Evan Marc Katz

There’s a temptation when you first start dating to tell a guy what you expect from him. After all, previous men have disappointed you, you’ve learned your lessons, and you want to set healthy boundaries and expectations. The issue is twofold: a) you can’t tell a man who is not your boyfriend how to act and b) you don’t always deliver the message in an effective way to get what you want.

In this episode, I break down the logic about when you should talk about your needs and how to know your requests are reasonable and well-received.

Link to watch/listen in the comments below.

There’s a lot of talk about red flags: separated guys, recently divorced guys, guys who never want to get married, guys who aren’t sure if they want kids, long distance guys, etc.

These men are easy to spot and avoid. But how good are you at paying attention to GREEN flags – the traits and behavior you want to see in men?

In this Love U Podcast, I run down 7 things to look for in a new partner if you want a chance at long-term compatibility.

Links to watch/listen in the comments below.

This is 52. Thanks to you for following me and making it all possible. Thanks to my wife for being my everything.

Worth a listen.

How to Attract and Select a Quality Partner with Evan Marc Katz Join us for an insightful episode with Evan Katz, a celebrated author and dating coach, as we uncover the keys to attracting and choosing a quality partner. ...

I haven't interviewed anyone on my podcast since 2017 but when I got the opportunity to speak with Thais Gibson, creator of The Personal Development School, I leapt at the chance. She's fiercely intelligent and listening to her go deeper on attachment styles and limerence was a treat.

Watch or listen to the full episode on Managing Your Attachment Style - links in the comments below.

Offering a free presentation on how to be the CEO of your love life, followed by a live Q&A. Live portion starts at 9:40PST/12:40EST. Can't wait to see you there. Link in the comments.

Last week, I joined Lucas Rockwood, host of Age Less / Live More and founder of YOGABODY, to talk about how to start dating again in the later chapters of life. We dive into why a pragmatic approach is needed, how to view yourself as the CEO and your dates as interns and the the truth about dating apps vs. real life.

Listen to the full episode in the links below.

As an independent, successful, single woman, you’ve built a life about which you can be extremely proud.

There’s only one problem. You have to take care of everything yourself. The mortgage. The health insurance. The plans. The repairs. The vacations. You take care of your parents, you take care of your kids, you take care of your clients.

I just have one question for you: who’s taking care of YOU?

This special Love U Podcast episode explores the story of one woman who is finally ready to let a man take care of her.

Links in the comments below.

Great way to start the day! "I met Dave on Match after completing Love U in 2023. We started Dating in May of 2023 and he recently moved in with me as a committed life partner! Goals achieved with Evan's help! Grateful!" - Jackie

Did you check out the NYT top 100 books of the 21st century? It's so humbling to be an avid reader and not even come close to reading the quintessential books of our time. Click on the link in the comments to see what you've read, what you'd like to read, and share your thoughts below.

I once took a poll and discovered that 40% of my mailing list was not dating at all. These are women who had enough interest in the subject matter to reach out to me for dating advice, but, for their own reasons, chose not to use it. I feel for them.

When all your past relationships have disappointed, it’s natural to feel afraid and paralyzed when it comes to dating. The problem is that you’ll never find love if you don’t date.

In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to nudge you to stop letting fear win.

Link in the comments below.

"Learning is most efficient in the long run when it’s inefficient in the short run...Frustration is not a sign you are not learning but ease is." From Range, by David Epstein

Happy 4th, y’all.

The first presidential debate of 2024 was revealing.

We saw, quite clearly, that the two candidates running for office were, in fact, incapable of being the leader of the free world. How does this apply to dating and relationships, you might ask?

Well, the world is filled with Donald Trumps and Joe Bidens.

One is selfish and untrustworthy. The other is a nice guy who is not capable of the job.

So, what should you do, as the CEO of your love life, when you run across men like these? Check out this Love U Podcast to hear my take. Link in the comment below.

My favorite local getaway: the wineries of Santa Ynez Valley with my favorite person.

Playing hooky with my BFF Carol Allen at Huntington Gardens over afternoon tea.

Happy Father’s Day. Tell your Dad or the father of your kids that you love and appreciate him (only if you do!) It goes a really long way.

Every week I get an email like this: "Hi Evan I wanted to write you as I was going through all notes I had from almost 2 years ago. I had recently left a 4 year relationship and was on the quest for building myself back up and finding my Mr. Right. After reading many of your blogs, listening to your youtubes, and free e-books, it started to sink in. I really understood that I was undervaluing myself and letting men walk all over me even though that's not how I once would have described myself. I've been in a healthy, happy relationship for more than a year and a half and we are headed towards engagement and starting a family together. I am so grateful I found you when I did and recommend you to my single mid-30 female friends. Thank you for everything you have created!" If you're not subscribed to my podcast or free mailing list, click on one of the links below. I'm here to help.

Saturday brunch with the wife.

I’ve got a saying in Love U: give up your dream to achieve your dream.

What that means is that, if the thing you’re pursuing isn’t making you happy, you may want to pivot and pursue something else.

This is a lesson that takes a long time to learn. You give it your all, you see glimpses of hope, you have just enough success to keep going, and the next thing you know, you’ve squandered a decade feeling disconnected and dissatisfied.

The first dream I gave up was my screenwriting career. I loved writing scripts that made people laugh. I loved winning contests and meeting studios and network executives. I loved the creative process I had with my writing partner. I didn’t like being a depressed, unemployed 29-year-old man who couldn’t make a living after a decade.

The second dream I gave up was my image of the perfect partner. I knew what I was attracted to. I knew what I thought I deserved. I wasn’t going to settle. And if there was a top chef/supermodel/Rhodes Scholar anywhere in the greater Los Angeles area, I was going to find her. A decade and 300 dates later, I came to realize that what I thought I wanted and what made me happy were two different things.

You know what happened when I gave up both of those dreams?

I became a successful dating coach.

I got happily married.

And I am FAR happier than I would have been had I not given up my original dreams.

The reason I’m writing today is that there’s one more dream I’ve been pursuing for a decade: the dream of having MORE. It’s the same affliction I had before, except this time I had greater reason to believe I could achieve it.

Click on the link below to see about some big changes around here.

Reminder: You are a woman worthy of being loved unconditionally.

Share this with someone who needs to hear this today. 🙏

P.S. - If you are wondering if you are a good fit for my coaching service, I offer a free 15 minute consultation….. No need to bring your credit card.

Feel free to send me a DM for more info.

If you feel stuck, check this out. For subscribers only. Link in the comments.

Let’s do an IG/LinkedIn follow party! Where are you on IG/LinkedIn? (I'm a late bloomer, what can I say?)

If your relationship isn’t easy, it’s not that good.

Time to find a better one.

Drop a 🙏 if you’d like to learn more about how to do that.

The number of people who blame the opposite s*x for their dating woes is far greater than the number of people who try to assume responsibility for their past actions and choices.

Why look inward when it’s so easy to fault men for being selfish, broken, losers, players and egomaniacs? (And a good number of them ARE!)

The key is in understanding the common denominator: YOU

YOU accepted his bad behavior.
YOU tolerated his lying and cheating
YOU thought it was okay that he put you down and diminished you.
YOU did this again and again for years.

The good news is that fixing this problem is incredibly simple and straightforward.

✔️ Remember, the next guy has nothing to do with the last guy. Or even the last ten guys. If you always choose lying, cheating heartbreakers, it says more about your choice in men than it does about all men. There are always going to be bad men out there; you must develop the ability to identify them and leave them sooner instead of investing years of your life in them.

✔️ Choose different men. One of the core tenets of my Love U program is that you don’t have to change your personality or your looks to find a great guy. You just have to stop wasting your time on the wrong men. And, contrary to popular belief, you don’t ATTRACT the wrong men, you ACCEPT the wrong men.

Once you stop accepting bad relationships, you’ll never fall into the same situation again.

Drop a 💯 below and I’ll send you the link to my Break-up Program that gives you a step-by-step process that makes love inevitable.

-Evan

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Sick of doing everything for men and getting nothing in return? You're not alone. Click the link in the comments to read more.

I AM MARRIED!!!! l will never forget the support, love and care you have always communicated over the years with expert blogs, advice and training. I absolutely adored the honour of joining the love u academy as part of a prize draw and I credit everything I’ve learnt from that experience for the amazing healthy relationship myself and husband I now have!

My husband makes me feel incredibly safe, heard and understood. I give this advice often (and your website address) to single ladies like me who ask me how I met my husband. As someone who had always been ruminating for years and paralysed in fear and insecurities, I have not spent one second second guessing my husband. The answer is always yes, and he always asks! I never thought it was possible to share my life with someone who accepts me, appreciates me and gets me, and we want to go to the same place at the same time!

It really is the stuff dreams are made of, simple communication, respectfulness, compatibility in values, commitment, laughter, cherishing and recognising others feelings and needs and of course desire for each other.

My husband is my favourite person to be around and we are doing life together (with our rose coloured glasses in check) in every way.

Thank you Evan, thank you so much for not losing faith, and showing a hopeless scared girl like me the pathway to be loved.

Best, Claire