Geoff Steurer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Saint George, UT Videos

The safety needs for a betrayed partner immediately following betrayal can often feel extreme initially, but are crucial for the nervous system’s stability and recovery. Join us as we discuss how the betrayed partner's safety can be ensured by eliminating triggers and threats, and the importance of the betraying partner's responsiveness to these needs. Through creating safety in the initial stages after betrayal, trust and genuine recovery can be reached. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148675692 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-our-kids-don-t-connect-with-my-wife 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In this heartfelt interview, Ashlee Boyson The Moments We Stand shares her powerful story of overcoming devastating betrayal and loss. Starting from the time she became distant from her husband following the birth of their fifth child, Ashlee describes the overwhelming anxiety and turmoil she faced, culminating in discovering her husband's infidelity and his tragic murder. Throughout her journey, Ashlee grappled with self-blame, anger, and the immense pain of her children's loss. Over the years, she transitioned from viewing herself as a victim to finding strength in helping others. Through writing her blog, 'The Moments We Stand,' authoring a three-part book series, and offering courses for those experiencing infidelity and loss, Ashlee found healing and has empowered countless others to discover their worth and truth. Her story is a testament to resilience and the transformative power of facing one's fears and letting go of victimhood. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148673876 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-my-ex-husband-is-playing-games-with-his-visitation 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In this episode I share a question from a listener coping with life after divorce. Men tend to have less social support than women, often due to couple and family friendships being more driven by the women. This can leave men feeling isolated and lonely after divorce if those friendships ended when the marriage dissolved. Join me as I discuss the emotional, spiritual, and relational recovery needed to rebuild your life after divorce. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148661908 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-my-daughter-keeps-sneaking-inappropriate-books 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

There is a metaphor used in the Boy Scouts called the “blood circle”. To summarize, it encourages young boys to create an area around you where you are less likely to cut someone with your pocket knife. In this episode we are using this metaphor as it relates to unintentionally hurting others, specifically in the context of rebuilding trust in relationships. Join us as we discuss the importance of recognizing and addressing unintentional hurtful behaviors, seeking partner feedback, and fostering open communication for deeper understanding and connection. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148645527 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-do-i-prevent-my-kids-from-becoming-addicts 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

How do you deal with coercion and emotional immaturity from other people? Do you defend yourself, disengage, or meet the other person at their level and try to play their game? In this episode we discuss the importance of disengaging from unhealthy interactions, not engaging in defense, and focusing on our own actions and reactions. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148633420 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-do-i-have-a-good-marriage-when-my-husband-has-asperger-s-syndrome 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

I was recently invited to be a guest on the “Therapy Brothers” podcast. In this thought-provoking episode, Brannon Patrick and I delve into the complex and crucial topic of rebuilding trust in relationships affected by betrayal. We explore the foundational role of honesty in the healing process, discuss the challenges and misconceptions about trust recovery, and share personal insights and professional experiences. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148614750 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-do-i-repair-my-relationship-with-my-daughter 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

Discovering you have been betrayed is an extreme life-altering moment. Knowing what to do or where to turn next can feel insurmountable. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the betrayed partner. Join me as I outline encouraging messages and steps to help you through the disclosure process and moving forward. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148587757 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-can-i-know-my-husband-is-telling-me-the-truth 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

The road after a betrayal and disclosure can be long and arduous. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the recovering partner who is inevitably facing extreme discomfort and uncertainty. Stepping into disclosure is an intense, demanding experience, but the aftermath is the time to really do the work as an individual and to support your partner in their new reality. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148585460 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-is-it-possible-to-overcome-lust 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

The need to be accepted, combined with the fear of abandonment and rejection can lead us into becoming what other people want us to be while hiding who we truly are. This can drive us to deceit, manipulation, lies, and betrayal. In this episode I have invited Dr. Robert Glover to discuss his book, “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. Join us as we discuss the need for emotional honesty and authenticity in order to build healthy connections. Dr. Glover also covers the impact of fathers and generational patterns, the need for masculine initiation, and the transition from ‘Nice Guy’ to authenticity. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148582675 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-what-is-the-difference-between-helping-and-being-used 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

It's common for betrayed partners to wonder if they'll ever be themselves again. Enduring sleepless nights, constant stress, and regular emotional breakdowns can cause doubt that there can be a future worth looking forward to. This month we are going to focus on how betrayed partners can build resilience in the aftermath of betrayal. We've invited therapist and betrayal expert, Kaylee Dunn, to discuss how betrayed partners can begin developing more resilience in the face of devastating loss and betrayal. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148574699 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-my-son-in-law-doesn-t-want-to-spend-time-with-our-family 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

Narcissism has gained momentum in everyday conversation. While many individuals exhibit varying degrees of narcissistic tendencies, true Narcissistic Personality Disorder needs much more attention and diagnosing than a mere accusation. In this episode we welcome Tony Overbay to discuss the difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism. Join us as we break down both and the importance of understanding narcissism, emotional immaturity, and the challenges they present in relationships. We also discuss the impact of confabulation and gaslighting in relationships, where one partner may manipulate or distort reality to maintain a sense of control or avoid accountability. Tony emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, self-care, and setting boundaries as essential steps for individuals dealing with narcissistic behavior in their partners. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148570640 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-i-m-a-horrible-wife 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

One of the biggest casualties men experience, often when they are boys, is getting separated from their own hearts and living life on autopilot. Addictions, trauma, abandonment, and other challenges can create more separation and make it difficult for men to feel alive and energized. It can also make it difficult to connect to themselves, to God, and their most important relationships. We invited Kurt Francom, a board member of the non-profit men's organization, "Warrior Heart", to join us for a discussion on how men can find their hearts and re-energize their lives. This is a great discussion to listen to whether or not you're a man. We all have men in our lives who, as Kurt says, "Need permission to not need permission to reclaim their own hearts." We'd love to hear what you think of this interview! 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148565936 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-my-husband-expects-me-to-be-his-mother 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

Communication in a marriage or committed relationship isn't always easy, especially in the aftermath of betrayal. We've invited fellow therapist Nathaniel Gustafson to teach us more about the four levels of communication and how to improve your ability to build a stronger connection. We make a special emphasis on how this can help men, who are often socialized to avoid anything emotional, deepen their ability to connect with their partner. Listen to this great discussion and make sure to follow the guidelines in his infographic so you can improve your connection with your partner. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148562959 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-my-father-in-law-won-t-let-me-repair-our-relationship 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

We've invited Julia Witt to join us for a great discussion on transactional versus transformational relationships. Geoff discovered Julia when someone sent him a Tik Tok video of her discussing this topic. He knew he had to invite her to share more with our community. Transactional relationship dynamics are so common, especially in couples healing from broken trust. So many guys who are trying to rebuild trust want to do the right things, but then inadvertently create a dynamic that creates more resentment. We discuss how to challenge this dynamic and create a more transformational relationship for long-term recovery. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148559724 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-my-extended-family-doesn-t-include-my-family 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In this episode we are joined by Jason Portnoy, who wrote a memoir called “Silicon Valley Porn Star”. Jason shares his personal journey of addiction, infidelity, and self-discovery. We discuss the importance of surrendering and taking responsibility for unhealthy patterns in order to heal, grow, and overcome addiction. As with any personal recovery story, please recognize that comparisons and criticism are normal reactions, as you may not agree with or do some of the same things he and his wife have done in their journey. As the famous 12-step saying goes, "Take what you need and leave the rest for someone else." We hope this interview helps strengthen your resolve to live a life of integrity and stay in the light. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148552338 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-do-i-support-my-mentally-ill-daughter-and-her-children-at-the-same-time-2 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In this episode we discuss the topic of rebuilding trust and healing from betrayal. The concepts of 'worthiness' and 'trust' often get confused, and it is extremely important to maintain a clear distinction. 'Worthiness' is someone's inherent human value, which is unchangeable regardless of their actions, while 'trust' is about behavior patterns, competencies, values, and is earned by consistency and reliability. Join me as we caution against conflating these issues, as it can create confusion, suffering, and derail the recovery process. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148524094 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-what-are-the-rules-about-dating-later-in-life 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

Most couples never imagine they could find themselves in the crisis of an extramarital affair. The slope is slippery and every couple is at risk for infidelity issues unless they have intentionality and boundaries around their marriage. We are joined in this episode by Shannon Brown, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who specializes in affair recovery. We discuss the risk factors couples should be aware of when protecting their marriage from infidelity. The majority of affairs in marriage begin with familiarity and emotional connection. We want to help couples understand these risk factors and work together to strengthen their affair-proofing efforts. This is a great discussion that will hopefully spark some conversation about how to protect your most important relationship. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148468632 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-do-i-respond-to-opinions-from-others-about-my-divorce 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In this episode we are wrapping up our 4-part series and focusing on spiritual intimacy. Join us as we not only discuss deepening spiritual intimacy when both individuals are on the same page, but as we explore the challenges that arise when couples have different beliefs, or when one person’s beliefs shift. These changes can feel threatening to the relationship, but we will dive into the importance of curiosity, communication, and respect in balancing the dynamics of spiritual intimacy. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148433532 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-why-do-people-want-what-they-can-t-have 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In this episode we continue the discussion on intimacy, this time focusing on intellectual intimacy. Intellectual intimacy is the sharing of ideas, perspectives, and opinions, possibly challenging others’ beliefs, while simultaneously being willing to hear and learn someone else’s viewpoints. Join us as we discuss how asynchronous communication can impact intellectual intimacy in relationships, what to do when one partner hijacks conversations, the importance of curiosity, and tips to increase intellectual intimacy. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148430040 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-i-learned-my-son-abused-my-daughter-20-years-ago 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp

In today’s episode we continue the discussion on intimacy, this time focusing on emotional intimacy. Sharing your deepest thoughts, feelings, and fears requires safety and vulnerability. Join us as we discuss the importance of emotional intimacy and ways to improve and nurture this in your most valued relationships. 🎙️Listen to the rest of the From Crisis to Connection podcast episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2148413592 📝 Sign up for our free weekly newsletter https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media 💬 Read the latest #QAwithGeoff https://www.geoffsteurer.com/blog/q-a-with-geoff-how-do-i-deal-with-my-teenager-s-bad-attitude 💍 Download my free 3 Simple Steps to End Your Marriage Argument PDF https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument ♥️ You can rebuild broken trust with my Trust Building Bootcamp https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp