Dr. Kristin Schaefer-Schiumo

As your children ease back to school, they might experience anxiety that can be a challenge. This article has helpful tips and strategies that can help you support your children to manage their stress and have a positive school experience.

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A wonderful reminder for us all 💜💜

Women: You don't have to do everything, you don't have to be a supermom, a super housewife, a super professional, a superwoman... Because when your body claims you, there will be few who will remember you tried to be all in one!

So get out of the house, travel, walk, workout, go to the park, go to a gym, eat what provokes you, fix yourself, sleep later, put on clothes you like, be yourself, take care of yourself, love yourself, say no sometimes and do it EXCLUSIVELY for YOU!!

Children grow up and leave, husbands don’t always stay, work can easily replace you, the house will get dirty again, but your emotional health is also important and you may not get a second chance.

Poor communication is the biggest reason most relationships fail. My clients and I work together to develop mindful, assertive and compassionate ways of communicating with those they care about. This article outlines a tool to make relationships successful, whether with a romantic partner, friend, family member or even a coworker.

communication is key

Psychology experts: The No. 1 tool we teach to save 'any relationship' from disaster Poor communication is the biggest reason most relationships fail. Psychologist experts Pepper Schwartz and Jessica Griffin share the No. 1 tool they teach to make relationships successful, whether with a romantic partner, friend, family member or even a coworker.

Would you give your 10 year-old child a pack of ci******es? Of course not! Jonathan Haidt lays out why we should not be giving them cell phones either and what governments, schools, and parents can do to help 
# playbasedchildhood development

The Anxious Generation - Free the Anxious Generation From New York Times bestselling coauthor of The Coddling of the American Mind, an essential investigation into the collapse of youth mental health—and a plan for a healthier, freer childhood

You start dying slowly ;
if you do not travel,
if you do not read,
If you do not listen to the sounds of life,
If you do not appreciate yourself.
You start dying slowly :
When you kill your self-esteem,
When you do not let others help you.
You start dying slowly ;
If you become a slave of your habits,
Walking everyday on the same paths…
If you do not change your routine,
If you do not wear different colours
Or you do not speak to those you don’t know.
You start dying slowly :
If you avoid to feel passion
And their turbulent emotions;
Those which make your eyes glisten
And your heart beat fast.
You start dying slowly :
If you do not risk what is safe for the uncertain
If you do not go after a dream
If you do not allow yourself
At least once in your lifetime
To run away from sensible advice
Don't let yourself die slowly
Do not forget to be happy!
~ Pablo Neruda♡

I came across this interesting interview with Katie Couric this morning. In a time where so many feel drained, overworked and out of balance, “slow productivity” might just help. -care

Are You Burnt Out? Give “Slow Productivity” a Try Productivity guru Cal Newport is back with a new book on taming busywork and accomplishing more.

Parents, this is an excellent reminder for us all…….

Are you on your phones too much, scrolling, clicking or checking the news m? Be honest. We are all in this together! Help teens develop healthier social media habits by setting a good example—including scheduled breaks and device-free times for meals and other family activities. Consider closing down devices at a set time in the evening.

See more science-backed tips for keeping kids safe on social media: https://at.apa.org/zpr

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Keeping teens safe on social media: What parents should know to protect their kids A multipronged approach to social media management, including time limits, parental monitoring and supervision, and ongoing discussions about social media can help parents protect teens’ brain development.

A friend sent this to me yesterday, which I so appreciate. Progress is not linear; mistakes are part of the process. Be kind to yourself and drop the perfectionistic thinking. # and expectations. Growth is messy and beautiful. 🌸. .

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A focus on overall health means attending to your physical, social, emotional and, for many, spiritual well-being. In my work i help clients find the tools and activities that work for them. This quick read on the benefits of walking focuses on important aspects of physical well-being. Don’t forget, though, that being out in nature and walking, can have a wonderful impact on mood as well!

5 surprising benefits of walking - Harvard Health Walking can have a bigger impact on disease risk and various health conditions than just about any other remedy that's readily available to you. What's more, it's free and has practically no negati...

In my work, I help mothers and fathers understand that worrying too much about protecting their kids and keeping them away from risk may damage their mental health and ability to be independent. The article below is helpful in identifying common parenting traps. Please feel free to share

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/modern-minds/202312/7-avoidable-mistakes-made-by-moms-and-dads-who-overparent?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR1JUqJneopHaMt-R_p12DLkU_T-Ya7opVcIEM2W4YW_Mi8syXUV8fJRgFE_aem_AegbfkWSXoUntKxU5-O380E7lpJbFN2wtF2qOSTcUWsrD7Apsqx4PKiTW4-w2rXqTr0

7 Mistakes Parents Who Overparent Make 1. They don't let their kids try new things alone.

Parents are such a critical resource to guide their children in building lasting friendships and navigating relationships with peers. This article outlines meaningful tools no matter your child’s age.

https://www.apa.org/topics/parenting/navigating-friendships?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=apa-parenting&utm_content=navigating-friendships&fbclid=IwAR3QEbL9fwuo3Kby1h2w95GAhwldZ0pZ3M-Soj8pOTW44HNz4D28KC2pi1s_aem_Aa6L9ogbZDPbuudGcAikYs_DWTEV_72m71ky_MdnwwDkORylhp2gc4NukdPdxhcdg-E

How to help kids navigate friendships and peer relationships Teaching them psychological tools now can aid them well into adulthood.

I found this a timely reminder….short term discomfort is more than a far trade for long-term peace.

This is a heartwarming reminder to all parents, grandparents, guardians and caregivers who poured their heart and soul into their children.

A warm relationship with your son can be a vital piece of a young man's development. To raise compassionate, confident boys, research suggests that moms focus on these important factors. Together I help clients raise strong, compassionate confident young men one day at a time.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/behavior-problems-behavior-solutions/202012/5-things-a-boy-needs-from-his-mom?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR1gV6CJnYG-sxVq1n14wzkYB8CS9OXI6j8tq9XwnLKDPmEm3T697rXtyfI_aem_AWpqlsPqAguZvf0sSMdjbpgLo4X_XWxshgHEWbqY1LNewnsIuHbRu8VVifGoV6MFVD4

5 Things a Boy Needs From His Mom 4. Responsiveness, level-headedness, and warmth.

Thinking of reaching for that wine, vodka or gin whenever you’re in times of stress? Read this article first. The link between alcohol and anxiety is clear. The good news is that there are effective and simple tools that can quiet the thoughts and physical discomfort common with anxiety.

https://thewell.northwell.edu/emotional-wellness/alcohol-and-anxiety?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=paid_social&utm_campaign=the_well&fbclid=IwAR1mjaKpd34UQarIjIqSPI2VffJhEXu3w_29N3927gJ1m8CK-UqZEXTfl98_aem_ATToy9JrVI7yVGaDsr8oa86Tym18xwj3Rj0cg9qVB_GeG4Ycs_oHiux3U_1mp6_nTOOdt-roL8m9H3s4nrHsdOQk

The Link Between Alcohol and Anxiety If you find yourself reaching for a drink when you’re stressed or overwhelmed, consider reading this.

This is a worthy read reminding us that we created this epidemic of loneliness together and now can lock arms to heal
It together as well. I work with clients to focus on the connection and community they are building.

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When stress persists over a long period of time, it can cause a variety of issues, including insomnia, high blood pressure, and a weakened immune system. I work with individuals to identify the ways in which they can reduce stress, improve overall balance, and increase a sense of well-being

Below are small steps you can take to address chronic stress and protect your health. What steps are helpful for you?

Learn more: https://at.apa.org/5gf

When parents and I work together, we build self-confidence, empathy and self-control in their children. This lays the groundwork for sustained, meaningful success.

https://www.cnbc.com/2022/04/16/these-skills-separate-successful-kids-from-those-who-struggle-says-psychologist-parenting-expert.html?utm_campaign=trueanthem&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook&fbclid=IwAR0U20V1NWDggS87d-EfTJc_nb6qmZ1ktq8y6LeVZsgKkuhvmqmV9QzN1Aw_aem_AUMa_P4wfOsfkNYhDoiGV91_P8Qp-VZhRwDB5yXMBwAIidT1srodoYbPNoAxzRjiIjI

A psychologist says these 7 skills separate successful kids from 'the ones who struggle'—and how parents can teach them Thrivers are raised, not born. Through her decades of research, psychologist and parenting expert Michele Borba found seven traits kids need in order to become resilient, mentally strong and self-aware adults. Here's how parents can teach them.

I work with many individuals to develop ways of removing the tendency to avoid. With self-sabotage quiet, there is space to explore other areas of life.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/06/16/avoidance-not-anxiety-patterns-strategies/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=con-soc&utm_campaign=contentpromo-eng&fbclid=IwAR3YpDqIeLQgP_KLQykFhzeHUb6lSNcKKb4InF1iQ3GdKNldCoVvmn0MVl4_aem_AQGCH5zIG1l0A2_3PZ7-fuH7xBNtizVBcFhX-OQK1Js114GumoNYW0uiBZryzwkWhStB0Os4K9aaWBmL9LnK_sj4&campaign_id=6342559310427&ad_id=6342559310827

Advice | Avoidance, not anxiety, may be sabotaging your life Psychological avoidance is a quick fix to an uncomfortable emotion. It offers emotional relief, but it is fleeting and comes at a heavy cost.

I work to help parents provide the structure, positive communication and nurturing environments critical for long-term health. The parent-teen relationship is so foundational to well-being despite being challenging at times.

The study below highlights the importance of supporting this very amazing and often challenging relationship.

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2023/03/230321112658.htm

Researchers find strong adolescent-parent relationships lead to better long-term health outcomes in young adults: Based on thousands of adolescents who were followed over a period of more than a decade, this new work represents one of the largest... Researchers have found that adolescents who report strong relationships with their parents have better long-term health outcomes. Study findings suggest that investments in improving parent--adolescent relationships could help improve general health, mental health and sexual, health while also reduc...

Employees who frequently interact with AI systems are more likely to experience loneliness, insomnia, and increased after-work drinking. In my work with adolescents and adults, it is clear that this is likely true for most. As we head into the warmer months, take time to be outdoors, develop or advance a hobby, spend time with friends, or give back to community.

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2023/06/loneliness-insomnia-ai-systems?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=apa-press-release-research&utm_content=june12-loneliness-insomnia-ai-systems&fbclid=IwAR1y6Lr0qskxsNzwTaEnnWjtfmsDp35DeK1Lu2VT5CZ0bgInqlFZq4Pbpao_aem_th_AaSYxn4uTS2O34U9aayy5TJ1Iif6z1c6N1RXGN0HVqmQ8uzUG8MNEJh3WbrZvUqpWkw

Loneliness, insomnia linked to work with AI systems Employees who frequently interact with artificial intelligence systems are more likely to experience loneliness that can lead to insomnia and increased after-work drinking.

Slow processing speed is one of the ways children may be different and may need different of us in order to thrive. I am honored to help parents better understand their children’s unique ways of being in the world and working together to help them succeed emotionally, academically, and socially.

https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/i-thought-my-daughter-was-defiant-it-turns-out-she-has-slow-processing-speed/?utm_campaign=parents_parentsmagazine&utm_content=manual&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_term=6479230cdb77690001194e97&fbclid=IwAR2Sf-7LtBUX8qY8-7gpg7fc1aE6q-WmNeGpjD0meVKWfnMajoeZtwE57Qo

I Thought My Daughter Was Defiant, It Turns Out She Has Slow Processing Speed One mom's experience taught her how important it is to understand your child's processing speed to minimize stress at home and school.

Children are absolutely not miniature adults. This article is a wonderful reminder of the seeds we must sow to help them develop and grow happily and successfully.

https://www.cnbc.com/2020/12/08/harvard-psychologist-rules-for-raising-intelligent-kids-with-resilient-brains.html?utm_content=Main&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR0BHftWOoMUfwtFnxexB7pIjD5Vy3dl9NHZ0qL3IrFSnyVcdZuS6JHTJqs_aem_th_AaH6K9j2PljNR88eLBhSewS1USCciry5HOQ6Ow_79DUyGAy0B96Wipckh_PFZ67E5Wc =1684948993

Harvard psychologist to parents: Do these 7 things if you want to raise kids with flexible, resilient brains A child's brain isn't a miniature adult brain. It's a brain born under construction that wires itself to the world—and parents must to create an environment that's rich with wiring instructions.

Because It’s Mental Health Awareness Month!

As a psychologist, I am so happy that more people are open and willing to go to therapy. I am honored to be part of a movement that is reducing the stigma of seeking mental health services, while celebrating those who choose to take care of their mental health by going to therapy.

Please remember that choosing to prioritize your mental health is a brave and powerful act of self-love. You are not only normalizing the importance of mental health care, but also showing others that seeking help is truly a sign of strength.

I am working on 3 and 4. How about you? Please feel free to comment and share.

https://www.apa.org/topics/mental-health/tips-psychologists-use?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=apa-practice&utm_content=tips-psychologists-use&fbclid=IwAR28av5tXOhgQqeLkQabsWjvz3Eu7yBuYNLNIUINnJnM28qfqc30HpE9ffQ

6 mental health tips psychologists use Research shows the importance of having a routine, exercising, and meditation.