Divinely Divorced

Happy Tuesday from Dr. Carol. 🌺 I hope you’re all doing well or as well as you can be in this chaotic world. It’s been an awhile since I’ve posted a message & wanted to express gratitude 🙏. I don’t know about you but sometimes gratitude eludes me when I see all the death & destruction that is being levied on the Middle East. I feel like I’m in a perpetual state of grief & have been for many years now. When I think about gratitude though, it really does lift my spirits. It reminds me how far I’ve evolved & learned about taking much better care of myself after giving so much to others. If you knew my story you’d understand. My daughter is encouraging me to write a book & I’m seriously considering it. It is an inspirational story of resilience, strength, smarts, & empathy. When I think about the awful things that I’ve been through, I must also remember the joys. There are so many. My kids being the biggest joy of my life & when I see them struggling, I want to move mountains to lessen their suffering but know that, as I had to learn to pick myself up, they too must learn & I must let them. When I feel angry with my kids, I think of my mom & think how many times she must have felt furious with me because of my decisions. The thing is we all learn at different paces. One size does not fit all. What doesn’t ever change is the unconditional love that my heart holds even when steam is coming out of my ears. That steam signifies a relationship with all of its ups & down. I’ve gotten better at channeling my anger for the greater good & making change where I can. Our capacity to love is boundless. People in power have forgotten this very important life lesson. Let us help them remember! In solidarity! ♥️

"On my flight from San Diego to Nashville today, sitting in the row next to me was a 96 year old woman who hasn’t flown in 15 years.

For her birthday she wanted to go to Kansas City to see her family but she was scared of flying.

She asked for this man’s hand during takeoff and then hugged him again when experiencing turbulence.

This gentleman I should say, gladly took her hand, let her hold onto him, calmed her by talking to her and explaining everything that was happening, and simply was that stranger there for her.

He knew just what to do the entire flight to help.

He helped her stand up to go to the restroom and watched her carefully walk down the aisle.

It made me smile the whole flight as he comforted her.

This man was her flight angel.

He held her bag, helped her get off the plane and into the wheelchair, and when she got confused wondering where her daughter went (she called her her sister), he stayed with her until she caught up with her daughter who got separated from her.

I walked away sobbing happy tears being so thankful for people like this wonderful human.

She was so grateful that she wanted him to have her flight pretzels. 😇

Hats off to you sir, for your kind heart and your compassion toward someone whom you’ve never met. I have never been so touched on a flight before.

This truly made my week. 💜”

Credit: Megan Ashley

Happy Monday ✨

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🌺My affirmation: I will let go of my worries & welcome opportunities & blessings! 🌺 What’s yours?

My affirmation: I let go of my worries & welcome opportunities & blessings 🌹. What’s yours?

“Quiet the mind & you’ll hear everything meant & not meant for you” ~ Dr. Carol Deas-Lopez, Founder & CEO of Empowering Breakthroughs, Host of Divinely Divorced on IG & FB
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In our ♥️ forever! Rest in peace beautiful soul 🌹

Tina was unstoppable. I am deeply mourning her death! She taught me that I too deserved better & I could accomplish amazing things. Rest in Peace beautiful soul. 💖

With each mass shooting our collective grief is worsening. Unless we demand the govt intervene & do something about these assault rifles that kill large numbers of people in seconds, this will continue to be our new normal.😞

Don’t dismiss your feelings. Don’t dismiss your children’s feelings. Don’t sweep your sadness & anger under the rug like so many do because they think it’s weak to show any kind of emotion or empathy. These emotions are guiding you to take action & get the help you need. This level of self care can preserve your mental health & save your life! 🙏

If you’re unphased with what’s happening, keep doing what you’re doing.

Feel free to share if you’re so inclined. Cheers to our collective healing! ♥️🙏♥️🙏

Good morning 🌞 from Dr. Carol & Empowering Breakthroughs.
I wanted to share some food for thought on this 4th day of May: Aging is a gift 🎁 Many never get to experience the blessings that come with it. So while you see all of these anti- aging products on the market that cost a pretty penny, you don’t need these expensive things to feel beautiful inside & out. I myself have been on a journey of embracing my authentic self. That includes my natural hair color. As you can see I’m half gray/white & half blonde. The goal of becoming my authentic self is asking me to stop doing what I’ve been doing for decades. I don’t need to spend an arm & a leg on myself to feel good about myself and actually I’m refusing to do that. It’s how I view myself that really matters. If I think I’m not good enough then I will continue jumping through hoops to prove that I am and this includes spending an inordinate amount of money 💰. Since my financial health matters to me I’m becoming very discerning about where I put my money. I can practice self care in all sorts of ways & I don’t have to spend beaucoup bucks to do it. Self love says that I get to decide these things & do what’s best for me . You’re the one who matters in your own life. So don’t let anyone give you a hard time if you want to make changes to your appearance and embrace the ‘real’ you. You are beautiful! 💖 Have a blessed day & May the 4th be with you! 🤩

HAPPY EASTER! 🐰🐣🐇

Food for thought! Have a blessed day!

How many of us have said “I don’t want to fall in love again,” only to do just that & have it go sideways. 🌺

After a breakup & as part of our healing process, it’s important to do what I call a ‘relationship autopsy.’ Whether we ended the relationship or not, it’s important to evaluate why the relationship ended & to see where we might want to make changes in preparation for the next one (if that’s what we choose). It’s valuable information that can help us have a better experience and not repeat unhelpful relational patterns. 🌺

Giving ourselves the time we deserve (rather than jumping into the next one) can make a huge difference in our ability to show up as our best selves & be more discerning. 🌺

If you need support, send us a message. We’re here to help you get on the right track! 🌺

FYI- we’re not a dating service. We’re a consulting/coaching business dedicated to helping people move forward with their lives after a breakup. 🌺

Ladies, we’d love for you to join us in our private FB group Divinely Divorced for Women. To be accepted, please answer all questions & agree to the group rules. I hate having to decline people for not following the instructions. Thank you & have a wonderful day 💚

🌺Mental health tip🌺

I work with a lot of folks who are grieving within their relationships. Here’s why:

A lack of gratitude, taking advantage, & straight up ignoring can damage any relationship. Oftentimes people go out of their way to help, whether it be financially, emotionally, or any way really, & their acts of kindness are completely taken for granted. After awhile you start to notice that the person is not being as helpful when you’re dropping hints or outright asking & you’re wondering why or maybe you’re feeling mad, because you’ve gotten used to them stepping up without much effort on your part. This is an important clue about the imbalance in the relationship & the need for homeostatic & allostatic balance 🌺

Thinking the world revolves around you is a relationship killer. People do catch on after awhile & they will pull themselves back to preserve their emotional & physical energy, and there is so much grief attached to all of this.🌺

Taking and never giving is the definition of selfishness & in the world we currently live in, it’s reached epidemic levels. Relationships rarely survive such unhealthy behavior. If you have people in your life that you care about, make sure you do your part & show it. If you don’t, you can expect that over time they won’t be so readily available.🌺

Greetings from the San Francisco Bay Area! 🌉Friendly reminder that this is . Please take the time to recognize, thank, & honor the women in your life. It will do them all a world of good. Wishing you a wonderful day, week, month, year, life! 💚

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As long as you try
to impress others,
you are not convinced
of your own strength.

As long as you strive
to be better than others,
you are doubting your
own worth.

As long as you try
to elevate yourself
by lowering others,
you are questioning your
own greatness.

Who is in peace with oneself
doesn’t have to prove anything
to others.

Who knows one’s own worth
doesn’t need validation.

Who knows about one’s own greatness
lets others keep theirs.

-Gabriele Ebbighausen
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We’re tired of being the physical & emotional punching bag for unhealthy & downright bad people. Show us respect or leave us alone or we’ll leave you alone. 🔥

Women & men cannot afford to sit on the sidelines when women are under attack from multiple sides. Normalizing the mistreatment of women has been one of the worst things to happen to mankind. And it’s getting worse. 🔥

I’ve been an advocate of this issue for the majority of my life & I can tell you this is not an exaggeration. It’s all hands on deck! Time to start giving a sh*t🔥
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I don’t want to see anyone victimized. The scammers are out in full force & we have no meaningful protection. The onus is on all of us who are doing legit business to protect ourselves and warn the public. If you suspect, please report, block, and send out a warning like I’m doing now. 🌺
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You might think this question is cheesy, but if you take a step back and really think about it, we could all change something to show ourselves more 💗. Questions to ask yourself: ‘Is the change realistic & actually doable with my present circumstances?’ ‘Does the change I want to make require a plan?’ 🌺

No matter if the change is small or large it’s best to be mindful rather than impulsive, to get the long results you’re looking for & then giving yourself plenty of time to adjust, since the change process rarely occurs overnight. This is a respectful & loving approach. 🌺

If you want support, this is what we do. We get fired up when it comes to helping people better themselves. Let our positive energy be a guiding & supportive force in your life. No question about it, you are worth this investment. See the link in the bio to schedule a free consultation. 🌺