Vicki Fick - Not that therapist

Singing is a way to express your deepest emotions with gratitude and joy.

The choice is simple 👌🏾

REST

Understanding chemistry is crucial to understanding your moods, well-being and health. Invest in a good endocrinologist.

Empaths be like:

Not everyone shares a natural flare for music and instruments but it's worth a try 🙌🏾

From every perspective, you should trust ACTIONS over WORDS 💯

I'm an attentive listener.

Most of my friends:

Change is awkward and uncomfortable, but transformation is beautiful 😍

I am...

A highly recommend, short film touching on addiction and struggles associated with alcoholism 👌🏾

You can create beauty around brokenness x

'Healing through play' idea...

Use food colouring to dye rice and throw the multi-colour mix in a jar. When you are feeling overwhelmed, turn the contents onto a tray or into a flat dish and separate the colours until you feel yourself becoming more calm.

PTSD is a literal war within
Unpacking trauma isn't easy but it's definitely always worthwhile.

Why is it a trend to let people get away with, less than okay behaviour?

Here are some signs that might make somebody instantly unattractive to their partners (keep in mind that attraction is subjective):

*Physical Appearance (all the superficial stuff):*

1. Poor hygiene ranging from plaque to smells
2. Unkempt or messy and dirty hair
3. Untrimmed or dirty nails or excessive body hair
4. Overweight or underweight due to a poor relationship with food
5. Sloppy or ill-fitting clothing for example: they walk on their pants or wear clothes that are three times too big for them

*Personality Traits (hard to see through the initial facade):*

1. Arrogance or entitlement
2. Disrespect or rudeness
3. Lack of confidence or self-esteem along with mention of self harm
4. Dishonesty or untrustworthiness
5. Self-centeredness or narcissism (lack of empathy)

*Behavioural Red Flags:*

1. Aggressive or confrontational behaviour, especially towards service staff.
2. Disregard for boundaries or personal space
3. Objectifying or catcalling women and men, while out together
4. Talking down to others or being critically condescending
5. Being overly critical or judgmental of everyone else

*Communication Style (includes body language and gestures):*

1. Poor listening skills
2. Interrupting or talking over others to voice and opinion or get their thoughts across
3. Using derogatory language or put-downs
4. Being overly negative or critical in response to open conversations
5. Avoiding meaningful conversations

*Lifestyle Choices (superficial and holistic):*

1. Excessive drinking or substance abuse
2. Lack of ambition or motivation
3. Unreliability or flakiness
4. Disrespect for others' time or boundaries
5. Unwillingness to take responsibility

*Other Turn-Offs:*

1. Being glued to phones or social media
2. Talking only about themselves
3. Being dismissive or uninterested in others' passions
4. Making sexist or misogynistic comments
5. Displaying insecurity or jealousy

Keep in mind that these are general turn-offs and may vary from person to person. What one person finds unattractive might not be the same for another.

What are your thoughts?

Therapist: Let's unpack your childhood traumas.

Them:

She’d been told all her life to wait for her person, that love would change her life and make everything better.
The thing is, it never really worked out the way she was told.
She was looking for love and found something very different.
She sought respect, communication and effort..but instead, discovered deceit, laziness and disrespect.
She was tired of the games and just couldn’t spend any more of her time and energy chasing ideals she couldn’t seem to find.
She didn’t need to be saved, completed or fixed..she just wanted to be loved.
So, she did what she had to do and changed-
Herself, her mindset, her life and her focus.
She had fallen flat on her face as she searched for love and happiness- clinging desperately to the heartbreak of rock bottom and started trying to find her way in a world determined to destroy her.
But a curious thing happened in the fire of her struggles that brought her to her knees..
She forged a courage and strength that lifted her out of the ashes and pushed her to evolve.
It was only at her most broken that the light finally began to make its way into her soul..the same light that illuminated the path for her to better places.
She still stumbled and fell, made some bad choices and messed things up at times..
But she learned, she grew and she evolved.
She would never have found her answers in love and her journey to become who she was meant to be was a solo tale.
She was determined to become the best version of herself as she fought, struggled and battled her way through life.
She knew that luck and chance weren’t real things- everything happens for a reason.
This journey was always hers- to understand who she was and learn to love herself..and it was the hardest thing she had ever done.
And that thing called love that all the stories waxed on about?
It would happen on its own time, so she put that out of her mind and began to turn her love inward.
Maybe she’d find love, maybe not.
Regardless, she’d find the love for herself that she had always wanted and the way she saw it,
That’s all she could ever ask for..
In her fairy tale, the princess saved herself and built her own castle..
She didn’t need a knight or prince to forge her fairy tale-
She could do that herself..
Knowing that her happily ever after had always been there, waiting for her- in her own hands and heart.
And while she had a lot of love to give, until the right person came along, she would pour all of her love into herself..
That was and always would be the happiness she had wanted.
And it all started with her.
She just had to find that for herself.
And she did-
She couldn’t ask for a better love that she found for herself.

Written by The Ravenwolf