Tracy Crossley

Ladies.
It’s you.
It’s me.
No one else is the problem.
Our own insecurities and what we believe makes us the problem in our lives.
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Do you judge other women on the street? I do. I would love to be “above it,” but if I pay attention to my focus, I’ll notice a stream of comments. “she’s this or that.” How the “F” do I know?
I’m not her.
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Same for those in the media. How do you know?
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Do you question your beliefs? I do. ALL. THE. TIME.
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Women—we need to look at why we find other women the issue (I don’t care if you have friends). Why do we just go along with what we are told? To blame, to compare, to find a way to feel better than HER.
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This is a victim mentality. It’s not self-love, it’s not women coming together, it’s division.
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We unconsciously learned this s**t. 🫥

“She is the “other,” and if “fill in the blank,” would just go away or stop being how I don’t want her to be, it would be fine.”
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Nope. Then you would have another problem “outside” of you to find.
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It’s an inside job. I felt like crying as I walked around yesterday, I was viewing everyone I saw on the street from my heart. I realized that I wanted to do this more rather than less.
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Minimizing other women, which according to studies we still do it, especially successful ones happens daily.
I find it exhausting, and uninspiring to hear “bad” things, when every person on this earth has done things they wish they had not or would have done differently in hindsight.
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So, stop looking for the enemy, the problem outside of you and dig deep into why you believe what you do, and if it feels good. If it doesn’t than do the deeper work to make yourself feel better.
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Love to y’all.

It doesn’t have to be about me

I spent years and years believing that somehow my identity was tied up in what I did rather than who I am.

I never wanted to admit that to myself, that I was trying to be the identity that I really thought was me out in the world and if I wasn’t accomplishing things, then I just worked harder so that I could have the things I wanted

But it never brought me closer to having the things I wanted

In fact, it just kept me in a space of not having, kind of like when you’re attached to a person and you want something so bad and you just don’t get it by pleasing someone else, or being perfect.

Every day is a new beginning as I continue to watch as my life unfolds in ways that I could never predict, and as long as I was trying so hard, that’s all I kept doing is trying so hard

Shaming. Doctors shaming other doctors on social media. Doesn’t matter what you do for a living, that part of us that can get triggered, especially on social media, is the part we need to look at as an individual.

yesterday I watched a physician bring up a question to her community about how do you tell someone who is an influencer versus someone who is an actual MD from each other on social media.

She had taken pictures from another account and was asking questions, and other doctors were shaming her for the post.

The point is why do people feel the need to lead with shame? it’s all about what they haven’t healed in themselves. I see it a lot on social media, and shaming others never makes you feel better about yourself.

Met with a wonderful school district today!!!

Great meeting, looking to make a major impact and bring the next generation the kind of confidence they need in an ever-changing world!

As someone who has dedicated years to helping adults navigate the complexities of insecure attachment, it’s those early emotional experiences that have an impact throughout life.

It has sparked a deep calling in me—to help shape young teens during a crucial time. I’m excited to share a pivotal movement aimed at developing a generation of teens who feel confident, emotionally safe, and trust themselves from a young age.

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Please join our free webinar; this is a movement and a mission! Your help is needed to profoundly benefit the next generation.

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During the webinar, we will explore:

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This initiative is more than a webinar—it's a gateway to changing the foundational experiences of the next generation.

Change

Often we spend time thinking about, if things were better. If things were different. Anything but whatever it is at the moment that we are not fond of.

I realized one day spending your life doing that kept me out of the moment and always into looking at problems or believing that tomorrow was a better day.

All it did was keep me looking for things to get better instead of realizing things were OK as they were even if I thought something was missing.

And so now I will sit or stand or whatever activity I happen to be doing and really try to stay in the moment and enjoy it because what happens is you just get older and you realize so many moments past you by that you weren’t paying attention….

You weren’t paying attention because you were always looking for the elusive “what was missing.”

Be present, take in the weather, take in your surroundings and be with yourself no matter what you’re doing, and you’ll have a different experience.

Remember, if you make today meaningful, then the chances that you make tomorrow meaningful are pretty high.

So stop waiting and start living if you happen to be waiting for that tomorrow that never seems to come♥️

As I was writing out a podcast for april, I was thinking about how most people never emotionally mature.

Most of us learn strategies as children, and throughout our lives to continually cope ordeal or appear in ways that are acceptable to society.

Emotional maturity is a different thing, and you can tell when someone gets triggered where the reaction is like a five-year-old. Or they stuff it like they’re a child who might get in trouble or something that means they’re not actually dealing with their feelings.

Till there is the connection of awareness >> feeling your feelings>> Emotionally risky action…. You’re not changing s**t.

Feeling your feelings isn’t, just noticing your body, most of us, think our feelings, and it’s impossible to feel them in your head.

But feeling your feelings, and the physical sensations, is about noticing, what a reaction is, or a feeling attached to a belief or the truth of who you are.

So you see, there are nuances, and knowing yourself is key.

Am I an idiot?

Have what you ever asked yourself that question?

I know I definitely have and one thing I’ve learned is that we make decisions every day all the time.

I do and I used to feel if something didn’t work out that I was indeed an idiot.

Like how many times you have to do something and have it fail? Like how many dysfunctional situations?

Or even better when everything looked really great and I made a decision and I still didn’t work how I wanted it to.

You see it’s not really about the decision-making skills you were, I have, it’s about the meaning we put on those decisions and most of the time we don’t even know why.

If you were to take a deeper, dive into your decisions and ask yourself, why does it matter or why is this something? I beat myself up with, you probably find you learned it somewhere.

You learned it was supposed to have meaning instead of it, just being a decision you made without knowing or controlling the outcome.

If you were walking down the road and there was a hole and you tripped on it would you call yourself an idiot? How would you have known that whole existed before you got there?

You see the meaning we give to stuff like that is how we determine our relationship to ourselves.

Today is a great day to start questioning the decisions you’ve made that perhaps you have struggled to get over.

You ever noticed how hard everything is?

You look at your job or some of your relationships or bills or even food and you feel everything so hard.

I have felt that way and one of the things that I decided upon a long time ago was to try and figure out why.

I noticed that I made things hard and circumstances could also be hard.

I tried not to personalize circumstances, and I did a pretty good job of some, but not all.

Definitely wondering at times the lesson.

But what I learned is in slowing down and becoming even more aware, there’s always a choice.

I keep making choices that feel better to me and aren’t about complication or making things harder.

In fact, I wish I would’ve figured this out years ago as I am going through it now.

Breathing is definitely helping.

More information never helps if you’ve already heard it.

I think there is so much information that none of us need anymore.

What we need to do is to look inside and stop making things hard because we learned that things were hard when we were young.

“F” stresssssssssss……

I chose the most stressful looking card in this deck to highlight my new episode of my podcast today.

I took a deep dive into what my raw stress levels have been, and I’m providing an exercise that I do that helps with stress.

Always keeping it real because nobody can live up to any standard, it’s to live into meaningful moments in your life.

The link is in the bio for this episode.

You ever feel like you take up too much space or you don’t want to take up space and upset anybody?

I used to feel that way, and I’d want to fly under the radar and hope no one would notice me.

But I still realize with my latest epiphany that I still felt on some level that I’m not enough or good enough…

and I discovered it while having a conversation with someone talking about what I felt I had to do and she said something…

I don’t remember exactly what it was, but it was along the lines of you have enough.

However, she had meant it didn’t matter.

But I had an epiphany, and then I had an emotional breakthrough about how many things in my life I felt I still had to get to or achieve or be, and it fell away because it was a pretty deep, emotional epiphany.

And what took its place was “more”
I want more of things I have rather than trying to fill something.

It was a major breakthrough to MORE.

So stay tuned because it could get quite interesting. I feel completely different after my morning meditation. I see, feel and embody it.

Murphy says “hi”

Just saying what I feel today.

Excited!

Irritated!

At Peace!

Less stressed!

Not personalizing and that means me not personalizing things in my life.

I already don’t personalize people, but personalizing things that have been a result.

On another note….
i’ve been thinking about my podcast and changing it up, so I’m gonna change it up and record a new one today that will come out in the next couple weeks.

I’m recording it for me even if nobody else were to listen, I would still record it.

Just love sharing whatever the hell is going on. 😎 how are you feeling today?

What if I didn’t have to do anything more than just accept myself?

What if I didn’t have to go back to school or get some certificate or do something more? What if I knew enough and was enough now?

What if I looked in the mirror and was OK with what I saw? What if I didn’t nitpick? What if I didn’t think I needed plastic surgery?

What if I looked at the world and thought it was OK just as it is?

What if I realize the perfection in nature and in humans that is overlooked on a daily basis?

What if I didn’t go and try and figure myself out by somebody else’s rules or standards?

What if I just knew that I was OK, no matter what? What if I knew my spiritual connection was something that I could trust on a daily basis?

What if I still question things but that I know deep down inside irrevocable truth?

What if I choose laughter every day even if the s**t hits the fan?

What if?….. can be a pretty big question to ask of oneself, but these questions intellectually aren’t hard to agree with, emotionally….

It can be a challenge.

Have a good one!

Picking up on yesterday, what is inspiring?

A good story?

The hero’s journey in that story, right? Whether it’s your friend, a book, or a stranger on the internet.

The thing is as humans we inspire others without knowing it by living a story they want.

Someone else wants to walk in your shoes.

It’s the old adage we don’t always appreciate what we have til it’s gone or for some things only in the first few minutes of having…..and then we want the next thing.

Anyways, the inspiration. What is really inspiring? I’ve pondered this….

Good feelings, even when things aren’t great is inspiring.

Good feelings with others…. Very inspiring!

Good feelings while doing what feels joyful while with others is very very inspiring, right?

Yeah, that old “love” thing is pretty damn inspiring!

I hope you’re inspired today. I am.

Hope you’re having a happy holiday in the US.

As part of taking care of myself I have found I give many less s**ts about social media. 🤪 Meaning I don’t know that my contributions are needed.

There is so much info out there. So much. So much to use critical thinking skills, to actually look for real history not having it rewritten for you….

It’s a glut of I’m right, listen to me or black/white thinking, political horses**t and here’s my religion I’m only interested in those who agree.

In other words wherever you go on social media nowadays it’s like going to a school you may not have signed up for. lol

At least that’s how I feel, so I look for the animal vids, the food and travel or some quick tips on removing grease.

I tend to not spend much time here anymore, as being sold to in every other picture (especially those where you say “burrito” out loud and get all sorts of ads).

And so, in having anything to say I may or may not, it’s one of the things I’m looking at—how do I want to spend my time? My valuable time.

Happy Monday!

😂 Anyone else?

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