Unlock Your Joy Therapy

Sometimes you have to lose everything you thought you wanted in order to gain the things you deserve.

When somebody provokes your anger, the only reason you get angry is because you’re holding on to how you think something is supposed to be. You’re denying how it is. Then you see it’s the expectations of your own mind that are creating your own hell. When you get frustrated because something isn’t the way you thought it would be, examine the way you thought, not just the thing that frustrates you. You’ll see that a lot of your emotional suffering is created by your models of how you think things should be and your inability to allow it to be as it is.”

Dance when you're broken open, Dance if you've torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you're perfectly free.
-Rumi

Growing up with emotionally unavailable parents can leave deep emotional wounds that deserve tender care and healing. It's not easy when the love and support we long for are absent, and we may feel a profound sense of neglect, loneliness, and confusion about our own emotions. Trusting others and embracing intimacy might feel challenging, and our self-esteem can suffer. We may struggle to express our emotions or find solace in regulating them.

But please remember, dear friend, that healing is not only possible but within your reach. Start by extending compassion to yourself and recognizing that none of this was your fault. You are worthy of love and understanding. Seeking the guidance of a compassionate therapist can provide you with a safe space to navigate your emotions, develop coping mechanisms, and tend to the wounds left by attachment struggles.

Embrace self-acceptance, for your experiences and emotions are valid. Emphasize setting gentle boundaries that prioritize your emotional well-being, and seek the company of those who cherish and uplift you. Nurture your emotional intelligence by exploring your inner landscape, being mindful of your feelings, and practicing empathy towards yourself and others. Surround yourself with a supportive network of understanding souls who can help counteract the effects of past emotional unavailability.

Remember, dear one, that healing takes time and patience. Be gentle with yourself as you embark on this journey towards wholeness. Trust in your own strength and resilience to cultivate a life overflowing with emotional well-being and relationships that nurture your heart. You are deserving of a love that embraces and cherishes every aspect of who you are. May that love you deserve start with loving yourself unconditionally and unlocking the joy you deserve and desire.

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Growing up with emotionally unavailable parents can deeply impact your emotional well-being. It can leave you feeling neglected, lonely, and uncertain about your own emotions. The lack of emotional support may have made it challenging to form secure connections and trust others.

You might struggle with self-esteem and find it difficult to regulate your emotions or express them effectively. These experiences can affect your ability to have fulfilling relationships and cultivate intimacy.
But healing is possible. It starts with showing yourself compassion and understanding that it was not your fault.

You deserve love and support. Seeking therapy can provide a safe space to explore and process your emotions, helping you develop coping strategies and heal from attachment wounds.

Practice self-acceptance and embrace your experiences with kindness. Set healthy boundaries that prioritize your emotional needs and surround yourself with people who respect and support you. Cultivate emotional intelligence by reflecting on your emotions, being mindful, and practicing empathy. Building a supportive network of understanding individuals can counteract the effects of past emotional unavailability.

Remember, healing takes time. Be patient with yourself as you embark on this journey. You have the strength to heal and create a life filled with emotional well-being and fulfilling relationships.

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Healing the mother's wound can be a journey of self-discovery and transformation.

When we confront the wounds of our past and work through the pain and emotions that come with them, we can break free from old patterns and behaviors that have held us back.

We can learn to love and accept ourselves, set healthy boundaries, and form meaningful connections with others.

Healing the mother wound can be a liberating experience that empowers us to live our lives to the fullest and embrace our true selves.

The mother wound can show up for people in various ways, depending on an individual's experiences and circumstances. Healing the mother wound is a complex and ongoing process.

It's important to note that these are just a few examples of how mother wounds can affect us in relationships, and that everyone's experiences are unique.

Working with a therapist who is familiar with the framework of intergenerational trauma can be helpful in identifying how mother wounds may be affecting your relationships, and in developing strategies for healing and creating healthy connections with others.

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Healing from intergenerational trauma can be a difficult journey, and also journey worthwhile.

It takes courage and strength to confront the wounds that have been passed down from generation to generation, and doing so can be liberating and transformative.

Remember that healing from intergenerational trauma is not a linear process, and it is okay to take breaks and go at your own pace. Know that you are worthy of love and healing, and that there is hope for a brighter future.

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When exploring through a trauma focused lens, BIPOC folks may face additional challenges in trusting their intuition due to systemic racism and discrimination that can lead to gaslighting, invalidation, and erasure of their experiences and perspectives.

This can make it hard for folks to trust their intuition when it conflicts with the dominant narrative or when their experiences are not acknowledged or validated.

Trusting one's intuition can be challenging for individuals who have experienced intergenerational trauma, as it can require a significant amount of healing, self-awareness, and validation of one's experiences and perspectives.

Seeking support from therapists, healers, and trusted community members can be helpful and allow space for connecting with your intuition and trusting yourself again.

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Trauma responses due to deep wounds from intergenerational trauma can keep us as a collective small, fearful and lacking the confidence to show up as the most optimal versions of ourselves. Intergenerational trauma in the family system can also significantly affect our personal inner narratives about ourselves and the world around us.

Our negative based inner narratives because of intergenerational trauma can also be so deeply rooted and trace back to enslavement and white supremacy which is why it is so important that we recognize how significant intergenerational healing is, and the impact that this healing will have on our lineages.

When we are unable as a family system or community to heal from past traumas, we inevitably develop trauma responses which can manifest as our fight, flee, or freeze responses to situations and experiences.

Sometimes trauma responses to stress or perceived danger have been learned dysfunctional behaviors or the tendency to engage in catastrophic thoughts passed on from generation to generation and become a part of our culture or family dynamics that can keep us as a collective in a cycle of “stuckness and woundedness”.

Healing is our birthright. You are undoubtedly resilient. Yet, we can be both resilient and need community and support to aid in our healing as our historical trauma has been a collective experience.

Healing is a gift to ourselves and others. When we heal ourselves, we heal those before us and heal those who come after us 🌿✨🫶🏽.

Breaking the generational cycle of intergenerational trauma and shame requires intentional efforts to promote healing, such as therapy, mindfulness, self-compassion, and community support. It also requires acknowledging the role of systemic oppression and discrimination in perpetuating trauma and shame and working to promote social justice and equity. May you be the catalyst for healing your family trauma and unlock your joy that is your birthright.

Trauma responses due to deep wounds from intergenerational trauma can keep us as a collective small, fearful and lacking the confidence to show up as the most optimal versions of ourselves. Intergenerational trauma in the family system can also significantly affect our personal inner narratives about ourselves and the world around us.

Our negative based inner narratives because of intergenerational trauma can also be so deeply rooted and trace back to our ancestral lineage which is why it is so important that if we acknowledge there is intergenerational trauma in our family lineage we recognize how significant intergenerational healing is, and the impact that this healing will have on our lineages.

When we are unable as a family system or community to heal from past traumas, we inevitably develop trauma responses which can manifest as our fight, flee, or freeze responses to situations and experiences. Sometimes trauma responses to stress or perceived danger have been learned dysfunctional behaviors or the tendency to engage in catastrophic thoughts passed on from generation to generation and become a part of our culture or family dynamics that can keep us as a collective in a cycle of “stuckness and woundedness”.

Ways you may recognize that you are experiencing intergenerational trauma is that if you are aware of fears or anxieties you may have which logically you can’t understand because you can’t pinpoint any negative personally lived experiences that would provoke certain feelings or behaviors. Other ways you may recognize you are experiencing intergenerational trauma is that you find yourself repeating the same cycles you are aware of that are harmful, unfavorable or even hurtful towards yourself and others that you have witnessed growing up from parents, caregivers, grandparents or other family members.

Part of the healing process is recognizing we can choose to change our narratives and acknowledging it will take work and dedication especially if we are the chosen ones to begin healing our lineages. Healing is our birthright and we all have our own special anointings, callings and purpose rooted in our healing journeys.

With Love,

Anastasia

It is never too late to change your narrative and allow yourself to choose you instead of hoping for another to acknowledge your value and choose you. When you choose you- you teach another how you expect to be treated.

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Honor the gift of choice. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Those who are for you will stay and those who are solely for themselves will go.

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People Pleasing and the fight or flight response of “Fawning”. The fawn response is most commonly associated with childhood trauma and complex trauma — types of trauma that arise from repeat events, such as abuse, unemotionally available or hypercritical parents or caregivers and/or household dysfunction and chaos.

Pete Walker coined the term fawn and defines it through the following: “The Fawn response is one of four defensive reactions to ongoing trauma. Those who fawn tend to put the needs and wants of others ahead of themselves at the cost of the health of their own egos, and the protection of and compassion for themselves.”


Fawning is a coping mechanism learned to appease a perceived threat and often leads to behaviors of people pleasing, co-dependency and lack of boundaries.

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When we people please, we dishonor ourselves and hold ourselves back from experiencing true authentic connections often because of fear of rejection or abandonment.


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So celebrate, enjoy, learn and love, because nothing last forever except for your decision to find love, happiness, wisdom or a lesson learned in every moment.

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When you desperately need answers about the future, your career, your relationship or anything else, you should ask yourself what do you fear?
Fear better than anything else, lets you know where you need to focus yourself in order to prepare for your next step. Fear helps you know when you're encountering true change.
Have faith that our fate cannot be taken from us, it's a gift.
As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control; that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them as you allow yourself to do so.
When you desperately need answers about the future, your career, your relationship or anything else, you should ask yourself what do you fear?
Fear better than anything else, lets you know where you need focus yourself in order to prepare for your next step. Fear helps you know when you're encountering true change.
Have faith that our fate cannot be taken from us, it's a gift.
As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control; that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them as you allow yourself to do so.

May you find joy in all the beauty around you today ✨🤍