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Our first inspirational Story - Thank you Neesha for sharing your amazing Story. You are truly an inspiration for everyone. Wishing all the best for the future and may you keep on being a guiding light 💖🌻

Neesha's Story:
My name is Neesha Narainsamy. I am a wife and a mother to 2 boys ages 18 and 23, I was also a working woman till 30 November 2022. I would like to share my experience with you; in the hope that it will inspire you to live life to the fullest, and to never give up on your dreams.

In 1999 when I was pregnant with my 1st child my gynae was not happy with a small lump that developed below my right knee. He suggested that I have it removed after my baby was born. In 2000, my surgeon removed the lump. Unfortunately, it was found to be cancerous and was identified as Fibro Sarcoma, a type of cancer that attacks soft tissue. This was the worst news that my family and I could receive. We had a choice – either re-operate and remove all remnants of the cancer or undergo radiation therapy to kill all remaining cancer cells. My surgeon and oncologist concluded that radiation therapy was the best choice.

I had radiation done every morning, before work, for two months. Radiation was not very painful and I coped well.

In 2004, I gave birth to my 2nd son, and in 2007 after 10 years of working I decided to resign so that I could become a full time stay at home mum and attend to my boys’ needs.

In 2009 the calf muscle on my right leg became inflamed and painful. Upon consulting my surgeon; a biopsy was done. You can only imagine what was going through my mind. The results showed that the cancer was back. This was very traumatic for me, and it was extremely difficult to be positive but I persevered. I had to undergo reconstructive surgery on my calf after the tumor was removed. I recovered after spending time with my mum and was able to walk again. One of the biggest lessons I have learnt through this experience is that it doesn't matter how old you are; you will always need your mum.
Life was once again back to normal.

4 years later in 2013 my right ankle started to swell and the pain was unbearable. I had difficulty walking. An MRI scan was done and this time it showed tumors between my knee and ankle. The tumors were in an advanced stage and my surgeon and oncologist decided that the best option would be to amputate my right leg above the knee before the cancer spread to other parts of my body. It all seemed unreal ; like a bad dream . This was the most difficult decision that I had to make. I questioned God: WHY ME?
I had to undergo counseling for 1 week before my leg was amputated. It was a terrifying time for me. I didn't know how I was going to live with only one leg.

Thankfully the operation was successful. Upon discharge, I lived with my parents for a while, as I needed personal care. They were very supportive and loving and helped me adjust to life as an amputee. My mum is an amazing woman and she is my pillar of strength. It was very difficult at first. I had to learn how to walk with crutches and a walking frame. Having a bath and dressing up was a nightmare. I was frustrated as I could not do these simple things on my own. How often do we take these small things for granted, until you cannot do it for yourself?

I had a setback when I forgot that I had only one leg. I had a bad fall, and had to be operated on again. The constant fear of falling again made walking very difficult. I then realised that my ability is stronger than my disability and I had to get over my fear.

I needed a prosthetic leg, I can tell you it is not cheap, and medical aid did not pay for it. My heart goes out to people who cannot afford a prosthetic leg . My loving extended family assisted me financially to purchase my prosthetic leg. They wanted me to lead as normal a life as possible. After numerous fittings and adjustments, I got my prosthetic leg. My sons joked and said that I had a bionic - leg and my brother kept telling me that at least we now have a family member who can take part in the Paralympic Games…..
If you don’t see the humor in your situation ; it will definitely take over you .
In the beginning, it was very difficult to go out in public. I felt very nervous and embarrassed, as people always stared at me. I felt as if a person with a disability was not accepted in society. My orthotist told me that I must walk with my head held up high, and that I should be proud that I have survived and beaten cancer. I was given a second chance in life. No matter how you feel, Get Up, Dress Up and Show Up and NEVER Give Up!!!

I had this incredible drive to go back to work and become independent again. In August 2016, I was fortunate to be employed by the eThekwini Municipal Academy as a Training Co-ordinator . It's 6 years since I started work and I am enjoying every bit of it . The staff are awesome and friendly – they treat me like a “ normal “ person and I don’t feel like an “alien “ at work .

Due to the Covid pandemic I am currently working from home because of my disability, cancer survivor and I have a comorbidity.

The Head of my Unit – Professor Mpilo Ngubane - allowed my husband access to the basement parking area so that I can be dropped off and picked up on a daily basis . You would never understand the value of that until you have to pant and manoeuvre yourself into your workplace with one less limb . Professor Ngubane also made the female toilets on the 13th floor at Shell House disability friendly. Whilst at work I tell myself that “ I am not disabled – but just differently abled “ . I can perform my duties just as well as any person with 2 “ normal “ legs . A positive mind set has helped me to lead as normal a life as possible and to forget that I have a disability .

The people that I work with have shown me respect and I am treated the same as a person without a disability and given equal opportunities for development . In January 2018 the Corporate and HR cluster had a Rewards and Recognition Ceremony . I received an award in the open category for being the best in the cluster as determined by an adjudication panel .
In March 2019 I was invited to be a guest speaker at the eThekweni Municipality’s Employment Equity Quarterly Forum at Greyville Convention Centre.

Having a disability is not all Doom and Gloom; it has its advantages, Being an educated woman with a disability made my search for employment much easier. I don’t have to follow long queues at the bank or Home Affairs – we all know what a nightmare that is. At work, people open doors for me and allow me to enter the lifts first. We are allowed to park close to the entrance of major retail stores and don’t have to drive around looking for parking.

The only difference between me and you, is that I have only one leg. We all have the same responsibilities – like taking care of our family – it just takes longer for me to complete certain tasks. Each day is different. Some days are easy while others are challenging because of phantom pain sensations and cramps in my stump. I take it one day at a time, and never give up hope.

I have overcome my fear of falling and climbing stairs. I know it is taking longer than expected, but my next goal is to be able to walk again, without the aid of a walking frame or crutches - and to drive again.

I have come this far because of the grace of God, and the amazing and loving support of my parents, my husband and sons, and my extended family and friends. I am truly fortunate for having this strong and loving support structure. They helped me through the tough times, and continue to support me as I try to achieve my current goals.

I wish that one day my story will be able to inspire other people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up ". One should never give up no matter how hard the situation is. Always believe that something beautiful is bound to happen, just as there are rainbows after a storm.

In August 2017 I entered the Miladys phenomenal women competition . My story was chosen and in October I had a photo shoot done . I never thought that I would ever do something like this – to be in a room full of beautiful models ; photographers ; make up artists and hair stylists . Being an amputee in front of a camera is a rarity and I had so much of fun . I was featured in the December 2017 issue of the Miladys Club Magazine .
Adjusting to life with a disability can be a difficult transition . We all tend to take our health for granted until it’s gone . Then , it is all too easy to obsess over what we have lost .

But while you can’t go back in time to a healthier you or wish away your limitations , you can change the way you think about and cope with your disability . You are still in control of your life .

There are many things you can do to improve your independence , sense of empowerment and outlook on life .No matter your disability , it’s entirely possible to overcome the challenges you face and enjoy a full and fulfilling life .
So being an amputee has made me discover my inner strength and personal creativity on how I do things that I wouldn’t have ordinarily thought of before .

I may be physically challenged but I celebrate the fact that its challenges has made me a better person – I am a proud woman , mother , wife , daughter , sister and friend . My ability is stronger than my disability.

It has taken me a long time to accept what has happened to me, but today I am happy to say…” I AM AN AMPUTEE AND PROUD OF IT."

My Unit - Ethekweni Municipal Academy ( EMA) held their Rewards and Recognition Function on 23 September 2021.
J received the award for Resilience.
I resigned from my job – my last working day was 30 November 2022.

On 26 September 2021 , the launch of a very special book titled “ The African Dream – Sunflower effect" by Dr Marlini Nair-Moodley features a short story about myself.

This book is focused on inspiring people by sharing personal journeys of resilience ,difficulty and triumph.

All proceeds from sales of the books ,will be going towards The African Dream Foundation which is a non – profit organisation that provides community Outreach programs focused on Literacy.

My beautiful mum lost her battle to brain cancer in April 2020- she was my pillar of strength. My mother gifted me with her strength and her fighting spirit will always live on within me. Memories of my mum will help me get through any hardship in life. I am a strong woman because a strong woman raised me. She always told me that I am not disabled- but differently abled.

Awesome reviews by awesome clients. So blessed 🙏💐

~~~~ Ask Your Angels ~~~~

Today your Spiritual Support Team is gently nudging you to ask more of them. They are here to assist you with anything and everything, but are limited by your free will. They can’t help you with anything unless you ask.

It’s time to release the idea that asking them for help is burdening them or taking away from their more important work. You are their mission, their most important job.

They’ve been assigned specifically to assist and support you through your journey in this Earth school. You will notice that your life flows much better when you stop trying to do everything yourself.

Take some time to connect with them now and surrender all of your cares and worries to them. Ask them to help you with whatever you need. It’s amazing how quickly and excitedly they respond, like they’ve always been waiting for you to ask.

If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that sometimes, the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places.

I’ve learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons; that our most painful struggles can grant us the most necessary growth; and that the most heart-breaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people.

I’ve learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing, and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path.

I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope.

And I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward, because whatever we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, and we will make it through. We’ve made it this far. We can make it through whatever comes next.

~Daniell Koepke~

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