? Would it allow you to make lunches without the critical gaze of a two year old who has a very strong opinion on pickles even though they have NEVER ACTUALLY TRIED THEM?

Part of staying motivated is about making sure what you are motivated for is actually something that is important to you.

If it is just something that you feel like "should be" important-it's just not going to happen.

What do you want to stay motivated for?

Have no fear-this is so incredibly normal!

Disappointing for sure-but this isn't weird, nor does it mean the plan didn't "work!"

When we have a thing that we don't want to do-we are going to have an urge to do the same things we have always done instead of the great new plan that we created. In times of stress, we revert back to what we know, even if what we know makes us stressed out.

Let's say you typically get drunk before a party, because you are nervous. You create a plan to 1. meditate before the party, 2. remind yourself that you are going to spend time with people that you actually like, and 3. bring a list of 3 conversation starters on your phone. The party comes and instead of wanting to do your plan, you feel the urge to get drunk and throw your great plan into a dumpster fire.

That urge to revert back is allowed to exist. AND, just because the urge is there, that doesn't mean you can't decide to do your plan.

Urges aren't a sign that something has gone wrong or that things aren't going to change-there are a sign of stress.

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Our feelings are always real-but not always true.

Alone is something I feel a lot, especially when I am doing something new or vulnerable or courageous. When I notice this feeling, I have to remind myself that though I feel alone, I know I am not alone.

All the hands in the air if you tried to orchestrate your way out of anxiety by trying to create ABSOLUTELY NO REASONS ANYONE COULD EVER HAVE A PROBLEM WITH YOU EVER.

Not to brag, but I was pretty good at this. And yet. Problems. Tensions. Anxiety. Worry. Fear. Depression.

Just me? I didn't think so.

I see you. I am you. We can be in recovery together, k?

URGH-NEEDS.
They just keep happening, over and over and over again.
You have them, your mom has them, your kids, your coworkers, your partner, your sister.
SO MANY NEEDS.
And we have them, too-we can't help it.
And they don't go away, just because we don't have time for them.
We need a new plan, my friends. The one where our needs aren't met just isn't working.
Unless it IS working for you, in which case-please DM me immediately to tell me your ways.

Reality bites. It makes sense that we fight against it. Comment with the reality that you find yourself wishing was different-would love to hear it ✊🏻

Diet culture, say what? No no, ain’t nothin legit about that.

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“When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” Byron Katie

What’s the harm of subscribing to diet culture? Lemme tell ya…

It’s a hard knock, diet culture filled life 😒

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Dieting: verb, restricting oneself to small amounts or special kinds of food in order to lose weight, a word that brings up a lot of feelings (I added that last bit to the official definition).

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Oh younger self, how you made yourself so miserable...

Hi! Curious-what topics are you most interested in learning about? What's your #1 question about that topic? If that issue were fixed, what would that mean for you? Super interested in hear from you!

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A few thoughts from our Selfishness Series 💕