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Jasmynn Abernathy, LMFT

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Cynthia Campbell, MA, LMFT, Therapist / Life Coach / Strategic Intervention
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“For by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory.” Proverbs‬ ‭24‬:‭6‬ ‭ESV‬

As a Christian who is also a licensed therapist, I’ve enjoyed finding tools evidence-based approaches that align with the word of God.

A few scriptural references for the research-based therapeutic strategies I mentioned:

1. Learn to become aware of your thoughts and submit them to God instead of becoming attached and in bo***ge to them. (Romans 12:2, 2 Corinthians 10:5)

2. Learn to validate your emotions as having a purpose while not centering them. (Philippians 4:6-7)

3. Examine yourself through healthy accountability that will point you back to God as the ultimate guide and counselor. (Isaiah 9:6-7)

06/26/2024

I’m learning to lean on God in all seasons and it’s been so refreshing. It’s amazing how this perspective shift and the posture of surrender positively impacts my marriage, my parenting, my role as a friend, and even in my career as a therapist. I’m slowly learning to let go of perfectionism and the urge to “make it happen” in my own strength when things are hard. Thank God for His gentleness cuz I can definitely be hard headed. 😄

05/20/2024

Say it with me: I need to control my face during arguments!

And also your body language for that matter 😄

If you’re noticing heated discussions spin out of control, it’s likely that one or both of your body language has something to do with it.

A few things to try during arguments if you can’t keep your cool:

😮‍💨 Take slow, controled breaths to regulate your body.
🙂 Try half smiling to help when negative thoughts arise.
🚫 Avoid harsh body language that makes the body tense; try a neutral stance.
🙏🏽 Remember God is with you and can strengthen you in tough areas - including communication challenges.

Does this hit home for you? Let me know in the comments!
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05/15/2024

I work with so many couples who struggle to maintain their connection because they’ve recently had children and have a hard time balancing it all.

Work demands and daily stressors make it hard to tune in with their spouse instead of zone out.

But what happens when this pattern lasts too long? When married couples get caught up in the day-to-day duties and don’t make it a point to look for moments of connection with each other?

Well, it can get cold and distant real quick!

That’s why I recommend small, daily efforts to connect with your spouse. Don’t wait for the big date night or the week-long vacation. Take time daily to recognize the opportunities to share a laugh, an embrace, and a kiss. And if you don’t feel like it, here’s a tip: do it anyway 😄

What are some small ways you connect with your spouse/partner daily?

04/19/2024

💓 Expressing empathy toward your spouse is a golden bridge to connection.

I’ve worked with countless couples who feel super frustrated with their communication struggles, and the first thing I typically help them with is how to express empathy and compassion for their spouse.

☝🏽 REMEMBER: expressing empathy doesn’t mean you’re agreeing with them, nor does it mean you have to compromise what you feel.

👍🏽 It’s simply taking a moment to see things from their perspective.

I love witnessing this concept ✨ click ✨ for my couples.

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04/11/2024

“After a long day at work, sometimes the last thing I want to do is talk more.”

I often hear this complaint from my couples struggling to balance a busy work and home life.

I get it - it’s tough being exhausted after you’ve spent your day in draining meetings, driving long commutes, or chasing the kids around for the better parts of the day. On top of that, you notice a disconnect in your marriage because you’ve had so little time to pour into it.

Here’s the good news! 👇🏽
📈 Consistent small adjustments eventually lead to new patterns and habits.

🔌 These daily hacks are the small seeds you need to sow and restore a weak connection between you and your spouse.

Do you use these any of these strategies to stay connected when you’re busy?

04/10/2024

Believe it or not, your past negative experiences can play a major role in how you communicate with your spouse or partner now! Here are some common communication issues I see with clients navigating and healing from trauma trauma:

😕 Feeling insecure or stuck, feeling like you can’t get your words out right

🤬 Communicating with harsh, abrasive tones and language

😣 Struggling to have certain conversations without feeling a huge knot in your stomach and wanting to escape

😔 Fearing that you’ll be left alone leads to pushing your spouse or partner away

Learning to manage anxiety or fear and using skills can turn a triggering experience to an opportunity for connection with your spouse.

Healing from the past can be messy AND it’s possible to heal with grace.

You can:

📝 Learn to identify your triggers so you can communicate them

😮‍💨 Use self-regulation and co-regulation skills to go from fight-or-flight to feeling safe and secure

☝🏽Use I-statements to clearly express your experience

Start with one strategy at a time. You got this!

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01/02/2024

Happy 2024!

Do you set New Year’s resolutions or do you avoid them?
Check out my episode with the city of Torrance’s podcast, Candid Conversations.

We’re talking about the thought process behind resolutions, why we can’t keep them, and how to be more successful.

See the link 🔗 in my bio to listen on Spotify 🤓

08/12/2023

Motherhood comes with its unique set of challenges and pressures. From striving for perfection to juggling multiple roles, modern moms often find themselves overwhelmed and disconnected.

I'm excited to share that I’ll be leading an upcoming workshop over at SeekHer Foundation () to support moms: | Building A Healthier Relationship with Yourself For Your Family.

Join us live on Tuesday, August 15 at 3pm PT/ 6pm ET for this free 30-minute online workshop, where I’ll be providing insights and practical tips on how to stay connected with yourself so you can better care for your family. The workshop comes with a downloadable guide, filled with journal prompts and guided practices to support your journey of becoming more confidently connected with yourself.

🔗 Grab the guide and RSVP link here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64c479eb7e6b513e5bacc52b

04/10/2023

Ever feel like you've dealt with your past hurts but can't shake those annoying feelings of sadness or frustration when the past resurfaces?

It's possible you're not engaging with the present moment enough and/or not focused on moving forward IN your healing.

By reliving and replaying past events, we can get stuck in a cycle of negative emotions, leading to anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and other challenges.

I always say this - use the past as a reference point, but not something that is a part of your present-day experiences.

Do you notice replaying and reliving the past as something that gets in the way of moving forward?

03/13/2023

Feeling tension with your partner? A 60-second embrace might be all you need. 💕

03/07/2023

EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) can help the brain process negative and traumatic memories while reducing emotional distress.

A few ways EMDR may help:

✨ Desensitization: aka feeling significantly less of an “emotional charge” when thinking about the memory. You don’t forget it, it’s just much less painful.

✨ Reprocessing: this step has an overall impact on the ability to develop insights and different perspectives about the event, which can lead to positive beliefs and behaviors.

✨ Maintaining Dual Attention: this means the client is checking in with the traumatic memory while doing a back and forth movement (like eye movements), which can help move attention from thoughts that cause emotional distress; this allows the memory to be processed.

So cool, right?!

(Note: EMDR should always be performed by a qualified and trained mental health professional.)

What are your questions about EMDR? Let me know in the comments.

02/15/2023

Having empathy and understanding can be your superpower but it doesn’t have to be your kryptonite.

Remember: Strong, healthy relationships have healthy boundaries. Be careful not to subject yourself to poor behavior just because you have an understanding of where it comes from.

From,
Your friendly IG therapist 😊

01/21/2023

I’m going to let you in on a little secret of mine!

I use this tool during therapy sessions with my clients and it works EVERY TIME!

Mindful Listening. This means that we are listening to understand and not formulating a response while someone is speaking but truly paying attention and not multitasking or entertaining other distractions.

I’ve seen couples work through tough miscommunications using Mindful Listening. Whether it’s a couple who recently began dating, newly engaged or have been married for a long time! This WORKS and it can work for you too!

That’s why I’ve created a FREE 7-day guide with practical tools that will help you strengthen your connection, communication and intimacy with your partner. Head over to the link in my bio to get your copy today!

01/19/2023

What is relational trauma and how do you get help if you’ve experienced it?

If you’ve experienced a significant negative event or series of events related to some relational experience (this can be with a coworker, friend, romantic partner, parent, neighbor, etc.), it’s possible you may need help processing and healing the wounds of that experience.

Therapy with a trauma-trained therapist can help.

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01/17/2023

Sometimes we don’t realize we’ve experienced trauma until we notice negative or unhelpful patterns in our relationships.

A few signs past trauma is getting in the way of you connecting with others:

❤️‍🩹 You find it hard to trust people.

❤️‍🩹 You notice frequent feelings of guilt and shame.

❤️‍🩹 You struggle to maintain control over your emotions/regulate your nervous system.

❤️‍🩹 You can’t handle/are hypersensitive to criticism and rejection.

❤️‍🩹 You often avoid any reminders (people, places, or situations) that remind you of the trauma, negative event, or memory.

Thankfully, there’s hope in healing this! Working with a trauma-focused and specialized therapist can be life-changing and open up your ability to ENJOY your relationships again.

Have questions about trauma’s impact on relationships? Drop your questions in the comments.

12/31/2022

An important reminder!

💫 Everyone's healing journey looks different.

💫 Everyone grows and evolves in different ways and that' okay.

💫 Healing is for you, not for the other person.

💫 So take your time and do what serves you!

12/30/2022

When’s the last time you’ve self-examined to take inventory of where you can make changes?

I’m definitely guilty of frequently offering corrections and ✨suggestions✨ for change. Then it dawned me: What can I control? The answer: MYSELF.

☝🏽Now, I don’t mean you should silence yourself or refrain from expressing your needs. Just consider if you’re complaining more than looking at how you can make adjustments. Both parties in a relationship are responsible to contribute to its overall health and quality!

🙋🏽‍♀️ I’ll admit: I’m working on dialing down my complaints and increasing my compliments and appreciations. What’s something you’re working on in yourself that can positively impact your relationship?

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12/29/2022

I'm so excited to share my FREE 7-Days of Connection guide!!!

I created this resource for anyone who wants to deepen their relationship with their partner and create a strong foundation of communication through good times and hard times. You can do this by yourself or with your partner!

Get your copy today: https://form.jotform.com/223241138244144

12/28/2022

I LOVE seeing my clients win!!

Check out how I helped my client, who felt like every little disagreement with their partner turned into a blowup.

Together, we worked on effective communication with their partner, managing their own emotions, and gaining the confidence to navigate difficult conversations with a calm mind and focus!

Find the tools that we used in my 7-Days of Connection guide linked in my bio and get your free copy today!

12/27/2022

Too often, we go above and beyond for others and expect them to do the same.
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and when they don't, we start feeling resentful and bitter because we set an unspoken expectation for them, which hurts both parties involved.
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Instead, try defining your needs and communicating your boundaries. This will protect you from people pleasing and feeling like you have to do things that don't serve you.
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If you want to learn how to connect and communicate better with people you love, check out my free 7-days of connection guide linked in my bio! I hope this serve you and helps you grow!

12/24/2022

The power of receiving and letting go. ✨

Ladies!! This one's for you!

Let me ask you an honest question, when’s the last time you let your partner or anyone in your life serve you, do something for you, or take something off your plate?

Having a tough time thinking about the last time? Let this be a reminder that it's okay to receive help, receive love, and receive someone else's act of kindness without doing something in return or earning it. 💖

12/23/2022

Okay, so here's the truth, even as a relationship therapist, I need a therapist too!

When my husband and I go through especially challenging times or feel like we don't understand each other, it helps to get out of my head and have a neutral third party help me see things outside of my perspective.

And let's be honest, my husband needs me to be his wife, not his therapist!

My point is that there are so many books, podcasts, and other resources that can guide you through tricky times in your relationship but are they alone enough in helping you achieve the results you want in your relationship and your life? Are they helping you and your partner grow together?

I believe therapy equips and empowers individuals to recognize their needs and respond efficiently. I give you the tools that implement long-lasting change and solidify the foundation that you want to have in your romantic relationship.

If you're ready to create a strong foundation in your relationship, send me a message! Our 1:1 sessions will give you the confidence to have a lasting and enjoyable relationship despite the ups and downs that life brings.

12/21/2022

❓Are you considering couples therapy but not sure if you actually need it?

Lots of folks think you need to be in a dire situation in your relationship before you consider couples therapy. But that’s not true!

Couples therapy can be great for:
🔌 improving connection and relationship satisfaction
🔄 learning to work through recurring issues
💬 working on communication
🛠 gaining tools to manage stress and transitions together
🫂 learning how to better/effectively support your partner dealing with mental health challenges

I’ve worked with lots of couples BEFORE the crisis reaches its peak, which has made it easier to work through concerns.

What are your thoughts on couples therapy? Let me know in the comments.

12/21/2022

What does a healthy relationship actually look like?!

Don't get me wrong, the fancy gifts, Instagram posts, and the never-ending fun times are amazing things in a relationship, but that doesn't necessarily mean a relationship is healthy.

A healthy relationship creates space for open communication and conflict resolution, allowing two people to get through difficult times together while coming out stronger on the other side.

I help couples every day strengthen their relationship and grow closer so that they can enjoy a life together through the good and the bad.

If you want to go deeper in your relationship, book a session with me! Message me to schedule and download your free copy of my 7-Days of Connection guide while you're there!

12/20/2022

Setting boundaries in your relationship is HEALTHY!

Whether its with your partner, family, co-workers or friends, we have to teach others how to treat us and what behaviors are OK!

It's easy to think that setting boundaries is mean or makes us stand-offish but the reality is that people respect us more when we set our boundaries, communicate them clearly and most importantly stick to them!

What is one boundary you can set for your relationships today?

12/19/2022

Have you tried setting boundaries in your own life? How has it worked out for you? Or how has the lack of boundaries hurt you?

12/17/2022

Life has unique ways of teaching us valuable lessons, and most of the time it comes in the most unimaginable ways. Through therapy I've learned that:

💫 it's ok to let go and not have the answer
💫 the healing process is messy and also very necessary
💫 I can work through anything in my life and start rebuilding from where I am currently
💫 even on my weakest days, I’m strong.

Therapy may not be for everyone but healing is — and I hope that one way or another you will embrace every part of your healing journey!

12/16/2022

Happy Thursday! You've almost made it to the end of your week!

I want to remind you that it's okay to feel like you've had more bad days than good.

Healing requires growing pains, embrace this part of the journey.

You are strong.
You deserve to heal.
You will get through this with grace and wisdom.

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