Brandi Davis, Your Parenting Partner

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The next time we tell kids not to tattle let’s think of this. Kids need to be mentored and taught HOW to work things out before they can do it solo.

Clear rules and boundaries.
Clear and connected consequences.
Fast follow through.

The tough part can be finding that connected consequence and also staying calm. That’s where I come in.

My clients can text me in real time and get consequences or vent so they can stay calm.

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“I’M BORED!!!” To this I say, “Find your fun. I can’t wait to see what you get up to.”

It’s not our jobs to curate the whole day and when we do, we do our kids a disservice. So much comes from being bored or even just sitting quietly or slowing down.

If your kids have a really tough time and you are just starting out, have a little fam meeting.

Have the kids, or you write out (or use pics) things they enjoy doing so when they are at a loss they can check in with the list and get ideas.

Yep, a lot of times we just squish unwanted behaviors. The problem is that without the wanted, behavior, a kid won’t know what to do in the situation and will revert back to the unwanted behavior.

Welcome, welcome new friends. Since we have so many new friends that join the fun today I thought I would repost this little diddy.

This is the sequel to , . Both books are fantastic. This page really jumped out at me because it’s actually true and if you’re a teacher or a parent also and anger is not allowed in your classroom or your home it’s time to rethink that.

Anger isn’t the problem, it’s the expression of anger in those strong feelings that can become dangerous. Our job is to mentor and teach positive positive and productive, emotional expression.

That doesn’t mean that your child has to be happy they can express themselves, but we want them to be safe and also not tear us down with venomous words. So they can say they don’t like us, that were mean, that they hate us that’s fine they just can’t hurt anyone or keep going with the insults.

If you wanna talk more about this, I can always do mentoring emotional expression and you can ask all the questions. If that’s something you’re interested in type, EMOTIONS, in the comments.

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Your child isn’t going to change if they are not getting the message.

If way one isn’t working then try new, possibly more connected and consistent way.

This doesn’t mean a louder more angry way.

Don’t know what to do next?
I can help you find consequences that really work without feeling awful.

There used to be a village. We used to have people to help and teach us and support us but now it can feel like parenting is such a solitary task.

I can help you find time in your day, make it so that you are not doing it alone, I can also be there to vent to and as a support.

Drop a line to sign up for your free Try It sessions and see how we can make this easier together.

If you need to take a break to keep your cool, do it.

Better to take a moment and handle things the way you want to.

Your kids are going to get more toys and more stuff this holiday season.

You know you don’t have room for it all. And you know you don’t wanna deal with it all.

Have your kids pick out a couple toys to give to children who do not have as much as they do. It’s important to let your children pick the toys out as well. Those things do belong to them and we don’t want to just take their things and give them away.

You CAN and MUST take care of you. Do the things that make YOU happy.

Let’s set boundaries. Let’s talk about how to be clear. Let’s talk about how you can get YOU time.

As you head into the holidays remember that there are many ways to say hello and no one owes anyone a hug.

Also for my new friends. How I got here.

Y’ALLLLLL, THIS IS A DEAL AND A HALF!

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You get to try consulting for a steal.

Sign up before Dec. 1st (we can schedule you into December) to save your spot.

Consulting is all about you and YOUR goals.

I am here to help you get to where YOU want to be and to be your safe space to vent, question and be you.

They may be struggling but that’s ok. Struggle doesn’t mean it’s time to step in.

You can ask what their first step is. Or next step. Or just give space and time.

They may get super frustrated but that’s ok. Tell them you believe in them.

We have some new friends so I thought I would tell ya a few fun facts. It’s actually 29 yrs teaching now and 16 in fairmount. 😄

We go to rage rooms or ax throwing, sometimes it feels good to get those big feelings out.

We have soft blocks but I have used beanbags, or soft balls. Sometimes o make targets on the wall.

When they are calm, they clean it up.

Give it a try.

The holidays are coming up and those kids are gonna be home. You don’t have to entertain them or micromanage their day. Let them be bored.

“I can’t wait to see what you come up with,” is what I like to say.

🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s almost time to bring this guy/gal back. The thing is, if you need this to get through the holiday season , what you REALLY need is MEEEE!

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If your kids just like to find elfie, cool but if you use it as discipline, January is gonna end up being ROUGH once it’s gone. Drop a 🧝🏽‍♀️to get info about how to sign up.

This is not the flex this guy thinks it is and what he said was not a compliment. Moms don’t want to be superheroes. They want you to do your share. They don’t want to do it all. If it’s THAT tough, that means you need more practice and need to do more. And the end 🤦🏻‍♀️. Is he gonna leave that for HER??? I know it’s just a real, and it’s supposed to be funny, but the thing is, this is real life. Let’s change this narrative.

Send help.

“But grandma will be mad.” “But your aunt thinks it’s rude.” “They just love you.”

NOPE!!! It is their body. If they don’t want it touched that’s THEIR choice.

Before you head to family, talk about other ways to great them. A wave, a smile, a nod…. Of course your child might also need some time before they great a room full of people.

Advocate for your KIDS, not the grown ups.

Conferences are coming up for some. They are a time to find out how your kid is doing and where they need support. It’s not a time to punish.

Check out my pod all about how to go to conferences, how to prepare, what to listen for and how to make sure you get allll of the info.

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Parenting can be tough and one of the tough parts is when you get a kid who is not like you. When you don’t understand them. When you can’t stand in their shoes.

You can try to make them into the person that you THINK they should be OR you could get to know them, support them, even just admit that you are different people and just love them.

Trying to make your child into what you think they should be is only going to pull you apart and hurt your child.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Focus on safety, kindness, responsibilities and if they want green hair, don’t wanna play sports, wanna be an artist, only wears black, likes comics, is happy with their 2 friends…. Just go with it. It’s their life, not yours.

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It’s not easy to watch kids struggle but the end result is so worth it. It’s not our jobs to make life easy for our kids. It’s our jobs to mentor them so that they can believe that they can do and get through tough, scary and frustrating stuff.

SO when we find the yes, kids feel heard.

"Later we can blow bubbles outside but right now it's raining and lighting so it's no safe."

"Cookie time is later. What kind do yo0u want when it's time?"

It won't always work because kids are people and still might have feels about stuff but this WILL work ALMOST all of the time and that's enough to keep your bandwidth strong and you focused on how to move through.