Embracing Ourselves. Therapy and Voice Dialogue Facilitation

What a week of stepping out of the race has given me so far:

• A deeper connection with myself, feeling an inner embrace and sense of security
• Progress through a course on building secure attachment to myself
• Extra deep sessions with existing clients, guiding them through layers of disconnection from themselves
• Reached the halfway mark in translating Hal and Sidra Stone’s book on new way of realting
• Quality time with family and friends
• Two new, clear visions for potential projects
•New neural connections through music lessons and a dance class

Grateful for recognizing when it’s time to shift my attention—and in which direction. The clarity and grounding that come with it are priceless.

Looking forward to this week’s in-person Voice Dialogue retreat with Jaime Ona Pangaia. Not looking forward to being away from Mirsun, but understanding it’s a good practice for us. He’ll have a chance to strengthen his bond with his Papa and perhaps realize his Mama is a separate being—I’ll have to realize he is a separate being as well!)))

It's okay to take a pause. You will not lose anything-only gain. Creativity fades when you are driven by your primary selves (the pusher, perfectionist, critic...), and it can only be reborn through connecting with your essence. ❤️

If anyone is wondering why I’ve gone quiet after posting consistently for five months, I’m taking a pause and turning my attention inward. My body gave me a clear signal to “pause” from this racing pace of posting. I had a contract with an SMM specialist, and she was kind enough to understand and cancel it. This took a level of maturity and self-awareness on her part, which I truly appreciate.

I felt so relieved to pause. There’s a general belief that posting has to be consistent to build an online business, but I’d rather listen to my body and intuition—especially in my line of work, where healing is central.

I prioritize my own healing. Today, I started an excellent course to deepen my journey of healing from abandonment wounding. Next week, I’m traveling to see my teacher, Jaime, who has come from Oregon to Bangkok to facilitate a retreat. It will be five days of pure Voice Dialogue practice.

I look forward to learning from her, as retreats are something I aspire to offer. I believe they must come from a deeply authentic place, and I envision focusing on healing abandonment wounds, with a mix of Voice Dialogue, reparenting, breathwork, and meditation. I’m considering holding the first retreat this winter in Mendocino, followed by one in Phuket.

My focus is on leading people into deep healing—not superficial entertainment, which social media posting can sometimes feel like to me.

So, I’ll be pausing consistent posting for the next two weeks and only post if something comes from the heart’s wisdom.

I will continue working online with my current clients. If anyone would like to join me on the journey of healing abandonment wounding in a couple of weeks—after the retreat, either individually or as part of a group—please reach out directly with a clear intention and a sense of what you need on your healing journey. My main focus right now is on healing abandonment wounds and everything connected to it.

As they say, the best art and poetry are created from feeling deep pain. I think the same is true for healing work and walking your own path.

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My name is Anastasia Beloshapko, and I am 38 years old.

I am licensed psychotherapist and a Voice Dialogue facilitator with 15 years of experience.

I have worked in non-profit organizations, helping to reunite families, and taught psychology courses at a college. Now, I run a private practice, teach the Voice Dialogue method, and offer supervision.

Currently, I continue my VD training with Sidra Stone, the co-creator of the method, and J’Aime Ona Pangaia.

Voice Dialogue is a tool for personal transformation. It is used to expand consciousness. It can be combined with any other method for personal growth, healing, and transformation. Voice Dialogue helps to better understand your inner parts, improve relationships, and find balance, turning conflicts into sources of strength and growth.

I am always learning: I hold three university degrees as well as other certificates (check highlights).

15 years of personal therapy and regular supervision in the Voice Dialogue method.

Currently, I am translating the book by the method’s creators, “Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship – How to Love Each Other Without Losing Yourself.” into Russian language. Sidra has entrusted me with this translation and publication, recognizing me as an expert in the method and a speaker of both languages.

In this blog, I aim to attract conscious, educated followers who seek self-awareness and are willing to change and grow.

I share my personal experiences, talk about my long healing process of attachment wounds, building healthier relationship with myself, and provide structure and motivation for followers to change their mindset and lives for the better.

My first therapist said, “Psychology is your calling,” and it truly is. My personal life is deeply connected to what I write in my blog.

You can dive in and start with the topic that resonates most with you:

• Relationship with Self
• Relationship with Partner
• Inner Selves
• Voice Dialogue
• Attachment Wounds
• Free Helpful Practices

📌EMBRACING, being in a process, rather than forcing the CHANGE.

When it comes to personal growth and emotional healing, most methods in psychology propose solving problems through understanding the behavior and changing it.

📍But what if I tell you that the path to your true 'Self' is not about trying to 'change' or 'fix' yourself, but rather about engaging in a conscious dialogue with your inner parts, each of which has its own voice, motivation, and purpose. These parts or Selves often operate automatically, and without realizing it, you feel their influence through physical or emotional discomforts, or various relational problems.

👉🏻 Voice Dialogue is a method that helps you get to know the different 'selves' within you — whether it’s the inner critic, the protector, or the 'frightened child' that has remained hidden for a long time. Instead of suppressing your fears and doubts, you learn to engage with them, understand their motivations, and create space for their transformation.

If you've tried other methods but haven't found the answers you're looking for or haven't felt lasting change, Voice Dialogue may be the key to unlocking your true 'Self,' moving beyond limitations, and discovering a deeper level of awareness and spiritual understanding.

Through working with Voice Dialogue, you will:

- Receive non-judgmental support tailored to your unique inner structure — whether it's parts that protect you from pain or those seeking change.

- Experience physical and emotional relief — reduced anxiety, improved sleep, and a renewed sense of peace and wholeness.

- Gain practical tools for working with emotions independently, allowing you to maintain balance and stability outside of sessions.

- Avoid surface-level solutions. VD helps you reach the deepest parts of your consciousness and emotions, where the true roots of anxieties and blocks reside. This enables work at a deeper level and provides long-term results.

- No longer feel the need to 'change' or 'fix' yourself. On the contrary, VD teaches you to embrace yourself by creating a safe space to explore your fears, pain, and defense mechanisms with compassion and without judgment.

🕉️ If you're looking not just to 'solve a problem,' but to gain long-term freedom from inner conflicts, this method could be the key to deep transformation for you.

✍🏻Ready to start the dialogue with your inner 'selves'? Book a consultation via the link in the profile bio.

Anastasia Beloshapko Psychotherapist with 12 plus years of experience (8 years of clinical practice post master's degree)

🗣️ Voice Dialogue is a powerful method that gives access to different aspects of your personality and helps you gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

Take this chance to engage in a process that will help you find answers to many questions and open new horizons within your inner world. And as we know, the outer world is often reflected by the inner world.

Anger, Boundaries, and Success

How can a conscious relationship with anger help in setting boundaries, achieving success, and improving relationships?

Boundaries are a theme that touches every aspect of our lives. Often, there is an inner call where our needs want to be heard and acknowledged. Many of us haven’t learned how to listen to those needs and set healthy boundaries.

Instead, anger becomes a powerful indicator of where exactly our boundaries have been crossed. However, projecting anger onto others doesn’t lead to positive outcomes—in fact, quite the opposite. Behind such anger, there’s always an “inner victim” and an unconscious, impulsive defense of that victim. The outcome? Guilt, followed by the same unmet needs.

From childhood, we are often taught that being angry is wrong, but in reality, this emotion can be a useful tool for self-assertion—a sign that somewhere, our individuality and autonomy are being disrespected (often by the Selves we carry within us).

So, how can we learn to listen to ourselves and care for our needs without crossing the line, while maintaining respect for both ourselves and others? This requires self-awareness.

📍If you’d like to learn more about how to consciously care for your needs, I invite you to a consultation. Together, we will explore the powerful emotion of anger and turn it into a resource.

Who Am I

My name is Anastasia, and I am a licensed psychotherapist with a Master’s degree and over 8 years of post-graduate experience.

I practice globally online and currently live between two homes, in Phuket, Thailand, and California, USA.

I have been practicing the Voice Dialogue method (also known as the Psychology of Selves or parts work) for 15 years.

This method is widely used across Europe and America in fields like psychotherapy, coaching, business, art, and diplomacy.

In addition to my professional practice, my own journey of transformation and the mindset it has given me are deeply integrated into my work.

While I appreciate gradual personal transformations where daily practice creates inner stability and freedom, the universe has often brought my most profound shifts through pain and the metaphorical death of “selves.”

My most recent «awakening» came through plant medicine, and great guidance which allowed me to truly embody the understanding that we are the creators of our lives.

I work with individuals, couples, and groups. With couples, I use a combination of the Voice Dialogue facilitation, Gottman method and my personal experience.

Working with me can help you transform any life circumstances into a purposeful awakening to your true nature.

If you’d like to work with me, please send a direct message with your inquiry 🙏

Женщины: Устали чувствовать себя неуслышанными, незамеченными, сталкиваться с эмоциональной холодностью или даже газлайтингом в отношениях?

Мужчины: Кажется, что бы вы ни делали, этого никогда не бывает достаточно? Ваша жена пытается вас изменить, превращая в кого-то другого?

И мужчины, и женщины могут застрять в роли жертвы, обвиняя друг друга в токсичности и эмоциональном насилии. Легко навесить на мужчин ярлык нарциссов, а на женщин — истеричек. Но это ли настоящая проблема?

Интернет может временно облегчить ваше состояние, поддерживая вашу роль жертвы, но это не решит глубинную проблему.

Истинные страдания возникают, когда мы идентифицируем себя с жертвой — используем ли мы силу для защиты или нет. От этой правды не убежать.

Вы не освободитесь от роли жертвы, просто обретя силу — вы освободитесь, когда вспомните, кто вы есть на самом деле, вне этого цикла.

Я знаю этот цикл слишком хорошо и сделала выбор выйти из игры «жертва-виноватый».

Пришло время пробудиться.
Прервите этот цикл и верните себе жизнь. Освободитесь от этого живого ада — начните прямо сейчас. Скажите нет внутреннему расколу, нет лжи самому себе, нет борьбе, нет отстранению, нет обвинениям! Только чистое намерение пробудиться к своей истине.

Это для мужчин и женщин, которые согласны, что отношения — это зеркало и возможность для пробуждения.

Заполните анкету, чтобы начать свой путь к настоящей свободе.

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В наших ранах есть Божественный замысел 🫶

I am not defined by my trauma.

People Pleasing

We've been hearing a lot about why people-pleasing won’t serve you, but the solution isn't as simple as just stopping. If you switch from people-pleasing to its opposite, you’re simply moving from one side of duality to the other—and that shadow will still hunt you. The truth is, it’s crucial to understand the mechanism behind people-pleasing, which is rooted in a positive bonding pattern. This desire to connect and avoid conflict isn't inherently wrong, but when it's unconscious, it can lead to losing yourself in the process.

Rather than rejecting your people-pleaser outright, it's about bringing awareness to this part of you and balancing it with other aspects of your psyche. This way, you can assert boundaries, express your authentic needs, and maintain your self-worth while still forming genuine connections. It’s not about swinging to the opposite extreme but integrating these parts of yourself in a healthier way ❤️

If you're ready to truly understand more and work towards this balance, I’m here to help guide you through the process. Reach out when you're ready to explore this deeper.

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You are HERE therefore you are already loved by LIFE itself ❤️find it in you, no matter what has happened in your life, no matter how much you think you failed, or how bad you think you look, how many times you felt abandoned, you are LOVED by life itself!

In the last couple of weeks, I've been quieter in my interactions with the world. I've been busy raising a 3-year-old son, navigating family life, and honoring my commitments to existing clients. I've felt that it's the maximum energy I could share, as a significant portion of my energy goes into my own introspection.

The recent sickness of all three of us, JJ, Mirsun, and I added to this journey, but I'm slowly finding space for self-expression and creativity.

My own introspection has been the main guiding force for the work that I do as I can only meet the depth of others as far as I can go myself. And I go as far as I am invited by the life itself…

To help me navigate this inner journey I have been using a Voice Dialogue process since my early 20s. It remains relevant throughout all these years. This process unfolds itself through literary everything: dreams, relational dynamics, daily routine, life stressors, anything can be used as an opportunity to awaken from sticky beliefs and identities. It's an opportunity to embrace my own wholeness and remain connected to the most tender and sensitive parts of myself.

My intention here is to become louder and more expressive in terms of sharing my way of living, which also happens to be my primary work. My primary way of ‘being’ is quiet and reserved. Although I loved teaching psychology at the college for a number of years, for me, teaching was about connection and sharing. In my line of work, social media often feels like a big ego trip with never-ending promises that sometimes seem too grandiose and special, which I unapologetically call "bullsh*t” and refuse to do!

So personally, I am still in the process of finding the right relationship with social media and sharing about my work that feels authentic and is not based on the dynamic of false statements, competition, self worth measurement, and so on.

This is why what you'll see from me is a sporadic social media presence, ranging from strong engagement about the work that I do, to just personal posts, to completely checking out from social media in order to self-reflect and find a more authentic way of relating. Because ‘Truth’ is my guiding force before anything else ❤️

Hello fellow adventurers of the mind,

I’m Anastasia, a multifaceted being with as many sides as there are people to perceive me. For over 15 years I have been doing a process called Voice Dialogue Facilitation. It’s a transformative process that guides you towards embracing and integrating all aspects of yourself. Through this exploration, you’ll find enhanced clarity, self-love, improved relationships, and, most importantly, inner freedom. This work is all about elevating consciousness but not disconnecting from every day human life.

Alongside my passion for Voice Dialogue Facilitation, I’m a licensed psychotherapist. As a mother, wife, cat parent, spiritual warrior, and a delightful mess, I wear many hats. Sometimes, I’m a fierce fireball of anger or a scared child; other times, I lean to be a people-pleaser and want to be liked. Life has granted me two homes—the enchanting forests and coastline of California, and the warm beaches and lush jungles of Phuket, Thailand.

All of this weaves into my ‘life program’—a path of living authentically and undivided, rooted in trust, inner stability, and connection. I believe in embracing the full spectrum of human experience, rather than escaping it. Heartbreaks, sadness, anger, and more—these emotions are also important part of our journey.

I love working with the clients that are authentic with themselves and are valuing inner growth. I welcome individuals, couples—anyone seeking to build a conscious foundation for their lives and relationships.

At Embracing Ourselves, I offer a transformative path towards experiencing greater clarity, love, and connection in your life and relationships. My approach is rooted in the belief that true transformation begins with self-awareness and self-love. By embracing all aspects of our ‘Selves’, we create a foundation for inner stability and personal growth that is rooted in self acceptance!