More Than One Victim

IT’S OKAY TO FEEL

A lot of people think that to be an indirect victim, there has to be something really bad or something big to happen. In many cases, there is a big, bad thing that does happen, but the majority of things that cause indirect victims to arise are small… Check out the rest at morethanonevictim.com LINK IN BIO

IT’S OKAY TO FEEL

A lot of people think that to be an indirect victim, there has to be something really bad or something big to happen. In many cases, there is a big, bad thing that does happen, but the majority of things that cause indirect victims to arise are small.

Recently a friend of mine spoke to me about how they feel the need to work on not being affected by the things that happen to those around them. It saddened me to hear the words they were saying about this. Being affected by things that happen to those around them is a natural, normal thing that happens when you care for someone. No one should feel as though they need to work on not being affected by those things. After further conversation, they informed me that they get angry when someone wrongs their friends or when they get in an argument with another person, but this is a normal thing. As human beings we care for one another, even more-so the ones that are closest to us. This friend of mine was being affected by another persons situation and not understanding that it is okay to be affected by these things. To a certain extent, we can’t control how we are affected by things initially. We cannot shame ourselves for feeling the way we do. Shaming ourselves just puts us in an even worse situation. Instead of shaming, we just have to work through it.

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MY TESTIMONY

A few weeks ago I posted a blog of one’s testimony as to how More Than One Victim’s presence has helped them, because of this I have decided to open my heart and explain how creating More Than One Victim and speaking to many of you has helped me.

Before I decided to create MTOV I was completely lost. I was trying so hard to get past all of the events that had occurred previously in my life that I had not even considered understanding those events rather than dwelling on them like I was. I had knew I was an indirect victim, but I hadn’t yet understood the meaning behind it, or I wasn’t applying the understanding to my thoughts quite yet.

One day it all clicked. A few days later I began forming MTOV. What had clicked was the fact that I couldn’t wake up every single day angry and upset with myself for feeling not just that the day he killed her, he killed a part of me too because of her death, but the feeling that his actions and capability to do them had killed part of me. I was so conflicted with my feelings that they didn’t even make sense in my own mind. I didn’t want to wake up every single day with that conflict, I needed to understand the conflict for myself. I needed to understand my thoughts. I needed to understand that it was okay that I felt the way that I did about his actions, not just my loss. I was an indirect victim of his actions, I couldn’t be mad at myself for feeling the way I did.

Once I had formed MTOV and put it out there for all to see I began to understand more and more every single day about indirect victims, not just through my own thoughts but through each and every single person that had contacted me about their stories, their experiences and their thoughts.

Testimony Blog:

When I was ten years old, I was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I was told that I wouldn’t make it past twenty years old. The illness wasn’t something that could be spread to others around me, but the pain from the diagnoses is what was able to spread. I was terrified of leaving those around me, even the people I had never spoken to. I never understood the guilt behind that. Then one day I was scrolling on Instagram and saw Emily’s post about something she built, More Than One Victim. I read through her posts and her website and began to understand the guilt within myself that I’ve had all these years. I wasn’t feeling guilty for my future ending in people that wouldn’t care, I was feeling guilty about my loss because they are indirect victims of my illness. I would have never understood this without MTOV. The guilt within has been extremely present all these years without an explanation. It had been weighing on me for so long because it made me feel like a “pick me girl” or someone that is more important than I am for feeling this way. Now I understand that within every situation there are so so many more people that are affected by everything that aren’t even understood. Now I don’t feel guilty for feeling the guilt I have already gained from having this illness and the guilt I do have, doesn’t weigh on me as much as it had in the past, because now I understand. – Anonymous

More Than One Victim is still in its beginning stages and with that, the goal is to reach as many people as it possibly can, since this topic is so important to everyone involved including myself. Personally, I believe that the best way to reach more people would be to get those who are already aware to share their stories that pertain to this topic. With this being said I will be checking the “share my story” tab for those who are interested in sharing their stories and reaching out to them to write the next and upcoming blogs. For those who follow MTOV on the Facebook platform, I will also begin to post these blogs on our page for easier access.

“More Than One Victim” What does the title have anything to do with indirect victims?? Short answer: Everything. Long answer: Check it out at morethanonevictim.com

“No it’s stupid, I’m fine.” ON SITE NOW. Check it out at morethanonevictim.com

“No It’s Stupid, I’m Fine.” In three days. Why this statement is more mentally deteriorating than saying the truth no matter is one is an indirect victim, direct victim, or anything.

Last night we had the opportunity to meet with Chive Idaho! Big things are coming your way!

Indirect victims are everywhere. Sometimes we forget how people in the present can be effected by history. Check out today’s blog on our site under the blog tab!

Informational blog regarding the Who? What? Where? And why? Of indirect victims! Check it out! morethanonevictim.com

Most indirect victims are in plain sight, people paying for others actions that they had no control of, people suffering from their ancestors suffering or the suffering inflicted by their ancestors and all other things alike. When people see pain that is caused by another source they tend to feel bad, as anyone would. Those people in pain caused by another source tend to be more irritable or angered due to the pain caused since they feel it is out of their control. As humans, we do not like to feel out of control. When we are put into a situation or circumstance that causes us to be effected by an outside source and causing us to be an indirect victim, we usually are harder on ourselvuues for being effected by that outside source we had no control of, the same goes for direct victims as well. The difference between the direct and indirect victims in this situation is that the mass majority of direct victims understand that they are a victim, usually indirect victims do not. They usually don’t understand this due to the fact that there is a great lack of awareness towards them.

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More Than One Victim is bringing awareness to the lack of understanding for indirect victims and its effect on society, but what does that mean? The best way to explain this is when someone commits su***de, people think of the direct victims of the situation. Those direct victims are the family and close friends, people forget about the person sitting next to them in math class that they never talked to. If that person is a sane individual it is very likely that they are effected to the same extent as a close friend would be. The reasoning behind this is because if that person is sane, they most likely will go home after learning about their peers passing and they could ask themselves “what if I could’ve done something?” “what if I could’ve said something?” and all the hundreds of other “what if” questions. Asking yourself those questions are often detrimental to ones mental health, which tends to be noticeable by other people surrounding. If someone asks them if they are okay, the likely response would be “no it’s stupid, i’m fine.” The likely reason why this is said is because the individual doesn’t feel valid with their feelings. They don’t feel like they should be sad or effected by such a situation. That’s not okay because everyone’s feelings are valid. The reason why people in these situations often feel invalid is because they don’t understand that they are an indirect victim, MTOV wants to change that. To change that blogs and informative writings are posted to the MTOV website every 1st and 15th of each month as an attempt to bring awareness and understanding towards indirect victims. More Than One Victim has some big things coming your way, stay tuned!

What are the levels of being an indirect victim and should they be labeled? Check out the newest blog on our site! morethanonevictim.com

HOME, MORE THAN ONE VICTIM MORE THAN ONE VICTIM Bringing awareness to the lack of understanding for indirect victims and its effect on society.

After focusing solely on indirect victims for the first month of MTOV, I thought that it would be a perfect time to touch on how sometimes a direct victim can also feel invalid with their feelings. Go check out the most recent blog!

https://morethanonevictim.com/uncategorized/direct-victims-can-feel-invalid-with-their-feelings-too/

Direct victims can feel invalid with their feelings too, MORE THAN ONE VICTIM I spoke to someone the other day. That person has always been there for me no matter how far I push them away

Check on someone you’ve lost touch with today

Today is the first 15th of the month since our launch on the 1st which means a new blog is posted on the site! Today’s ties in the mental health of indirect victims as well as how COVID-19 with the past year has effected people’s mental health. Go check it out on our site, next blog will be posted June 1st!
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HOME, MORE THAN ONE VICTIM MORE THAN ONE VICTIM Bringing awareness to the lack of understanding for indirect victims and its effect on society.

REMEMBER: Your feelings are valid

May is Mental Health Awareness month and in honor of that MTOV’s next post on the site will be connecting how someone’s mental health could be impacted from being an indirect victim. If you haven’t already check out https://morethanonevictim.com the next post will be on the 15th! In the mean time I want YOU to think about how an indirect victim’s mental health could be effected by being an indirect victim.

HOME, MORE THAN ONE VICTIM MORE THAN ONE VICTIM Bringing awareness to the lack of understanding for indirect victims and its effect on society.

TODAYS THE DAY morethanonevictim.com is now live and ready for interaction!! Go check it out, the link is in my bio!

I couldn’t be more thankful for everyone who has made this possible and for all the continuous support I have been getting throughout this process. Today’s just the beginning of this journey for More Than One Victim. Exciting things are coming soon 😉

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Tomorrow.

I’m excited to say that in just a few short days, MTOV will be launched. But what does that mean?
On May 1st, the website will be live and ready for interaction. On the site, there will be access to information regarding indirect victims, and the issue as a whole. Along with that information, there will be a forum section for not just indirect victims, but direct victims as well, to share and discuss their stories anonymously. There will be a form for individuals to fill out if they are interested in sharing their story with MTOV to be included in future blogs.
I’m so excited for this journey to finally begin, thank you all so much for the ongoing support throughout this whole process. See you May 1st 🙂

What is the goal?

The goal is to reach as many people as possible and help them understand indirect victims to a greater extent. The more people are exposed to information, the more they think about it, which increases likeliness that they will act upon the information given. more Than One Victim wants to get people thinking about this issue as well as providing a place for these indirect victims or others to share their stories to help them feel like they aren’t alone.