Neil D Brown

Do you find yourself in a constant struggle trying to get your teenager to do their chores? Read the latest newsletter for tips on getting you and your teen to a good place. https://mailchi.mp/neildbrown/stop-the-parent-teen-chore-battle

Parenting Tip: Ask more questions, give less advice. If you tell your teen what to do, he may balk. But if the solution is his, he owns it.

Rather than giving your son or daughter a directive, ask them their ideas and plans for solving the problem. If the solution comes from them, it’s far more likely to turn into action.

Get my book, Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle. You’ll find plenty of useful guidance there with a step by step process for dramatically changing dynamics in your family. neildbrown.com/books

Ask More Questions, Give Less Advice -or- How Gramps Got His Grandson to Put Stuff Away

Read more at https://neildbrown.com/parenting-tips/ask-more-questions-give-less-advice

Rather than giving your son or daughter a directive, ask them their ideas and plans for solving the problem. If the solution comes from them, it’s far more likely to turn into action.

We can learn a lot from our children! Read the article - How Our Kids Help Us Find & Heal Our Own Issues at neildbrown.com/families/how-our-kids-help-us-find-and-heal-our-own-issues

Eileen and I are vacationing with family in Alaska. Here we hiked above the Exit Glacier in Kenai Fjords National Park. The views were breathtaking.

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Wishing everyone a happy and safe Fourth of July. Let’s remember that patriotism is about working hard to make our country better.

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Don’t Polarize, Synthesize: Tips For Communicating With Your Spouse About the Kids

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Is your teen pushing all the buttons? (You're not alone!)

Raising teenagers can feel like a constant power struggle. They crave independence, but boundaries are still crucial. This often leads to control battles that leave everyone frustrated.

I'm excited to announce that I'm creating a NEW online course specifically designed to help parents navigate this challenging time! In this course, you'll learn:

- Effective communication strategies to connect with your teen ️
- How to set healthy boundaries that promote trust and respect
- Practical tools to de-escalate conflict situations
- Techniques to support your teen's emotional well-being

Want early access and exclusive discounts? Sign up for my newsletter at https://bit.ly/4eGEyKQ or on our website at neildbrown.com.

I'll keep you updated on the launch date and offer valuable parenting tips along the way.



P.S. Share this post with any parent friends who might be struggling with their teenager!

Enjoyed a special brunch for Father's Day. And Happy Father's Day to all the great dads out there.

It’s often challenging for parents of kids with ADHD to know when parental support is appropriate, and when they are letting their kids get away with something.

How is a parent to know when to deal with their son or daughter’s behavior as a function of their ADHD, and when is it simply bad behavior?

Learn more about this topic by visiting my article - Is it ADHD or is it Bad Behavior:
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How is a parent to know when to deal with their son or daughter’s behavior as a function of their ADHD, and when is it simply bad behavior?

Find the answer at
https://mailchi.mp/neildbrown/is-it-adhd-or-is-it-bad-behavior

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Power struggles between parents and teens are nothing new, but chronic control battles are destructive to teen development as well as the entire family.

If you're in a control battle with your teen and nothing you've tried has worked, download a copy of my book. Many parents have told me it was the least expensive and most effective therapy session they’ve ever had.

Get your copy today. → neildbrown.com/books

Want to create positive changes in your family and get them to stick? Listen to the podcast at https://neildbrown.com/podcast/how-to-create-lasting-change-in-families for solutions. ✨

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Eileen and I are taking a few days to visit Yosemite National Park with our son and daughter-in-law Daniel and Marissa. Every view driving and hiking is breathtaking.

How much screen time is health for kids and teens?
https://neildbrown.com/podcast/how-much-screen-time-is-healthy/
A relevant and tough question for any parent in this modern age of technology. Visit the link above to listen to the podcast for answers.

Are you having trouble making changes in your family and getting them to actually stick? https://mailchi.mp/neildbrown/create-lasting-change-in-families

Check out this week's newsletter which covers changing the family dynamic through big and small changes.

Have you ever wondered about the elephants in my logo? The elephants symbolize an ongoing and memorable reminder of the strength of family connections.

Read the story at https://mailchi.mp/neildbrown/meet-the-real-neil-d-brown

The Healthy Family Connections newsletter is out!
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Read about The Real Neil D. Brown and why there are elephants in my logo 🐘

Free Parent-Teen Control Battle Assessment
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Want a quick way to evaluate where you stand in the Control Battle with your teen? Complete this free assessment to get a better sense of your relationship .

Liz O’Donnell, discusses in her book, Mogul, Mom, and Maid, the numerous societal and familial influences that put the lion’s share of responsibilities on Mom, and yet offer so little support.

Read more or listen to the podcast at
mailchi.mp/neildbrown/high-performing-moms-need-high-performing-families-13750135

Are you a Mom struggling to get the support you need from your family members? High performing Moms (HPMs) deserve high performing families, yet it often doesn’t work out that way. Why? What goes wrong? Mom sets a good example and is a good role model. Why doesn’t she get that all important cooperation and support she needs? We answer those questions in the podcast - High Performing Moms Need High Performing Families

How much responsibility can teenagers successfully manage on their own, and how much help do they need from their parents?

That's the topic in the podcast and article: How to Define Structure & Responsibilities for Teens

Read all about it at
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Eileen and I were in New York visiting friends and family. We took in some shows and museums too. Always great to see Monet’s Water Lilies.

Is Adolescence A Psychiatric Condition?
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This podcast discussion looks at the medicalization of emotional issues and mental health and explores ways to create a mentally healthier society for our youth.

A New York Times article titled 'This Teen Was Prescribed 10 Psychiatric Drugs. She’s Not Alone' is the subject of a recent podcast.

Read the article at nytimes.com/2022/08/27/health/teens-psychiatric-drugs.html

Richtel's story describes the journey of one teenager who went on a long path of emotional pain and psychopharmaceutical responses that were obscene. Eventually, she faced personal circumstances that changed her perspective on herself and life and she got off of most drugs and developed appropriate goals and activities that made sense for her. Did she really need to go through years of trial-and-error medication cocktails when some family therapy and mental health skill development could have done the trick?

The podcast discussion looks at the medicalization of emotional issues and mental health and explores ways to create a mentally healthier society for our youth.

Listen to the podcast: Is Adolescence A Psychiatric Condition?
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Then listen to the podcast: Is Adolescence A Psychiatric Condition?
https://neildbrown.com/podcast/is-adolescence-a-psychiatric-condition/

This Teen Was Prescribed 10 Psychiatric Drugs. She’s Not Alone. (Published 2022) Increasingly, anxious and depressed teens are using multiple, powerful psychiatric drugs, many of them untested in adolescents or for use in tandem.

Generally, giving kids lots of advice about what to do to make themselves feel better will fall on deaf ears because kids discover the relationship between their choices and their feelings on their own. Lecturing on the subject will only invite resistance but gentle encouragement to learn from experience or even telling personal stories in non-threatening ways, can help this important part of learning about yourself along.

Read more about how to help your child learn from what they discover at https://neildbrown.com/parenting-tips/parenting-tip-help-your-child-learn-from-what-they-discover/

How do parents deal with a situation where two siblings fight over everything and are competitive with each other? Read the newsletter at https://mailchi.mp/neildbrown/5-vital-problem-solving-skills for 5 Vital Problem Solving Skills You Need To Teach Your Kids

This week's Healthy Family Connections newsletter is out!
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Read about 5 Vital Problem Solving Skills You Need to Teach Your Kids. Plus recent podcast episodes and my book - Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle.

"There are no perfect parents, and there are no perfect children, but there are plenty of perfect moments along the way."

Quote attributed to writer and podcaster Dave Willis

A testimonial for the book, "Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle"
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"Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle defines a purposeful and mindful path through the often volatile minefield of life with a defiant teen. Neil Brown's strong, experienced, and always-to-the-point voice has helped our family clarify our problematic journey with our teen grandson. His book brings organization and rational thought to an often messy, disorderly family dynamic. It reminds parents to envision our child as his best self, and helps us to become our best parenting selves. Simply put, this book has provided us the knowledge, hope, and courage to greet each new teen-parenting day."

--Margaret Wilson, custodial grandparent

We're in the studio recording a brand new parenting course!

In this course, I expand on the basic teachings of my book Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle, focusing on the skill sets needed for raising teens in today’s challenging society and solving difficult problems that can accompany this process.

Stay tuned!