Jack Stoltzfus, Ph.D.
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5 Top Parenting Tips for Letting Go with Dr. Jack Stoltzfus
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4 Tips to Help Your Young Adult “Get Out”
Most parents who have young adults languishing at home with little motivation have no doubt thought, if not threatened, to kick them out. Often when I tell people what I do, I hear a statement like – “just give them the boot.” But I am not talking about that type of “get out” message. Such threats or actual expulsions from the home do not constitute a successful launch because they often damage the relationship between the parents and the young adult at a minimum but can lead to estrangement. A successful launch, and my goal as a launch coach, is to facilitate the transition to greater independence and self-sufficiency of the young adult while maintaining a positive parent-adult-child relationship. My message to “get out” is different.
4 Tips to Help Your Young Adult "Get Out" - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus Most parents who have young adults languishing at home with little motivation have no doubt thought, if not threatened, to kick them out. Often when I tell people what I do, I hear a statement like – “just give them the boot.” But I am not talking about that type of “get out” message. Such...
Parents, it’s OK to stop trying to solve your adult children’s problems. Really.
Parents, it’s OK to stop trying to solve your adult children’s problems. Really. - The Boston Globe Feeling conflicted over issues in their lives? Set your boundaries and stick to them, Miss Conduct says.
The Challenge of Parenting Kids in Their 20s
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Parental burnout occurs when parents experience overwhelming work and family demands, while efforts to cope are not enough. Most research has distinguished parental burnout from job burnout and depression, although there are indications that burnout and depression share some common characteristics. So how do we differentiate between burnout and depression?
Parental Burnout with Young Adults is Real - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus “When children are young, they step on your toes. When children are older, they step on your heart. “ We tend to associate parent burnout with parents with young children, and the research says that this is one of the most stressful times in the family lifecycle. They step on our toes and everyt...
6 Of The Most Common Arguments Adult Children Have With Their Parents
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The New Age of Endless Parenting
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It was great to join Paul Banas on the Great Dad Talks Podcast to talk about practical advice on setting healthy boundaries and expectations for young adults.
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Parenting and Letting Go with Dr. Jack Stoltzfus In this episode of Great Dad Talks, I chat with Dr. Jack Stoltzfus, a psychologist specializing in young adult parenting. With his expertise in guiding paren...
Parenting Adult Children Struggling with Alcohol or Drug Addiction
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3 Truths to Help Parents Foster their Children into Adulthood
3 Truths to Help Parents Foster their Children into Adulthood - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus In the book I have written, The Launch Code: Loving and Letting Go of Our Adult Children (out later this year), I describe three truths that form the foundation of the work I do with parents and young adults to ensure a positive transition to adulthood. Love Goes Both Ways First, parents love their....
Some parents struggle to stop tracking their kids' every move — even in college
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With the recent advent of Father’s Day, I started to reflect on how well I raised my kids to be kind, self-sufficient, and independent young adults. I loved my father (he was a good provider and modeled integrity), but he was part of the silent generation. He learned little from his father about showing affection, or even about spending time with kids. So, there are some things I think I did and continue to do right, as well as some things I could have done better. My guess is that most of us fathers can look back with the same view of our actions. I write this to offer some thoughts about how we can do better as imperfect fathers.
How to Be More Than a B+ Father - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus With the recent advent of Father’s Day, I started to reflect on how well I raised my kids to be kind, self-sufficient, and independent young adults. I loved my father (he was a good provider and modeled integrity), but he was part of the silent generation. He learned little from his father about s...
Aging Well: Parenting evolves as we age
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Both parents and young adults envision a future characterized by mutual friendship and respect, but there are times when this seems far off – if not impossible. Repeated conflicts, challenges to authority, stretching the boundaries, questioning the values, and exploring lifestyles that may seem alien blur the future vision. How do you get from the “here” of a strained relationship between a parent and young adult to the “there” of a friendship based on respect? The short answer is that it isn’t always easy and the road can be bumpy. It’s important to be patient and stay the course. Parents can influence the course of this journey by building the following bridges to that future state.
3 Tips for Building Bridges to Adult Friendships with Your Young Adult - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus Both parents and young adults envision a future characterized by mutual friendship and respect, but there are times when this seems far off – if not impossible. Repeated conflicts, challenges to authority, stretching the boundaries, questioning the values, and exploring lifestyles that may seem al...
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Tips for Coaching Your Young Adult - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus We all have had the experience of being coached in our childhood years. Typically, this coaching was very hands-on and likely involved a good bit of teaching. As we grew older and mastered the basics, we usually needed a different type of coaching. Young adults, who often know more than us about spe...
How Parents Can Heal Rifts with Their Adult Children
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Why Parents of Young Adults Suffer
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Failure to launch has become a buzzword to describe stereotypical young adults stuck in the basement of their parent’s home and making no progress toward accepting adult responsibilities. It’s not a formal diagnosis but is referred to as a syndrome characterized by a young adult being unable or unwilling to leave home and support themselves. I’d like to challenge some assumptions and perspectives, and redefine the stage of development where this so-called “syndrome” typically occurs.
Do We Really Have a “Failure to Launch” Problem? - Parents Letting Go - Dr. Jack Stoltzfus Failure to launch has become a buzzword to describe stereotypical young adults stuck in the basement of their parent’s home and making no progress toward accepting adult responsibilities. It was popularized by the movie Failure to Launch, starring Matthew McConaughey. Google the phrase, and you wi...
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A Parent’s Critical Role in Young Adult Identity Formation
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